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At the end of this e book, you will be able to:

Share your jewels , and do miracles in the lives of others.

See others with different eyes.

Interact with people in an amazing way, and they will come back to you

for more!

Practice your giving muscles and begin to enjoy using them!

Learn new ways to understand people and learn more about yourself!

Understand how easy it is to find practical solutions to things which

other people label as too difficult!

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Table Of Contents

Introduction…………………………………………………………………………………………………………….7

Part One: 10 Jewels a good person can give away to anyone!.......................................10

1st. Jewel: Five minutes to listen to people with your heart.

2nd. Jewel: Compliments.

3rd. Jewel: Your sincere smile.

4th. Jewel: Your forgiveness.

5th. Jewel: A view from the window of their soul

6th. Jewel: A pat on the back.

7th. Jewel: Give excuses.

8th. Jewel: Give a word of appreciation.

9th.Jewel: Give a helping hand.

10th.Jewel: Your honest opinion.

A word of advice:

What to do If you can’t seem to be able to give any of the above…………21

Part Two: 5 Jewels a teacher can give away to her students!.....................................22

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INTRODUCTION

I was thinking some time ago, about the way we affect people whom

we meet every day. In fact, I was thinking so deeply about this to a level

where I thought how strong the impact we do have on these people, in

terms of motivating them, or making them feel worse about

themselves.

I began to notice each day all the people I get to meet, even for brief

moments, and how what I said or did changed their facial expressions. I

began to notice how the people who spoke to me also affected my

mood, my thoughts and my feelings. There were the people who

wanted nothing but to annoy me, or at least it seemed so to me. There

were people who said really nice things , which, I truly wished I had a

pen and paper to write it down and remember it all day long!

I wanted to make it my intention after some thinking and meditating

that I will do my best in adding a touch of joy, a torch of hope, of

gentleness to the lives of the people I was to interact with daily.

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I was thinking of actually creating a short list of the things I could do to

cheer someone up, or motivate to do better in life, and find solutions

for problems , instead of just complain about them. My list was made

up of ten thoughtful gestures. I discovered that sometimes all I need to

do to help someone is to change my thoughts about them, in my mind!

Without them even knowing about it. This simple act, eventually , as I

realized later, opened the way to a new interaction with some people I

thought were really difficult to deal with.

After noticing the positive changes which began to take shape, I was so

very satisfied with the results, and I decided to write about it, in a very

short e book, and share it with other people. I have discovered that

these ten thoughtful gestures, were in fact nothing but Jewels. Yes they

are Jewels we all possess, and which we can share freely everyday.

You can never know how much your tender, caring, understanding

words or gestures would affect someone’s life, even for a few brief

moments.

It does not take a lot of effort to share those Jewels, especially if it

comes from the heart. I now invite you to this short journey with me, to

discover what these Ten Jewels are, and how to start giving them away

every single day.

Part two of this very short e book is for teachers. It includes five Jewels

which a teacher can share with her students. In this second part, I

speak of my personal experience as a teacher, and how sharing these

five Jewels made a great positive change for some of my students. They

are really so simple, yet so very effective as you will see.

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Please share this free short e book with anyone you know, especially

teachers. I hope that my short simple message will remind people of

the valuable Jewels we all possess, and which we can share freely and

willingly with everyone every single day.

Your Motivational coach hania

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Part One: 10 Jewels a good person can give away to anyone!

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1st. Jewel: Five minutes to listen to people with your heart.

We often listen to people, but we merely do that with our ears.

The meaning of each word is processed through our hearing system. Do

you remember sometimes when you wish someone would try to

understand what you mean to say, instead of what you are actually

saying? Don’t we all find it hard to talk openly sometimes about certain

things? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if the person in front of you got the

real meaning of your words?

People are often misunderstood by us. They are often treated as

insignificant, and we sometimes tend to withdraw from stories about

grief , so we pretend to listen, but as we listen , we are actually saying

in our heads:” I wish she would stop this. I already have problems of my

own!”

I am not saying that we should listen to each and every story ,I am

saying the next time someone tries to talk to you, try to listen to them,

but with your heart, with your feelings of compassion, and

understanding. Try doing it for only five minutes, not more. And they

will tell the difference . If they still have a lot to say about themselves,

and you need to get on your way, you could be polite and give a word

of empathy, and then ask them to be excused to tend to your

responsibilities.

Believe me, you will not lose anything from five minutes .

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2nd. Jewel: Compliments.

How many times we stand with someone , talking, exchanging

meaningless words about meaningless subjects, and suddenly we see,

or hear or notice something beautiful about the person we are standing

with. What do we do? Nothing, we act as if it is nothing.

But it isn’t! Didn’t we see something we just admired? Isn’t it worth

mentioning , at least once? How about this: you notice that the friend

you are talking to has a very energetic , passionate look in her eyes

when she talks about a certain person, and this look is really so sincere

and wonderful that it makes your heart revive.

What are you waiting for? Tell her! Tell her that when she talks about

this person, that you could see how much they mean to her, just from

the look in her eyes! That it is so sincere, and so wonderful, and that it

just made your heart revive to know that there is someone who still

loves with such depth !

I believe it is time that we tell the people we talk to about any beautiful

gesture, tone of voice, facial expression, or any body feature which

comes to surface while they are speaking with us.

I am sure that some people have no idea about how beautiful they

really are in and out, because no one bothered to tell them the real

truth about themselves.

A simple, true compliment could do wonders sometimes in raising

someone’s’ self esteem.

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3rd. Jewel: Your sincere smile.

Imagine meeting an acquaintance of yours in the street, how do you act

when your eyes first glimpse each other? What do you remember, or

what do you find yourself remembering about them?

Does that affect the way you interact with them? What if it is

something negative? And your mind is thinking about it, and they have

no idea that you still remember! They seem to be surprised from the

look in your eyes, because they really have no idea that what they did

to you several years ago is still the one thing which comes to your mind

once you see them ,or think about them.

What if it was the other way round? What if they were to remember

something negative about you, though it might have happened many

years ago. And yet you insist on keeping the bad memory! Wouldn’t it

show on their faces, every time they see you? Now how would that

make you feel? Wouldn’t you like to be given a second chance? I want

you to think of being met with a sincere smile instead, and imagine how

it would make you feel, how it would affect the rest of your day!

The next time you meet someone you know, even if you had bad

history with each other in the past, don’t let this determine the way

you first meet them. Think of something nice they once did to you,

keep that in mind, and remember the feelings which the action gave to

you, and then, try to sincerely smile .

Remember to brighten someone’s day with your sincere smile!

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4th. Jewel : Your forgiveness.

what does it mean to forgive? According to the dictionary, to forgive

means to stop blaming, and grant pardon, accept apology, bear no

malice, dismiss from mind. Do you know that when you forgive, you are

freeing your heart from negative emotions which could indeed harm

your life throbbing device ?

when you forgive , you are allowing good things to come to you, even if

the other person has not done much good to you in the past.

With the will of forgetting , you are actually opening the road for a new

experience to come your way in terms of dealing with this person.

Everyone wishes to be forgiven, for we are not perfect, and when we

do something which ends up hurting another person, we eventually get

to know about it. It is just the nature of life. Sooner or later, they will

know about it. Either they get to be treated in the same way by

someone else, and then they will remember their behavior towards you

, and regret it, or they could wake up one day, with a sense of guilt.

And even if this does not happen in your life time, be sure that when

you decide to let go of the memory and transform it into something

else, such as to think of it as a lesson from life that there are people out

their who will do bad things to others, and promise yourself to never

treat anyone in this same way, for now, you know how terrible it feels.

And when you do this, you have actually activated a much stronger

energy force which works as an cleanser to any negative experience

you had because of someone else.

To forgive someone is to give them a second chance to do better later.

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5th. Jewel: A view from the window of their

soul.

The world is never the same for others as the way we see it with our

own eyes. What seems to come naturally and easily for us , could be

the most difficult thing for someone else. And this could be applied to

anything in life. Remember that everyone has their own experiences in

life, and this affects the way they perceive the world.

Each one of us has their own levels of tolerance, and limitations. It is

true that with a strong will, many of the acquired limitations could be

dissolved, but again, it is not the same for everyone. Some people are

more prepared for change, and others, well, it is not that simple. Or it

could happen, but in very small baby steps.

Think about your own self, there must be things which you can do so

easily, and there are other things which really seem difficult for you to

manage. Perhaps you could actually do those things one day, but it

would take you much more time , energy and preparation to get the

thing done. While for someone else, it could only take them a very

small time to tackle the task.

So the next time, you are working with someone, and they do not seem

to get the job done right, instead of blaming them, simply think back of

your own weak points, and then treat the other person how you would

like to be treated if you were to do something which does not come

naturally to you.

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6th. Jewel: A pat on the back.

Words like : “ Good job! “, or “ you did it! “ , or “ I knew you could do it

!” has a powerful effect, much more than you could imagine.

Encouragement goes a big way , when used in the right place, and at

the right time. Sometimes, a simple word of encouragement is just the

one thing someone needs to hear to get out a little more of their inner

strength to accomplish something.

We usually use this kind of thing with little kids, but you will be

surprised to know how much an adult needs this as well . And yet, no

one really gives any attention to the true need of giving an adult a pat

on the back as they are really working hard to get something done

properly. We just assume that someone working hard is something

which is their job to do. But think of the energy surge they could get

from that simple praise of yours!

I don’t know about you, but I usually find myself wanting to do even

better after being given a pat on the back or a word of praise. It just fills

me with such power that I feel I even want to do much more. Not to get

the praise, but to give it all that I’ve got, perhaps to test my true

abilities!

Never under estimate the real power of giving a simple pat on the

back.

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7th. Jewel: Give excuses.

I know that many times I had wished someone would know about the

special circumstances I was going through, but I would never dream of

sharing my personal life with some people. And if I had not done

something well, even though I tried to do the best I could, given the

current circumstances , it would always be my true wish that someone

would give me excuses.

You could really have no idea what someone is going through in their

life , which forces them not to do something well, or even do a lousy

job. I know we often run into conclusions that this person or that are

simply irresponsible or even careless. But , and I will emphasis this

again, you could never know the things they are facing in their own

world.

I have fallen into the trap of judging people myself, after being

dissatisfied with the quality of work or personal behavior I have seen

from them. Much to my guilt later, I would sadly get to know about a

really sad circumstance they were actually facing in their personal life.

I believe it is better to think of numerous excuses we could give to

someone, instead of just judging and blaming. And the amount of relief

this gives you in the end is so big , that more love flows from your

heart, and into hearts of others who really need this kind of gentle

treatment and understand.

We must learn to give excuses , for only then they will be given to us.

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8th. Jewel: Give a word of appreciation.

Wouldn’t it be great if we all stood still for a moment or two, and

thought of how we appreciate something a certain person does for us,

or for others? Wouldn’t it be even greater if we actually spoke those

words to this person, to let them know how we feel?

I do not know why sometimes separation either through travel or death

is the only thing which makes us think of how precious someone’s work

was to us! When I think about it, it makes me really angry, because we

had wasted many opportunities where we could have shared some

beautiful feeling of appreciation.

But how can we get to a point where we would actually find the will to

stop everything, live in the moment, and see things as they truly are? I

have a suggestion for you, which you could try to do , and see if it stirs

your feelings of appreciation for someone you usually take for granted.

The next time you see someone doing something for you or for

everyone, try to imagine that this person does not exist anymore. What

would happen then? Try to imagine your own life, or the place you are

in with this emptiness. How does what they do really affect your life

and the lives of others? Do not stop there, go to the person, and tell

them! Tell them that you really appreciate the comfort they bring into

your life everyday, just by doing their job. Tell them, that because of

them things go well , things go right, and everything is just great!

No matter how insignificant it might seem, each of us has a certain

job to do to serve others, and so we are all important.

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9th.Jewel: Give a helping hand.

Do not wait to be asked for help, for many times the ego is just too

proud to ask for help. When you see someone having a hard time doing

something, or dealing with something difficult, take the lead, step

forward , and offer to give some help. Do not say : ‘can I help you?’ the

most predictable answer would be : ‘ no, really, thank you, I can

manage. ‘ it is the nature of some human beings, getting help from

others is something hard for them to accept. They have their reasons,

of course. One might be the meaning that they are not strong enough,

or capable enough.

One way for offering help , which I have found to be truly effective , is

to actually step in and give a helping hand, without speaking. Or better

still to say: ‘ I will give you something which would give you a great

result , it was given to me by someone .’

When you think that someone really needs your help, do not hesitate,

seize the moment, and act now! do not wait, for many times the help is

no longer needed, once you stay stuck in the deciding phase of

whether to do it or not.

We all need help at certain times in our lives, whether we are ready to

admit it, or not. But think of how wonderful it would be when help

comes when you least expect it, this way, life would be much more

easier for all of us!

Do not ask if you could help someone , simply stand up, and just do it!

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10th.Jewel: Your honest opinion.

Do not think that by giving your honest opinion to someone, you could

be really hurting their feelings, or discouraging them. In fact, there are

many ways to say something, and once you choose your words

carefully, the benefit of your honesty could be ten folds than it would

be if you just want to be nice and hide your true evaluation of their

work.

I know that many times we ask people for their opinion, and we

actually are hoping they would tell us what we want to hear. But if

everybody did this all the time, no one would give us a true perspective

of how things are. I say that if you want someone’s opinion and you

want them to say what you want to hear, not what they really have to

say to you, then it is better not to ask. As for giving someone else your

honest opinion, even when they are not asking for it , it is worth it.

Many times a gentle word of honesty is the magic key which opens the

door to new experiences, to knew and better achievements. This is why

it is better to give your true opinion , than to just try to be nice, and

only mention the good side of things, while neglecting the work that

could be done in the weaker area.

I believe that giving someone your honest opinion shows that you really

care. Otherwise, telling people only what they want to hear, when you

think they could benefit from an honest opinion , would be like lying. It

would not give them a chance to grow, to prosper, to keep doing

better.

Do not tell a lie, simply give your honest opinion nicely. It shows how

much you really care.

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Part Two: 5 Jewels a Teacher can give away to her students.

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1st Jewel: Five minutes to listen to a student

with your heart.

Sometimes a student would be trying to tell you something ,but may

use unconventional ways of interacting with you. Any student who is

showing withdrawal signs, or is too violent with other classmates, or it

could be that they are not doing their homework. There are really many

signs that a student may be actually trying to tell you something, to

reach out, except, they do it in their own way.

Often the message they are trying to give you is : please give me

attention! No one notices me, so I need to do something bad in order

to be noticed. I believe that behind every negative behavior there is a

good intention. The student who engages in fights with other kids, is

one who is starving for attention, I believe.

Five minutes of true observation could lead to the true source of the

problem, and so it actually leads to the solution. Just notice quietly , for

five minutes, and then try to figure out what he or she is actually trying

to say. Give them some kind of responsibility, like taking charge of the

classroom while you are gone for a minute or two. Or let them be

responsible for a wall paper. Ask them if they like to join the choir or

any kind of school activity.

Show them that there are other ways to get noticed, and get to

express themselves in a healthy way.

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2nd Jewel: Compliment your students.

Teacher’s words are so important for students much more than you

think. They sometimes work as beliefs. There is something about the

way a student views a teacher, which is so graceful, so high. The

teacher knows everything, so she must be right in all that she says. And

here comes your responsibility. What ever you tell your students, they

will believe you.

So what happens when the teacher is sick of a students’ continuously

bad behavior, and scolds him or her regularly about it? What happens

to the words she uses which she describes him or her with? I’ll tell you

where they go, straight to the subconscious of the student. It actually

becomes a belief. Most probably , your words would follow him or her

to adult hood. This is not a joke, this actually does have this strong

effect.

So what would happen if you choose to compliment something good

about them? There must be something they do well, and it does

deserve a compliment! Most often we only catch kids doing something

bad. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we caught them doing something

right? To notice it, and better still, to give them a compliment about it!

Nice words given by a teacher affects the students self esteem for a

life time!

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3rd Jewel: Smile sincerely .

I will never forget the smile of my fourth grade math teacher. It used to

make me feel that the day was a happy day, and that we were good

students, and that everything in the world was just fine! It was such a

good feeling to see her come into class ever morning, and just smile, for

no particular reason.

A teacher’s facial expression is extremely important when it comes to

dealing with students. No matter what happens, she should always

control her facial expressions. As for smiling, it is not only nice, it is

crucial in giving the classroom an air of serenity. It makes the students

at peace with each other.

But, please be aware that a fake smile will not get the same results as a

sincere smile would. Some teachers would try to smile, and cannot

really find a true reason to do this. To solve this problem, here are a

few suggestions:

1.Remember when you were a young student yourself, and how you

would have liked your teacher to seem calm and peaceful.

2. Think of time, that in ten or twenty years these little ones will be all

grown up, and would probably run to greet you in the street because

you left a good impression.

3. Find a beautiful nature poster and hang it on the walls of the

classroom, and every time you want to smile, just look at the poster ,

breathe deeply, and feel calm, and you will smile sincerely.

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4th .Jewel: Forgive their bad behavior.

I was an English teacher to the fifth grade several years ago, and I

cannot begin to describe to you how difficult it was to discipline this

class. They were students from different backgrounds, and they were

out of control. I had reached a point where I was thinking of not

teaching this class anymore, because of the awful bad behavior they

met me with. I was really furious, how could such a bunch of ten year

old girls and boys cause me to quit like that?

Then one day, the most outrageous boy in class fell down, and hurt his

ankle, I saw him crying like a baby, and I suddenly saw him like how he

really was inside ; a ten year old who was trying to get noticed, to prove

his existence, to rebel against unfair treatment. I remember how I

almost laughed at myself then, after seeing this scene.

I learned on the day that kids are just kids, no matter how they behave.

Even if they annoy a teacher so much with their behavior, in the end ,

they are only kids. A teacher must not feel that she got an insult from a

student’s negative behavior, but indeed she must embrace the

behavior with wisdom and a big heart.

Once I was able to forgive the whole class for their noise, for their

defensive answers, I was able to get through to them, and they grew

quieter, and more peaceful to hear me. But that happened only after I

decided to forgive them for every childish act they did before, and they

saw this, and this is why they changed.

Never take a student’s aggressiveness personally, after all, remember

that you are dealing with a kid.

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5th jewel: Give your students a helping

hand.

There is so much a teacher can do in terms of raising the self esteem of

students. I had one student once who had difficulty in staying focused,

as he sat in the classroom. So he kept moving all the time, dropping his

stuff on the floor, standing to look out of the window… Everyone

criticized him, and blamed him. But no one thought of how they could

help him. I , on the other hand, decided to find a solution for him, at

least during my class. He was to go out of the classroom to go and fetch

me some writing board pens from the staffroom, or go and open the

window, or close it. I asked him to help me out in giving worksheets to

his fellow students.

This seemed to help him concentrate a little more during the times

when he really had to sit down and write or read , for he knew that I

would allow him to move shortly. Not only that, but I even included

some moving activities during my class, for the whole kids. They all

loved this as kids like to move, instead of just having to sit still in their

chairs for a long time.

The other teachers where still complaining about that student, but not

me, and they all wondered how I did it, so I eventually told them my

secret. It was astonishing to them that it was really that simple, and yet

it worked to discipline that boy.

Sometimes it takes little effort to find a simple solution for a big

problem , or what others seem to define as a big problem.

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Hania

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