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Dear Readers,
the things that make a house a home are unique to every person
and family, but the things that make a house a Jewish home are
fairly universal.
Inside a Jewish home, you’ll find candlesticks—used on a
regular basis to usher in Shabbat and during most Jewish festivals
and special occasions. Many young women receive their first candlesticks as a
Bat Mitzvah or Confirmation gift, and treasured candlesticks are passed down
from generation to generation.
A Kiddush cup, also used during Shabbat and on special occasions, is fre-
quently displayed alongside the candlesticks.
Somewhere in a Jewish house, you may also spot a Chanukiah, the menorah
used during Chanukah, a mizrach—a decorative item used to indicate which
way to face during prayers (east), and perhaps a ketubah, or marriage certificate.
Outside the home, and frequently inside as well—whether it’s an apartment,
condo or mansion—affixed to a doorpost will be a mezuzah. Inside a decorative
container is a parchment scroll that contains the Shema; the mezuzah fulfills the
commandment to inscribe the Shema prayer “on the doorposts of your house.”
In this special Home issue of Jewish News, we explore area gift shops where
we can find candlesticks, Kiddish cups and mezuzot, as well as other unique
Judaica. Local design experts share decorating tips and trends, and we discover
the benefits one Norfolk family gets from switching to solar power. We learn how
a local rug shop owner is giving back to those who are less fortunate. And for
our senior population, when staying home is as important as making a home,
we highlight a Jewish Family Service of Tidewater program that helps ensure
that can happen.
From our Jewish News home to yours, we’d like to share a translation of the
Birkat Habiyat blessing, which can be found on artwork and tapestries hanging
on the walls of Jewish homes:
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area experts share decorating design tipsby Laine M. Rutherford
when it comes to
interior design and
decorating, choic-
es are abundant,
popular, individu-
al, classically elegant, ultra-contemporary,
endless.
For some people, redecorating or mov-
ing—whether for the first time or last—is
an exciting challenge. For others, it can be
an overwhelming task.
Jewish News asked three local interior
design veterans to share some of their
design tips, as well as decorating trends
they’re noticing in Hampton Roads. Simon
Driscoll of Young’s Flooring, Shawn Griffey
of Decorum Furniture and Francine Morgan
of Designs by Francine lend their expert
advice on home elements, ranging from
color choices to picking a design style.
JN: There are so many different kinds of
flooring options, from wood to carpeting to
cement. What flooring choices do you rec-
ommend? What kinds of floors are people
requesting?
Simon Driscoll: For cost efficiency,
carpet is less expense; it fits a lot of
budgets and offers a nice comfort fac-
tor. For our older clients, though, we
recommend if they’re going to use car-
peting that they go with a really dense
padding, to reduce any kind of tripping
hazard. Hardwood floors are probably
best for that population. Another great
choice is sheet vinyl. Yes, vinyl is mak-
ing a huge comeback, with the vinyl
plank and vinyl tiles that reproduce the
look of wood and tile. The quality of the
images is so good that it’s deceptive. If
you looked at some of the planks, you’d
think it was real wood, but it’s not.
We are seeing a lot of requests for
dark colored wood floors; the rustic
and dark, weathered look is very popu-
lar right now. People need to realize
though, that just like having a black
carpet, these floors show everything
and they require more maintenance.
Another very popular choice today is
cork flooring. There are a lot of benefits
to cork—it is antimicrobial, it’s an excel-
lent insulator and it’s an excellent option
as a “green” flooring because you don’t
kill any trees with cork; cork comes
from the bark of the tree.
Francine Morgan: I mostly like
hardwood. You can get laminate floors,
but what a lot of people don’t know, and
need to be aware of, is that they make
a lot of noise when you walk on them.
On floors today, we’re seeing a lot of
textured area rugs over hardwood. And,
for me, the carpet of choice is wool; it
is the easiest rug to get stains out of and
lasts a lot longer than other materials.
JN: Paint colors—should we go bold, or
should we go neutral? And what about any
other kinds of wallcoverings?
Shawn Griffey: Paint is such an
individual statement...that is why there
are so many colors to choose from.
Neutrals, and barely there colors are
easiest to live with long term, espe-
cially in large spaces or unifying several
smaller rooms. But color can be such a
wonderful expression of who you are,
and really set a tone for a room.
Francine Morgan: You have to be
careful when you use colors other than
neutrals, and the popular ones right
now that we’re seeing are bright orange
and fuchsia. That said, they can really
make a room “pop.” I still love choco-
late brown for walls. Wallpaper was out
of style for a long time, but it’s coming
back, particularly grass cloth. We’re
seeing wallpaper in kitchens and bath-
rooms, and we’re seeing a lot of tile, too.
Mosaic back splashes and glass tile are
very popular.
JN: What about our windows? Do we need window treatments throughout the house? What about upscale blinds or plan-tation shutters instead?
Shawn Griffey: Window treat-
ments can be a useful way to block out
sun and ensure privacy. Often they can
soften a room or dress it up. Cleaner,
more contemporary looks need not
be overdressed, that is why planta-
tion shutters and upscale blinds are so
popular. Modern looks with spacious,
commanding views can look amazing
with no treatments at all.
Francine Morgan: Decorating has
taken a simpler turn, things are less
fussy, so gone are the fringes and trim
on window treatments; that heavy
European look is out and the contem-
porary, clean look is in. You might see
Roman shades or roller shades made
out of fabrics. Instead of draperies, we’ll
use stationary side panels only, hung on
simple drapery rods.
JN: How can we reuse what we have to make
our homes look fresh? And can you suggest
ways to update pieces of furniture that may
be good quality, but just look dated?
Francine Morgan: Lacquer finishes
in different colors on old pieces can
make them look all new. We recently
took an old buffet, lacquered it in white
and it is stunning. You can also apply an
antique chip finish to old wood pieces:
refinish the piece, then take steel wool
and run it just along the edges. It makes
the piece still look old, but fresh and
contemporary at the same time. People
should also be aware that although they
may have a very good sofa or chair that
they’d like to reuse, by the time they
have it reupholstered and repaired, they
could have bought a new piece that’s
just as good.
Shawn Griffey:Repurposing furni-
ture can be tricky. Painting or staining
is the most popular way to transform
a “keeper” into something you want
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JN: What is the one piece of furniture in which we should really make a significant investment?
Shawn Griffey: The most important
investment piece you should invest in
is. Comfort, which is so subjective. You
and your guests should be comfortable
when sitting, or no one is going to be
happy. Comfort is the key while read-
ing, eating, watching television, and
especially sleeping.
Francine Morgan: Nice rugs and
a comfortable sofa—with cushions
made of spring down—are always great
investments.
JN: What are the best accessories to buy?
(Pillows, lamps, tchotchkes, collections of
items?)
Shawn Griffey: Accessories are the
jewelry for your home…they can make
all the difference. Lamps can be useful,
and beautiful. Pillows can freshen up a
space, and help transform a look. Wall
art is so important because it can truly
transform a space. Art glass has become
popular because it really has so much
personality, and can look so perfect in
the right space.
JN: Should we group our collections or
spread them out?
Shawn Griffey: Small clusters of
accessories that complement each other
based on texture, color, shape are what
usually work best. Don’t be afraid to
contrast or juxtapose items, as lining up
or displaying too much of the same type
accessory can be like a “forest through
the trees.” Try creating several vignettes
around the room.
Francine Morgan: I like to see col-
lections grouped, in cabinets, in tables,
on shelves. A great look these days is
large groups of pictures grouped togeth-
er, maybe over a sofa. While the sizes of
the pictures can be different, all of them
should have the same frames so that the
grouping looks neat.
JN: How important is lighting?
Shawn Griffey: Lighting is the
most important aspect of any room.
Obviously, being able to see is critical,
but the mood and ambience a properly
lit room can create is invaluable.
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JN: Should we go for one design look, or is
mixing and matching good-? Can you give
us any pointers on doing it successfully?
Shawn Griffey: Unifying a space can
be as simple as going for one design
look, but today’s trends are mixing it up
and contrasting modern elements with
earthy, warm pieces. “Urban Organic”
really is about taking a lean look and
adding natural, textured pieces (both
large and small) into the space to add
personality and individualism, remem-
ber your home should be a reflection of
who you are.
JN: Any last advice you’d like to share, or
a special “something” you’d like to share?
Simon Driscoll: If you’re looking to
put carpet in your home, the style right
now is anything with variation and
texture in it. For wood floors, people
like the look of wider boards, but in
this area, we really don’t recommend
anything wider than 4”in solid woods
because of the humidity. Unless the
whole house has humidity control, the
floors can buckle, bow, warp or distort.
There are, though, a broad spectrum
of engineered planks that work well in
this area, and those come in very wide
boards. They have a plywood type of
construction with a veneer of wood on
them and are refinishable and work well
in our climate.
Shawn Griffey: If you want to fresh-
en your look, decide what bothers you
the most, and what you really can’t part
with...then edit your look (you may
need help!).
Francine Morgan: The simpler turn
that decorating has taken applies to
upholstery as well as window treat-
ments. No more prints on upholstery!
I like to use linen, upholstery-weight,
in solid colors, and then decorate with
throw pillows in a lot of geometric
prints. Another new thing that’s getting
popular is intaglios. They’re small, oval
pieces that resemble a Roman relief
and are made out of plaster. Mounted,
they’re grouped together on a wall and
they look just wonderful. A few other
decorating choices that have become
popular are farm sinks in the kitchen,
and countertops in the bath and kitchen
made of granite and Carrara marble—all
of which I think are good looks for the
home.
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Judaica for home
by Terri Denison
once limited to a mezuzah
at the front door, a single
pair of Shabbat candlesticks
and a Chanukah menorah,
Judaica for the home used
to be pretty simple and not-so-easy to find.
Synagogue gift shops or a trip to Israel were
the primary sources of these essential items
for a Jewish home in Tidewater.
That’s all changed.
Today, couples prominently exhibit their
ketubah, mezuzot are found on multiple
doors, Shabbat candlesticks, Kiddush cups
and Chanukiyot are displayed all year long.
And, that’s just the beginning. Havdalah
sets, traditional blessings for the home on
plaques and tapestries, and Jewish-themed
serving pieces abound.
What’s more, purchasing Jewish-themed
items—from menorahs to clever holders of
a crushed wedding glass—is more conve-
nient than ever.
Susan Krohn, owner of Worththewait in
Virginia Beach, says that Shabbat candle-
sticks and mezuzot are probably the most
often requested gifts of Judaica for a new
home in her store.
“We even sell a lot of mezuzot to non-
Jewish people who like them in their home,”
says Krohn. “And the Hamsa’s are popular.
“I find a lot of times non-Jewish people
buy for their Jewish friends and know that
I can help them pick out the appropriate
gift,” says Krohn.
Worththewait, which also sells Jewish
themed jewelry, is open seven days a week.
Operating during school hours, Hebrew
Academy of Tidewater’s gift shop sells
child-friendly Judaica, in addition to Jewish
games and crafts, says Deb Segaloff, direc-
tor of development for the school. The
HAT store’s offerings aren’t limited to only
children’s items, however.
“We have a lot of ritual items, includ-
ing kosher parchments for mezuzot,” says
Segaloff.
One of her favorite items in the shop
are “beautiful Shabbat candles from Safed
in Israel. They are just $12 and I can barely
keep them in stock,” says Segaloff. Along the
same line, “We also have a hand-designed
Shabbat match box made in Israel.”
Segaloff says both items make excellent
hostess gifts. She notes that all proceeds
from the shop go to support the school.
Clay Barr and Lauren Baros-Barr, own-
ers of the web-based Missions Possible gift
site, spend a lot of time attending gift and
craft shows around the country to secure
unique gifts for all occasions.
“I particularly think that Judaica is
important to impress upon the next genera-
tion what we’re about,” says Clay Barr.
For a different gift for a home, she sug-
gests a challah board. Missions Possible
offers them in a variety of styles, includ-
ing some with salt holders and matching
knives.
“One of my favorite gifts now is a L’Dor
V Dor challah cover,” says Barr. “It is per-
sonalized for each family with photographs.
It makes a great future heirloom.”
Even more unique, is the Israeli artist
that Missions Possible features who crafts
mezuzot and hamsa’s out of concrete. (Yes,
concrete. What will those Israelis come up
with next?)
Since it is on the Internet, shopping at
Missions Possible can take place any time
of day. And, they are available by phone
during the week.
Beth Sholom Village and most area syn-
agogues have gift shops and carry a wide
range of items for Jewish homes. It is best
to call each for hours of operation.
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Benefits of solar power shine brightly for Norfolk family
by Laine M. Rutherford
Growing up, Elena Barr Baum
remembers being the type of
child who, after school, was
pulling litter out of the river.
“And that was even before recycling was
a big thing,” she says. “I believe now, and
have always believed, that any small thing
you can do to lessen the burden of our liv-
ing on this planet is a good thing.”
Five years ago, Baum, her husband
Gary and their three children, decided to
make a change that would help both the
planet’s ecosystem and their own economic
situation.
The family switched their electric-
ity source from a 100 percent reliance on
Dominion Virginia Power, to using the sun’s
power, with Dominion remaining in place if
backup is needed.
Solar panels were installed
on the roof of their Norfolk
home, virtually invisible from
the street or from neighbor-
ing houses. The panels supply
3.2 kilowatts worth of power,
which is brought in through
wires that connect to an
inverter, which in turn chang-
es the power so it’s useable
through the house’s existing
electrical wiring.
The Baums also installed a
solar hot water heater, which
feeds the gas water heater they have and
uses much less electrical power.
The investment in going solar was sig-
nificant, Baum says, but at the time the
federal government was offering an imme-
diate 30 percent tax credit on the capital
outlay of switching to solar energy, and
the state was also offering a rebate. After
speaking with neighbors, professionals and
builders, they decided installing the new
system would be worth the expense.
“We didn’t know how much money we
would save on our bills, but we were con-
vinced that with three teenagers growing up
in our home, we’d definitely save some, and
we knew, in a positive way, we’d be helping
the environment.”
Monetarily, since installing the solar
panels and heater, the family has seen its
Dominion Power bills cut in half—even
in the summer, Baum says. An average bill
for their 4,000-square-foot home averages
$150 a month.
The Baums have become solar advo-
cates. For the past four years, their home
has been on a Solar Tour of homes in the
area, and they support the local group that
works with the tour.
“I’m a ‘green’ person, so I think the pan-
els make my roof look more attractive,” says
Baum. “Really, they are very unobtrusive and
I wish more people would use solar power—
it’s been a great, easy change in our lives.”
For more information about the
solar power industry, visit the
American Solar Energy Society’s
website, at www.ases.org.
Meter on the water tank that is heated by the solar energy.
Solar panels on the back of the Baum’s roof.
Elena and Gary Baum with son Asher in front of the inverter in their garage. The inverter charges the solar power brought into the house so that it is usable through their home’s electrical system.
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one leaves home. This “control” provides the underpinning to feelings of
dignity, quality of life and independence. One’s home is a strong element in
that sense of security.
In fact, an AARP survey found that more than 80% of seniors desire to stay in their
homes for the rest of their lives. This “stay at home” approach is also known as Aging in
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while being able to have any services or other support they might require as their needs
change. Many reasons exist for this strong Aging in Place preference, including a com-
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independence.
The majority of seniors aged 65 and older currently live either with a spouse or alone
in their own home. Many of these people struggle with everyday tasks, their health care
and the lives they lead in their homes. For some, quality of life may suffer as they get older.
This is why an Aging in Place plan is vital.
To Age in Place, one should be aware of community help and services available to deal
with increasing frailty or age-related problems. They may also be needed in the event of
illness. Such services may include:
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• Meal preparation.
• Bathing, dressing and personal care.
• Personal care assistance.
• Private care when hospitalized.
• Companionship and family support.
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certified nursing assistants, nurse’s aides, and home health aides. Licensed practical
nurses are available when more comprehensive care—such as blood pressure monitor-
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tHaNKSGiViNG at HomeFor a thanksgiving seder, it’s all about the ‘hodu’
by Edmon J. Rodman
LOS ANGELES (JTA)—Sitting down to
the well-set table every November, even
though it is filled with family and food, I
always feel that something is missing—a
Jewish connection to the Thanksgiving
story.
A dinner without the drama of the
Exodus, like the Passover seder, leaves
me just with the turkey to send my spirits
soaring.
It’s not that I need another haggadah—I
already know why this night is different:
the stuffing isn’t made of matzah meal.
But what about borrowing the idea of the
seder’s four cups of wine—the Tu b’Shvat
seder does this, as well—to help organize
the evening in a Jewish way?
Liking the idea of repeating an action
four times but wanting a change from rais-
ing a glass, I played thematically with four
feathers, four fall leaves, even sticking four
olives—so American, yet a fruit of Israel,
too—on my fingers.
For inspiration I turned to William
Bradford, a passenger on the Mayflower
and later the governor of Plymouth colony,
who as it turned out was a figure who
could bridge the gap between Puritan and
Jewish narratives.
In Of Plymouth Plantation, his journal of
the Pilgrims, Bradford made comparative
references between the Pilgrims’ voyage
and the Israelites’ Exodus. Later in life,
according to Stephen O’Neill, the
curator of Pilgrim Hall Museum in
Plymouth Mass., Bradford “taught
himself Hebrew,” even writing
a book of Hebrew exercises.
According to Bradford’s
journal, the Mayflower
Pilgrims gave thanks upon
their landing: “Being thus
arrived in a good harbor
and brought safe to land, they
fell upon their knees & blessed ye God
of heaven, who had brought them over ye
vast & furious ocean,” reads the text.
“Let them therfore praise ye Lord,
because he is good,” wrote Bradford, quot-
ing from Psalm 107, which in Hebrew
begins with the word “hodu,” “give thanks.”
Here was my repeating element.
Saying hodu, or thanks, four times in
my Thanksgiving seder would work, and
in a fortuitous Hebrew play on words, hodu
also happens to mean “turkey.”
First hodu: Begin your Thanksgiving
seder with a blessing over a glass of wine
or juice. Though historians think the
Pilgrims probably drank water at the first
Thanksgiving, they were not teetotalers—
they later produced a hard cider, even a
watered-down version for children.
Then say a Shehecheyanu. During their
first year in the New World, slightly more
than half of the Mayflower’s 102 passen-
gers survived. Sitting together around the
table and saying this blessing—especially
in a year when nature has made it pain-
fully clear how fragile life can be—reminds
us that God grants us life, sustains us and
enables us to reach this day.
Since the first Thanksgiving followed
the corn harvest, the hamotzi blessing is in
order. Break some bread—at this seder you
don’t even need to dip it once. Say a hodu
for a cornucopia of blessings.
Second hodu: In 1621, Edward Winslow
wrote a letter to a friend in England describ-
ing the first Thanksgiving meal
shared by the Pilgrims
with the Indians: “Our governor sent four
men on fowling, that so we might after a
special manner rejoice together after we
had gathered the fruit of our labors.”
Adding to the menu, we find in
Winslow’s account that to help feed
the assemblage, including 90 from the
Wampanoag tribe and “their greatest king
Massasoit,” the Native Americans “went out
and killed five deer.”
At your table, ever thankful that some-
one else has done the “fowling,” and that
you haven’t hit a deer with your car, some-
body should hold up the turkey (or Tofurky)
platter and thank the “greatest” cook.
To add a sense of family tradition to
the meal, also hold up the other dish-
es, acknowledging what the guest
households—the tribes—have contributed
to the meal. One should ask, from whom
was the recipe passed down?
For tables with children in elementary
school, it’s also a good time for show and
tell. One should ask, from what did you
make that lovely centerpiece? Go ahead
and kvell.
Say a hodu of recognition and dig in to
your Thanksgiving meal.
Third hodu: Before dessert, talk about
the perilous journey of the Pilgrims toward
religious freedom from England to Holland
and finally to Plymouth. Each person at
the table can introduce the story of their
own family about coming to America; one
should tell of the going out.
Say a hodu of freedom and feel free to
indulge in pie.
Fourth hodu: Last year, having a guitar-
playing guest at our Thanksgiving dinner
really gave us a chance to sing out our feel-
ings. After dessert we sang old American
favorites like “Turkey in the Straw” and “If I
Had a Hammer.”
This year I want to add a passage from
“Birkat hamazon,” the grace after Meals” that
begins with the words “Kakatuv, V’achalta
v‘savata,” “And you shall eat and have
enough, and then you shall thank the Lord
your God for the good land He gave you.”
Say a final hodu: As a guest, for the
hospitality of your hosts. As a host, for the
opportunity to bring together your family
and friends.
Then pray you can get up from the
table.
—Edmon J. Rodman is a JTA columnist who
writes on Jewish life from Los
Angeles.