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What is a paradigm? The way you see something, your point of
view. They are like glasses…
If you walk through life wearing glasses that say “I can do it!” that belief will put a positive spin on everything else.
Paradigms can shift
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What do you base your paradigms on? What is the driving force of my life? What do I spend my time thinking about?
Friends? Stuff? School? Parents? Sports? Heroes? Enemies?
Building your life around these things doesn’t provide the stability you need for LIFE. It’s good to enjoy these things, but you shouldn’t base your entire existence on them.
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So what should we center our life on? Principles!
Honesty, respect, integrity, fairness, loyalty, responsibility, hard work
If you live by these, you will excel. If you break them, you will fail…maybe not right
away, but it will catch up to you. Putting principles first is the key to becoming a
person of character.
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What is the personal bank account? How you feel about yourself is
like a bank account. Deposits:
Keeping promises, being kind, using your talents
Withdrawals Breaking promises, being
dishonest, wearing yourself out
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Other Bank Accounts You can make deposits and withdrawals to
other peoples bank accounts too. Deposits: Kept promises, saying you’re sorry,
giving a compliment Withdrawals: Breaking a promise, not listening,
being rude, saying mean things
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Being Proactive Taking responsibility for your life, you make
things happen. “I am in the driver’s seat of my life,
not just a passenger”. You choose your attitude and your reactions.
Having a can-do attitude
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Listen to your language Proactive language
I’ll do it I choose to There’s gotta be a way I won’t let your bad
mood rub off on me
Reactive language I can’t I have to That’s just how I am You ruined my day
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Circle of control You can only control how you RESPOND to
what happens to you. We can’t control what others do, the weather,
rude comments, etc. “It’s not what happens to you in life, it’s what
you do about it.” Push the pause button
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Beginning with the end in mind If you don’t decide your future, someone else
will. “Teenagehood” is only 7 years, but it can
affect your remaining years…for good or for bad.
Set goals for yourself!
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First Things First Learning to prioritize and manage your time. Focus on the important items, activities that
contribute to your goals. Use a planner, prioritize your goals, adjust your
plan as needed Sometimes you need to step out of your
comfort zone and into your courage zone. Don’t let fear make your decisions
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Win-Win A mental attitude that says I can win, and so can
you. You care about other people and you want them
to succeed. Lose-lose, lose-win or win-lose are undesirable. Agreeing to disagree is an acceptable outcome. Avoid competition and comparing
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Understand and be understood Listen first, talk second.
Listen with your eyes, heart and ears. Put yourself in their shoes. Repeat back what the other person is saying and
feeling…use your own words. Make your own feelings understood in a
calm, mature manner.
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What is synergy? Teamwork Celebrating differences Being open-minded Finding new and better ways
Think of a band…each member brings his/hers strengths together to create something better.
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Synergy Action Plan Define the problem Their Way (seek to understand) My way (be understood) Brainstorm (create new options) High Way (find the best solution)
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What is Sharpening the Saw? Finding balance in your life Taking time for yourself Renewing and strengthening your life
Body: eat right, exercise, play sports, take walks Brain: read the newspaper, watch the discovery
channel, play a game Heart: build relationships, make deposits, laugh Soul: meditate, serve others, reflect on goals, read
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