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TABE #$ %#NTENT&

Chapter #1

How To Get Your Ex To Do Anything.........................................7

Chapter #2How To Make Your Partner ForgiveYou For Almost Anything.........................................................12

Chapter #3How To Get Your Partner To Give A Yes ResonseFor Almost Anything................................................................16

Chapter #4The !ittle "nown Dirty Tri#ks...................................................19

Chapter #5The Power o$ %o#ial Proo$.......................................................22

Chapter #6How To Get a Date &ith Your Ex Even'$ They Are Relu#tant...............................................................26

Chapter #7How To Get Your Ex To Return Your Phone (alls...................33

Chapter #8The )ote o$ !ast Hoe............................................................37


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A $riendly 'arnin()

A very common )uestion * received !rom most o! my!riends and !amily regarding this "ook $as...+hy Am *sharing this in!ormation,

+hat i! it gets misused,

-oreover# * al$ays ans$er it "y saying *t is a part o!our li!e...+e can try to deny it...But it/s still a !act.

Human psychology is involved in our daytodayli!e...Consider a child $ho cries every time he0she is told

123 !or something.

*n most cases# crying o!ten gets the child $hat hedesires...+ith time the child learns that the "est $ay toget his desire !ul!illed is crying.

o$ one can say that the child is trying to manipulatehis parents via crying. But do people say that, 24

'hey all kno$ that it/s a part o! the child/s gro$ing upprocess.


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'he !act o! the matter is all the ne$s media# Politicians#Businesses and even everyday people use some !orm o!

psychological trickery in daytoday li!e.

'here is nothing evil a"out it...As long as you use it !or!air means. * consider it a $ay o! making li!e easier.

5till let me strongly $arn you "e!ore $e get started....

'he $ords you are a"out to read might give you the

ultimate po$er to control people...Yes that/s right4 You$ill "e a"le to control anyone to your $ay o! thinking.

-any people call it mind control and that can "e a "it!rightening...But * call it e!!ective persuasion.

* have al$ays "een curious to kno$ $hy people do $hatthey do...+hat !actors drive them to$ards doing certain

things and not do certain things. 'he !act is that allhumans take action "ased on the $ay they !eel and not"ased on $hat they think and decide.

'hey al$ays think...'ry to decide and get a !eeling.-oreover# the !eeling is $hat either drives them to$ardsor a$ay !rom a certain goal.

+ith e!!ective persuasion skills you can easily get your

ex "ack# turn enemies into !riends# easily land a dream (o"# change opinions# make anyone like you# changeo"(ections into acceptance...and even controlpeople...Yup4 * said it again. You can control people $iththis stu!!.

o$# * am 2' suggesting you should use it to control


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people. * am simply pointing out the possi"ilities and$hat it can really do !or you.

But let me also point out that any $rong use o! this canactually "ack!ire...'his stu!! is like !ire...*t can "e usedto cook your !ood and can also "e used to cook you.'here!ore# "e very care!ul.

'he only reason * am sharing this stu!! $ith you is"ecause * kno$ that re(ection or "reakup is a stress!ul#!rustrating process to go through# and can "e verydistur"ing.

* have "een through $hat you are going through and *understand that an extra e!!ort is needed to save arelationship in some cases...

'here!ore * expect you to use this $isely and only $henneeded.

o$ * leave it on you...5o let/s get to it.


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"People don't care how much you know--until they know how

much you care."

-John C. Maxwell

%o you kno$ that the ma(ority o! the decisions made "ypeople are "ased on emotions,

+hy do you think people stick to their ha"its o! drinkingand smoking $hen they already kno$ it might kill them,

+hy do you think an o"ese person keeps on overeating$hen he already kno$s he is o"ese,

+hy do you think some people al$ays end up doing theexact opposite o! $hat/s needed to "e done $hen theyalready kno$ $hat the right thing to do is,

*! one $as to !ollo$ common logic doing any o! the a"ove$ill only lead to massive pain. But people don/t !ollo$ logicat all times...'hey al$ays get driven "y the $ay they!eel...'his is the reason $hy 6* don/t !eel like it6 2r 6* !eellike doing it6 are some o! the most commonly used lines.

'here are only t$o types o! !eelings humans tend toexperience regularly...'he 722% and the BA%.

Humans have a natural tendency to do more o! anythingthat makes them !eel 6722%6 and less o! anything thatmakes them !eel 6BA%6.

5o simply put the reason $hy your ex le!t you $as "ecause


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most o! your acts gave "irth to those "ad negative !eelings$hich they struggled to deal $ith.

And $ith time these !eelings tend to get anchored....Here isan example

8ohn goes to $ork everyday...%oes his "est at the (o"...Buthis "oss is still not happy.

8ohn/s "oss pushes him to do "etter every singleday...Constantly $arns him that he might "e !ired i! hisper!ormance doesn/t improve. 5o $hat does this do to8ohn,

9et/s get into 8ohn/s head and see ho$ he looks at this$hole scenario.

*ohn Oh Heck! It' Monday...I'll hae to o to work aain!Oh #oy! My $o i %ut too hard to handle...I don't knowhow I will manae today.

5o you see the pattern here, +henever (ohn thinks a"outhis Boss# he experiences high levels o! anxiety and !ear#

$hich are negative !eelings.


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9et/s take another example

Cindy is !rustrated at 8e!! "ecause he al$ays comes "acklate a!ter $ork...5he !eels 8e!! is not spending enough time$ith her...5o she decides to call 8e!! at $ork.

%indy Hey! It' me...&re you oin to $e late aaintoday

*e++ I hae a lot o( work here...I am not ure.

%indy )hi i what you ay eeryday...I know you willneer chane.

*e++ *on't you undertand I hae work to do I makemoney o that we can hae a com(orta$le li(e...+ou %utdon't know how to appreciate my hard work do you

%indy Oh Je((! +ou are %ut too (ocued on yourel(...It'alway a$out you in't it

*e++ I don't hae time (or thi...I hae to o. #ye!

Every single time Cindy $ould call 8e!! at $ork...8e!! $ouldkno$ she is going to nag him and he $ould associate painto the event. 'here!ore# in other $ords...:rom 8e!!;s pointo! vie$...


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%o you understand $here * am going $ith this, 8e!! $ouldtry to avoid Cindy;s calls as much as possi"le "ecause hehas anchored negative !eelings to the event.

o$ let/s take this same example and do it the right $ay...

%indy Hey! It' me...,orry i( I ditur$ed you...#ut I wa %ut miin you and wanted to talk.

*e++ Oh Honey! I am o orry...I know I hae $eencomin home late reularly...I know I haen't $eenkeepin my promie.

%indy o o! I know it' real hard (or you with all theincreaed work preure...I know you are doin it o that$oth o( u can hae a com(orta$le li(e.

*e++ I am really lucky to hae uch an undertandinwi(e...I think I can leae early today...et' o (or a londrie.

%indy o it i ok! I %ut called to ee how you were doin.I am really lucky to hae uch a hardworkin hu$and whocare o much a$out me.

*e++ *on't worry! I can take an early leae today. I'll $ehome $y /...#e ready...0e are oin out today!

%indy Ok! ,ee you oon. #ye.

%o you see the di!!erence, 'his is $hat * call giving themthe 6,i+t o+ ,ood $eelin(s6.

-ost individuals tend to give their partners the 6Burden o+Bad +eelin(s6 instead o! the 6,i+t o+ ,ood $eelin(s6.


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✓ Emotions & Feelings are the foundations of action.

✓ Alter your actions to give your partner the gift of good feelings.

✓ Look at the situation from your partner's point of view.

Show them that you understand what they are going through.

Appreciate their efforts...Even if it's a small effort.

Show them that you don't expect anything in return.


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2ne o! the most common )uestions * get !rom my readersis 6Ho- an . (et hi/0her 1ak i+ . heated26

+ell in order to get started you must again look at the$hole situation !rom your ex/s point o! vie$...Your ex must

"e !eeling

Hurt Because you cheated. Used Because they never kne$ you $ere doing it"ehind their "ack $ith another partner. Re3eted By cheating you have indirectly re(ectedthem.

2nce again# the !eelings o! "eing hurt# used and re(ected!all into the category o! "ad negative !eelings.

'here!ore in order to make them !orgive you...You mustturn this situation !rom Bad to 2k to "etter to good. 5o it$orks in stages

BAD4 #54 BETTER 4,##D

&te6 7) You /ust ae6t that you /ade a /istake Alot o! people try to deny even $hen they have "een caughtredhanded in the act o! cheating. 'here!ore# the very !irststep is to admit to your mistake.

&te6 8) &ho- your ex that you understand ho- they+eel A ma(or reason $hy some people never get !orgivenis "ecause they !ail to ackno$ledge ho$ their ex !eels. Youmust express that you understand you have hurtthem...'his can "e done "y saying


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1+ou mut $e (eelin o $ad $ecaue o( me...2

At this# they $ould either say...6Yes * am very hurt6 or 6Yes* am upset6.

o matter $hat response you might get...You should stillmove on to the next step.

&te6 9) Take o/6lete res6onsi1ility +or your +ault'his is the step $here your ex $ould promote !rom stage =o! !eeling 6BA%6 to stage ? !eeling 626.

Here is $hat you should say

"It' all my (ault...My tupidity ha caued o much pain toyou..."

&te6 ) &ho- the/ that you are su++erin( too 'his isthe point $here your ex $ould shi!t !rom the stage o!!eeling 626 to !eeling 6Better6 "ecause no$ you $ill sho$

them that you are hurt too.

*! you $ere in a car accident and the driver $ho hit yousu!!ered in(uries as $ell...Your anger $ould automatically"e diminished.

You $ould "e angrier i! the o!!ender $alked a$ay $ithoutany in(uries...As long as you kno$ the o!!ender ishurt...You $ill not react much "ecause you kno$ theysu!!ered !or their mistake.

5imilarly...You have to sho$ your ex that you did not getany pleasure out o! this $hole deal...You $ere hurt too.

Here is $hat you should say

1I hae $een (eelin o uilty a(ter what I did...I am totallydiuted with myel(...How could I hurt omeone I


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next !e$ days.

*t gives them the re)uired space to rethink the $holesituation and increases your chances o! "eing !orgiven.

✓ our focus should !e to pull your ex out of the !ad or negative state of mind into a good or highly positive state of mind.

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Admitting to your mistakes is the !est defence under this situation.

✓ Act as if you are ready to accept any conse"uences or punishments.

✓ #rove that you have not gained anything out of your actions.

✓ Assure your partner with solid evidence that such an act will never !e repeated in the future.

✓ Show them that you have suffered tremendously due to your actions.


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%o you kno$ that people normally tend to do $hat youexpect them to do, 'hey al$ays try to live up to otherpeople/s E>PE%TAT.#N&.

5o the method * am going to share $ith you is pretty

simple yet po$er!ul...All you need is to !orm an expectationand your partner $ill do everything in his0her po$er to liveup to it.

:or example

8en !ears that 7ary might cheat on her some day...5o sheindirectly communicated to 7ary that she expects him62' '2 CHEA'6. 'his is ho$ she sealed the deal...

*en +ou remem$er my old (riend (rom collee3 &my

,ary +eh! 0hat a$out her

*en Her hu$and cheated on her.

,ary Oh! #ut why

*en *on't know...It didn't eem like her hu$and wa that

kind...#ut who know nowaday.

,ary Hmmm.

*en +ou know what I am really lucky to hae you a myhu$and...I know you hae a ery tron peronality andyou will neer do uch a thin to me...4en i( ome irl

%ump on you.


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✓ #eople always do what they are expected to do.

#eople will always follow through on an expectation as long as you clearly specify in advance what you expect from them.

Always give examples of how other people screwed up in the same situation. $iving such examples will increase your partner's level of commitment to your expectation. %ue to which they are more likely to follow through with it.


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2k o$4 'his is the chapter $here * am going to reveal allthe dirty little tricks you can use right a$ay to get your ex"ack or stop a "reakup. But "e!ore $e move on to it let me$arn you once again...* do not take any responsi"ility !orthese. You $ill "e using these at your o$n risk.

Ho$ever# one thing is !or certain...'hese tricks are damne!!ective they $ork surprisingly $ell. Ready, 9et/s get toit.

Dirty ittle Trik 7)

'his is $hat * discovered "y accident...* $as sending an5-5 to one o! my !riends "ut * ended up sending it toanother num"er right "elo$ my !riends num"er on myphone "ook.

'hat $as a "ig 6AHA6 moment and * realiDed that this can"e success!ully used to get one/s ex "ack or stop a"reakup.

5o this is $hat you should do...5end the !ollo$ing 5-5 to

your ex

"+eh! It wa o much (un...,o you are pickin me uptoniht riht"

A!ter reading this# your ex $ill pro"a"ly send you a text"ack asking $hat are you talking a"out,


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'his is $here you should text them "ack saying

"Oh! ,orry...)hat wa meant (or omeone ele3 $ut yourname i riht $elow that peron' name in the phone $ook.I ent it to you $y mitake."

Your ex $ill instantly get (ealous and $ould start !earingthat you are dating someone else...and $ould !reak outthinking may"e you have moved on. 'heir insecurities$ould "e triggered. 'hey $ould $ant to kno$ more andthey $ould start desiring you again.

Here is ho- you an use this trik)

✓You an use this i+ your ex is o/6letely tryin( to

avoid you and is not ans-erin( your alls!

✓%an 1e used as a onversation o6ener i+ you

haven


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5o $hat exactly is social proo!, *n the most simplestterms# humans naturally tend to do $hat other people aredoing.

Here is an example A set o! ? students $ere made to sitin a classroom and all o! them $ere given a general survey$ith ? choices namely A B. =F o! those students $ereasked to choose A on purpose.

Each person $as asked the )uestion one "y one and =Fpeople chose option A as they $ere toldG7uess $hat therest o! the three people did, 'hey chose A as $ell. But

$hy,

5imply "ecause humans tend to think in groups. 'heyal$ays tend to trust social sources more than they trusttheir o$n logical and rational thinking.

o$ consider thisGYou are sitting in a movie theatre andall o! a sudden# you see a group o! people rushing outG

5omeone thinks that the "uilding is on !ire. +hat $ouldyou do, You $ould rush out too.

+hy, Because you think# the "uilding must "e on !ire $henall these people are running out. 'hen you get outside (ustto realiDe that it $as a prank played "y someone.


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You can see similar examples in the marketing $orldG+hen apple came out $ith the mp@ player named *pod it)uickly took the $orld "y storm. +hat $as so special a"outit, *t $as (ust a simple mp@ player. 5omething that mostpeople had in their cell phones any$ay.

Apple $as smart enough to integrate social proo! in theirmarketing campaigns# due to $hich it created massin!luence# and as a result everyone $as "uying it.

-oreover# $hy $ere they "uying it, Because their !riends$ere "uying it...And you had to have it since your !riendshad it too.

o$ you might "e thinking ok * understand all this "ut ho$exactly $ould this help me get my ex "ack,

Put it this $ayGYour ex $ill never "e convinced as long asyou keep on telling them that you have changed. 'hey (ust$ouldn;t "elieve you "ecause they have su"consciouslyaccepted the !act that you might "e saying it (ust to get

them "ack.

But $hat i! one o! your !riends says it, %o you kno$ thatyour ex $ill "elieve it instantly "ecause the in!ormation iscoming !rom a third source,

%o you see ho$ social proo! is involved here, Your ex$ould think Hey4 *! he sa$ it then it must "e

true.

You can easily get a !riend# !amily mem"er or any otherperson to plant a seed o! curiosity in your ex;s mind.

Here is ho$ to do thisG7et one o! your !riend;s to say anyo! the !ollo$ing statements in the presence o! your exG


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1I poke to 7+our ame8 yeterday5He look o much $etter

now. I don9t know what he ha done $ut he eem to $eettin youner $y the day.2

1* sa$ the other dayGHe had this super hot girlnext to himG5eems like he is dating again.3

Oh my od! *id you ee 7+our ame8 lately ,he ha lot o

much weiht. ,he look o pretty now.

0hat9 oin on with 7+our ame85,he eem o happy now.,he neer ued to $e thi way $e(ore5I think he i hain a lotmore (un lately.

%o you get $hat * am trying to convey hereG5tatementslike these said "y one o! your mutual !riends $ould plant astrong seed o! curiosity and your ex $ill get extra eager tokno$ more a"out your li!e.

And this goes "eyond (ust social proo!G'here are morereasons $hy this $ould have an extra impactG

✓ *t;s coming !rom a third source $hich $ould

"e more trust$orthy.

✓ o$ they kno$ you have changed "ut they can;t "e a

part o! your ne$ good li!e $hich $ould only raise their levelo! desperation.

✓ 'hey $ould !ear that they might not "e good enough !or

you anymore "ecause you have this ne$ personality andthey don;t kno$ i! they $ould measure up to your ne$standards.

✓ 'hey $ould !ear that may"e someone ne$ came into

your li!e $hich led to this changeG'his $ould !urther


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increase their $orries that you might move on.

✓ Your ex $ill constantly "other your !riend !or crum"s o!

ne$s !rom your ne$ li!e.

✓ 'hey $ill $ant to kno$ i! you are still interested in them

or i! you have really moved on.

✓ Eventually they $ould end up contacting you (ust to

settle their curiosity.

✓ nly do this with the friends that are trustworthy. here is a possi!ility that your friend might give away your secret therefore choose the right person for this.

(eep the compliments !elieva!le. Ask your friend not to say anything that might come across as fishy.


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'here might "e times $hen your ex might not sho$ thekind o! interest you $ere expecting them to sho$. *n suchcasesG-ost people lose hope and )uit. 'his is $here somesituational understanding is re)uired.

* get many mails !rom my readers telling me that their exre!used to go out and * al$ays respond "y saying Your ex$asn;t emotionally motivated to take action. -oreover# thatis directly related to $hat you said and ho$ you said it.

You see $hat you said or the $ay you said it (ust $asn;tpo$er!ul enough to get your ex to take actionG%ue to$hich your proposal $as turned do$n. *n order to get your

ex to take action you must !irst understand ho$ this $holeprocess $orks.


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5o your $ords $ill plant a thought in your ex/s mindG+hich $ould eventually give your ex a !eelings $hich $ould

"e positive or negative and "ased on that your ex $ouldtake action.

*magine you get the ne$s that you $on a million dollarlottery, +hat $ould "e your immediate reaction, You $ill"e "lasting $ith (oy and $ould race over to the lotteryo!!ice to collect your money.

2n the other hand imagine "eing called "y one o! your!riends $ho al$ays $ants money !rom youG+ould youavoid his0her call, *! yes $hy,

You see the di!!erence "et$een the a"ove t$o cases is)uite simpleG'he events that took place led to a thought inyour mind that got trans!ormed into negative or positive!eelings "ased on $hich you took the appropriate action.Positive !eelings al$ays drive the person to$ards taking

action and negative !eelings al$ays drive the personto$ards inaction.

*n order to get your ex to take action all you need to do ismake sure that at the end o! your interaction your ex is !ullo! positive !eelings $hich $ould drive him0her to give a yesresponse to your re)uest.

'he "est $ay to do this is to use everything $hich $ouldevoke positive !eelings in your ex;s mind.

The Deadline Trik)

7iving deadlines is kno$n to "e one o! the strongestpsychological tricks everG*n !act this trick $orks so $ell


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that your ex $ould !ind no excuses or reasons to re!use.5everal studies sho$ that human "eings don;t like to "erestrictedG'hey do not like it i! they are told they can nothave something.

All you need to do here is (ust tell your ex that you areleaving the city and you $ant to meet them "e!ore you go.

By letting them kno$ you are a"out to leave# You arealready shutting a "ig door on themG%ue to $hich they $ill!ear that they may not see you again or this might "e thelast time.

'his $ould "e a great incentive !or them to take actionno$GBecause they kno$ they $on/t get another chance toact in the !uture.

The %uriosity Builder Trik)

Humans $ant instant grati!icationG'hey don;t like to $ait.

'ake !or instance# ho$ people get into de"t. People end up$ith de"t# simply "ecause they spend the money they don/thave to "uy the things they think they need. 5o $hat doesthis all "oil do$n to, People aren/t patient enough to $aittill tomorro$.

'hat/s $hy they pay @ extra as interest on the loanthey took to "uy a ne$ car right a$ay instead o! $aiting tillthe time they have saved enough money to "uy it. 'heymight get into huge de"ts due to this "ut they still do it"ecause they $ant instant grati!ication.

+hen people are told that they can;t have it no$G*t


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invokes a very strong psychological motivation to get it. +esee an example o! this in many 'I dramas $here a secretis (ust a"out to "e revealedG+here all o! a suddenGAmessage pops up

)o $e continued5

o$ you might hate the !act that you have to $ait tilltomorro$ to discover the rest o! the story "ut it $ill giveyou enough emotional charge and curiosity that you $illde!initely tune in the very next day too.

5imilarly you can use this same techni)ue on your exG

-ake up an interesting story and get your ex curious. 2nceyou see your ex is "uilding interestGPause and sayG

1Oh! I totally (orot5I need to ruh. It9 a lon tory! 0ecan9t do thi on the phone5How a$out co((ee thi :riday2

2r another $ay o! doing this $ould "e to tell your ex thatsomething amaDing has happened in your li!e and you arehaving an a"solute "lastG5ay something along the lines o!

1,o many ama;in thin hae $een oin on in my li(e5Iwould loe to hare it with you5It9 a lon tory o wecan9t do it on the phone. How a$out we meet at xy;

place2

All the a"ove statements $ould evoke strong positivecuriosity and intent due to $hich your ex $ill "e !orced totake a!!irmative action.


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The 9rd 6erson trik)

'here might "e times $hen your ex $ould "e reluctant tomeet you oneonone. Jnder these cases it;s al$ays "est toask one o! your mutual !riends to (oin the meeting. +hile inconversation $ith your ex drop in this line

2hG5andy $ants you to come to this ne$ place this$eekend. 5he specially asked me to call youG%o you $antto come,

Having a @rd person in the meeting $ould "e a lot lessthreatening to your ex and the chances o! getting a yesincrease.

You can either plan this $ith your mutual !riend and tellhim0her to leave early $here you and your ex can getsome privacy or you can isolate your ex during the meeting$here you $ould get a shot to discuss !urther things.

The Ex6etations trik)

'his trick $orks extremely $ell i! your ex has goodrelations $ith your !amily. Your ex can easily re!use you "ut$ould !ind it very hard to turn do$n a re)uest made "yyour !amily.

A good $ay to use this trick is to let your ex kno$ thatyour mother or dad $ants to meet him or you can use a!amily !unction excuse. You can say that it;s a !amilymem"ers "irthday and your mother expects your ex tocome to the event.


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'he reason $hy this trick is e!!ective is "ecause mostpeople have this positive impression on their partnersparentsGAnd to save this positive impression they $ould!ollo$ through $ith the re)uest.

Make it extra easy)

Humans are laDy "y natureG+e "elieve in taking shortcuts.People don;t $ant to do things themselvesG'hey $ouldrather have everything ready made.

Your ex $ill never take positive action unless you make itextremely easy !or them. %o it in a $ay that your ex $illhave to make minimal or no e!!ort at all.

:or example

%o not choose a meeting point $hich is too !ar !rom $hereyour ex lives instead choose a meeting point your ex likesand also Choose a day $hich !its into your ex;s schedule.

'he easier it is the lesser o"(ections your ex $ould have inmeeting you.

&eal the deal tati)

*! your ex made a commitment to$ards meeting you itdoes not mean that they $ill actually meet you. 'hey might

come up $ith last minute o"(ections and decide to cancelon the day o! meeting.

A great $ay to ensure this does not happen is to let themkno$ that you have put o!! other important tasks (ust tomeet them. :or example 'ell them that you $ill take sometime o!! $orkG%elay an important task or cancel a crucial


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meeting (ust to see them.

'his $ay everytime your ex $ill think a"out coming up $ith

an o"(ection he0she $ould get this emotional "lock o!distur"anceG%ue to $hich they $ould !eel guilty and $illsmoothly !ollo$ through $ith their commitment.


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2ne o! the ma(or reasons $hy your ex might not "ereturning your phone calls may "e due to the !act that youare doing everything $hich is triggering negative thoughtsin their mind.

+e have already discussed in the !irst chapter ho$ humansreact positively to the gi!t o! good !eelings and negativelyto the "urden o! "ad !eelings. 'here!ore i! you have notsucceeded in getting your ex to return your phone calls so!ar then you have de!initely "een "urdening them $ith "ad!eelings.

'he most common mistake people make is trying to !orcetheir ex in some $ay or the other to return their calls. :orexample

John…Please call me…It’s an emergency.

Jen…I am missing you so much. Please call me back.

You see such approaches do not $ork as your ex !eels theextra "urden and $ill only end up getting annoyed i! youkeep on leaving them message a!ter message $hich peoplenormally do.

You see the key to getting your calls returned is to appealto t$o elements namely Curiosity and positivity.


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You $ill have to make your ex curious in a positive manneri! you $ant your phone calls returned and the "est $ay to

do this is to leave a highly positive message $hich involvesan incentive !or your ex.

Here is a sample message

*i kate+,t-s me ohn. ust wanted to let you know that you have helped me transform into a totally new person. ou might not know this !ut indirectly you have helped me in more ways than you can reali/e. , truly appreciate what you did

for me. #lease give me a call when you get !ack , would like to personally thank you.

+ith this message you are not only "uilding curiosity "utalso giving your ex the gi!t o! good !eelings "y appreciatingthem !or $hat they did. You see this message is clearlystating it;s core purpose and its not one o! those needy ordesperate messages $hich $ould only annoy or make your

ex $orry. But there are some things you still need to takeinto accountG.

Make sure your /essa(e is not on+usin(!!!

7enerating curiosity has nothing to do $ith con!using theperson in this caseGAl$ays send messages $hich clearlyde!ine their purpose.

'he last thing you $ant in this situation is !or your ex to "econ!used as once they realiDe you are trying gimmicks onthem they $ould instantly go "ack to the de!ensive modeand you $ill "e avoided more than ever "e!ore.


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-ake sure you do not leave any con!using messages suchasG

Oh My


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our message should communicate that you don't need anything from your ex...0ather you 1ust want to thank them. his will instantly force your ex to put their defences down.

2o matter how interesting the message is unless you make it clear it

won't get you the desired result.

3ake sure you do not sound desperate while recording the message...he way you say it also counts.

%o not leave more than one message...Sending several messages will only work against you.


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'here are times in li!e $hen no matter $hat you dothings (ust don;t go your $ayG'he same might "e true$hen it comes to getting your ex "ack. *t might seemthat there is no chance and things might not "e in your!avor.

But there is a stunning techni)ue $hich $ill turn theta"les $ithin seconds. A su!i poet once said *! alldoors close "e!ore youGA secret one $ill open $hich$ill sho$ you a secret $ay no other eyes have everseen.

'his is $here my note o! last hope comes inGomatter ho$ a$!ul your situation might "eGo matterho$ "ad you scre$ed upGo matter ho$ hopeless itseems. 'his trick $ill do the patch $ork.

+hen you have tried everything else and nothing has$orkedG+rite a hand$ritten card or a letter to yourex.

+hat you $rite in the letter $ill determine yourchances $ith your ex there!ore it is a"solutely crucial


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that you $rite the right thing. But $hat is the rightthing here,

9et me "reak it do$n so that you understand it "etterG

Your letter should !ollo$ this pattern

= 9ighten their load "y accepting the "reakup.

? An apology in case you did something $rong.

@ 'ell them that you realiDed your mistakes.

'rigger their curiosity "y telling them somethingexciting happened in your li!e.

K Close on a highly positive note.

Here is a sa/6le letter +or you) LLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL

(ate4

ust wanted to let you know that you were a!solutely right a!out the !reakup+ 2ow , know that it was the right thing to do. ou are a wonderful person and you deserve the !est. , am sorry for having messed it all up.

, went through a pretty exciting transformation...A lot of ama/ing things have !een happening lately. , would love to tell you a!out it some time.

Anyway , 1ust wanted to thank you for everything and hope we can !e friends in the future.

5o!


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(eep your letter short and up to the point.. A long detailed letter would only make you sound desperate and this might work against you.

%o not send more than one letter. Some people keep on sending letters after letters thinking it would work in their favor !ut this only further annoys your ex.

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