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DOMESTIC

VIOLENCEAWARNESSES


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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE OCCURS…when one person is controllinganother throgh !ear an"

inti#i"ation$ o!ten incl"ingthreats$ ph%sical &iolence$ &er'al (e#otional a'se$ etc) *h%sical

attac+s #a% range !ro# sho&ing to#r"er


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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE OCCURS…when so#eone resortsto &er'al a'se$harass#ent$ or"estrction o!personal propert% inor"er to controlanother person


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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE OCCURS…when so#eone e,hi'itse,cessi&e possessi&eness$

isolates another person !ro#!rien"s an" !a#il%$ or "epri&eshi# or her o! ph%sical an"

econo#ic resorces !or control


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-ACTS A.OUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCEWo#en o! all races are a'ot e/all%

&lnera'le to &iolence '% an inti#ate

0.rea o! 1stice Statistics$ Violence Against Women: Estimates from theRedesigned Survey $ Agst 23345


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-ACTS A.OUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCENearl% one6thir" o! A#erican wo#en 072

85 report 'eing ph%sicall% or se,all%a'se" '% a hs'an" or 'o%!rien" atso#e point in their li&es$ accor"ing to a2339 Co##onwealth -n" sr&e%

0The Co##onwealth -n"$ Health Concerns Across a Woman’s Lifespan: !!"

Survey of Women’s Health$ Ma% 23335


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-ACTS A.OUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCEOne in :&e 0;2 85 wo#en reporte" she

ha" 'een rape" or ph%sicall% or se,all%assalte" in her li!eti#e

0The Co##onwealth -n"$ Health Concerns Across a Woman’s Lifespan: !!"Survey of Women’s Health$ Ma% 23335


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-ACTS A.OUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Three in !or wo#en 0


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-ACTS A.OUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCEWo#en are :&e to eight ti#es #ore li+el%

than #en to 'e &icti#i>e" '% an inti#atepartner

0U)S) Depart#ent o! 1stice$ Violence )y %ntimates: Analysis of *ata on Crimes )yCurrent or 'ormer Spouses$ +oyfriends$ and ,irlfriends$ March 23395


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*?@SICAL A.USEWith WeaponsShootSta'.rn?itStrangleSocateBic+Restraint

Withot Weapons

*o+e$ hit$ pinch$ gra' Twist li#'s$ scratch*ll hairInre or +ill pets

StrangleDa#age("estro%

propert%?ol" "own


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SEUAL A.USEUnwante"$ !orce" or coerce" se,al acts

-orce" prostittion

Re!sal to se con"o#s

-orce" pregnanc%

MtilationDrgs


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INTIMIDATIONCasing !ear '% sing loo+s$ actions$ an"

gestres

S#ashing or throwing things

Destro%ing propert%

A'sing pets

Showing weapons


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EMOTIONAL A.USE*tting partner "own

Ma+ing partner !eel 'a" a'ot hi#(hersel!

Calling partner na#es

Ma+ing partner thin+ s(he is cra>%


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EMOTIONAL A.USE*la%ing #in" ga#es

?#iliating partner

Ma+ing partner !eel gilt%


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ISOLATIONControlling what partner "oes$ who

partner sees an" tal+s to$ what partner

rea"s$ an" where partner goes

Li#iting partners otsi"e in&ol&e#ent

Using ealos% to sti!% actions


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MINIMIFING$ DEN@ING$ .LAMINGMa+ing light o! the a'se

Not ta+ing partners concerns a'ot the

a'se seriosl%

Den%ing the a'se occrre"

Shi!ting responsi'ilit% !or a'si&e 'eha&ior

Sa%ing the partner case" the a'se


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USING T?E C?ILDRENMa+ing partner !eel gilt% a'ot the chil"ren

Using chil"ren to rela% #essages

Using &isitation to harass partner


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USING T?E C?ILDREN Threatening to ta+e the chil"ren awa%

Threatening to call DC-


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SE ROLE STEREOT@*ES Treating partner li+e a ser&ant

Ma+ing all o! the "ecisions in the relationship


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SE ROLE STEREOT@*ESActing li+e H#aster o! the castle

.eing the one to "e:ne the roles in the

relationship


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ECONOMIC A.USE*re&enting partner !ro# getting or +eeping a o'

Ma+ing partner as+ !or #one%Gi&ing partner an allowance

Ta+ing partners #one% or inco#e

Not letting partner +now a'ot or ha&e accessto inco#e


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COERCION J T?REATSMa+ing an"(or carr%ing ot threats

Threatening to lea&e partner

Threatening to co##it sici"e

Ma+ing partner "rop charges

Maniplation


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Non6Threatening .eha&ior Tal+ing an" acting so partner!eels sa!e an" co#!orta'le

e,pressing the#sel&es)


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RespectListening to partner non6 "g#entall%

.eing e#otionall% aKr#ing an"n"erstan"ing)

Valing partners opinions


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Trst an" SpportSpporting partners goals inli!e)

Respecting partners rights totheir own !eelings$ !rien"s$acti&ities$ an" opinions)


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?onest% an" Acconta'ilit%Accepting responsi'ilit% !or sel!

Ac+nowle"ging past se o! &iolence

A"#itting 'eing wrongCo##nicating openl% an" trth!ll%


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Responsi'le *arentingSharing parentalresponsi'ilities

.eing a positi&e$ non&iolencerole #o"el !or the chil"ren


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Share" Responsi'ilit%Mtall% agreeing on a !air"istri'tion o! wor+

Ma+ing !a#il% "ecisionstogether


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Econo#ic *artnershipMa+ing #one% "ecisionstogether

Ma+ing sre 'oth partners'ene:t !ro# :nancialarrange#ents


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Negotiation an" -airnessSee+ing #tall% satis!%ingresoltions to conict

Accepting changes

.eing willing to co#pro#ise


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W?@ STA@ .elie! that the a'ser will change or

re!or#

Isolate" !ro# !a#il%$ !rien"s$ or spports%ste# an" s(he has no wa% to chec+the realit% o! what the a'ser is tellingher(hi#


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W?@ STA@ DiKclt% :n"ing wor+ that pa%s enogh

to 'e sel!6sKcient an"(or "iKclt% withchil"care

A'ser has threatene" to ta+e thechil"ren

-ear that the a'ser will +ill her(hi#$ thechil"ren$ her(hi#sel!$ !a#il% #e#'ers$ i!s(he lea&es


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W?@ STA@ Sha#e 6 s(he "oesnt want an%one to

+now

There #a% 'e #ore goo" ti#es than'a" ti#es

.elie&es s(he is the case o! the

&iolence an" there!ore can #a+e thea'se stop i! s(he sa%s or "oes the rightthings


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W?@ STA@ Do'ts that s(he can #a+e on his(her

own

Slow an"(or ineecti&e legal response$which cant or wont protect hi#(her

.elie&es that "i&orce or lea&ing therelationship is wrongo!ten rein!orce"

'% clerg%$ !a#il%$ !rien"s$ an" societ%


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WARNING SIGNS O- AN A.USIVE

*ERSONALIT@ 1ealos%

Controlling 'eha&ior

ic+ in&ol&e#ent

Unrealistic e,pectations


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*ERSONALIT@Isolation

.la#es others !or

pro'le#s

.la#es others !or !eelings

Crelt% to ani#als


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*ERSONALIT@H*la%!l se o! !orce in se,

Ver'al a'se

Rigi" se, roles

Dr) 1e+%ll an" Mr) ?%"e


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*[email protected] histor%

Threats o! &iolence

.rea+ing or stri+ingo'ects

Using !orce together(hiswa%


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E--ECTS ON C?ILDRENDo#estic &iolence aects e&er% #e#'er

o! the !a#il%$ incl"ing the chil"ren

-a#il% &iolence creates a ho#een&iron#ent where chil"ren li&e inconstant !ear


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E--ECTS ON C?ILDRENChil"ren who witness !a#il% &iolence are

aecte" in wa%s si#ilar to chil"renwho are ph%sicall% a'se"

Chil"ren are at greater ris+ !ora'se an" neglect i! the% li&e ina &iolent ho#e


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E--ECTS ON C?ILDRENStatistics show that o&er 7 #illion chil"ren

witness &iolence in their ho#e each %ear

P-a#ilies n"er stress pro"ce chil"renn"er stress) I! a spose is 'eing a'se"an" there are chil"ren in the ho#e$ thechil"ren are aecte" '% the a'se)P -Ac.ermanand #ic.ering$ !"!/


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E--ECTS ON C?ILDRENChil"ren react to their en&iron#ent in

"ierent wa%s

Reactions &ar% "epen"ing on the chil"Qsgen"er an" age


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E--ECTS ON C?ILDRENRecent research in"icates that chil"ren who

witness "o#estic &iolence show #orean,iet%$ low sel!6estee#$ "epression$ angeran" te#pera#ent pro'le#s than chil"renwho "o not witness &iolence in the ho#e


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SA-ET@ *LANNINGSa!et% planning helps "e&elop the tools in

a"&ance to con!ront a potentiall%"angeros sitation


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SA-ET@ *LANNINGSa!et% *lans are !or "o#estic a'se

sr&i&ors o! an% age who #a% 'e a'se"'% or is a!rai" o! her(his spose(partner$

'o%(girl!rien"$ a"lt chil"$ or other !a#il%#e#'er


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SA-ET@ *LANNINGIncl"esSa!et% "ring an e,plosi&e inci"ent

Sa!et% when preparing to lea&eSa!et% in p'lic an" at the wor+place

What to ta+e with %o i! %o nee" to lea&e

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