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NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATIO
N AND MOTIVATIONAL INTERVIEWING
IN COACHING
Chapter 5
Allie Lyman
MOTIVATIONAL INTERVIEWING Goal: To encourage change talk and
discourage resistance talkBoth coaches and clients need to make the
case for change. Expressing Empathy Developing Discrepancy Rolling with Resistance Supporting Self-Efficacy
EXPRESS EMPATHY Through empathy we help expand client
awareness, create openness and facilitate change.
MI starting premise: Change Talk Empathy and Change Talk combo helps to
get the client past a point where they feel “stuck”
Make sure to avoid pity and sympathy when trying to be empathetic “I feel sorry for you” “I feel your pain” “I respect your pain”
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION (NVC)
Making observations, not evaluations “I failed to exercise last week” “I went to the gym one time last week”
Express feelings, not thoughts “I feel that my boss is controlling”
Identify needs, not strategies “I need to stop at the store” “I need to work out everyday”
Make requests, not demands “Would you be willing to tell me what you heard
me say” “What agreements would you be willing to make
with regard to exercise in the coming week?”
NVC MODEL
Refer to page 66 and 67 for good lists of feeling and universal needs words.
DEVELOPING DISCREPANCY
Open Ended Questions (OEQs) 50% of your question in an MI should be open
ended Reflective Listening Statements
Simple Reflections – flat mirror Amplified Reflections – concave mirror Double-Sided Reflections – trifold mirror Shifted-Focus Reflections – periscope
Decisional Balance Page 69: Quantitative Rating System
Rulers On a scale from 1 to 10…
ROLLING WITH RESISTANCE “People do not resist change, they resist
being changed” Communication patterns that interfere
with empathy Shifts that may assist in coaches to roll
with resistanceFrom correction to connectionFrom competence to confidenceFrom causes to capacitiesFrom counter-force to counterbalance.
SUPPORT SELF-EFFICACY Self-efficacy is just as important as lasting
change and helping clients become their best selves.
Empathy begins the process of supporting self-efficacyQuiets judgmental and nay-saying internal
voices Developing discrepancy and rolling with
resistance followContinue process without getting bogged
down by their own thinking and feeling process
Belief in goals will create movements to action