A Wife vs. a Woman

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A Wife vs. a Woman

Nazwa Warda Bintay Salim

It doesnt take much to become a good husband or a good wife, an ideal daughter-in-law or son

in law in practical, unless some extra compulsions/obligations are deliberately or

technically drawn by those around you! Well many of us wouldnt agree to some extent. I am

talking about those young couples newly married, still in the colored bliss of heavens, who arestriving to have a good academic/ professional background after their studies, and subsequently

right after the marriage struggling some time out off their busy days to have an air to breathe in,but not getting much of that chances, if any

It is a preconceived notion among many in our society that (mostly in cases of love/affair

marriages) that couples now that they are married, they should now only focus on their in-laws,the new family members, household chores, as if they had enough of the joy they deserved

earlier, before marriage! This happens mostly in case of the newly-wedded brides and especially

in sub-urban, rural areas, where we can find many vivid examples. The new love-birds areconsidered to be mere duty and responsibility practitioners!

The most unfortunate part is that the ball is thrown which is aimed at fulfilling/meeting demands

or wishes of others, and the new daughter-in-law is constantly busy at running behind thatinvisible ball, intangibly moved or played by many on the backgrounds.

Simultaneously, the new husband is very busy building a lucrative career for himself, and is

happy watching his wife proving herself a happiness building machine for others around or anideal daughter-in-law of the family.

That love which used to bind the tender, young hearts together transforms into love out of thewindow syndrome!

House chores, taking good care of the family matters and members, giving them enough time

and attention, raising the child, studying hard to have a good academic result thus leading to asuccessful livelihood, tension relating to a sustainable solvent future, and much more come into

the limelight as objects of critical concern. But with what hopes and expectations she broughtherself into this new arena, with eyes filled with dreams and wonders all stats getting wiped


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away bit-by-bit from a colored to a black and white faded picture. With very little scope ofentertainment or space of relaxation for herself and with no comforting mums/dads hands on

her shoulders to pat on, or with a limited support of understanding from anyone around, the newhubby also converts himself into one like the others in the whole picture to keep away from

letting the flame of love burn strongly.

A woman is full of virtues, which up to many aspects men can not reach in fathom imaginingeven. She is both capable in running a family life with accomplishment and diligence, thus

creating a sweet-home out of a brick-house and simultaneously give birth to revolutionarychanges in the social context.

Sad enough the situation becomes bitter and tougher when a girl is married off and the walls ofrestrictions and social obstacles suddenly grow higher. In a country like ours where women are

brimming with energetic ideas and creativity and never-ending talents of abstract and critical

thoughts, there is the least possible chances of those voices getting heard. It is ones self-exposure which needs to be recognized, valued and understood through support in order to bewell implicated for social cause or benefit.

The most regrettable part is that this concept is yet not prevalent in our the social order for which

basing on the existing theme we all can just point out our fingers to that figure when she startsproving herself as a WOMAN being a WIFE!

The more disappointing and disheartening episode is that WE : THE WOMEN do it more often

than men do as they hardly can manage time out off their busy schedules to make these lowcritical comments.

A WIFE mostly needs, and also expects support and strength from her husband when she canfind no one to rely on or with whom she can confide with her thoughts, views, values and moral

principles. She would least want to see the break-down of those vows and commitments based onwhich she is in someones life today as a wife, as a daughter-in-law from a daddys doll and

would soon become a mother of a child of that husband tomorrow.

A Woman largely needs moral, family and social, support to prove that virtues in bringing aboutpositive reforms. After all Napoleon said that: Give me an educated mother and Ill give you an

educated nation.

As for the love-birds to build a nest of sweet odor of love it is the one and only and sole duty ofthe man to come out of the whole rigid family-picture frame sometimes to make his wife really

know that she still is the Queen of his Kingdom through some lovely, loyal efforts like: suddenoutings, surprise gifts/ treats for a warm romantic dinner or take a trip. Efforts and duties sound

far less formal and ceremonial if these little tiny bits can be maintained in a relationship withconsistency and heartfelt sincerity.


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At the end of the day it becomes the moral obligation for the wife to play her part as A PEACETREATY CONSIGNER or the ultimate compromising dummy with smile in place of

sorrows, with laughter in place of tears to build and maintain a peaceful happy, family-environment.

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