ChoosinChoosin

g Life g Life

PartnerPartner

Marriage is honorable Marriage is honorable

among all among all – Heb 13:4– Heb 13:4

Not only for believers,Not only for believers,

but but

for unbelievers toofor unbelievers too

Gen 1:27,28 Gen 1:27,28

So God created man in his own image, in So God created man in his own image, in

the image of God created he him; male and the image of God created he him; male and

female created he them.female created he them.

And God blessed them, and God said unto And God blessed them, and God said unto

them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and

replenish the earth, and subdue it: and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and

have dominion over the fish of the sea, and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and

over the fowl of the air, and over every over the fowl of the air, and over every

living thing living thing that moveth upon the that moveth upon the

earth.earth.

REMEMBER:REMEMBER:

God createdGod created

NOTNOT MALE & MALEMALE & MALE

NORNOR FEMALE & FEMALEFEMALE & FEMALE

HENCE ANY SORT OF HOMO SEXUAL HENCE ANY SORT OF HOMO SEXUAL

RELATIONSHIP NOT PERMITTEDRELATIONSHIP NOT PERMITTED

GOD CREATED MALE & GOD CREATED MALE &

FEMALEFEMALE

Why??Why??

V28: To be fruitful, multiply V28: To be fruitful, multiply

and and replenish the earth.replenish the earth.

MALE ALONE TO MALE ALONE TO

REPLENISH THE REPLENISH THE

EARTH?EARTH?

……..NONO

FEMALE ALONE TO FEMALE ALONE TO

REPLENISH THE REPLENISH THE

EARTH?EARTH?

……..NOT AT ALLNOT AT ALLDO NOT FORGETDO NOT FORGET

MALE & FEMALE TO MULTIPLY & REPLENISHMALE & FEMALE TO MULTIPLY & REPLENISH

DO NOT DO NOT

THINK THINK

THATTHAT

MARRIED MARRIED

LIFELIFE

IS A BED OF IS A BED OF

ROSESROSES

In Jesus In Jesus

we have we have

the the

solution solution

of all of all

problemsproblems

TROUBLES IN MARRIAGETROUBLES IN MARRIAGE

begins not because of begins not because of

reasonsreasons

AFTER MARRIAGEAFTER MARRIAGE,,

butbut

BEFOREBEFORE

Begins with choosing your Begins with choosing your

partnerpartnerWrong Wrong

choices choices

result inresult in

crisiscrisis

&&

catastrophescatastrophes

Whom should I marry?Whom should I marry?

To be answered in the To be answered in the

light of the Word of light of the Word of

GodGod

Basic problems in marriage life will have Basic problems in marriage life will have

proper solutionsproper solutions

IF GOD CREATED IF GOD CREATED

ADAMADAM, THERE WAS , THERE WAS

AN AN EVE WITHIN HIMEVE WITHIN HIM

and not anyand not any

Liza, Elza, or ValsaLiza, Elza, or Valsa

IMPORTANT:IMPORTANT:

If you are believer, God will have a greater If you are believer, God will have a greater

plan in your life, which includes a great plan in your life, which includes a great

plan for your marriage life. And the choice plan for your marriage life. And the choice

is God’s and not yours as the choice was is God’s and not yours as the choice was

God’s in Adam’s case.God’s in Adam’s case.

One Adam and one Eve.One Adam and one Eve.

Today several around us.Today several around us.

BUT:BUT:

Who is my Adam?Who is my Adam?

Who is my Eve?Who is my Eve?

If you are a real believer, any Adam or Eve If you are a real believer, any Adam or Eve

outside the world of Faith is not intended outside the world of Faith is not intended

by Godby God

2nd Cor. 6:142nd Cor. 6:14

““Do not be unequallyDo not be unequally

yoked togetheryoked together

with unbelievers” with unbelievers”

It is clear. It is simple. It is straight It is clear. It is simple. It is straight

forward.forward.

THEREFORE AVOID ANY SUCH PROPOSALS AT ANY THEREFORE AVOID ANY SUCH PROPOSALS AT ANY

COST.COST.Satan might offer Satan might offer

several things along several things along

with it:with it:

• Physical beautyPhysical beauty

• MoneyMoney

• Real EstateReal Estate

• High positionsHigh positions

• CarsCars

• Business…….Business……. JUST AVOID ITJUST AVOID IT

Still if you go in for that, remember that you are Still if you go in for that, remember that you are

going to sign a contract with hell.going to sign a contract with hell.

Thus the question of marrying a girl or boy outside Thus the question of marrying a girl or boy outside

the Christian faith does not arise at all in the light of the Christian faith does not arise at all in the light of

the Word of God.the Word of God.

But how about believers?But how about believers?

Will any believer be fit for me?Will any believer be fit for me?

God joined together Aquila and Priscilla for a God joined together Aquila and Priscilla for a

wonderful ministry.wonderful ministry.

Remember God did not join together Aquila and Remember God did not join together Aquila and

Saphira nor Priscilla and Ananias. Saphira nor Priscilla and Ananias.

God has got a wonderful plan through your marriage God has got a wonderful plan through your marriage

life.life.

There are several things He wants to accomplish There are several things He wants to accomplish

through you for His kingdom.through you for His kingdom.

God knows your heart, your temperaments, your God knows your heart, your temperaments, your

culture, your education, your background, your culture, your education, your background, your

commitment, your intentions for the Lord and above commitment, your intentions for the Lord and above

all your ministry.all your ministry.

And God wants to choose the right partner in your And God wants to choose the right partner in your

life to go with all what we mentioned now.life to go with all what we mentioned now.

NO, JUST ANY BELEIVER WOULD NOT FIT FOR YOU.NO, JUST ANY BELEIVER WOULD NOT FIT FOR YOU.

HusbandHusband :: CommittedCommitted

WifeWife :: Not at all Committed / DedicatedNot at all Committed / Dedicated

WifeWife :: Pious / CommittedPious / Committed

HusbandHusband :: Not at all Committed / PiousNot at all Committed / Pious

PRAY FOR A PARTNER IN YOUR LIFE WHO WOULD GO PRAY FOR A PARTNER IN YOUR LIFE WHO WOULD GO

ACCORDING TO YOUR VISION AND COMMITMENT IN ACCORDING TO YOUR VISION AND COMMITMENT IN

LIFE.LIFE.

THIS IS VERY IMPORTANTTHIS IS VERY IMPORTANT

What What do I do I

need to need to do?do?

FIRSTLYFIRSTLY ::

Go around and look for a partner.Go around and look for a partner.

- In the assemblies- In the assemblies

- In Youth Camps- In Youth Camps

- Internet…(- Internet…(www.keralabrethren.com))

- …….- …….

He who finds a He who finds a

wife finds a good wife finds a good

thing, And thing, And

obtains favor obtains favor

from the LORD. from the LORD.

Pr 18:22Pr 18:22

Favor of God is not obtained by looking around in Favor of God is not obtained by looking around in

your college, street, or office.your college, street, or office.

Favor of God must come from above.Favor of God must come from above.

Therefore include your marriage partner in your Therefore include your marriage partner in your

prayer life and let God choose the right persom prayer life and let God choose the right persom

whom He has already prepared for you.whom He has already prepared for you.

SECONDLYSECONDLY ::

WAIT……for God’s directionWAIT……for God’s direction

DO not put any other criteriaDO not put any other criteria

- Physically beautiful / handsome- Physically beautiful / handsome

- Money- Money

- Profession- Profession

- Real Estate- Real Estate

- Gulf / America……- Gulf / America……

Ask the question:Ask the question:

Will he or she be compatible to the ministry in which Will he or she be compatible to the ministry in which

I am called for? I am called for?

Would he or she stand with me when I lose Would he or she stand with me when I lose

everything?everything?

Will he or she support me in all what I want do for Will he or she support me in all what I want do for

the Lord?the Lord?

Will he or she be fitful for the Lord? Will he or she be fitful for the Lord?

You must really look for the will of God in You must really look for the will of God in

your life? your life?

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the

mercies of God, that you present your bodies a mercies of God, that you present your bodies a

living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is

your reasonable service.your reasonable service.

And do not be conformed to this world, but be And do not be conformed to this world, but be

transformed by the renewing of your mind, that transformed by the renewing of your mind, that

you may prove what is that good and acceptable you may prove what is that good and acceptable

and perfect will of God.and perfect will of God.

Ro 12:1&2Ro 12:1&2

"For this reason a "For this reason a

man shall leave his man shall leave his

father and mother father and mother

and be joined to his and be joined to his

wife, and the two wife, and the two

shall become one shall become one

flesh.“flesh.“

Eph 5:31 Eph 5:31

THIRDLYTHIRDLY ::

Go when God directs you toward the right person. Go when God directs you toward the right person.

Do not be persuaded with peer pressure or relative Do not be persuaded with peer pressure or relative

pressure to marry the right person God chooses for pressure to marry the right person God chooses for

you. She or he might not be a great person in the you. She or he might not be a great person in the

eyes of others, not very handsome or beautiful eyes of others, not very handsome or beautiful

outwardly, but spiritual beauty is enough.outwardly, but spiritual beauty is enough.

GOD BLESSGOD BLESS