What We Do to Achieve it

One drink One meal One night Or longer We all are looking for companionship Deception a pitfall Second nature Potentially harmful

Primarily college aged adults 3-1 Male to Female Sample size ranging from 40-100 Relied on honesty No personality assessment No field research

“…men and women attempt to deceive potential mates about evolutionary relevant characteristics…” (Benz et all, 2005)

What we deceive about:

Wealth Age Beauty Commitment level

Exact opposite Exactly like you Complimentary Hot looking

“Both men and women deceptively altered their self-presented expressivity and love attitudes to more attractive prospects, and reported being more willing to lie about their personal appearance, personality traits, income, past relationship outcomes, career skills and intelligence to prospective dates who were higher in facial physical attractiveness, compared with prospective dates who were lower in facial physical attractiveness.” (Rowatt et all, 1999)

“Doctored” or old Photographs

“Doctored” or old Photographs Athletic

“Doctored” or old Photographs Athletic Long walks on the beach

“Doctored” or old Photographs Athletic Long walks on the beach Truth or Fiction? Attention grabbing

“…violating people's expectations for an honest answer can cause one to be seen in a less favorable light.” (Rycyna et all, 2009)

Do we expect joy? Do we expect it to be okay? Do we expect anger? Is it a deal breaker?

“It was found that females assume more deception overall by members of the opposite sex.” (Keenan et all, 1997)

Lack of self-worth Being true to self isn’t good enough Recreating themselves allows them to

achieve

Arrest current trends Understanding ourselves Building on trust Don’t feel duped

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Boatright, R., & McIntosh, W. (2008). The relationship between mindfulness and self-promoting illusions. Mental Health, Religion & Culture, 11(6), 561-566. doi:10.1080/13674670701686626.

Douglas C Lord. (2004, February). Truth in Dating: Finding Love by Getting Real / Updating!: How To Get a Man or Woman Who Once Seemed Out of Your League. Library Journal, 129(3), 146. Retrieved July 5, 2010, from Social Science Module. (Document ID: 573340031).

Keenan, J., Gallup Jr., G., Goulet, N., & Kulkarni, M. (1997). Attributions of Deception in Human Mating Strategies. Journal of Social Behavior & Personality, 12(1), 45-52. Retrieved from SPORTDiscus with Full Text database.

Rycyna, C., Champion, C., & Kelly, A. (2009). First Impressions After Various Types of Deception: Less Favorable Following Expectancy Violation. Basic & Applied Social Psychology, 31(1), 40-48. doi:10.1080/01973530802659851.

Rowatt, W., Cunningham, M., & Druen, P. (1999). Lying to Get a Date: The Effect of Facial Physical Attractiveness on the Willingness To Deceive Prospective Dating Partners. Journal of Social & Personal Relationships, 16(2), 209. Retrieved from Academic Search Elite database.

Yurchisin, J., Watchravesringkan, K., & Brown McCabe, D. (2005). AN EXPLORATION OF IDENTITY RE-CREATION IN THE CONTEXT OF INTERNET DATING. Social Behavior & Personality: An International Journal, 33(8), 735-750. Retrieved from Academic Search Elite database