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ConflictManagement101
RELATIONSHIP
GOALS
HighImportance
HighImportanceLowImportance
Smoothing
Withdrawing Imposing
Problem-solving
AdaptedfromDavidJohnson“ReachingOut”
RELATIONSHIP
GOALS
HighImportance
HighImportanceLowImportance
Smoothing
Withdrawing Imposing
Problem-solving
AdaptedfromDavidJohnson“ReachingOut”
• Ifthegoalisveryimportant• Iftimeisshort• Whendecisiveactionis
needed
• Iftheissueistrivial• Ifyouhavenochanceof
winning• Iftheissueisvery
emotional
• Ifrelationshipsneedtobepreserved
• Iftheotherismoresenior,isanexpertortheyhaveabettersolutionthanyou
• Iftheissueiscomplex• Ifroomisneededfor
everyone’sideas
BESTUSEDWHEN….
RELATIONSHIP
GOALS
HighImportance
HighImportanceLowImportance
Smoothing
Withdrawing Imposing
Problem-solving
AVOIDING
AdaptedfromDavidJohnson“ReachingOut”
IMPOSING
TipsforresolvingconflictYou’rebothAvoiding
You’rebothImposing
Whattypicallyhappens:• Bothofyoumaynottakeanyaction.• Youmaydampendownfeelingsthatcould
suddenlysurfacelateron.
Whattypicallyhappens:• Neitherofyouisafraidtosaywhat’son
yourmind.• Thediscussioncaneasilybecomeheated.• Intheheatofthemoment,youmightend
upsayingthingsyoudon’tactuallybelieve.• Youbothfeeldisrespected.
Whattodo:• Takethelead.• Saydirectly,“Iknowneitherofuslikes
conflict,butIthinkitwouldbevaluabletodiscusswhatwecoulddoaboutit.”
• Doyourbesttodrawtheotherpersonoutinanempathetic,thoughtfulway.
• Ifthingsgettough,fightyournaturalinclinationtogiveup.
• Problem-solvecollaboratively.
Whattodo:• Sinceyou’llbothbeeagertoaddressthe
situation,taketimetopreparefortheconversation.
• You’rebothlikelytofeelimpatient;scheduleyourdiscussioninawaythatallowsyoubothtotakebreaks.
• Beready—thingsmaygetheatup.Suggestacoffeebreakorawalktohelpevenoutemotions.
• Problem-solvecollaboratively.
AdaptedfromAmyGallo,July2017HBR
TipsforresolvingconflictYou’reImposingandthey’reAvoiding You’reAvoidingandthey’reImposing
Whattypicallyhappens:• Youtendtobulldozeyourcounterpartinto
agreeingwithyou.• Yourcounterpartmayactinapassive-
aggressivemannertogettheirpointacross.
Whattypicallyhappens:• Youmightbetemptedtoplaytheroleof
“goodguy”andgoalongwithwhatyourcounterpartwants.
• Youmightgettrampledbyyourcounterpart’srequests.
Whattodo:• Askthepersontoparticipateactivelyin
theconversation—nothidetheiropinions.
• Assurethemthatyoucanhandlecriticalfeedback.
• Don’tbeabully.• Bepatientwiththepaceofthe
conversation.• Problem-solvecollaboratively.
Whattodo:• Explicitlyaskforwhatyouneed:“Tohave
aproductiveconversation,Ineedyoutobepatientandwatchthetoneandvolumeofyourvoice.”
• Earnyourcounterpart’srespectbybeingdirectandtothepoint.
• Don’tsignaldisrespect,whichmaysetoffyourcounterpart.
• Problem-solvecollaboratively.
Sixstepstocollaborativeproblemsolving
Step1:Definetheproblemintermsofneeds,notsolutionso Solutiontypedefinitionsofinterpersonalproblemsleadtowin/losesolutions
o Besuretodiscerntheothersstrongneedo Assertonesownneedandlistenreflectivelyuntilyouunderstandtheothersneed:
o “Ineedto….” “Youneedto….”o Aproblemwelldefinedisaproblemhalfsolved.
Step2:Brainstormpossiblesolutionso Rapidlygenerateandlistsolutionideaso Don’tclarifyorseekclarificationo Don’tevaluate
o Goforunusual/crazyideaso Expandoneachothersideaso Listeveryidea
Sixstepstocollaborativeproblemsolving
Step3:Selectthesolutionthatwillbestmeetbothpartiesneeds– Clarifyfirst,thenevaluatewhichsolution/sshouldbe
selected:1. Asktheotherwhichalternativestheyfavour2. Statewhichalternativeslookbesttoyou3. Seewhichcoincide4. Jointlydecideononeormorealternatives
– Findconsensus,thatishaveacontinualfreeandopenexchangeofideasuntilagreementisreached.
Sixstepstocollaborativeproblemsolving
Step4:Planwhowilldowhat,whereandbywhen– Avoidcelebratingtooearlyandforgettingthedetail– Decidewhowilldowhat,whereandwhen– Decideifitwouldbeusefultowritetheplandown
Sixstepstocollaborativeproblemsolving
Step5:ImplementthePlan– Asagestureofgoodfaith,completeyouractionsonschedule
– Iftheagreementisnotlivedupto,sendanassertionmessageandlistenreflectively.
Sixstepstocollaborativeproblemsolving
Step6:Evaluatetheproblemsolvingprocess– Maketimetoseehowwelltheprocessworkedforyou– Whateachlikedmostandleast– Onethingthatbotheredeachofyou– Anythingeitherofyouwishestheyhadn’tsaid– Whateachofyoucandobetternexttime
Sixstepstocollaborativeproblemsolving