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On Physical Beauty and Happy Marriage
In “Cathedral”, the author Raymond Carver weaves out a fascinating story about a
meeting between a seeing man who has limited sight about people around him and a blind man
who can connect with people emotionally. The protagonist as well as the narrator is an Air Force
officer. He tends to only see the the physical appearances of people around him. Robert, a blind
man, is the friend of the narrator’s wife. Despite his blindness, he is able to see the people around
him whole-heartedly. The whole story revolves around an irony: the narrator who advocates
outward beauty as a fundament of an agreeable relationship does not find comfort in his own
relationship.
Even though narrator believes physical appearance is the most important component of a
happy relationship, and he pays attention to the physical beauty of his wife, his relationship with
his wife is not enjoyable at all. When the narrator learns Robert has a wife, he can hardly grasp
how they could live satisfactorily without seeing each other. Thus, he shows pity towards them
solely because they cannot appreciate the physical beauty of each other. The narrator ponders
Robert’s wife “could wear makeup or not-what difference to [Robert]”(360)? His opinions on
physical beauty reflect himself as a superficial person who only pays attention to the bodily
beauty of his wife. Throughout the short story, never has he commented on the personalities of
his wife. Rather, his only compliment comes from his observation of his wife lying on the sofa.
He comments his wife’s thighs are “juicy”(368). The narrator can only acknowledge carnal
beauty but not the charm of mind or heart. Ironically, in spite of his belief, he is not happy about
his life. He confesses to the reader: “Every night [he smokes] dope and [stays] up as long as [he]
could before [he falls] asleep. [His] wife and [him] hardly ever [go] to bed at the same
time”(368). It is common for the couple to go to bed together. It is a sign of intimacy and that the
two are comfortable with each other. Meanwhile, the narrator’s behavior of staying up produces
an impression that gap exists between him and his wife. Furthermore, by choosing to smoke dope
over sleeping with his wife, the narrator reveals to the reader that he finds more comfort in
drugging himself than sharing a bed with his wife. Despite being a couple, the narrator and his
wife seem to find no comfort living together. The narrator’s unsatisfying relationship proves that
superficial beauty is not necessary for a pleasant marriage.
The outward appearance should never be the basis of any kind of relationship between
people. Furthermore, I feel outward experience is an obstacle to people true understandings to
each other. The outward appearances often create gaps during people’s communications because
certain facial feature elicits sensual responses from people that distract people from
conversations. For example, I find it much harder to profess myself when I am talking to a
beautiful looking girl than a comely looking girl. However, if I block my vision and just listen to
their voices, I begin to understand them better and can see what kind of a person they are.
Therefore, the outward feature of a person is only a distraction of the true understanding among
people. I also find it true when I am talking to foreigners. When I first come to America, not only
the language is a barrier but also the anxiety when I am looking at people with completely
different facial features than Asians. At first, my mind is so uncomfortable with the difference in
facial feature that I can hardly keep a conversation. However, if I deprive me of my vision, I
would encounter no such problem. My mind will only focus on the conversation instead of the
differences in facial appearances.
Works Cited
Carver, Raymond. "Cathedral." Where I'm Calling From: New and Selected Stories. New York:
Vintage, 1989. 365-78. Print.