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Love marriage or arranged marriage,

Between following your heart or obeying your parents

Your Research Paper Should Have the Following Sections & be Between 3-8pgs (but on average probably 4-6 pgs):

I. Introduction to the Topic - 1 pgResearch Qs

Did you know that 55% of marriages in the world are arranged and that theaverage divorce rate globally on arranged marriages is only 4%? In India

90% of marriage are arranged and divorce rate is 1.1% (according toUNICEF, 2012). In US divorce rate is 50%, each year from the totals of 2.2million marriages, are granted 1.1 million divorces . The statistics made mewonder: Is it possible that an arranged marriage to be better and to lastlonger than a love marriage?

As we know people around the world have many forms of mate selectionbecause culture plays a major role in marriage.Low divorce rates in traditional societies, like India where arrangedmarriages is the norm, indicates the success of the arranged marriage. Onthe other hand, high divorce rates in industrial and postindustrial societies ,

like US where love marriage is the norm, indicates that this type ofmarriage might not work as well as we would think.

The risk of dysfunctions of a love marriage (marriage of choice)- risk of adivorce or a separation- overcomes the manifest function of an arrangedmarriage that starts without love

II. Methods 1 pgResearch Population/Background Characteristics The target group to bestudied is young people from USA and Indians that wants to get

married)Marriage is a group's approved mating arrangements, usuallymarked by a ritual of some sort.

Include Interview Qs (Appendix)

Participant Observation or field work: Where/What you Did

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Secondary analysis was used =when I analyzed data that someone elsealready collected and analysis of document.

III. Results/Findings'

Succes in marriage depends on the way we approach marriage.

Different backgrounds det dif ideas of love.For Americans love just "happens"and can happen anywhere,anytime, while for indians love develops little by little in rightconditions, marriage being that right condition.

Americans get married bc they love each other, while Indans love eachother bc they are married. And what is amazing and surprising maritalsatisfaction is very similar for both of the target group. Doesn'tmatter the cultural path you follow, if you find love on that journey.

For U.S. couples being in love was an indication that their marriage wasgood. Not for Indian couples that have a different standard of measuringmarital satisfaction as they expect love to grow slowly in time.

Why do they have different perspectives about love? Because, as we know,culture is shaping our perspective of life, culture is the lens we perceive life.

According to Dr. William Cornell, a Marriage and Counselor professor at theUniversity of Florida," culture plays a large role in deciding whether a lovemarriage is better than an arranged marriage- it is all a matter ofperspective".

Culturedefine who we are.........sociology book def.?

Did you know that Indians don't expect love to occur before marriage?Indian with low divorce rate bc they don't think ab better marriage, thecouple think ab making their marriage get better. And the Indian couples

family work in the same direction, too, intervening and mediating conflicts.

In US culture love is a a very important factor in choosing future spouse,being perceived as the only proper basis for marriage. But being in love isnot a good reason or at least not enough for having a happy marriage.

What make s marriage successful? sociologist Jeanette and RobertLauer(1992),base on interview of 351 couples, concluded 14% were

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unhappy but still together after 15 years for religious reasons, to respectfamily tradition or because of their children. The rest were happy because;thhey like their spouse and consider them to be est friends, and think thatmarriage is sacred a log term commitment .

Why an arranged marriage worked so well for centuries?

-same culture (same religion, same dietary preference , same language)

- same socioeconomic background

-starting marriage with low expectations, cant be disappointed oppositethan in Us love marriage with high expectations and a lot of disillusions astime goes by.

-involvement of both families. (Extended family concept- includes people as

grandparents aunts uncls, cousinsin addition to nuclear family.)

In Indian family male everything is well defined and accepted in regards toauthority :male holds authority (patriarhal authority), in a US family becauseauthority is divided more equally( more egalitarian authority) , tensions andstrainsmight occur in terms of authority.

Mate selection in India follows the norms of endogamy( marriage withinone's own group)The basic rule is familys reputation is most important. It is

understood that matches would be arranged only within same social class.

In India, marriage is as much a concern of the families as it is of theindividuals. Why? Because being an extended family, couples ussuallyreside with the groom's family.( patrilocal residence) I remember talkingwith an Indian boy I workd with who was waiting for his wife to come fromIndia. They were waiting for one year her visa to be approved and all thistime she lived with her husband's family not with own parents. When I askedhim what is the reason, he answered " because she is married now".

Young men and women in India do not date and have very little social life

experience involving members of the opposite sex. Castity is a norm for thawoman.

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Indian Family place ads in magasines, on matchmaking Web sites,matrimonial agencies., payinf fees as much as 5000 $. Finding the rightmatch is a long process, very detailed: even astrological match.

Is family invoved in a US marriage? Am surprising study conclusion states

that US "marriages are happier when the partners get along with their in-laws." (Briant, 2001). -a pshuichological suppor?

Do Americans use machmaking Web sites? Dating sites offer thouseneds ofpotntial spouses Could be considered a arranged marriage if you marrysomebody you meet on line? It is arranged by your computr. The coputerfound the mach for you and yu can give a try. In India young people canmeet and talk with more possible partners. Castity, virginity at marriageassures they know who is the children's father

If they don't like te person choosen they cus as an excuse : an asrologicalincompatibility. Unlike the past taoday they can say no.

Didnt happened to you to say: he/she would make a good spouse, but Idont love him/her.?or It's a nice guy/girl but is so boring?

Why love marriage is the norm in US?

- Respects individual autonomy( individualism) - has the right to choosewho you want to spend life with

- -Informed decision- decide to get married because you know yourpartner

- We are nothing without love- idea of romanticism

Am surprising study conclusion states that US "marriages are happier whenthe partners get along with their in-laws." (Briant, 2001).

Us family is a nuclear family , child usually is leaving home after highschool. Nuclear familycnsiss of husband, wife children.

Today, because of prelonged educaion, high cost if living by themselves.,18% of students stay longer with parents, depent financialy aon parents,allowing parent sto be more controling. In Indian family the a lot of women

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don't work,a nd a lot of boys are working in a family bussiness thatcontribute to increas of children dependence. EX boy I have secred girlfrien,whr should I go?

1-2 pgsStats, Tables, Diagrams, Categories

Descriptions of Answers/Major Points

IV. Sociological Significance

1-3 pgsUse at least 3 sociological theories or key terms from the class to analyzethe results1. Functionalism imagines society as a whole composed of parts that worktogether(rRobert merton) and functions referre to the positiv, beneficialconsquences of people's actions that keeps society in balance.

Manifest funcion, intented to help the society.

From functionalist perspective,. The Family - Vital Cell of Society, As the cellis to the living organism, so is the family to society. Family is universal, andfulfills same six basic survival needs of every society : economic production,socialization of children, care of the sick and aged, recreation, sexualcontrol, and reproduction.( Heslin). As we see "love" was no listed among

the basic survival needs. When looking for a spouse for their children,Indian family look for somebody that can fulfill all of the survival needs plustheir specific cultural needs and social stratification patterns.

respected cultured family", seeking an alliance for our "very handsome, tall, fair, engineer son"with an MBA, a Masters in Business Administration, working in a US-based top softwarecompany at a salary of $100,000 a year. "Girl", "must be tall, beautiful engineer or doctor, notmore than 28 years old, from status family". The "boy" would be visiting India this month -

ad placed in a paper by parents in rural Punjab. "Family seeks homely, convent-educated girlfor son. Caste no bar. But must be able to drive tractor. Photo of tractor appreciated."

This is a task with a check list and reputatin of the family is veryimportant.It is a long meticulos process because ifa mistake is made byparents, they have not only ruined the life of our son or daughter,

but they have ruined the reputation of their whole family as well.

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And that will decrease chances make it much harder for their other

sons/daughter they might have to get married.

Functional thoery=Manifest function of arranged marriage overcome thedisfunctios that might occur.Dysfunctions are consequences that harm society, and disturbs the socialequilibrium.

Us family, being a nuclear family, is predisposed to more isolation and thatmight be the cause of its dysfunction. A conclusion of a study in 2001 statesthat US "marriages are happier when the partners get along with their in-laws." (Briant, 2001), that means that the in-laws relationships help nuclearfamily to function beter, with less dysfunctins.

The members of the Indian extended family, can count on more people foremotional and financial support, so they overcome the stress better becausethe emotional overload is spread among larger number of people they havein their kinship network.Another dysfunction of an arranged marriage being stuck with aperson youbarely know and with whom you don't have a lot in common. Women nothappy, no divorce bc financial, no jobs. Male can be in love with somebodythat is not aproved by family, but bc they depend on parents financialy,same house parent gave car, work in a family business. EX Ypung man Utube truck company

x in the talk show australi- one of the gussts povestes they rebell first whenasked to meet a perspective wife, girls amana the meeting sayin: It is astrain between children and parents .

role conflict might be present in the life of indian young, between theson/daughter status and its role of being a good son/daughter who acceptparent's strict marital guidance and athe status of a young individual whomakes own choices regarding when and whom to marry..Role conflict isthae conflict that someone feels between the roles assigned to twhodifferent statuses because the expectations are incompatible with oneanother.

Conflict perspective , conflict may arise at some poin the marriage, conflictbeing part of marriage. The most imp cause of conflict and source of strainin a marriage is authority struggles. Who has the lead in the family? InIndian family everything is well defined, firmly established and accepted in

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regards to authority : male holds authority (patriarhal authority). In a USfamily because authority is divided more equally( more egalitarian authority), tensions and strains might occur often when married couple struggle todemonstrate who has the control over the family.

V. Conclusion

- 1 pgWhat did you learn?Future Research Ideas?

Americans get married bc they are in love, while Indans fall in love bc theyare married. This is why the result is a satisfacted marrigeCulture plays a large role in deciding whether a love marriage isbetter than an arranged marriage- it is all a matter of perspective".

For Americans love just "happens"and can happen anywhere,

anytime, while for indians love develops little by little in rightconditions, marriage being that right condition.

Americans get married bc they love each other, while Indans love eachother bc they are married. And what is amazing and surprising maritalsatisfaction is very similar for both of the target group. Doesn't

matter the cultural path you follow, if you find love on that journey.

For Indians living in US and even in India love marriages are becomingmore and more popular.

dIVORCE Statistics apply for all marriages and not for each individualmarriage (heslin) that means if he divoerce rate were %0% taht doesn'tmean your chances of getting divorced are 50%. The way we approachmarriage is imp.

QS

How can you go along with this?

I must let my parents choose a boy for me because I don't know who isright for me. They have more experience. I can't asume the risk.

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I don't want to worry about whether I'll will meet a man and get married.This is our parent's responsability/