BONUS 1: DELEGATING PICKUP WITH WING GIRLS

BONUS 1: DELEGATING PICKUP WITH WING GIRLS

How to Use Wing Girls Effectively

This lesson is really about more than that. Its about delegating pickup, meaning that you are not going to have to do all of the work yourself anymore.

Lazy, efficient how ever you want to phrase it, people who know me know I always like to find the simplest, fastest, easiest way to do things. Something I do right now in my life, and that is constantly at work for me is what could broadly be called wing girls. But really its very different from the traditional concept of wing girls.

You might have heard of wing girls, but this is a bit different. When most guys imagine a wing girl, they picture going to a bar and having a girl with you to help out as you approach girls. You know, the team approach, exactly the same as a wing man would do. In that, she is talking to the girls friends and saying nice things about you to help the process along.

In that model, maybe the only benefit of having a girls help was the likelihood youd get more attention, since youre already with beautiful girls. Certainly, youd come off better than some guy who doesnt look so cool.

Thats the traditional view of wing girls. But what I am talking about is something completely different.The way I use wing girls comes from a completely different way of looking at pickup in general. The goal is to delegate any and all parts of the pickup until the point where you actually want to move in and kiss the girl, which could be in the bar or club or even in your house. Every step from the beginning to warming her up to multiple dates can be handled by other people, and in this case, wing girls.

Were not talking about a girl whos your friend, who comes to the bar with you to stand by while you talk to girls. Its something very different.

A Tale of Three Girls

About a year ago I moved to a new place and I noticed something interesting. I was making friends with lots of girls. Three in particular stand out, and are still my friends to this day. They are all attractive, all beautiful.

But one girl is very smart. She is a little older, a little aloof. She is not immediately friendly to everyone, and people like and respect her.

The second girl is a very happy, very smiley. Shes got this contagious good energy. She is a little bit silly, a little dopey.

The third girl has this fantastic, friendly, warm energy about her. She is very welcoming and has this beautiful, genuine smile and sweet disposition that makes other girls feel comfortable with her. She doesnt judge them, and they know theyll never catch her looking them up and down, bitching about other girls, gossiping about what theyre wearing or what they look like.

What I found over the past year is that when I have introduced girls that I am dating or even friends who visit me to these girls, everyone likes them. But they like one girl more than the others.

The girl whos happy and bubbly is a great girl to go around and party with, and so they like that about her. The girl who is more intelligent and serious, they like to talk to her, to see how she is stylish and dresses well, and they just seem to really respect her.

But the one they like the best is the girl with the sense of genuine warmth, really positive energy, great and genuine smile the one who is so welcoming and non-judgmental. Everyone likes her. They dont feel threatened by her. They think she is fantastic. They want to come after me and her.

Shes an example of the ideal wing girl, the girl you want to be with you when you are meeting girls. You want to be out there socializing with that girl, the kind of girl every girl would like and enjoy spending time with.

If you are going out with a bitchy girl whos judging them, whos looking them up and down, who dresses in a way that makes her look like she is a bitch, whos arrogant, it will work against you.

First Choice: The girl everyone loves and feels comfortable around.

Second Choice: The girl whos good in party situations, whos friendly and bubbly, who may not be the ideal wing girl, but who will work alright, too.

A Note About Using Wing Girls

Of course I dont mean use in a bad way; were just talking about how theyre helpful!

As I mentioned, working with a wing girl is one way Ive tried to make the process more efficient. Its like if youve got a factory making cars, you dont want a series of workers standing with different tools and manually working on the cars; you want machines working wherever possible to make the process more efficient.

Whatever you are working on, the goal is to make things more efficient.

Before the Wing Girl

Back in the day, I would go to the club and not know anyone. It would be me and my wingman and we would be doing completely cold approaches around the venue. After a while, I learned how to warm and wake the venue, learned how to make friends with the staff, how to get into the social circles and to transform the process from being a cold pickup to something much easier.

Working with a wingman made the pickup easier and more efficient. I assembled a team of guys who worked together out meeting girls. We each kind of complimented each other and as a team we became unstoppable when it came to getting girls. Working with wingmen puts you ahead of the other guys who dont have this team in their favor.

When He Became She

I started doing this a year ago completely by accident. I realized that anytime I went out I had girls who wanted to come out with me. They would say, So, what are you doing on Friday? or, What are you doing on Saturday as well as partying? or, Do you want to go to cinema? or, Do you want to go ice-skating? It often ended up that I was out with more than five or six attractive girls.

On my birthday and any kind of special occasion or party, there would be eight, ten, twelve, fourteen, or fifteen girls going out! Or, if it was one of their birthdays it would be ten girls and me, or six girls and me, or thirteen girls and me. Sometimes there were some other guys, but generally not.

Always in the Company of LOTS of Girls

As they spent time with me, theyd watch me pick up girls. For them, it was funny. But what was really funny was that because they were my friends, they wanted to help. If I went to the toilet and left a new girl with them, Id come back to find out theyd been telling this girl all the cool things about me that I couldnt say myself. They did it in a very genuine and honest way so that the girl completely accepted it.

If Id said the same stuff, it would look like I was just showing off. Maybe she wouldnt even believe it. They were really helping.

From that point on, I started to experiment a little bit and I would say to one of the girls Hey, go and get that girl for me. Shed go and approach her, and the results were hit and miss. So, I started delegating different parts of the pickup, and now it works.

Heres What Happens

I can approach, bring the girl into the group, and then delegate some of the warming-up process. I can go to the toilet or go talk to other girls and let one of my girls or few of my girls get the connection with that girl, kind of bring her into the social group, make friends with her, make her comfortable and do a lot of that kind of initial stuff.

Or, maybe Im chatting with a girl and the conversation is really cool and it seems like it would be a good idea to take a break. I can hand it to one of my girls and talk to another girl for a while. Its accomplishes a nice push-pull effect.

Sometimes I dont even want to approach. Then Ill send the girl and she says, You know, I like your shoes, or, I like your whatever, some girlie type of compliment. My girl talks to her, asks her name, then maybe she goes to the toilet, then on the way back talks to her a little bit again. Then shell say, Hey you know, why dont you come and join us? Bring your friend. And we bring those two girls over; one of them will talk to one girl, one to another one. They have introduced me. I talk to the one I like for five or ten minutes and then I give her back to my girl.

Not Just for Initial Introductions

What might surprise you is that you can also delegate later stages of the pickup. So if I want to go back to my house to have sex with her, I could invite her, of course. But its even easier and more acceptable if one of my girls invites her instead.

My girl might say, Say, this place is quieting down a bit. Why dont we go and have some drinks back at Richards place? We all go to my place, then slowly the other girls disappear and leave me with the girl I am interested in.

What about Longer-Term Relationships?

For the past few years, Ive been looking for a girlfriend, a good girl. Sure, I still take girls home the first night we meet, but Ive been on the lookout for that girl who doesnt often go out, who wouldnt be the kind of girl to have a one night stand. Thats the kind I am looking for. So we will play a longer game.

I dont even take the girls number. My wing girl will get her number or connect with her on Facebook. Then it goes like we talked a lot about in 43 Texts. If you do this, youre following the process where you are sending pictures, keeping her warm, and sending funny messages and stuff.

But if youve got a wing girl, you can actually get her to do a lot of whats involved in that process. She can be on Facebook; she can like the girls picture; she can write a comment on her under her photo. She can do things that you couldnt do because it would be needy. But when a girl does it, its just friendly and nice. She can, with no worries, ask for plans of the week. She can ask whether the girl is single.

She can find out whether the girl is a good girl, based on whatever criteria I say maybe its someone who doesnt party too much, or doesnt do jobs, or whatever. My wing girl can find that out just by delicately asking. Because this is a girl asking, it is always going to be acceptable. You can get your wing girl to keep the girl warm.

Your Wing Girls Can Eliminate Your Risk

I often tell my girls, Try to get this one to come out on Friday, or, Keep this one warm. Then she can say, What you are doing this weekend?

Sometimes the girl says, I am out of town.

Because Ive used a wing girl, I havent lost anything. I am not putting myself in any position to get rejected.

You Can Even Send Your Wing Girl Out for You

You truly can delegate almost everything. Sometimes I am being lazy, or there are just too many girls for me manage on my own. Then I can send one of my girls out with a girl for the second time and I wont even be there. They will go for a drink, the two or three of them without me.

No doubt part of the conversation will be talking about me. It enables me to build attraction even when I am not there.

What Shell Be Thinking

If your wing girl asks about her plans for the weekend, or invites her out, youve got another advantage. The cool thing is that even if she doesnt come out, she knows you are out and you are with your girls.

If shes interested, she might ask your wing girl questions like, Are you dating him? Is he your boyfriend? Is there anything happening? The answer is always, No, he is just my good friend. He is a very nice guy. He is the best guy I have met in the city. He is so nice. I trust him that kind of answer. These sorts of answers count so much more than anything you could say about yourself or show in these early stages.

Its so hard to persuade a girl that you are good guy, especially if she has met many jerks and nasty guys before. But if you have a girl saying that you are a cool guy and can be trusted, its going to be accepted without problems.

Putting the Tactic to Work

So lets say youve got a wing girl and have thought about the different parts of the pickup you can delegate. The best thing to do is let her do her thing and see how she does.

If you are sending her to approach and it is failing a bunch of times, then you want to look at how shes doing it and give her some tips. It works well for girls to approach through compliments, talk for a few minutes, then casually bring the girl to the group, introduce the girl to group, or invite her to go dance. Your wing girl may be naturally good at this, or she might need some training.

Helping Your Wing Girl to Help You by What She Says

Your wing girl may need some guidance in how she talks about you so that it doesnt come off silly even if shes got good social skills. Shes either going to be likeable and nice, or not, so you need to find the right girl in the first place.

Beyond that, though, she may need some coaching on how to answer questions like about how she knows you, so that shell say the right thing. Encourage your wing girl to tell about how you met each other, some good things that you have done for her, how you guys have a lot of fun together, how she knows you are a very genuine and super nice guy. Have her say this the right way, like you would if you were being a good wingman for your friends.

Of course, its going to be more believable, more accepted because its a girl doing it. You only need to train her about how to do it right. It goes back to how smoothly you know to get them to another venue, how to keep them warm in between meetings, and about how to invite them out.

Generally, girls are going to be good with pretty much every part of the interaction because they have been on the receiving end of being asked out. They are naturally good at being friendly and keeping in touch.

I dont like texting and sending messages with girls. I hate it, especially when I get into a long exchange that takes an hour of my day with sending messages back and forth. So outsourcing that is fantastic.

But the main part you need to train her in is probably the approach. Your wing girl can use a compliment, she can use the Do I know you? thing, she can use, I think I have seen you here before, she can use all kinds of stuff.

Why Does It Work?

We talked a bit about already about why it works so well. You have this situation where you are with a girl already. Ninety nine percent of the other guys there are not with a girl or if they are, its their own girlfriend and theyre not available. So you are different from all the other guys just by virtue of being with a girl that you are not attached to.

The fact that you can be friends with a girl and that she would say good things about you is something none of the other guys can compare with and it cuts your connection and one-on-one conversation work down by maybe four or five hours.

It cuts right through to the part where the girl is thinking, You know is he telling the truth about this. You know it sounds good but you know I have met guys before that lie about this and that or who seemed so good in the first stage and then bastards when we start dating and they cheat on me and they do this and they do that.

Having a girl say, You know I have known this guy for a year or a month or three months and he is blah blah blah, is so much more powerful than anything you can do yourself. Fifteen minutes is probably worth four or five hours of connection. So you can actually start to get some very fast results.

The jealousy thing works a little bit as well, even though the girls are non-threatening, meaning they are not trying on with you and then off laying with you. The fact that just them being there and in proximity makes the girl naturally want to see if she can get more of your attention than those girls get. So it works for all kinds of ways. But why does it work for the wing girls whats in it for them?

Whats In It for the Wing Girls?

Think first about whats in it for your male friends when they serve as wingmen. Why would they help you with anything?

First, just because they are your friends. A lot of girls would do it because they know it will make you happy, and they will do it as well because its fun. They would like you to meet new people, and enjoy meeting new people themselves as well.

Generally the girls you are going to like will be cool girls that they would also like. It may even turn out that your good girlfriends all know each other and meet up with each other independent of you. Theyll go out for a coffee, talk on the phone, and become close friends, all because of you making that introduction. You are in the center of the social circle and everyone gets together around you.

Second, they know youll do the same for them. For example, when we are in a bar or club and one of the girls likes a guy, I have been known to approach the guy for them. I will say Dont worry, I will bring him over. And I will go and talk to the guy and Ill say, Hey man, how is it going? Listen you know, you look quite cool.

Why dont you come and join us? Because Ive got too many girls and I think that they are just going to get bored. So if you dont mind, come and join us and I will introduce you.

Having said that your wing girl likes him, you havent done anything embarrassing for her, but you create a situation where you can approach guys for your girls. Create a safe environment for them. Give them the pleasure of being admired. Girls like having men around them, they like that male energy. But they dont like it when the guy is always trying to sleep with them or being sleazy or whatever it is. So create a nice environment.

Sometimes things happen with these girls of course. But generally be very respectful and look after them. You may find at times that your wing girl gets super drunk make sure she gets home safely. Sometimes horrible guys will chase your girls around the club.

Its up to you to make sure they are protected. Make sure they have a great time. Make sure you go into cool places and cool events so theyre getting this nice social life. Always think of cool stuff to do. It could be simply going for a nice walk on a summer day or going to the park or it could be some hot new club opening.

Make it work for both of you. Women love that male energy. Women would like to just come and hang out with a guy during the day when its this kind of open relationship where they know that he is looking for a certain type of girl, that he really likes them because of X, Y and Z.

Maybe there is even certain amount of sexual tension that they can get off on. But more than anything he is just that gentlemen, that good guy who will do what he can to look after them and help them whenever they have problems.

While normally we give advice that you shouldnt be always serving the girls you are dating. You shouldnt help them do everything and offer to do everything for them. However, when its your genuine friend, you should put yourself out there and try and help with stuff.

I do that with my girls and thats why it works and thats why they are always around. Thats why every day in the past year that Ive been here, I have had a girl come to the house, hang out, or eat with me. Theres not been a day when Ive been alone for twelve hours even without a girl. Thats why it works.

Final Bit of Advice

The final bit is when to make your move. How much of the pickup should she do? You can have them do everything from approaching, getting the number, and warming the girl up so you can have a conversation. Maybe all you did in that situation is just say Hi and shake her hand. You might even be cold and aloof, just to keep her wondering and thinking about you.

But there is going to be point where you are going to need to bust the move and go outside of the social group. Normally for me, if its in the club, this could be on the dance floor. Ill just dance and have some eye contact with her. I will bring her closer and dance with her a little bit, looking for positive signs of attraction in the way she looks at me. I am looking for that and then I will make the move and maybe go for the kiss.

Maybe it will be in my apartment where it turns out that she is sitting next to me when the other girls go to the kitchen to get some drinks. Ill be sitting with her and looking at her and Ill use the stuff that you have seen me teach many times to go for the kiss at that point and go from there.

Maybe its on the second or third meeting and you have just gotten to know each other gradually over that time, but you have put yourself in a position where she cant say no to meeting you one on one. You know you have passed the dating games crucial phase because you have already met three or four times, you know each other pretty well. You have never invited her out on a date, but now you are in a position where you say, You know what, you are quite cool. Why dont just me and you go for a drink in the next few days.

So guys there you have it how to use girls to delegate the pickup. Its really more than wing girls and if you are not going to use the entire system as I laid out, you can at least understand some of the psychology behind it. Think about how to use female friends, how to start making female friends, and how to bring them into your life so they are happier, you are happier and you get more girls.