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today’s handouts: Syllabus
NotePages for Day #1
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“What is love?”
Day #1 of 8 “What is love?”
Our website, roster, and syllabus
Being Human: 7 Observations
Three components of an attitude of love
Definitions of love
Multiple Intelligences (Howard Gardner)
Love viewed within the context ofMoral Community & Hierarchy of Needs
(Judith Boss) (Abraham Maslow)
Three approaches to the dynamics of love(Gary Chapman, Robert Sternberg, John Lee)
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Day #1 of 8 “What is love?”
Our website
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http://www3.canyons.edu/faculty/rafterm
Love&
The Three Primary Domains of Human Experience
– Cognition – Emotion –– Overt Behavior –
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Observation #1
B = f(P x E)Behavior
is a function of
the Person&
the Environment.
Observation #2
Love&
The Three Primary Domains of Human Experience
– Cognition – Emotion –– Overt Behavior –
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Loveis an
Attitude
– Cognition – Emotion –– Overt Behavior –
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Love Defined
. . . by children.
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In their definitions of love, do the children emphasize cognitions or emotions or overt behavior?
“When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore.
So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too.
That's love.”Rebecca - age 8
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“Love is when my mommy makes
coffee for my daddy and she takes a
sip before giving it to him, to make sure
the taste is OK.” Danny - age 7
“Love is when you tell a guy
you like his shirt, then he wears it
everyday.” Noelle - age 7
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"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." Karen - age 7
“Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.”Karl - age 5
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What is Love?
“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.” Billy - age 4
“You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.”Jessica - age 8
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Love&
The Three Primary Domains of Human Experience
– Cognition – Emotion –– Overt Behavior –
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Love&
Intelligence
– Cognition – Emotion –– Overt Behavior –
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Love&
Intelligence
Howard Gardner’s
Multiple Intelligences
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Howard Gardner’sMultiple Intelligences
1. Verbal/Linguistic Intelligence
2. Logical/Mathematical Intelligence
3. Visual/Spatial Intelligence
4. Bodily/Kinesthetic Intelligence
5. Musical Intelligence
6. Interpersonal Intelligence
7. Intrapersonal Intelligence
8. Naturalist Intelligence
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Observations #5 & #6
Love
Love within the context of one’s moral community.
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A.
B.
C.
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A.
B.
C.
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A.
B.
C.
My
Moral Center
The Marginalized
The Excluded
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A.A. My Moral Center
We accord the highest level of respect
to those at our moral center.
Without any effort we are mindful of
their individuality, and we cherish their humanity.
We seek to increase their happiness, and decrease their
unhappiness. If we unintentionally hurt someone and then
apologize, we may bring this up again, apologize again, and
continue to feel remorse.
“I feel sorry, and I feel guilty that I caused you pain.”
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B.B. The Marginalized
While we do not seek to cause them
unhappiness, we realize that we cannot
please everyone all the time, and that’s life.
If we unintentionally hurt someone and then apologize,
we will resent it if this matter is brought up again.
“I have already apologized. What more do you expect me to
do about it? Get over it. I was sorry at first,
but now I’m starting to feel angry!”
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C.
C. The Excluded
Their well-being is none of our concern,
except for how it affects us. We may neglect
them, ignore them, use them, or seek to hurt them
for our own purposes. We dehumanize them, and we perceive
them all to be essentially the same. We also may perceive that
if we increase their unhappiness then we will increase our
happiness. “I am proud that I hurt you.”“I feel safe now that you are incapacitated.”
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A.
B.
C.
My
Moral Center
The Marginalized
The Excluded½
Love
Love within the context of one’s
hierarchy of needs.
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Physiological Needs(deficiency needs)
Physiological Needs(deficiency needs)
Physiological Needs(deficiency needs)
Physiological Needs(deficiency needs)
Physiological & Safety Needs(deficiency needs)
Belongingness & Love Needs
Esteem Needs
Curiosity & Aesthetic Needs(being needs)
Self-Actualization
Transcendence
Near the top:We become more unique and cooperative.We cherish the diversity of life.
Near the bottom:We are more alikeand competitive.We are threatened by differences.
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A.
B.
C.
My
Moral Center
The Marginalized
The Excluded
Near the top:Our Moral Center is very large and inclusive.
Near the bottom:Our Moral Center is very small and exclusive.
Behaviors
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A Bus Trip & A Dog’s Tail
These 3 assessments are available on our class website: Day #1,and will be the focus of much of our discussion next week.
http://www3.canyons.edu/faculty/rafterm
Love Assessment Totals
1. Chapman’s Languages of LoveTotal A ___ Total B___ Total C___ Total D___ Total E___ A: Words of Affirmation B: Quality Time C: Receiving Gifts D: Acts of Service E: Physical Touch
2. Sternberg’s Triangle Theory of Love AssessmentTotal I ___ Total P___ Total C___ I: Intimacy P: Passion C: Commitment0-45: not a strong component of the relationship60-90: a fairly strong component of the relationship105-135: a very strong component of the relationship
3. Lee’s Love Attitudes ScaleTotal E___ Total L___ Total S___ Total P ___ Total M___ Total A___
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The End.I will see you, again,
in two weeks.
Friday
April 8th.
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