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AIRS National I&R Conference 2012Presenter: Heather L. Pierce, CIRS
Dealing With Difficult People
Goals of our workshopTo look at those callers we
term difficult, why we term them as such, and methods we can use to mitigate their impact
We will gain an understanding ofWhich callers we consider
difficultWhat it is that makes them
difficult to work withHow to interact with such
callers in a manner that lessens the impact on you
Working with callers
Sometimes it works…And sometimes it doesn’t…
What makes certain callers “Difficult”?Difficult callers are those
whose:Motivation for calling is
purposes other than I&RNeeds, conditions, or manner of
presentation induces us to feel we lack the skills to address the situation
Contact is motivated by a problem they are unwilling or unable to identify or address
Behavior, lifestyle, or personality we find unattractive or unappealing
Group DiscussionTime to VentYou’ll have 10
minutes for this task.Form small groups of
5-6.First, give everyone a
chance to introduce themselves and share where they are from.
Next, give everyone a chance to share their “most difficult caller”!
The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly
Good Callers Are… Bad Callers Are…
A joy to servePoliteRespectfulThankful
ImpoliteDisrespectfulRudeBelligerentRacistSexist
Why do people act that way?Sometimes, there
are good reasons…
Sometimes, that’s just how some people are!
Goals in I&RTo approach and
understand the behavior of each client objectively
Strive to provide equal service to everyone – within acceptable limits
Remember the people who are the most difficult to serve may need the assistance of an I&R specialist the most!
However!There is no need to
take personal abuse, particularly if it has a racist or sexist element
Different people have different limits of tolerance
Be comfortable that the line you draw for yourself reflects your own personal tolerance level and not the limits of others
Partner DiscussionIn a family situation,
when someone is arguing loudly with you, are you more inclined to shout back or to stay quiet and wait for it to be over?
How do you normally respond when “Provoked”?
Has this changed over the years?
Techniques to defuse anger
First and foremost, respond to their situation with honest empathy and a genuine attempt to help
Remain calm and engage the clientLower your tone of voice and slow the speed of
your wordsTry to demonstrate warmthRepeat an important phrase that the client usesRemain non-judgmentalDefine your role as best you can in terms of
what you can and can’t do
If the client becomes more angry…Do not match their emotionsDo not try to counter their anger
with a long, logical argumentDo not offer weak platitudesDo not get overly defensiveDo not respond with your own
anger, however unjust the accusations
Defuse yourself before you attempt to defuse others
Other tips…Distancing yourself is an important step in
retaining objectivityStop wishing that the person will change or
suddenly become reasonableRedefine your idea of “success” regarding
these callsDon’t dump difficult clients on other
agencies just to get rid of them
Mental health calls and “constant callers”An I&R service receives calls from people
with mental health issues who are not looking for help.May simply be lonelyMay just be a deluge of inappropriate
languageNot a befriending service, but must develop
trust in the serviceThere may be a genuine need for referrals
within the callMay need referrals in the future
Setting boundariesCritical for the overall I&R service to set limits when
clients are being abusive, manipulative, over-demanding, or seriously inappropriate
This applies to both angry callers and constant callersDo not confuse good customer service with passivity
Passive I&R specialists communicate they are willing to “take it”
DISCUSSION ? - When callers are lonely and are calling frequently, what are some of the ways to control the amount of time spent on their calls?
Setting boundaries continuedBoundaries should be explained in a
positive manner whenever possibleExample: “If you stop shouting, I will stay on
the line and talk with you” rather than “If you don’t stop shouting, I’ll hang up”
Consequences should also be clearExample: “If you continue to use that type of
language, I will have no choice but to end the call” or “I will talk with you for the next 5 minutes, but you have to agree that this will be your only call to us today”
Most importantlyRemain courteous
and state boundaries in a professional manner
Be consistent and follow through with any consequences that were outlined
Limits should be shared with others in the agency and generally are group or management decisions
DISCUSSION ? - What would be the consequences if different I&R Specialists within the same service apply different rules on abusive callers and constant callers?
Face-to-Face InterviewsLet someone know what is happening
so they can be ready to assist if required
Do not touch the person.Do not stand over the client.Remain calm but observant.Do not get too close to the client.Look out for signs of increasing
tension.Stay at an angle to the client.If you are in a room with the client,
make sure you have a clear exit path.Get help before the situation
escalates!
Practice Makes PerfectSome of us are uncomfortable with
confrontation and may shut down when confronted with someone who is angry, loud, or abusive.
Find a friend or co-worker and practice!Role play scenarios are available in the
ABC’s of I&R.You’ll be more likely to use the skills you’ve
learned when in an intense situation if you’ve practiced before.
Final noteBe sure to fill your
own cup firstWe all provide better
service and are better able to handle the unpleasantness of some callers when we are in good physical and emotional health
Questions?Thanks for your
participation!Heather Pierce
2-1-1 Call Center CoordinatorUnited Way of the Plains245 N. WaterWichita, KS 67202316-267-1321 ext. [email protected]