Conflict Resolution & ViolenceConflict Resolution & Violence PreventionPrevention

BullyingBullying

Freshman HealthFreshman Health

What is Bullying?What is Bullying?

Intimidating, scaring or controlling Intimidating, scaring or controlling another person repeatedly another person repeatedly

Using Physical Force:Using Physical Force: hitting, kicking hitting, kicking choking etc. or damaging ones propertychoking etc. or damaging ones property

Using Verbal Threats:Using Verbal Threats: humiliating, humiliating, hurtful or racist comments, name-hurtful or racist comments, name-calling, insults, taunting, teasing or calling, insults, taunting, teasing or spreading rumorsspreading rumors

Examples of BullyingExamples of Bullying

Name callingName calling ThreateningThreatening ScaringScaring Silent treatmentSilent treatment Leaving victim out Leaving victim out

of activitiesof activities

Hitting Hitting KickingKicking Writing nasty notes Writing nasty notes Forcing victim to Forcing victim to

do things against do things against their willtheir will

BULLYING VIDEOBULLYING VIDEO

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QLJcKlMVhzE&feature=related

Why do people bully others?Why do people bully others?

See it as a way of becoming popularSee it as a way of becoming popular Makes them look toughMakes them look tough To attract attentionTo attract attention Bully is jealous of victimBully is jealous of victim Being bullied themselvesBeing bullied themselves Many do not understand the severity Many do not understand the severity

of their actionsof their actions

Why are people bullied?Why are people bullied?

No particular reasonNo particular reason They are different They are different Look weak or shyLook weak or shy Previously unresolved conflictPreviously unresolved conflict

Health effectsHealth effects

Physical effects: Physical effects: permanent, permanent, temporary or debilitatingtemporary or debilitating

Psychological effects: Psychological effects: feeling lonely, feeling lonely, sad, frustrated, intimidated, insecure sad, frustrated, intimidated, insecure or unsafe or unsafe

Are you a bully?Are you a bully?

A Show of Hands\

How many of you have bullied How many of you have bullied someone?someone?

How many of you have witnessed a How many of you have witnessed a bullying situation?bullying situation?

How many of you took action to resolve How many of you took action to resolve the bullying situation?the bullying situation?

BULLYING VIDEOBULLYING VIDEO

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E1LG9NymhTE&feature=related

What can you do if you are What can you do if you are being bullied?being bullied?

Speak to a trusted adultSpeak to a trusted adult Ask for help from friendsAsk for help from friends Be assertive, not aggressiveBe assertive, not aggressive AvoidanceAvoidance

What can you do if you see What can you do if you see someone else being bullied?someone else being bullied?

Always try to stop itAlways try to stop it If you do nothing, you are saying “it is If you do nothing, you are saying “it is

okay with me.” okay with me.” EnablingEnabling Show the bully you think what he is Show the bully you think what he is

doing is stupid and meandoing is stupid and mean Help the victim speak to a trusted Help the victim speak to a trusted

adultadult

Exclusion from activitiesExclusion from activities

Children can not be allowed to Children can not be allowed to systematically exclude otherssystematically exclude others

““No one wants to play with him!” No one wants to play with him!” ““Don’t be her friend!”Don’t be her friend!” ““No one play with Noah!” No one play with Noah!” A child has the right to play with or not A child has the right to play with or not

to play with another child or groupto play with another child or group

Bullying can be like sexual Bullying can be like sexual harassmentharassment

It is done by someone with more It is done by someone with more power or social support to someone power or social support to someone with lesswith less

Often includes the abuser blaming Often includes the abuser blaming the target for the abusethe target for the abuse

Often it leads to the target blaming Often it leads to the target blaming him/herself for the abusehim/herself for the abuse

Bullies need to learnBullies need to learn

Acknowledge their own actionsAcknowledge their own actions Acknowledge the results of their Acknowledge the results of their

actions on themselves and othersactions on themselves and others Change their actions Change their actions Find alternatives to satisfying needs Find alternatives to satisfying needs Develop guilt – “ I hurt someone.”Develop guilt – “ I hurt someone.” Develop trustDevelop trust

Cyber BullyingCyber Bullying

Sending harassing or threatening Sending harassing or threatening emails, instant messages, posting emails, instant messages, posting information on social networks, using information on social networks, using bulletin boards, blogs etc.bulletin boards, blogs etc.

BULLYING VIDEOBULLYING VIDEO

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W1g9RV9OKhghttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W1g9RV9OKhg

Are you a bully?Are you a bully?

Recall a incident where you bullied Recall a incident where you bullied

someone elsesomeone else

Why did you do it?Why did you do it?

How were you feeling during the How were you feeling during the situation? Right after?situation? Right after?