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2geda 4eva (marriage & relationship). Appreciation . I thank you for inviting me to speak to you on this germane and all important topic – together forever. Departure. The creator gave the framework Mt 19: - 4-6 Let no one put asunder. Proximate potential sources of asunder. Both Parties - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
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2GEDA 4EVA (MARRIAGE & RELATIONSHIP)
Appreciation
I thank you for inviting me to speak to you on this germane and all important topic – together forever.
Departure
The creator gave the frameworkMt 19: - 4-6Let no one put asunder
Proximate potential sources of asunder
Both Parties Third party
Relationship goes on in stages until it graduates to marriage. It is subsequently managed
Stages in relationship:
Acquaintance / dating Closeness Intimacy/
courtship/engagement Marriage
What is dating?
Burgress and Wallin sees dating as a “social engagement of a man and a woman which is for the enjoyment of each other’s company and involves no matrimonial commitment”
J. R. Cavanagh sees it as “ the infrequent spending of time together for the purpose of companionship, getting acquainted, and the pleasure of the moment, usually without any present intention of marriage
Characteristics of acquaintance /dating
No emotional attachment Casual friendship Just enjoying companionship No jealousy/rivalry Non-exclusive No sharing of secrets Open place dating
Closeness
A deeper level of companionship where friends start getting interested in and closer to the other party. A stage of higher degree of proximity and togetherness.
Characteristics Of Closeness Higher degree of affinity Still has no-go-areas Stage of sharing general
issues – family, school, office, daily events etc
ADVANTAGES OF DATING
Social interaction Personal development Mature understanding of the
opposite sex Satisfaction of the human
need for love Selection of future partner Spiritual growth and
development
ADVANTAGES OF COURTSHIP
Social security Sense of belonging and self
worth Development of human
relations skills Cost-savings
DANGERS OF COURTSHIP
Loss of personal identity It tends to become a habit Pre-marital pregnancy/early
marriage Pre-marital sex Abortion
DONTS IN COURTSHIP/DATING
Kissing and heavy hanging Sleeping together on the
same bed Sexual intercourse
HOW TO MAINTAIN PRE-MARITAL CHASTITY
Positive feeling of self worth Have moral code and discuss Avoid situations that stimulate sexual
pleasure Know the fact about sex Learn to control your sexual desires. Jer
9: 21 Death comes up into the soul through the window of the eyes
Real presence/Universal presence Flee…1 Cor. 6: 18 Avoid time bombs
WHEN TRAPPED?
Accept your mistake Reconcile Self forgiveness Flee
MATE SELECTION Key to healthy marriage is to keep your
eyes wide open before you look and half closed thereafter
Pray; pray again Set criteria-story of my son Compatibility: The ability of two objects
or individuals to unite in such a way that there would be little or no friction in the union. Check age, religion, personality, health, education.
MARRIAGE MAINTENANCE Find below some of the
things that help is maintaining the love in your marriage:
Pray together always The closer a man and his wife
get to Christ, the clearer they see how important it is for them to stay close to each other.
Daily prayer diminishes your cares
Give your troubles to God, He will be up all night afterall
Communicate:
A happy marriage is a long conversation that always seems too short
Verbal communication Discuss as a family Learn to say I am sorry Do not just talk about others,
talk about yourselves
Communication Continues
Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless
Ninety percent of the friction of daily life is caused by the wrong tone of voice
I love you – a magic statement
NON VERBAL
Body language at all times Be a good listener
Appreciate one another
Reduce the use of “I”. Everyone has an invisible sign hanging from the neck saying “make me feel important”
Enjoy each other sexually
Make every sexual session a memorable one.
Things to do to enjoy good sex:
Develop close relationship Be clean and neat Spend time in love play
before sex Aim to reach orgasm
together Choose comfortable positions Care for your partner. Know
your cycle Be faithful to your partner
Serve one another
The great thing about being married a long time is falling in love with the same person again and again
Spouse who pet their partners first have marriages that last
Best friends make best partners
ISSUES
Bath together Beware of master bedroom Be fond of each other Personal greeting ritual Be the first to forgive Manage family financial
obligations jointly
CAUSES OF FINANCIAL PROBLEMS
Lack of prudence in spending Lack of budgeting Not placing needs above wants Not planning within your income.
MODELS FOR FAMILY MONEY MANAGEMENT
1ST: The wife’s money as emergency fund
2ND: The wife’s money for her needs
3RD: The shared economy system 4TH: The pooled or mixed economy 5TH: The fifty-fifty system
Be open to change
The difficulty with marriage is that we fall in love with the personality but must live with a character-Peter Devries
Success in marriage is more than finding the right person. It is also a matter of being the right person
Handle your problems together
No marriage is all sunshine, but two people can share one umbrella if they huddle close – Nancy L. V. Pelt
The difference between smooth sailing and shipwreck in marriage lies in what you as a couple are doing about the rough weather
Law of departure. .
Gen: 2 23 to 24: - “A man leaves and cleaves”
Build and break alliances
Plan your family size “If there are reasonable grounds for
spacing births, arising from physical or psychological conditions of husband or wife, or from external circumstances, the church teaches that the married couple may take advantage of the natural cycles immanent in the reproductive system and use their marriage at precisely those times that are infertile, and in this way control birth”
Keep good company
Bad pieces of advice could ruin a happy marriage: 2nd Sam 13 1-6 (Amnon and Tamar)
Friendship is the marriage of the souls
Keep your promises
Learn to laugh
Laughter is to life what shock absorbers are to auto mobiles. It wont take the pot-holes out of road but it sure makes the ride smoother
Child Upbringing