Slide 2 BULLYING PREVENTION at Paul Norton School Bullying is
not allowed at Paul Norton: we will not have bullying when EVERYONE
becomes a helpful friend and when there are no BYSTANDERS! Bullying
Prevention Unit for the Bettendorf Elementary Counseling Program
created by Shelley Klaas, Counselor, Neil Armstrong Slide 3
Bullies, Targets, Bystanders BULLY A bully is someone who is
picking on or harassing someone else. He or she does not do this
just once, but many times. Harassment is a pattern of this behavior
over a period of time. TARGET A target is someone who is being
picked on or harassed. A target is someone who has been hurt by a
bully. BYSTANDER A bystander is someone who watches the bullying,
but does nothing about it. Slide 4 Bully-Proofing Our School:
Nortons Mission: To make our school safe for our entire community.
We will do this by: 1.Stop the behavior there are no- bullying
rules at our school. Every teacher and staff member will enforce
these rules. 2.The Norton counseling program will teach students
about bullies, targets, and bystanders, helping every student to
acquire the skills to handle bullying as well as to stop bullying
behavior by refusing to be a bystander! 3.What the students will
do: speak out! Students will help each other. They will not be
afraid to do the right thing (stick up for the target and tell
bullies, no more) or to get an adult to help. 4.How students will
treat each other: the students will use extra effort to INCLUDE
EVERYONE and to use our motto of TREAT PEOPLE RIGHT AND DO THE
RIGHT THING! Slide 5 WHAT IS BULLYING??? Bullying happens when one
person is more powerful than the other: because s/he is bigger,
more popular or has more friends, and/or because he or she can make
the other person feel less important. Bullying is not usually a one
time problem: it is a repeated series of negative or hurtful
behavior over time. Bullying can be done by one person or a group.
Bullying is sometimes done to gain attention, popularity, or power
and control. Bullying can be done to get ones way or to gain
material things. Bullying usually happens between children who are
not friends and who dont usually play together. Sometimes, however,
a friend can turn on another friend with bullying behavior. Slide 6
SOME PEOPLE THINK Bullying is funny. Bullying is just a normal part
of life. Its not bullying behavior if the person says, just
kidding! Talking about someone behind his or her back (when that
person is not around) isnt bullying. If someone bullies, its okay
to get revenge. If you just ignore bullying, it will go away. THESE
PEOPLE ARE WRONG!!! Bullying isnt funny. Bullying isnt just a part
of growing up no one should have to put up with bullying or being
bullied! If someone says, just kidding but they continue the
behavior when they know you dont like it or it is hurtful, that
person is a bully! Rumor spreading and gossiping are bullying
behaviors! Getting revenge usually makes the problem bigger and
worse. Ignoring bullying wont make it go away! Slide 7 So what is
the difference between bullying and conflict? 1.Bullying usually
happens in secrecy or out of the way places...Conflict often
happens where others can see it. 2.Bullying usually involves one
person being targetedConflict may involve a number of people and
there are no targets. 3.When bullying happens, threats are often
used and bullies hurt people with words and/or actions. When
conflict happens, it may involve fighting but both people fight
(and it usually stops quickly!) 4.Bullies are not usually friends
with their targets. In a conflict, friends or classmates usually
work out their problems. Slide 8 How Do Kids Bully? 1. By physical
aggression: tripping, pushing, shoving, hitting, destroying someone
elses things, etc. 2. By socially alienating through gossiping,
spreading rumors, excluding from a group, humiliating in front of
everyone, threatening to keep out of the group, etc. 3. By verbal
aggression such as mocking, name calling, teasing, intimidating
phone calls or email, or verbal threats. 4. By intimidating through
playing a dirty trick, taking possessions, trying to get someone to
do something that is wrong, threatening to harm someone the person
cares about, etc. Slide 9 Why-oh-why? Why Do People Bully? To get
power. To gain popularity. To get attention or material things. To
act out problems they are having at home or at school or.. just
because they feel like it! Slide 10 Who is likely to be a bully???
A child who does not have EMPATHY. (Remember, empathy means trying
to understand how the other person feels.) A child who does not
feel guilty when s/he hurts another. A child who likes being
aggressive. A child who believes the target deserves what happened.
A child who likes to be in charge and get his or her own way; a
child who likes to have POWER. A child whose parents or older
siblings are bullying him or her. A child who thinks someone else
is treating him or her badly. ANY CHILD CAN BE A BULLY! (But dont
let it be you!!!) Slide 11 Who is likely to be a target??? A child
who is isolated or alone during much of the school day. A child who
feels a little more anxious, nervous, or insecure. A child who is
smaller or weaker and unable to defend him or herself. A child who
cries easily, gives up when bullied, or cant stick up for him or
herself. A child who has some kind of disability. A child who has
been hurt at home. A child who teases or bothers other children. A
child who tries not to give in to the bully, but gets very upset
when she or he does lose. A child by whom the bully may be
threatened (because the bully sees him or her as more popular,
better at a sport or activity, etc.) ANY CHILD CAN BECOME THE
TARGET OF A BULLY! Slide 12 SO WHAT CAN WE DO ABOUT IT? How to show
I CARE if someone is bullied: Creative problem-solving (with
someone you trust) Adult help dont be afraid to get it! Respond to
bullying (do not be a bystander; stand up!) Empathy (try to
understand how others feel and use that understanding to treat
people right and do the right thing!) Slide 13 RULES FOR
BULLY-PROOFING OUR CLASSROOM: We will not bully other students: no
gossip, no rumor spreading, no excluding, no threatening or
harassing, no tricks, etc. We will help others who are being
bullied by speaking out and getting adult help. We will use extra
effort to include all students in activities at our school. We will
treat others the way we would like to be treated! Slide 14 How to
Help Ourselves: Lets Try the Ha, Ha, So Strategies! Help - know
when and how to ask for it! Assert yourself (not passive/not
aggressive.) Humor try to use it to de-escalate a situation. Avoid
try the avoid strategy when you know you might encounter a bullying
situation or a bully. Self-talk use clear mind thinking to keep
your self-esteem up and to help you think of solutions.
Options/others use the best option you can think of for the
situation (and use others to help you!) Remember: if you are being
bullied, it is not your fault. Ask for help! If you see bullying,
do not be a bystander! Stick up for the target and get help if you
need it. Most importantly if we ALL refuse to allow bullying at
Paul Norton, it will not happen, so lets do this TOGETHER as a
Caring Community! Slide 15 If youre tempted to bully. Try these
conflict resolution skills: If youre angry, cool down: take a few
deep breaths, count to ten, get a drink, take a break from the
situation, etc. When youre ready to talk, try to state your view of
the problem. Use I statements and try to avoid those starting with
you or blaming: I think we have a problem because Im angry because
I want to talk to you about Try to use active listening when the
other person is talking. Brainstorm win-win solutions. Pick a
solution and talk about how you will try it. Remember to ask
yourself: Is it safe? How will the other person feel? Is it fair?
Will it work? REMEMBER: All of our feelings are okay, its what we
do with them that counts. Anger is the most difficult feeling to
handle, so dont be afraid to ask for help. Your counselor can help
you learn to manage your feelings. Slide 16 CREATING A CARING
COMMUNITY! Only YOU can do it! Take an honest look at teasing and
bullying: Do I tease, exclude, or bully in any way? Have I laughed
when someone else was being hurt? Have I stood up or stood by? Can
I make a change starting today? WITH YOUR HELP, PAUL NORTON WILL BE
A SAFE PLACE FOR EVERYONE! Slide 17 A film to watch and
discuss:
