Thought #1: My husband is my neighbor. I’m supposed to love my neighbor as myself which includes my husband. I should always seek to show love.

Thought #2: My husband can’t make me mad. We can choose how we think and respond when our husband angers us. Look for the good and you will find it.

Thought #3: My husband was not put on this earth to make me happy. I need to look upward to God for joy, inward for contentment and externally for happiness. I am responsible for my own happiness.

Thought #4: I can’t mold my husband into my image. We need to accept our husband and who God created him to be. The key to change in marriage is acceptance and intimacy and friendship, not coercion or rejection.

Thought #5: I’m not in competition with my husband. What if instead of strict gender roles where the husband’s will is always done, we work together to do God’s will?

Thought #6: I’m called to be a peacekeeper; not a peacemaker. You can pursue conflict in a godly way and in fact it can be good for a marriage. Sometimes this requires you to broach difficult issues with the help of others.

Thought #7: Being one is more important than being right. You can find a win-win solution to any argument. It starts with establishing good communication before conflict ever arises.

Thought #8: Having sex is not the same as making love. You can achieve a mutually satisfying and godly intimate life with your spouse.

Thought #9: If I’m not careful we’ll drift apart. We need to be intentional to build spiritual, emotional, mental and physical intimacy with our spouse.

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