Cause You Blossom Only Once

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Table of Content

Introduction 2

When The Seed Starting to Grow 5

A Flower in a Prairie 7

Immoral Media 8

Misguided Emancipation 11

The Unlimited Indecent Free Mixing 14

Cause You Blossom Only Once 17H i j a b 21

True Friend and Social Relationship 24

Patience and Steadfastness 29

M i g r a t i o n 31

And The Selected One Propose You 34


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Publishers Note

All praise is due to Allah, may He The Exalted bestow His peace and blessings upon The Prophetshallallahu alaihi wasallam, his family, hiscompanions and those who follow them until theDay of Judgement.

This eBook is translated from a booklet SebabMekarmu Hanya Sekali, Surat Cinta untuk PuteriTercinta authored by Haikal Hira Habibullah. This booklet was a winner of a writing contest which wasorganized by Al-Sofwa Jakarta foundation and laterdistributed for charity. It is an affectionate letter, a beautiful advice of a father to his beloved daughter who come at an age to step into the outside world.

Indeed, the outside world is not friendly at all. Itsenchantment, adorement and all which look so beautiful are nothing but a trial. A fake beauty which is not last forever. Everyone could be trappedeasily in misery, let alone a girl, because she blossoms only once.

Maktabah Raudhah al-Muhibbinhttp://www.raudhatulmuhibbin.orgmailto: [email protected]


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Cause Your Blossoms Only Once Love letter to my beloved daughter

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As the wind of time sweeps you

On rock or on mud

Keep the fragrance, O my petal

Remain beautiful in the wild prairie

So that youre the one that will be picked

Cause you blossom only once


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Introduction

All praise is due to Allah The Exalted and The MostHigh, Lord of The Universe. May He give usstrength and patient in every step we make on Hisearth. May peace and blessing be upon Muhammad

, the last Prophet, the noblest man and His beloved. His presence was a gift to this dark world,the only complete guidance for all mankindthereafter. And may peace and blessing be upon hisfamily his noble companions, the people of knowledge and all his people ( ummah ) of whom henever stop loving.

My beloved daughter!!

Watching your deep sleep in your mother arms, hadalways convinced me that everything would be fine.Enjoying your tender breath on the cradle alwayscomforts my feeling at that time. Those beautifulmoments had passed swiftly. And ages had taken itsdue. Until days became weeks, and months changedto years, I realised suddenly that soon you will begone from my side. For the time has come for you to


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go. Lead your own life. Yes, it is time for me to let

you go to a new life out there. World outside! It is a place which is not friendly atall my dear. A place where you have to survive in themiddle of threats that will always challenge you. With the world that become older, filled with various facilities which should have simplified thislife. But alas, all of it in fact has made the reality of

lives become more chaotic, and in a total mess.Recently, all kind of evil and action of the ignorancehave performed themselves openly. Free society with various background and reasons havedistanced people from the ideal life. Free mixing between men and women that happened on every span of the earth has become something ordinary and natural. And without anyone notices it, thisnatural thing has indicated dangerous symptoms. Yes, varied negative impacts on free mixing culturehave taken place. And again, women, like you, arethe first who feel the effect, directly or indirectly.News from various media only contain dreadfulthing for mind and soul. Everyone is racing topresent the evil and the dark side of life. The

appearance of evil and wickedness around us areonly a matter of time. There is no truly save placeeverywhere. So much so. Today when I look out tothis wild world from our window, suddenly He(Allah) moves my hand to write a few words which I will entrust to you.


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So for you, my beloved daughter, I write this letter.

Covered with pray and love that will never dry, I willask Allah, The Exalted and The Most High TheOwner of every soul to protect you in the shade of salvation and His love. As for you to know that Ilove you so much and dont want the wicked trap of world defeat you.

Finally, enjoy your adolescence, my daughter. Guard

always your heart and yourself, everywhere, every time.

May Allah The Exalted and The Most High guides usall.

Surabaya, August 2003


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When the Seed Starting to Grow

A drop of captivated love And the seed of affection blushed in shynessWrapped with hope and prayThen it is time for the breathing of the soul Be! And it is you!

My beloved daughter..!

No one knows what will happen in future. Even when the blink of the eye and the breath come outfrom this transitory body and absorbed by thesurrounding world. We never know whether we stillhave a chance to blink the eyes again. We could noteven guarantee ourselves to breath the air in thenext second, except by the permission of The Ownerof life, Allah The Exalted and The Most High bestow His blessings. Indeed, it is destiny that has guided you until this point.

It is what happened at that moment. Periods wherethe seeds of love from your parents was united in asacred marriage. Hereupon, Allah created and grew this pure seed of love with His mercy. Protected andcared you in the loving womb every second. Andtime passed by until the day when people gatheraround hoped and worried, waiting for your birth.


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And to you, I would like to reveal the saying of Allah

, the meaning of a child, like you, for me:

And know that your possessions and your children

are but a trial and that surely with Allah is a mighty reward. (QS Al-Anfal [8] : 28)

That is the fact. Even your birth which makes me sohappy is indeed but a trial and a test. With HisKnowledge, He has entrusted you in our care. So you must understand that in carrying thistrusteeship requires a suitable process and method.Therefore, when the time comes to bear you afs my responsibility before Him, I could smile and beproud of you.

Furthermore, theres no other desire in me except a wish to take you to the path of light which He has

set. Your future which we dont even know yet should be passed successfully. And especially for you, my beloved daughter, make everything in pastas a driven power to face your future which we couldnot figure out.


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A Flower in the Prairie

The spreading out prairieThe rustling wind and the buzzing beeThe wind of time has changed its directionUntil your time will come

Never let your fragrance gone in vain

Today, time has brought you to an age which is soenchanting. Time has changed the appearance andthe age has reached maturity. You have grown up to be a big girl. Out there, gate of the outside world which open widely is ready to welcome you with allits flirt and tantalizing shine. Indeed, letting you gointo a society which is ignorant of Islamic law always worried me. Realizing that the openedcanine tooth of life ready to attack you, force me toonce again remind you. But you must keep onmoving ahead. Therefore listen to my message, Omy beloved daughter! Do observe all phenomenonsaround you which can defeat you. Have you realized

it?


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Immoral Media

You are living in a period where time and place turninto a dimension which is easy to access. Everyoneis able to know something happen in other part of this world at the same time. Various sophisticatedtechnology has enabled everyone to convey everything to others. Information facilities andtelecommunication develop very fast. That is why ahandphone, TV, radio and even internet becomepublic means in spreading information andpropaganda. Information from various sources andinterest will be very easy to form your character andmind set if you dont have a strong fortress. Not tomention the emergence of immoral media which iseasy to find on the street day after day. Magazines,news papers, tabloid, even comics and novels thatare sweetly arranged only contain agitating storiesfor the soul and a false dream. And you could getthose easily everywhere. Finally, these facts are only adding to the bad appearance of the world.

You also must realize that society around you is agroup of sick people. Society which looks good is infact a brittle building which could be easily destroyed any time, even only with a soft blow of a wind.


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When TV shows and secular western movies become

an obligatory entertainment as well as trade mark for identity of recent generation, and idols of teenagers are movie stars, actors, and athletes whomight never feel the true essence of life. So slowly but sure, a civilization have shifted. The existence of values of life, religious ethics and healthy mind setare threaten and later will be changed by new orderand values which are ironically failure products

from their origin. Yes, the concept of secularism,hedonism, nihilism, materialism and free sex areindeed scum products from a so called moderncivilization.

High criminal rate, and high un-cured depressionand stress within western societies are evidence as well as direct effects of the manifestation of thoseconcepts. Realizing the failed order, instead they compete in finding new market for those scumideas so that the economic growth and the big plan which they arrange could continue as planned. Sothat is what we see around us today. Western imageis imitated blindly by some of the youth. The imageof advance and modern seem to be effective to

draw their attention.Furthermore, through various and more advancedmedia, those kinds of failure are presented nicely, beautifully, and very tempting to their audience. Off course, those have been well planned by the enemy of Allah in their everlasting effort to destroy


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Muslim from within. Concerning this, The

Messenger of Allah has reminded us:

"You will follow the ways of those nations who were before you, span by span and cubit by cubit (i.e.,inch by inch) so much so that even if they entered ahole of a mastigure, you would follow them." Wesaid, "O Allah's Apostle! (Do you mean) the Jewsand the Christians?" He said, "Whom else?"(Related by Al-Bukhari, no. 22/298)

My beloved daughter!!

Never let your leisure time go in vain in front of theTV set or in something which will not bring any benefit in this world or the hereafter. Use your timeto study, seek the knowledge of your religion,

reading, and writing or do other beneficial activities.


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The Misguided Emancipation

My beloved daughter!

The enemies of Islam never rest for a second tothink of ways so that the religion of Islam and itsfollower become more destructed from time to time.They never abandon the unawareness and ignorancethat attack almost all Muslim societies. Slowly butsure, cunningly they use oriented methods toinfluence the process of education and teaching of Muslim women. Subtlely they blow the wind of emancipation among you, women. Whereas behindit, the big plan is to direct women to oppression andpush them to destruction and deviation

My daughter, do you know that emancipationactually started with women demand for equal wageand working hours with men whom working in asame company in Europe. The discourse along with women movement in Europe finally spread to other

field which spontaneously or maybe deliberately planned by certain party. Furthermore, the demandof equality has changed into demand of men rights violation. For example, at the beginning womendemanded right in choosing spouse freely as happen with the men. But that right has changed intofreedom of submitting themselves to whoever they


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wish. Therefore, be careful with what youre doing,

especially in this regard. Because Allah hasreminded in His saying:

And follow not (O man i.e., say not, or do not or witness not, etc.) that of which you have noknowledge (e.g. ones saying: "I have seen," while in fact he has not seen, or "I have heard," while he hasnot heard). Verily! The hearing, and the sight, and the heart, of each of those you will be questioned (by Allah). (QS Al-Israa [17] : 36)

Therefore, it is common to see women whethergoing to or getting back from work walking alone orin group at night. Not to mention labours and working women who are getting used to do men jobin factories. Obviously this is not the way of understanding the real status of women, which infact should be in a noble position.

Do you remember the story of Khadijah c and Aisyah c ? Both are the real women to be called assuccess women. Because of their scent of reputation, until now, in every period of time any one can still feel their everlasting charm andfragrance of the Muslim woman true quality. Hence,


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will you still look for other idols which in reality

their status far behind both noble women? Indeed,Khadijah c , The First Lady, was a career womanas well as successful wife who should be an examplefor everyone. Her Prominent figure, her strength,generosity, and her success in business has beenproved. And it was followed by the success of accompanying her husband as a leader of mankind. An achievement which could never be attained by other women in any period of time. Or dont you want to be like Aisyah c who was a successeducator as well as a role model for her nation at thetime and after her beloved husband passed away?The Humairah who was always proficient in helpingher husbands task, alert and lively in supportingthe programs of her husband, the Prophet and theleader of mankind, while at the same time she neverabandoned her true function as a wife. Both of them were the true career women, o my daughter! Bothare heroes and upholder of the true honour for herfellow women. And both of them could set womenposition in highest rank without detracting even thesmallest degree of their honour.

So listen, my daughter! Dont ever be tempted by the wind of emancipation unceasingly brought by people around you. Because, indeed, the main goalof that jargon is not to save or free you from theoppression, but rather to destroy you and yourreligion from within.


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Many reports from in and outside this country

presenting a tragic and miserable society conditionresulted from free mixing. Educational institutions,offices, or other places are becoming prosperousfield for expanding this dangerous concept. Becauseikhtilath in reality is a determinant for incidentssuch as adultery, psychological problem. On theother hand, these problems are not yet provedcapable of purifying the instinct as an excuse of

those educated man.

The continuing effect of the wretched conditionemerges in this confused society. Pregnancy casesfrom illegitimate relationship, abortion, rape, evensuicide and homicide are the results of this culture.Defective community order, corrupted morale andlack of shame arose deep concern of life in thefuture.

If only Muslims devotedly and steadfastly holdIslamic concept in the right and wholly way (kaffah ), surely the influence of this ideology wouldnot enter or destroy their hearts and minds. On theother hand, Muslims should also be firm in dealing

with non-Muslims deception who never stopreaching their objective. Allah has given Hisassurance of the victory of His religion from theirdeception, under the condition that every Muslimshould be steadfast in upholding forbearance andpiety.


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Allah says:

If you remain patient and become Al-Muttaqoon(the pious - see V.2:2), not the least harm will theircunning do to you. Surely, Allah surrounds all that

they do. (QS Al-Imran [3] : 120)


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Truly,We did offer Al-Amanah (the trust or moralresponsibility or honesty and all the duties which Allah has ordained) to the heavens and the earth,and the mountains, but they declined to bear it and were afraid of it (i.e. afraid of Allahs Torment). Butman bore it. Verily, he was unjust (to himself) andignorant (of its results). (Al-Ahzab [33] : 72)

Nevertheless, Allah will not let you off withoutsufficient provision. Allah bestow upon mankindon earth advantages that if they are used inaccordance to His divine legislation, then this bigentrusment could be done well.

Indeed, theres no doubt that every human being iscreated in the best creation. Put that in your mindthat you are born as a perfect creature. Listen to the

assurance of Allah Himself, how perfect the shapeof creature called human being, as Allah says:

Verily, We created man of the best stature(mould), (QS At-Tin [95] : 4)


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His Meseggers and Prophets as the way out on every

problem happening in every period of time. Theguidance is known as religion. Verily Allah reveals His devine legislation to safeguard andprotect mankind so that they are safe from a deepmisery and difficulties not the other way around.

We have not sent down the Quran unto you (OMuhammad ) to cause you distress, But only as aReminder to those who fear (Allah). (QS Thahaa[20] : 2-3)

Therefore, O my daughter, go back to The Quranand Al hadith of The Mesenger of Allah , study it,reflect on it, and act on in seadfastedly.


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Hijab

My daughter, has it ever crossed your mind that youare created upon enchanting nature. Have you everrealised how your existance on earth is also but atrial for the life of and ignorants? Therefore,remember always the saying of The Messenger of Allah :

Im not leaving more of a trial after me for men,than the trial of women. (Related by al-Bukhari,no. 4808 and Muslim, no. 2740, 2741).

Look...! Unfortunately woman are an issue that manshould be dealing with careful condiseration. Of course it also requires your consistency in attitudeso that you can bring yourself properly. With yourphysical apperance, and inclination to show your beauty to others, then it is appropriate for you

women to have a safe way out, in order to escapefrom the trial which has been warned off. O my beloved daughter, surely! Dont you ever fall on the way which only exploite your beauty and charm as ameans of evil to condemn you or even others to thehellfire. To Allah we seek for protection!


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At all accounts, your Lord is really care and always

protect you from evil of the world with rules He haslegislated. And He will never impose an obligation beyond your ability to cope with.

Allah burdens not a person beyond his scope. (QS Al-Baqarah [2] : 286)

That will be better, that they should be known (asfree respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is Ever OftForgiving, Most Merciful. (QS Al-Ahzaab [33] : 59)

My righteous daughter!!

Covering aurah (part of body which should becovered according to Islamic legislation) aslegislated by Allah The Exalted and Most High andHis Messenger is as important as other act of worships such as praying, fasting or giving charity,

that if it is not fulfilled, then there will be bigconsequences and sanctions. The command of AllahThe Exalted and Most High on Hijab is alsoproceeded by words a believing woman. Indeed itshows everyone how fundamental this obligation is,for every Muslim woman like you. Allah says:


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And say to the believing women that they shouldlower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornamentsexcept what (must ordinarily) appear thereof (QS

An-Nur [24] : 31)

Maybe if this beautiful legislation could beimplemented accordingly, no more abuse to be findupon womanhood, including rape which oftenhappens within a society. Your religion has set rulesaccordingly about covering in order to increaserank and preserve dignity and chastity of believing women. This legislation of Allah, The Exalted andMost High, is indeed to place the satus of women innoble position and not falling into merecommodities which could be traded in a wide terms.The legislation in turn will bring life harmony ingaining success as a part of a family and society. And you should also remember one thing that

covering is not a means to restrict any of yourpotency and talent, for you can still carry on otherobligations such as seeking knowledge, enjoiningright and forbiding wrong, and obligatory to live within society in good and lawful manner, as long asthey fall under the criteria and legislated rules.


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True Friend and Social Relationship

Doing the obligation of covering (hijab), you have atleast put an initial and fundamental guard to startentering in a more complex life. Indeed you donthave to fight alone, for only with friends and good

environment, you could preserve the religious values which you uphold so far. Dont ever stoplooking for a sincere friendship and goodenvironment for the safety of your religion andchastity. Because no one can survive alone in themiddle of this fast wave of the changing time. Youstill need a friend and a proper surrounding toimprove your quality and faith in the future.

Remember, not all people to be made as friends.The Messenger of Allah has reminded us in thisregard by his pure tongue:

A man follows the religion of his friend, so eachone should consider whom he makes his friend.(Related by Abu Dawud, no. 4833 and At-Tirmdzi)

And listen, O my daughter! That the best friendshipis the one that could benefit you in religion and life.The Messenger of Allah himself has affirmed the


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"Ah! Woe to me! Would that I had never taken so-and-so as a friend! "He indeed led me astray fromthe Reminder (this Quran) after it had come to me. And Shaitan (Satan) is ever a deserter to man in the

hour of need." (QS Al-Furqan [25] : 28-29)

Indeed, dont ever try to make friends with immoraland ignorant person, unless you are in a strongerposition to advice and remind her. Because it is anobligation for everyone trying the best he/she can toteach good and prevent evil. And Allah hasguaranted that those who enjoining right andforbiding wrong are among those who succeed.

Allah says:

Let there arise out of you a group of people invitingto all that is good (Islam), enjoining Al-Maroof (i.e.Islamic Monotheism and all that Islam orders one todo) and forbidding Al-Munkar (polytheism anddisbelief and all that Islam has forbidden). And it is


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they who are the successful. (QS Al-Imran [3] :

104)In a society which no longer consider morality anddivine legislation as the basic principal, there is noother way to gain salvation except striving hard tostreghthen the faith from inside. This is the mostimportant factor which determines success orfailure of your journey.


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Patience and Steadfastness

Finally, the top of all effort and exertion arepatience and steadfastness. I really understand thatall kind of evil encircle now in your sorrounding which you often could not avoid from. Classroomsand colleges, public facilities and transportations,and even in the corner of offices or factories, have been filled by free mixing culture that has beengoing on since long ago. This practice has beenconsidered as natural condition in society.

Indeed there will be times when you feel sad andalone. But you do know, even The Messenger of Allah , the pure man whose pray was alwaysaccepted (by Allah) had experienced it. It is becausea test and trial will make you mature and wise inleading your life. So be patient with it. Moreover,dont stop asking for help and best solution fromeach of your problem. Is it not that Allah Himself says that:


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O you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-

salat (the prayer). Truly! Allah is with As-Sabirin(the patient ones, etc.). (QS al-Baqarah [2] : 153)My beloved daughter!

Surely Allah burdens not His slaves beyond hiscapacity. Because only He who knows best of thecondition and strength of each of His creature. Of course that each of good deed will face trials.

Therefore, when a heavy trial and calamity suddenly fall in the middle of your effort in performing gooddeeds, it is enough for you to think that Allah stillcares for you. Dont ever feel lonely! For such a trialis also experienced by those who have high rank of faith, wind blows harder on higher tree.

Do people think that they will be left alone becausethey say: "We believe," and will not be tested. (QS Al-Ankabuut [29] : 2)

There are many obstacles, cynical statements and

views from people against our action in favor of goodness. A Muslim woman who willing to leave herschool, work, or her familiy in order to dress upperfectly (i.e by islamic rule) is a real example of atrial that we heard. Therefore, when never endingtrials come and go, dont be despair from the mercy of Allah .


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. "O my sons! Go you and enquire about Yoosuf (Joseph) and his brother, and never give up hope of Allahs Mercy. Certainly no one despairs of Allahs

Mercy, except the people who disbelieve." (QS Yusuf [12] : 87)


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Migration

Migration ( hijrah ) simply means moving. Movefrom an old place to a new one. Move from badsorrounding to a better one. Or move fromignorance to a soul which filled with lights (of guidance). My daughter, when you have done every way but achieving no satisfactory result, then TheMessenger of Allah has given an example to domigration.

My beloved daughter...!!

Migration in your life actually means your ability and willingness to acquire condusive environmentfor the improvement of your religion. It is when aMuslim woman feels uncomfortable in her workingenvironment, or a student feels that the educationalsurrounding and material she receives does not bring her any good. Or when a mother worriesabour her child mental condition in the middle of corrupting society. Patience and steadfastness

sometimes are not enough.

So as with you! When free mixing of socialrelationship spreading in every corner, and on theother hand you could not make any change, then the best way for you is migration.


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Whereas Allah will bestow mercy on those who

strive hard in faighting on His path with courageand wisdom to gain His pleasure.

Allah says:

Verily, those who have believed, and those who haveemigrated (for Allahs Religion) and have strivenhard in the Way of Allah, all these hope for AllahsMercy. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most-Merciful.(QS Al-Baqarah [2] : 218)

O my daughter!!

There were many true stories of repentance andguidance of converters ( muallaf ) where one processthey have to do is migration. By migrating, it doesnot mean that we run away from problems. On theother hand, we try to build our strength and come

back when the time comes.In a simple meaning, migration is defined as aneffort to change attitudes, behaviours, clothes, and way of thinking which previously tend to be free without basic principles of Allah , into wiser andmore legislated. Previously, you wore the covering


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but still showed certain part of your body, then it is

time to improve the quality of your dress perfectly.Before now, you only interested on books ormagazines or other media which not benefited yoursoul, then it is the time to open your mind and pointof view by start reading those which can improvethe quality of faith and Islam.

Furthermore, it is necessary to flourish your soul by

getting used to read, understand and listen to theQuran recitation that could bring tranquillity andcomposure to the soul. Likewise listening to Islamiccassettes, VCD and DVD, for the role of audio media will be very effective to ease the heart to achieve ahealthy state. Then this kind of thing can bealternatives to fulfil the need. Nowadays there areIslamic cassettes and VCDs from in or outside thecountry. Nevertheless, we need to keep selective inchoosing it.


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And the Selected One Propose You

The blessed love light Covered with gift and pleasure of HimThis is the dayWhen the pure honey meet the honeybeeGuard and possess your fragrance in His

Name

Here comes the time!

O my beloved daughter, a man has come before me.Honesty in his eyes and well spoken of his wordshave tempted me to ask him. What do you wantfrom my daughter, O young man? And when hesays that he wants you as partner of his life, together worship Him, I smile in relieve. And when he sayshis desire to have righteous generation and littlefighters born from your pure womb, I cry happily inside.

Indeed, after your difficult effort to survive inprairie filled with wild grass, then it is time for aselected man to take you by the hand. With yourpure enchanting fragrant, your elegance and honourthat youve preserved without blemish, have put youin the position of a worthy woman to be chosen. But


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