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High Self-Esteem comes with the ability to take control of your life.

Learn the powerful trade secret of psychiatrists, psychologists,

psychotherapists and counsellors today.

Use them to enlighten yourselves so that you can live your life freely and powerfully.


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We have all heard this beforeWe eat more than we need

or we engage in activities which we know are not good for us because

1. We feel bored.

2. We feel lousy and eating brings comfort and temporary happiness.

Our Self-Esteem (how we view or value ourselves) becomes low as we see

ourselves not able to master our lives.


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I bet you that since it happensvery often and that many other

people seemed to alsosuffer from it …

You think it is normal, right ?


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Well, sorry to say …It is not really something

we should just accept.

We can actually minimisethe time we feel that wayand live an even more empowered life.


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Get to the root causeThe reason why we do that is because

1. We feel bored.We are bored because we lack a burning purpose or passion in life.If we have one, we can’t wait to wakeup in the morning and get going with it.2. We feel lousy and eating brings comfort and temporary happiness.Because we feel overwhelmed by life’s setbacksand suffer from a sense of hopelessness.


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Have you noticed how successful people seemedto behave differently ?

How they have high self-esteem? That is - they see themselves as capable of mastering their life, solving problems and facing setbacks?

How they focus on problem-solving rather thanwallow in them with self-pity like some of us tend to do?

You wonder if their life is so different from yours.They have better luck than you.They have more money than you.They are prettier than you.They are smarter than you. ETC ETC ETC.


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Do you think Danny Devitoought to let his height challenge

prevent him from becominga famous actor?


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Do you think thesefamous hunks

ought to let their dyslexiastop them from their successes?


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Do you think OprahWinfrey ought to

let her impoverishedchildhood

and teen pregnancykeep her from greatness?


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I am sure you can easily thinkof 10 worser things that can

happen to othersthat had not happened

to you.If you don’t believe, make a list.

It will be a long list.


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So why do they seemedto act differently ?

1. They seemed to be busy and arevery focused in their actions.That’s because they have a clear life purpose. They have something they want to accomplished badly.

2. They seemed to be more relaxed, contentedand “in control”.That’s because they know how to handle setbacksand not give in to feeling of hopelessness –the easy way out.


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In short. They make it a point not to waste too much time feeling bored or

indulge in self-sabotagingbehaviour like overeating or addiction.

1. They see life setbacks as normal andknow how to overcome them.

2. They develop a purpose and work hard to achieve it.

There is no time to lose for them.


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1. They see life setbacks as normal and know how to

overcome them.

So, how could you learn how to do that?


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First accept this truth:There will be Ups and Downs in Life.

Do not make the mistake of believing the impossible:

Life is supposed to be up all the time and any downs are bad luck or that you are stupid and

worthless.


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Why must there be Ups and Downs in Life?

Simple maths:When you put more than 2 people together

different timing, needs and priorities naturally cause conflict.

You spend so much time interacting with so many people and the environment on a daily basis, little wonder why your life is full of events which can go your way and

NOT go your way.


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Even if you are someone who believes in the mystics e.g. luck, energy, karma

The principle is still the same – various positive and negative energies coming together creates good and not so good outcomes. Dynamic changes are to be

expected. Nothing stand still enough foryou to expect your life to be always up.


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Once you fully appreciate thatyour battle is already half won.

You should immediately feellightness in your mind from this

simple truth.


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Now, the second part:Problem Solving.

It is no good if you only accept life’s ups and downs and let problems

fester and snowball.


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First:You must feel confident that you can solve problems. Do not think of the

times you have failed. Focus on times you have succeeded.

Why does your mind keep reminding of the times you failed more than

when you succeed?


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Your mind likes to trick you:Our brain is designed to protect us and to run away from being eaten by predators.

That is why when we face problems, it instinctively and often wrongly, remind

us to flee.


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To stop our brain from misfiring,

We just shut off the bad “voice” or “thoughts” and allow the positive “voice” or “thoughts” to operate.You can literally tell your brain to “STOP” a thought

from forming.With some practice, you can even program your brain

to act positively, permanently. Try it, it is fun.


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Once the positive mood is set, you are ready to solve the problem proper.


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Problem-solving takes 3 steps.


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#1: From Externalising to Internalising

When we first look at a problem,We usually see it as someone else is the

problem. This is call externalising.

Even when we think it is because we are not good enough (due to low self-esteem), we tend to think that others are being the big

bully and we are being victimised.


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So, during problem-solving,the trick is not to focus on the external factorsbecause often we do not have control of the

external factors, be it another human being(s) or the weather or the environment. A lot of futile energy is wasted trying to wish things

away.The right thing to do is to focus on ourselves and what we can positively do to change the

situation. This process is call internalising.


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When you complete this step properly, you will be able to verbalise this statement with clarity:

I feel ____________________(emotion)because ______________________(situation)

and I ___________________ (contribution).

Sentence should be summarised and succinct


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#2: Goal Setting

Next step is to articulate the outcome that you want happen:

I feel ____________________(emotion)because ______________________(situation)

and I ___________________ (contribution).

I want ___________________________(goal)by ___________________________(time).



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#3: Plan for Change

Final step is to articulate what you need to do to achieve that desired outcome:

(It typically involves learning new skill(s))

I feel ____________________(emotion)because ______________________(situation) and I

___________________ (contribution).

I want ___________________________(goal)by ___________________________(time)

By implementing/learning how to ______________________________(skill(s)).



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Example:I feel trapped (emotion) because my mother-in-law and

husband expect me to be a superwoman – do housework, take care of the kids and to bring in the bacon (situation) and I chose to vent my anger at them by picking quarrels at every

irritation (contribution).

I want to have a cordial relationships with them with zero fights (goal) by 1 July 2013 10am ( time)

By getting a part-time maid to clean the house and alsoto focus on problem-solving instead of fighting back

(skill(s)).



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Walla! Problem Solved !Ok, it takes some practice and time to

accomplish this. But you will get there, slowly at first. It will get easier and easier

with practice until it becomes reflex action.

Sometimes you need another person, like a trained counsellor - who are not bent on

giving suggestions or worse, criticism - to be your sounding board and who could help to

generate activity and resource option(s).Tip: If you can’t find a trained person just tell whoever to just say hmmm….and nod and not to say anything whilst

you try to give clarity to your verbalisation.


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Now – Purpose/Passion

Most of us go through lives not knowing exactly what our purpose/passion is.

But we do know that it is the thing which:

it gives us energy to want to get out of bedand it makes us feel alive.


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Purpose/Passion – find itSo, try to find it. Doesn’t matter if it may

not be THE one. Just pick one that fires you up at this moment.

Then get busy. One thing will lead to another. There is then hope that you will

finally find it. In the meantime, you will not feel bored.

This technique is called substitution. That is, when you are doing something then

you cannot be doing something else (getting bored). How simple and brilliant is

that !


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High Self-Esteem comes knowing that you have the ability to take control of

your life.Now you know the powerful trade

secret of psychiatrists, psychologists, psychotherapists and counsellors.

So use them to enlighten yourselves so that you can

live your life freely and powerfully.


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