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SLRC TRIMESTER 2
MODULE 2
COACHING CORE GUIDE
T2M2 Coaching Core Guide 2
Coaching Core Guide
The Coaching Core: Part Five
Five Senses Reality
Five senses reality signals to your brain: you can have your desire or goal and
survive it! A goal is often created from the cortex, and the limbic system and
primal brain either don’t believe it’s possible to achieve it or are terrified that it
can’t be survived. Not believing that you are able to survive achieving your goal
is the biggest obstacle to taking action and getting goals realized. This part of
the process is therefore very deep and valuable.
When you practice five senses reality, it connects all parts of the body and gives
the brain an integrated sense that you can achieve your goal and survive it!
So, read the client’s goal to them while they close their eyes and activate their
five senses, and ask them what they would experience if they realized this goal.
You can do this with phrases like:
• If you realized this goal, what do you see that lets you know that you got this
desire? Let them describe what they see.
• What do you touch or feel?
• Touch – emissive side of the same sense
• Feel – receptive side of touching
• What do you hear?
• What do you taste?
• What do you smell?
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Things you might encounter in a client through this process:
• They feel shut-down in one or more of their senses
• They are unable to visualize or imagine it at all
The Coaching Core: Part Six
Body/Mind Mapping
The goal of body/mind mapping is to uncover unconscious or subconscious
belief systems, emotions and sensations (survival patterns and blockages) that
prevent your client from achieving their goal.
You do this by asking your client to scan their body and look for sensations,
emotions, thought patterns or areas of numbness, stuckness or blockages in
relation to achieving their goal.
Body/mind mapping has three steps, and through them all, you want your
client to scan their body and mind to find out:
• Sensations, emotions and thought patterns
• The location of these
• Any other information you feel curious about that feels relevant
Step 1: Envision the goal and scan your body/mind
Ask your client to scan their body while envisioning it and find out if there is any
part of them that isn’t comfortable with having this goal.
Step 2: Envision being just about to get your goal and scan your body/mind
Let your client imagine that their goal is really close, approaching them or just
about to become realized, and find out if there is any part of them that isn’t
comfortable with having this goal.
Step 3: Envision taking action to realize the goal and scan your body/mind
Let your client imagine the actions they will take, and find out if there is any
part of them that isn’t comfortable with having this goal.
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With this information, you can create a body map of all the objections and fears
of the primal brain and limbic system. Encourage them to scan and go deep!
Make their unconscious fears and objections become conscious – and the way
to the goal becomes more clear.
Things you might encounter in a client through this process:
• They don’t feel anything
• They don’t have any objections and are all good to go
How long should you do this part?
Until you feel satisfied and you have enough real and deep information to work
with.You might do one session to create the map and then use two or three
sessions to work with what you uncovered. You can then do the body/mind
mapping again to go even deeper.
Remember, not everything needs to be heavily addressed. Let your curiosity
and intuition guide you to pick the most relevant things to move forward with.
The Coaching Core: Part Seven
Revealing and Exploring Pieces of the Body/Mind
The pieces of the body/mind that you have uncovered in the body/mind
mapping are usually trying to keep the client safe and protected or are just
operating on old belief systems or conditioning, but they are now preventing
the client from getting what he or she wants and desires now.
So you want to go deeper with the pieces of the body/mind that you feel are
the strongest, most intense and most valuable for the client, that you feel could
use an updated relationship with the client.
Get curious about that part of the body/mind and guide your client through a
process that will reveal and explore this part.
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Choose at maximum three parts of the body/mind to explore, and shelf the rest
for later so as to not overwhelm yourself or the client. Pick the ones that you
intuitively feel have the most energy and meaning to your client.
Step 1: Find out how it feels
• What does it feel like… What sensations and emotions are present?
Step 2: Find the location
• Really pinpoint where it is happening.
Step 3: Invite your client to embody it
• Things in the unconscious feel foreign, far away or disconnected for most
people, so by embodying it, you get your client experience it and get a sense
of its reality.
• Ask them to move their consciousness or awareness. You can say, for example:
“The part of you that feels right now like you are in your head, or the part of
you that is talking to me right now – can you move that part of you into these
sensations?”
• This creates integration, which makes the steps and actions further ahead
more effective.
Step 4: Give it a voice
• If your client is able to embody it: then invite them to let it speak by
encouraging them to speak from this place. You will speak to that piece of
the body/mind and get this information from it:
• What is it that you want?
• What is your purpose?
Recognize that this is alive. It is a living piece of consciousness. It has its own
desires, reasons for living.
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If your client is not able to embody it:
• Get the client to initiate a conversation with it, asking it the same questions
about what it wants and what the purpose of it is.
Additional Step: Give it a persona or sub-personality
Then you will decide if you can leave the body/mind piece as a sensational,
emotional complex or if you want to move it into a sub-personality or persona.
It can be helpful for some clients to personify some pieces of their body/mind.
For some clients, it can feed an illusion and story. Some people are helped by
letting it be purely a sensational reality.
The key question here is:
• What is going to help your client form a healthy integrated relationship with
this part of themselves?
If this feels challenging for you, stick with the basics: investigate the sensation,
emotions and locations – and as you get more experienced, you can investigate
and explore personas and sub-personalities.
The Coaching Core: Part Eight
Integrative Adventure
The objective of the Integrative Adventure is to create a relationship to the
body/mind pieces that are uncovered that are based in love, compassion,
understanding, communication and greater integration. Everything is held,
understood and accepted.
The key to effective and masterful coaching, it allows you to change the inner
relationship and the internal dynamic. You teach clients to relate to themselves
and their inner parts – “All of me is okay,” “I can face all of me and myself” – and
guide them towards more love and compassion. This gives them a new way of
being, of relating themselves internally – they can get what they want, achieve
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their goals, become self-realized and have the personal power of being willing
to know themselves.
You use the Integrative Powers and move into the Integration Adventure when
you feel you know the body/mind pieces.
They key questions are:
• What would create the most integration, transformation and healing for my
client right now?
• What would create the most healing, empowering relationship with this
piece of the body/mind inside of them?
Integrative Power #1 - Clarity
This a foundational integrative power.
If you don’t have clarity, you can’t move into any other integrative power.
Clarity means:
• Knowing where the body/mind piece is
• Knowing who the the body/mind piece is
• Knowing what it wants, what its purpose is
• Knowing what part it is playing in the client’s greater vision for themselves
That clarity sometimes alone is enough; clarity can set you free!
Get clear on desires -> core and accompanying goals -> five senses -> CLARITY!
That process can give so much information and clarity!
But the coach also needs clarity. You want to start off sessions with clarity! And
you will learn to feel it energetically when the client has reached their own
clarity. However, oftentimes clarity isn’t enough. Just knowing why is almost
never enough to create genuine transformation, but it is an excellent
beginning! It is the foundation on which all the other integrative powers can
function.
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Integrative Power #2 - Acceptance
This is the second foundational integrative power. It is recommended that you
always use clarity and acceptance to approach all pieces in the body/mind.
The most effective transformation sits on acceptance. Sometimes acceptance is
all that is needed. When you start from a place of deep acceptance, you set the
stage for the most powerful transformation.
If you are not centered in acceptance when you approach a piece of the
body/mind, you are subtly actually going to war with that piece. If you come
from a place of acceptance, from a bigger, broader space in your heart and
consciousness, you are setting yourself up for a genuine relationship and
genuine transformation. This is true for both outer and inner relationships.
The inner environment is based on acceptance.
Key questions:
• Can you accept this piece of your body/mind?
• Is there any space, any piece of you, that can accept this specific piece of the
body/mind that we are working on?
• Where is that space inside of you, where do you feel that?
• Can you sit from that space and accept this piece of your body/mind?
If your client can’t accept it, then you can work in other ways and with other
integrative powers, but you always want to invite them into acceptance.
If your inner relationships are dominated by non-acceptance, there’s no room
for transformation. So you want to invite your clients into greater acceptance,
really teaching and training them to ground themselves into the part of them
that does accept, that can accept.
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The first two Integrative Powers are foundational and the three following ones
are optional, but it is recommended that you explore all of them in your
coaching and practicums.
Integrative Power #3 - Empowering a Supportive Piece of the Body/Mind
You use this Integrative Power when you sense that your client would be
supported by focusing on a part of them can care for another piece of the
body/mind and make better choices, and that they can switch the focus to this
supportive part.
They will have fear and blocked parts, but ALSO a supportive part that they can
anchor into.
Example:
• Inner child AND the sensual woman
• Hardness in the heart AND love and aliveness
Key questions:
• Is there any part of you that, or what part of you could take care of this other
piece of you?
• What part of you could get you what you want?
• Can you describe what it feels like inside of this place that can take care of
you?
You empower the supportive piece by bringing your client’s attention to it.
You use the same revealing and exploratory questions:
• What kind of sensation do you feel?
• Where do you feel it inside your body?
• And to really further the empowerment – have your client drop into it and
become their supportive piece and give it a voice. This gives the experience
that they have that part, and they can make decisions from that space.
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You are looking for a piece of your client’s body/mind that can support the part
of them that has the power to care for them but also has the same desire.
If there isn’t a supportive piece, then move onto another integrative power. But
now you have much more information about your client and know the extent
of the collapse of their body/mind such that they don't have an alternative
resource.
Lasering tools and blueprinting tools can be used to subtly build that
supportive part of themselves.
Integrative Power #4 - Creating a Nourishing Relationship
Whatever body/mind piece you have uncovered that is creating pain or
suffering in different ways, you want to be able to create a nourishing
relationship to it. You want to call forth in your client a part of them that can
relate to that piece of their body/mind in a nourishing way, and have a
conversation with it and talk to themselves in a nourishing way.
For example: being sick of being traumatized, shaming and blaming it!
Recenter into your compassion, because your compassion can create a
nourishing relationship to the piece of the body/mind that is causing suffering.
Occasionally, you need boundaries and to say no. But even in these moments,
you need to have a nourishing relationship.
Key aspects:
1. Have a conversation and create a dialogue with the body/mind piece you’ve
uncovered.
2. Offer it emotional support, love and presence.
3. Hold it from a nourishing piece of you and nourish that piece of you by
connecting and relating to it.
4. Guide them to find a piece of themselves that can talk to the suffering part
of themselves.
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Key questions:
• What part of you can love this piece of you?
• What part of you can have compassion for this piece of you?
• What part can understand this piece of you?
You are not crazy – you are talking to a living piece inside of you.
You know by now that it is better to create a nourishing relationship to the
pain, suffering, etc., because the more you disconnect and push it away, the
more it locks in. Instead, you want to integrate it and rewire it into nourishment
and love.
Integrative Power #5 - Need Fulfilment
When people have deep, unmet needs, they go into habituated programming
to try to get them met on the outside. But because they have this deep inner
need, it never feels truly fulfilling. So in this integrative power, you want to find
out the core need of the original piece of the body/mind.
Key question:
• What do you need?
Often, it’s love, acceptance, attention, support or being listened to.
How do you work with this?
By giving yourself exactly what you need. When you find the original part of
your body/mind that, for example, needs attention, you find another part of you
that can always give it attention. So in your coaching, you want to guide your
client to find out what the part needs and what part can meet that need.
It is a process to figure out exactly what you need, and you will empower your
clients to realize that they have all they need inside of them. You are your own
universe, so you want to learn to source your deepest and greatest needs from
within.
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Things you might encounter in a client through this process:
The piece of the body/mind wants love and you start giving it love, but it’s
rejecting it because they want it from their dad, for example. Then part of
maturing and evolving is having a conversation with that piece of the body/
mind and really letting it know that nobody externally is going to give you what
you need, and you can’t rely on that.
And part of offering yourself what you need is waking up to the fact that the
more you give yourself what you need, the more that you can actively have
external needs and get them responsibly fulfilled.
True fulfilment comes from yourself or the divine, and then the external world
can give it as well.
In sex, love and relationship coaching, it is very important to learn to source
from within when it comes to feeling good and in order to live an integrated,
evolved and fulfilled life. You will help your clients see this through the
Integrative Power process.
The Coaching Core: Part Nine
Meta Mapping
After you have completed the Integration Adventure, lasering tools and/or the
blueprinting tools, you are going to move into the next stage of the coaching
core, and you wind down the session by integrating and setting up the next
steps.
The first part of the coaching core that starts the completion of the session is
called Meta Mapping.
You have taken your client through a deep process, so it’s really good to stop
and assess. Meta Mapping means that you agree with your client on the meta
map on what is going on with their desire.
You stop, assess and reflect on what you both have learned together.
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At this point, you can offer:
• Reflections and perspective and check in with your client to see if your words
feel true to them
• Let them agree or disagree
• This gives you both clarity and perspective on the session and the future
• Compliments and acknowledgements for the work they just did
• An overview of the process you have witnessed so far
You use this part to set yourself up for the next part of the coaching core, as the
deeper purpose of Meta Mapping is to agree on what you are seeing in the
session so you can create the action steps that fit in with what is going on
inside of the client.
The Coaching Core: Part Ten
Laying out clear steps to achieve the goal
The next part is to agree on clear steps outside of the session that are going to
help them achieve their goal.
If you did this at the beginning of the session, the goal can be superficial, so it’s
better to do this at the end.
Clear steps involve:
• The inner work to clear the way to make it possible to get to the goal
• The outer steps to create it
You don’t want to have too many inner or outer steps for your client to be
addressing. The whole session sets you up to give your client very intelligent
and targeted inner and outer goals.
The Coaching Core process will help you understand which inner and outer
action steps to take in between sessions and get closer to helping them
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achieve their goals. This is the hallmark of this coaching process, that you work
with the unconscious and subconscious mind, you work the primal brain and
the limbic system – you’re exploring them both in the tools and the
conversation, and then you’re creating action steps that address both the inner
work and the external action steps.
Almost every goal needs both inner and outer actions, and that’s what is so
empowering about our coaching: that we address both.
The Coaching Core: Part Eleven
Empowering the Supportive Identity
As you’ve learned in Trimester One, it is important to adopt an identity that
supports you in the direction you want to go.
A lot of people know the action steps but default back to the inner child reality
or the part that is terrified. So you really want to empower the identity in them
that is super excited to take action.
Key questions:
• What identity inside of you will allow you to take these action steps?
• What part of you is, or who would you need to be in order to be successful in
taking these action steps?
• Who inside you is inspired and excited to take action?
You use the same revealing and exploratory questions:
• Where do you feel that in your body?
• What sensations are associated with it?
• Give it a name! Identities have names!
Let your client feel that identity inside of their body and breath into it and
anchor it in their nervous system. The way that you do that is by inviting them
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to feel that identity inside of them and then inviting them to breathe and allow
the identity to become more powerful.
You train your client, before they take action steps, to drop into that identity.
Then they take action from that empowered identity, which supports them to
take actions outside the sessions to get even bigger and stronger results and
shift the core identity at the same time. This facilitates them actually getting
what they want and getting closer to their goal.
The Coaching Core: Part Twelve
Daily Focus, Daily Practice, Daily Action
The objective of the Integrative Adventure is to create a relationship to the
body/mind pieces that are uncovered that are based in love, compassion,
understanding, communication and greater integration. Everything is held,
understood and accepted.
Daily Focus
What are they going to focus on? Whatever focus will most support them in
their growth and development towards achieving their goal. A focus is an
internal focus, something you do internally.
Encourage focus on, for example:
• Empowering identity
• Listening to the inner child’s need and meeting them
• Compassionately holding their own trauma
Daily Practice
Something that they can practice daily or less depending on their schedule
and ability to commit before you see them next will help them stabilize the
session, especially on the primal level.
The downfall of coaching and talk therapy is that when people have
breakthroughs, the primal brain is actually way stronger than that, and it has a
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tendency to go back to the old way of being. So that’s why you give your client
a practice that helps keep the primal brain in alignment with their
transformation and goals and the work that you are doing.
It comes mostly from the blueprinting that you will learn, for example:
• Breathwork practice
• Breast massage
• Pelvic breathing
• Microcosmic orbit
• Breathwork to connect genitals and heart
Giving a daily practice is a real art and you will get better and better at it!
Some coaching niches are going to lend themselves more to daily practices:
• Pleasure
• Orgasm
• Shame
• Trauma
Daily Action
A daily action is designed to move your client towards their goal. A practice is
similar to an action, but a practice is really designed to stabilize the experience
in the primal brain and a daily action is designed to move them towards their
goal.
For example:
• Safe space to talk about their desires with their partner
• Mirror work
• Buying a sex toy
Daily actions are especially relevant for:
• Dating in a healthy way
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• Having better sex and desire in a relationship
• Having excellent communication in a marriage
The Coaching Core: Part Thirteen
Setting Up Accountability
This part is for how your client is going to stay accountable to what they just
committed to.
Accountability examples:
• They can email you and let you know that they have done compared to what
they said they would do
• You can clearly tell them that you will ask them what they have done at the
beginning the next session
• Have your assistant follow up with them
• If you do group coaching – make them post about it or do celebrations on the
group call.
You get to figure out what suits you and your coaching style and niche, but you
really want a system for keeping them accountable. You can design it in many
different ways.
The Coaching Core: Part Fourteen
Favorite Moments and Gratitudes
This it the end of the coaching session, and you can wrap up your session by
asking your client to give you their two favourite moments:
• What made the biggest impact on you?
• What do you remember the most?
• What was your “A-ha!” moment or breakthrough?
Then ask them about two things that they are grateful for.
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And this is optional, but you can also do the same and share your favourite
moments and gratitudes with your client. It can humanize you and give space
for your experience as well, it helps you to be vulnerable and your client will see
that you are tracking and noticing them.
And gratitudes help send your clients off in a good space. Gratitude really helps
with keeping the transformation! It is also soothing, if they went through
something intense.
Remember: celebrations at the beginning and gratitudes at the end!
Also, what is excellent to do at the end after this is to book them for the next
session right then, even if they paid for a package. If this is at the end of the
package, then begin talking about the future and discuss whether you will
continue working together.
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