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Guiding Principles for Oklahoma Bridge Resource FamiliesSession 1 Pretest

1) The mission of Oklahoma Department of Human Services (OKDHS) is to a) ☐ Find places to live for all children in the child welfare system.b) ☐ Provide a skilled team that makes all of the decisions.c) ☐ Promote safety, permanence and well-being for Oklahoma’s families.d) ☐ Help families in crisis by taking over parenting and family functioning.

2) Children and youth can expect their Bridge resource parents to(a) ☐ Ignore secondary traumatic stress and their own self-care.(b) ☐ Understand the impact of separation, grief, loss and trauma.(c) ☐ Make the child address his/her own needs.(d) ☐ Separate themselves from the child’s professional team.

3) Bridge resource families are expected to(a) ☐ Provide family counseling to children.(b) ☐ Help children keep connections with their families.(c) ☐ Provide overnight stays in their home to the child’s family members.(d) ☐ Host the child’s family members at all holiday celebrations.

4) In Oklahoma and nationwide,(a) ☐ Children are victims of neglect and abuse in equal numbers.(b) ☐ More children are victims of neglect(c) ☐ More children are victims of abuse.

5) A bridge resource family helps children keep family connections as they go from place to place. ☐ True ☐ False

6) As a Bridge resource parent, I am active an active and vital part of a child’s professional team. ☐ True ☐ False

7) Parental Substitute Authority lets me share confidential information about the child with family and friends. ☐ True ☐ False

8) Poverty and homelessness are major reasons a child is removed from his/her family. ☐ True ☐ False

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Guiding Principles Session 1 Self Study

Date: Click here to enter a date. Participant’s Name: Click here to enter text.

Children in Out of Home Care: (10 minutes for this portion)

1. What are some of the reasons children come in to our care?Click here to enter text.

2. How do we find out about children who are being abused and neglected?Click here to enter text.

Adopted-What it’s like being taken: (15 minutes for this portion)

1. What is something that stood out for you in the video?Click here to enter text.

2. What are some of the questions, thoughts or concerns you heard the children and youth express about being placed in out-of-home care?Click here to enter text.

3. As you go through this assessment and training process, what are the feelings you may have in common with these children?Click here to enter text.

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Guiding Principles for Oklahoma Bridge Resource FamiliesSession 1 Posttest

1.) The mission of Oklahoma Department of Human Services (OKDHS) is to a) ☐ Find places to live for all children in the child welfare system.b) ☐ Provide a skilled team that makes all of the decisions.c) ☐ Promote safety, permanence and well-being for Oklahoma’s families.d) ☐ Help families in crisis by taking over parenting and family functioning.

2.) Children and youth can expect their Bridge resource parents to(a) ☐ Ignore secondary traumatic stress and their own self-care.(b) ☐ Understand the impact of separation, grief, loss and trauma.(c) ☐ Make the child address his/her own needs.(d) ☐ Separate themselves from the child’s professional team.

3.) Bridge resource families are expected to(a) ☐ Provide family counseling to children.(b) ☐ Help children keep connections with their families.(c) ☐ Provide overnight stays in their home to the child’s family members.(d) ☐ Host the child’s family members at all holiday celebrations.

4.) In Oklahoma and nationwide,(a) ☐ Children are victims of neglect and abuse in equal numbers.(b) ☐ More children are victims of neglect(c) ☐ More children are victims of abuse.

5.) A bridge resource family helps children keep family connections as they go from place to place. ☐ True ☐ False

6.) As a Bridge resource parent, I am active an active and vital part of a child’s professional team. ☐ True ☐ False

7.) Parental Substitute Authority lets me share confidential information about the child with family and friends.

☐ True ☐ False

8.) Poverty and homelessness are major reasons a child is removed from his/her family. ☐ True ☐ False

Guiding Principles for Oklahoma Bridge Resource Families

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Session 2 Pretest

1.) We can listen to the voices of children and youth by a) ☐ controlling decisions made about their lives.b) ☐ limiting talk about feelings.c) ☐ talking with children about what they need to feel safe.d) ☐ telling children and youth what to wear.

2.) Resource families need to examine personal values and biases because(a) ☐ it helps us resist the ideas of the child in our care.(b) ☐ it helps us be honest about our feelings toward the child’s parents.(c) ☐ it helps us to judge the actions of the child’s parents..(d) ☐ it reminds us to keep a distance from the child’s family.

3.) A primary purpose of visitation is to(a) ☐ fulfill your duties as a resource parent.(b) ☐ check on the child’s pets.(c) ☐ keep the child and his/her family connected.(d) ☐ check on the parents to make sure their house is clean.

4.) How can we show respect to a child’s family?(a) ☐ We remind the child that his/her parents did something bad.(b) ☐ We show the parents our way – the right way – to do things.(c) ☐ We remind parents of what they did wrong.(d) ☐ We separate what a child’s family has done from who they are.

5.) After an adoption is finalized, I still have to let me child have contact with his/her family. ☐ True ☐ False

6.) Visitation is the key to reunification. ☐ True ☐ False

7.) The child welfare specialist must be a part of decisions that are made regarding visitation. ☐ True ☐ False

8.) When reunification is the plan, I have to actively work to help the family get their child(ren) home. ☐ True ☐ False


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The Guiding Principles: (10 minutes for this portion)

1. Write down two things you learned about the Guiding Principles.A.) Click here to enter text.B.) Click here to enter text.

Supporting Family Relationships: Bridging the Gap: (15 minutes for this portion)

1. What are some biases and judgments we could have or assumptions we could make about this mom?Click here to enter text.

2. If you had a kinship relationship with Jessica, what are some other biases you might have?Click here to enter text.

3. Considering the biases you might have about Jessica, how could you show respect to this mom?Click here to enter text.

4. What did you notice about her comments toward resource parents?Click here to enter text.

5. If you were a resource parent working with Jessica, what support might she need from you?Click here to enter text.

Foster Parents Speak: (15 minutes for this portion)

1. What did you see or hear in the video that stood out to you?Click here to enter text.

2. What are some benefits resulted from resource families having positive relationships with the child’s family?Click here to enter text.

3. What could be some challenges in building a positive relationship with a child’s family?Click here to enter text.

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1.) We can listen to the voices of children and youth by a) ☐ controlling decisions made about their lives.b) ☐ limiting talk about feelings.c) ☐ talking with children about what they need to feel safe.d) ☐ telling children and youth what to wear.

2.) Resource families need to examine personal values and biases because(a) ☐ it helps us resist the ideas of the child in our care.(b) ☐ it helps us be honest about our feelings toward the child’s parents.(c) ☐ it helps us to judge the actions of the child’s parents..(d) ☐ it reminds us to keep a distance from the child’s family.

3.) A primary purpose of visitation is to(a) ☐ fulfill your duties as a resource parent.(b) ☐ check on the child’s pets.(c) ☐ keep the child and his/her family connected.(d) ☐ check on the parents to make sure their house is clean.

4.) How can we show respect to a child’s family?(a) ☐ We remind the child that his/her parents did something bad.(b) ☐ We show the parents our way – the right way – to do things.(c) ☐ We remind parents of what they did wrong.(d) ☐ We separate what a child’s family has done from who they are.

5.) After an adoption is finalized, I still have to let me child have contact with his/her family. ☐ True ☐ False

6.) Visitation is the key to reunification. ☐ True ☐ False

7.) The child welfare specialist must be a part of decisions that are made regarding visitation. ☐ True ☐ False

8.) When reunification is the plan, I have to actively work to help the family get their child(ren) home. ☐ True ☐ False

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Session 3 Pretest

1.) For children in out-of-home care, when the connection between siblings is broken, a) ☐ it makes it easier for children to deal with separation and loss.b) ☐ siblings quickly lose interest in getting in touch.c) ☐ it takes extra time for children to quit missing their siblings.d) ☐ children struggle to heal and make attachments.

2.) Cultural competency allows families to(a) ☐ understand and communicate with people of different cultures.(b) ☐ make sure their stereotypes of other cultures are correct.(c) ☐ change the culture of the child in their care.(d) ☐ make sure the child in care forgets his/her family culture.

3.) A cultural guide is someone you can use to(a) ☐ figure out your culture and write it down for the child in your care.(b) ☐ point out unfairness in the placement of children.(c) ☐ help you become culturally informed when parenting a child from a different

background.(d) ☐ drive you to resource team meetings.

4.) Family culture is the way a family works in terms of(a) ☐ spoken and unspoken rules.(b) ☐ pets the family has.(c) ☐ route taken to the grocery store.(d) ☐ setting the table for meals.

5.) The Multiethnic Placement Act of 1994 (MEPA-IEP) is designed to decrease the length of time that children wait to be adopted. ☐ True ☐ False

6.) Requests for information about siblings outnumber the requests for information about biological parents. ☐ True ☐ False

7.) Successful resource parents realize how their culture affects their view of the world. ☐ True ☐ False

8.) Mistakes can be made when we use our meanings to make sense of someone else’s life ☐ True ☐ False


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The Importance of Culture: (5 minutes for this portion)

1. Write down some characteristics of culture.Click here to enter text.

Family Culture: (10 minutes for this portion)

1. What is a unique tradition that your family celebrates?Click here to enter text.

2. What is a special way you celebrate birthdays in your family?Click here to enter text.

Cultural Guide: (5 minutes for this portion)

1. What are some cultures you would need to gain more information about in order to be competent in helping a child?Click here to enter text.

Sibling Connections: Messages: (20 minutes for this portion)

1. If you are the oldest sibling, what are some words, phrases, labels or messages you received from being in this birth-order position?Click here to enter text.

2. For middle children, what were some messages you received?Click here to enter text.

3. For the babies of the family, what were some messages to you?Click here to enter text.

4. For only children, what did it mean for you being the only child?Click here to enter text.

5. Write down the names of your brother and sisters. If you are an only child, pick your two or three closest friends or cousins.

Foster Youth on the Importance of Maintaining Sibling Contact: (10 min)

1. What did you hear youth express about sibling relationships?Click here to enter text.

2. What differences did you notice between the youth who were able to stay connected to their brothers and sisters and those who were not?Click here to enter text.

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1.) For children in out-of-home care, when the connection between siblings is broken, a) ☐ it makes it easier for children to deal with separation and loss.b) ☐ siblings quickly lose interest in getting in touch.c) ☐ it takes extra time for children to quit missing their siblings.d) ☐ children struggle to heal and make attachments.

2.) Cultural competency allows families to(a) ☐ understand and communicate with people of different cultures.(b) ☐ make sure their stereotypes of other cultures are correct.(c) ☐ change the culture of the child in their care.(d) ☐ make sure the child in care forgets his/her family culture.

3.) A cultural guide is someone you can use to(a) ☐ figure out your culture and write it down for the child in your care.(b) ☐ point out unfairness in the placement of children.(c) ☐ help you become culturally informed when parenting a child from a different

background.(d) ☐ drive you to resource team meetings.

4.) Family culture is the way a family works in terms of(a) ☐ spoken and unspoken rules.(b) ☐ pets the family has.(c) ☐ route taken to the grocery store.(d) ☐ setting the table for meals.

5.) The Multiethnic Placement Act of 1994 (MEPA-IEP) is designed to decrease the length of time that children wait to be adopted.

☐ True ☐ False

6.) Requests for information about siblings outnumber the requests for information about biological parents.

☐ True ☐ False

7.) Successful resource parents realize how their culture affects their view of the world. ☐ True ☐ False

8.) Mistakes can be made when we use our meanings to make sense of someone else’s life ☐ True ☐ False

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1.) To build a trusting relationship with a child in your care, a) ☐ be exciting, impulsive and random.b) ☐ listen to the child in your care and respect his/her views.c) ☐ make sure the child knows that you always get the last wordd) ☐ don’t involve the child in extended family activities.

2.) Messages to children in our care should include(a) ☐ 2 hurtful interactions to every 3 helpful interactions.(b) ☐ more hurtful than helpful interactions.(c) ☐ 6 praises for every correction.(d) ☐ punishment so that kids know what they are doing wrong.

3.) One of the best ways to elicit cooperation from your child is to(a) ☐ notice and encourage your child’s positive behaviors and interactions.(b) ☐ comment on all things your child has done wrong.(c) ☐ give money to your child for everything he does in your home.(d) ☐ make sure your child isn’t given the chance to make choices.

4.) Discipline is different from punishment in which of the following ways?(a) ☐ Discipline focuses on what’s wrong; punishment focuses on what needs to be done right.(b) ☐ Discipline teaches; punishment penalizes.(c) ☐ Discipline makes a child pay for what was done wrong; punishment provides logical

consequences for a misbehavior.

5.) Punishment is always a part of effective discipline. ☐ True ☐ False

6.) Children who have experienced trauma may not respond to the same kind of discipline that works with other children.

☐ True ☐ False

7.) The OKDHS policy on discipline states that you may NOT use any physical or corporal punishment on the children in care.

☐ True ☐ False

8.) It is good practice for resource parents to function from the helpful side of the interaction continuum. ☐ True ☐ False


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Building Blocks of Relationships: (15 minutes for this portion)

1. In general, what is your goal as a parent?Click here to enter text.

2. What might be some helpful messages that children in care have received?Click here to enter text.

3. What might be some hurtful messages children in care have received?Click here to enter text.

Teaching through Discipline: (5 minutes for this portion)

In each column, identify what comes to mind when you hear the words:

Punishment Discipline

Positive Discipline Structure: (15 minutes for this portion)

1. Look at the rules you listed in your Bridge Family Profile on page 54 of the Participant Handbook. List the rule, and give an example of what each rule looks like and sounds like in your house.

Rule Description Example

Positive Discipline Strategies: (15 minutes for this portion)

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Adapted from Grillo, C.A., Lott, D.A., Foster Care Subcommittee of the Welfare Committee, National Child Traumatic Stress Network (2010)

Read the scenario for each child, and then develop a positive discipline strategy for each young person, coming up with 4-5 responses using the identified strategy. You can find more details about each child in the Participation Handbook pages 110, 112 and 114-115.

TommyTommy is four years old. Tommy came into care because his father beat his mother so severely she required hospitalization.

Tommy is a picky eater. He does not finish his meals unless they are his favorites: macaroni and cheese, pizza or French fries. He will hardly even touch chicken nuggets. Tommy is very independent and loves attention any way that he can get it. He asks to be picked up and carried a lot. Tommy is very clear and particular about what he wants and everything seems to be a struggle: the clothes he wears, snack time, bedtime. Often, Tommy acts like he is not listening when you ask him to help pick up his toys. Tommy is so strong-willed; every day is exhausting caring for him.

Choices strategies (click inside box to type)

AndreaAndrea is nine years old and was placed in your home six months ago. She enjoys getting attention and plays well with the other foster children in your home, but lies on the floor crying and sucking her thumb when the older children don’t want to play with her. Andrea is aggressive with the younger children and will throw tantrums when she is reprimanded.

Andrea doesn’t like school and does poorly; a C-D student. She has trouble making friends and is typically drawn to the older children at her school. Over the last two months, Andrea has been playing with a girl a year older than her but in the same grade. She also brought home a B from reading class and has brought home no reports or phone calls concerning any oppositional behavior. Andrea enjoys playing outside. She especially likes active games that include running or jumping.

Praise Strategies (click inside box to type)

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Rewards Strategies (click inside box to type)

MiguelMiguel is a 15 boy who has been in your family for ten months.

Saturday’s are typically yard work day. Whenever there are special plans on Saturday, the family knows you get yard work done on Friday night.

The family has plans this weekend about which Miguel knows. Friday night Miguel went home with a friend after to school to hang out for a little while, with your permission; however, he stayed out past dark and missed helping with the yard work. Now, Saturday morning your family is preparing for your activity. Miguel gets a call from a friend asking if he wants to go to the movies later that evening. Miguel starts bugging you about wanting to go to the movies. He is also asking for money to go since he has already spent all of his allowance.

When you begin to talk with Miguel about the importance of responsibility and what he must do in order to receive the privileges he wants, he swears at you and stomps off to his room.

Logical Consequence Strategies (click inside box to type)

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1.) To build a trusting relationship with a child in your care, a) ☐ be exciting, impulsive and random.b) ☐ listen to the child in your care and respect his/her views.c) ☐ make sure the child knows that you always get the last wordd) ☐ don’t involve the child in extended family activities.

2.) Messages to children in our care should include(a) ☐ 2 hurtful interactions to every 3 helpful interactions.(b) ☐ more hurtful than helpful interactions.(c) ☐ 6 praises for every correction.(d) ☐ punishment so that kids know what they are doing wrong.

3.) One of the best ways to elicit cooperation from your child is to(a) ☐ notice and encourage your child’s positive behaviors and interactions.(b) ☐ comment on all things your child has done wrong.(c) ☐ give money to your child for everything he does in your home.(d) ☐ make sure your child isn’t given the chance to make choices.

4.) Discipline is different from punishment in which of the following ways?(a) ☐ Discipline focuses on what’s wrong; punishment focuses on what needs to be done right.(b) ☐ Discipline teaches; punishment penalizes.(c) ☐ Discipline makes a child pay for what was done wrong; punishment provides logical

consequences for a misbehavior.

5.) Punishment is always a part of effective discipline. ☐ True ☐ False

6.) Children who have experienced trauma may not respond to the same kind of discipline that works with other children.

☐ True ☐ False

7.) The OKDHS policy on discipline states that you may NOT use any physical or corporal punishment on the children in care.

☐ True ☐ False

8.) It is good practice for resource parents to function from the helpful side of the interaction continuum. ☐ True ☐ False

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1.) Debriefing after a crisis is a process that a) ☐ helps you figure out a punishment for a child.b) ☐ allows you to explain what happened to all of your relatives.c) ☐ helps your family and the child develop a plan to prevent future crisises.d) ☐ allows the child to be used as a bad example of behavior.

2.) An example of nonverbal behavior that can help you de-escalate a child in crisis includes(a) ☐ standing with your hands on your hips.(b) ☐ pointing your finger at the child.(c) ☐ neighbors who may have heard something.(d) ☐ keeping a calm look on your face.

3.) Which group or person would not be included when going over a child’s critical incident?(a) ☐ other adults who were part of the situation.(b) ☐ children living in the home who saw the incident.(c) ☐ neighbors who may have heard something.(d) ☐ the child’s assigned welfare worker.

4.) Part of our work with a child who is acting out is to(a) ☐ imitate the child’s verbal and nonverbal signs of crisis.(b) ☐ know when to go to the hurtful side of continuum.(c) ☐ identify the need the child is trying to meet.(d) ☐ match our emotions to the same level as the child’s emotions.

5.) The main difference between typical misbehavior and a crisis is in the intensity of the child’s feelings and behaviors.

☐ True ☐ False

6.) A crisis event involves only the behavior of the child, not the behavior of the adults. ☐ True ☐ False

7.) De-escalating a crisis may include removing an item in the child’s space that is bothering him. ☐ True ☐ False

8.) All children in care experience crisis in the same way. ☐ True ☐ False

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Behavior Has Meaning: (15 minutes for this portion)

1. Write down some of the reasons that children misbehave.Click here to enter text.

2. What might be some thoughts and feelings A.M. has?Click here to enter text.

3. What are some of the needs A.M. might have?Click here to enter text.

Know What Pushes Your Buttons (20 minutes for this portion)

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Three types of behaviors that I find the hardest to respond to in a problem/conflict situation are:1.

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Ideally, I would like to communicate my needs during a conflict in these ways:1.

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When I am having problems, disagreements, or in conflict with someone, I usually…. (check all that apply)

☐ Avoid conflict at all cost and put off dealing with the situation☐ Feel out-of-control when conflicts arise☐ Feel numb when conflicts arise☐ Get mad, get loud so I get my way☐ Get defensive and try to protect myself☐ Believe that the best defense is a strong offense and criticize or attack the other person.☐ Give a lot of reasons to show that I am right☐ Just give in but find another way to punish the person☐ Try to work out a compromise☐ Try to help the other person get what he/she wants☐ Complain or sulk until I get my way☐ Explain my point of view, ask the other person to do the same and listen to his/her response☐ Keep my ideas to myself☐ Change the subject☐ Find humor in the situation and try not to take myself too seriously☐ Get another person to decide who is right☐ Store up complaints from the distant past☐ Other Click here to enter text.

What is Crisis? (10 minutes for this portion)

What would a 4 year old consider a crisis?What would a 14 year old consider a crisis?What would an adult consider a crisis?What do you think children in out-of-home care would consider a crisis?

Stages of Crisis: (20 minutes for this portion)

Escalation Critical Incident Recovery ReconnectionBehaviors you might see

Things you might hear

Feelings a child might feel

Tools you can use: Non-verbal Communication Skills: (10 minutes for this portion)

1. What are some examples of non-verbal communication?Click here to enter text.

2. In American culture, what are some of the assumptions that are made when people don’t make eye contact?Click here to enter text.

Tools you can use: Verbal Communication Skills: (15 minutes for this portion)

Verbal Tools Practice Statements: De-escalation is the GOAL. Keep communication going.

1. You treat me like a baby!Click here to enter text.

2. You’re only a foster parent for the money!Click here to enter text.

3. It’s not my fault you suck as a parent!Click here to enter text.

4. You can’t make me do my chores.Click here to enter text.

5. You’re always on my back, I can’t do anything right!Click here to enter text.

6. You’re only making me do this because I’m a foster kid!Click here to enter text.

7. I’m going to run off, and you can’t stop me!Click here to enter text.

8. I hate you!Click here to enter text.

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9. You’re a jerk. I can’t wait to get outta here!Click here to enter text.

10. My last foster parents were so much better than you.Click here to enter text.

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1.) Debriefing after a crisis is a process that a) ☐ helps you figure out a punishment for a child.b) ☐ allows you to explain what happened to all of your relatives.c) ☐ helps your family and the child develop a plan to prevent future crisisis.d) ☐ allows the child to be used as a bad example of behavior.

2.) An example of nonverbal behavior that can help you de-escalate a child in crisis includes(a) ☐ standing with your hands on your hips.(b) ☐ pointing your finger at the child.(c) ☐ neighbors who may have heard something.(d) ☐ keeping a calm look on your face.

3.) Which group or person would not be included when going over a child’s critical incident?(a) ☐ other adults who were part of the situation.(b) ☐ children living in the home who saw the incident.(c) ☐ neighbors who may have heard something.(d) ☐ the child’s assigned welfare worker.

4.) Part of our work with a child who is acting out is to(a) ☐ imitate the child’s verbal and nonverbal signs of crisis.(b) ☐ know when to go to the hurtful side of continuum.(c) ☐ identify the need the child is trying to meet.(d) ☐ match our emotions to the same level as the child’s emotions.

5.) The main difference between typical misbehavior and a crisis is in the intensity of the child’s feelings and behaviors.

☐ True ☐ False

6.) A crisis event involves only the behavior of the child, not the behavior of the adults. ☐ True ☐ False

7.) De-escalating a crisis may include removing an item in the child’s space that is bothering him. ☐ True ☐ False

8.) All children in care experience crisis in the same way. ☐ True ☐ False

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1.) The family asset of maintaining expectations means thata) ☐ children are allowed to set their own meal and bedtimes.b) ☐ if one parent says no, children can ask the other parent.c) ☐ the family sets limits on how the children spend their time.d) ☐ parents can freely argue in front of children.

2.) An essential way you can give a sense of belonging for the youth in your care is to(a) ☐ drive him/her to school every day.(b) ☐ use more nonverbal then verbal communication.(c) ☐ provide an emotionally safe environment.(d) ☐ keep community activities to a minimum.

3.) Bridge resource families successfully juggle home, school and work by(a) ☐ putting off decisions when changes are needed.(b) ☐ not asking for help outside the family.(c) ☐ setting rigid limits on young people.(d) ☐ having reasonable family rules.

4.) When blending adopted, foster and kinship children into an existing family, resource parents need to

(a) ☐ examine the feelings and expectations of the child(ren) in their existing family.(b) ☐ convince all family members to be as excited as they are about becoming a blended

family.(c) ☐ promote how much fun it will be to add a new person to the family.(d) ☐ assist their children in realizing that adding a child will make them a better family.

5.) Quality one-on-one parent time is important for every child in your home. ☐ True ☐ False

6.) Participating in meaningful community activities is good for families. ☐ True ☐ False

7.) A self-care plan is selfish if it takes away from your family and children. ☐ True ☐ False

8.) Children in the child welfare system are stereotyped. ☐ True ☐ False


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Confronting Stereotypes of Children and Youth in Care: (20 minutes)

1. What are some stereotypes people may have about children who are adopted or are in kinship or foster care?Click here to enter text.

2. After watching the video “Confronting Stereotypes about Youth in foster Care”, answer the following questions.

a. In addition to the stereotypes you thought of earlier, what other stereotypes did you hear the youth in the video?Click here to enter text.

b. What are some stereotypes that children or youth might experience once they are adopted?Click here to enter text.

c. What if your extended family members hold some of these stereotypical beliefs, how will you respond?Click here to enter text.

d. Guiding Principle Number 3 says “We listen to the voice of children and youth”. As a resource parent, how can you apply this principle to help children and youth deal with stereotypes and labels?Click here to enter text.

Characteristics of a Successful Family Top 10 List: (10 minutes for this portion)

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Stress and Secondary Trauma: (5 minutes for this portion)

1. What are some of the warning signs you may exhibit from being overstressed?Click here to enter text.

Taking Care of the Caregiver: (5 minutes for this portion)

1. What can you do every day, if not every day, maybe weekly or monthly, just for you that will reduce your stress?Click here to enter text.

Children Already in Your Home: (10 minutes for this portion)

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1. What did you say to the children in your home about adopting, fostering or providing kinship care?Click here to enter text.

2. What were your children’s responses or reactions?Click here to enter text.

Beginning Relationships and Having Fun: (15 minutes for this portion)

1. Your family has a total of $10 to spend. Using your imagination, what will your family do together for $10?Click here to enter text.

2. It’s family game night! What card or board game will your family play?Click here to enter text.

3. What meal would get your family to unplug: that is get off the phone, turn off the computer, walk away from the Wii or X-Box, and join you at the table for dinner?Click here to enter text.

4. What’s a fun and free family activity your family enjoys doing together?Click here to enter text.

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1.) The family asset of maintaining expectations means thata) ☐ children are allowed to set their own meal and bedtimes.b) ☐ if one parent says no, children can ask the other parent.c) ☐ the family sets limits on how the children spend their time.d) ☐ parents can freely argue in front of children.

2.) An essential way you can give a sense of belonging for the youth in your care is to(a) ☐ drive him/her to school every day.(b) ☐ use more nonverbal then verbal communication.(c) ☐ provide an emotionally safe environment.(d) ☐ keep community activities to a minimum.

3.) Bridge resource families successfully juggle home, school and work by(a) ☐ putting off decisions when changes are needed.(b) ☐ not asking for help outside the family.(c) ☐ setting rigid limits on young people.(d) ☐ having reasonable family rules.

4.) When blending adopted, foster and kinship children into an existing family, resource parents need to(a) ☐ examine the feelings and expectations of the child(ren) in their existing family.(b) ☐ convince all family members to be as excited as they are about becoming a blended

family.(c) ☐ promote how much fun it will be to add a new person to the family.(d) ☐ assist their children in realizing that adding a child will make them a better family.

5.) Quality one-on-one parent time is important for every child in your home. ☐ True ☐ False

6.) Participating in meaningful community activities is good for families. ☐ True ☐ False

7.) A self-care plan is selfish if it takes away from your family and children. ☐ True ☐ False

8.) Children in the child welfare system are stereotyped. ☐ True ☐ False

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Children in Foster Care video: (15 minu6tes for this portion)

1. What were some traumatic experiences or losses you heard young people talk about?Click here to enter text.

2. What were some of the feelings you picked up on through the young people’s verbal and nonverbal communication?Click here to enter text.

3. What did the young people say about connections, like school, siblings, foster families?Click here to enter text.

4. What were some of the positive characteristics of resource families that were mentioned?Click here to enter text.

5. What did you gain from the video?Click here to enter text.

Life After Foster Care video: (15 minutes for this portion)

1. What were some situations or challenges the youth faced when they aged out of care?Click here to enter text.

2. From what you learned from the video, what is your role in helping children and youth maintain permanent connections?Click here to enter text.

3. What life skills do you believe are crucial in order to age out of care successfully prepared for transitioning into adulthood?Click here to enter text.

4. How do you see yourself helping a child or youth learn and develop life skills?Click here to enter text.

Life as a Bridge Resource Family: (10 minutes for this portion)

1. You just hung up from a phone call with the TFI intake worker. Surprise! You’re going to be a Bridge resource parent. The child will be dropped off in less than 2 hours. What are some ways you can help the child feel comfortable and help him or her feel a part of your family?Click here to enter text.

2. You and the children you are caring for are walking through the park. You run into an old friend, who asks, “So who are these charming young people you have with you”? How do you respond without breaking confidentiality while maintaining the child’s confidentiality?Click here to enter text.

3. Social media is the latest way to share what’s going on with your family. What are some things your child welfare specialist and foster care worker would NOT want to see posted on Facebook or Twitter about a child or youth you are caring for?Click here to enter text.

Wrapping Up: (15 minutes for this portion)

What is one thing you want to remember?

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