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Building my Skills asan Emotionally Intelligent
Clinician
Dennis Ondrejka, Ph.D., RN, COHN-S/CM
Associate Professor, Denver School of Nursing
Objectives
Provide an overview of the five EI domains and how they show up in one’s life
Address the barriers to becoming more EI in life and at work
Building additional skills in each domain of EI
Subjectives
Develop a sense of personal awareness that lives in the paradox of being more EI
Create internal values structures that will start to include EI in my practice
Have an increasing belief about the value of EI for my patients, myself, and my family
Domains of Emotional Intelligence
Empathy Self-awareness Self-regulation Motivation Social Skills
Reminder- Why EI is Important Rigidity and Poor
Relationship building is the key executive failure
Trained incapacity Need Intuition to be expert IQ accounts for 4% of real
world success Physiological issues It accounts for highly
successful leaders It is the balance for all
clinicians
Reminder- Barriers to Integrating EI
Old Habits persist We live in Fear Low Levels of self-love Physiological barriers No integration of our
SHADOW self Never reaching the
valuing level of understand of EI
Old Habits persist
Sensory Input limitations– We receive 2,000,000 sensory inputs / second– We understand 10,000 /second
We use a Reticular Activation system to control input
This creates habits to save us time We use habitual behavior to save time RESULT-Less connection, less empathy,
less self-awareness, less EI
We live in Fear:A Hidden Motivation
How are we motivated to do many things we don’t want to do?
How are we choosing our life to be? How do we see others making choices? Is Fear the unconscious disease on our earth? Is Fear the cause of wars? Is Fear the cause of most conflict?
Low Levels of self-love:Motivation to Self-Protect
Many people develop with a painful story, or an imprinting of being wounded
Studies are report 50% of women being sexually abused in childhood
New estimates are starting to put 30% of men into the same risk group
Divorce is reaching 63% nationally We have over 3 Million children being raised by
their grandparents RESULT- less connection, less empathy, less
self awareness, less social skills, more safety, more protection
Physiological barriers:We are Habitually Unconscious
Physiological differences between men and women
Amygdale breaks, chemical losses Brain research on synapses building our addicted
paths, eliminating unused paths Perception is complicated—Reality making is
even more complicated RESULT- low level of self-awareness, normally
blind to others perspective reducing empathy, motivation is from our shadow side.
No integration of our SHADOW selfMinimal Self-Awareness
Theories on what part of our brains we use– Iceberg theory
Quantum mechanics and consciousness Shadow Psychology and Theory Integration is the key, not rejection!!!! Un-integrated shadow causes very serious
problems for people RESULT- inauthentic people, resistance to EI
because of fear, hiding our gold, lack of performance in our lives
Never reaching the valuing level of understand of Emotional Intelligence Research shows we will not change our
behavior if we cannot integrate things—no matter how valuable—if we do not deeply value it.
Our patients lose and we lose Brainstorm where you can chip away at our
blocks, and barriers