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Consumed By Lack Of Consumption

For somebody who is suf fer ing from an eat ing dissorder and has not yet seeked medical help but want to be cured of the dissorder, this book provides a way out . I t contains medical information along with genuine quotes and poems of fe l low suf ferer s . Hopful ly with these you wil l be able to relate and real ise that you are not the f ir s t and are def inat ly not on your own. The journal is a method of recover y that is proven to work , i t is a release for al l your feel ings and thoughts , by shar ing these with a close fr iend i t of f loads hal f the problem. Let your fr iend in and let her replace your eat ing dissorder. I t is a long process but see i t through to the end, and be proud of yourself for each s tep you make towards recover y.

Who and what is this book for

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Who and what is this book for

For somebody who feels their fr iend is in a loosing battle with an eating dissorder. This book will provide an insight into their wor ld and how they see life . Sometimes it is harder for fr iends or relatives than it is for the sufferer themselves as sufferers are often oblivious to the fact they are changing as a person as well as physically. By being strong, suppor tive and persistant with the journal you can help your fr iend through some of the toughest months they may ever experience and by doing so you will not only not loose your fr iend but your fr iendship will become stronger and a life long bond will form. You know whos best interests you have at hear t, but they often dont see that, so it will be tough, Be strong and never give up, your fr iend is stil l your fr iend underneath it all .

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Dedicated to anybody with a close fr iend who has fallen victim to an eating dissorder and are finding it difficult to break free . Stick with them.

And to anybody suffer ing from an eating dissorder with the ambition of getting better, Never Give up tr ying.

You and your friend

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This side of the diary aims to help girls realise that they are not alone, there is an abundance

of medical help out there and just as important there is thousands of people haven gone and

are still going through the process of recovering from an eating dissorder.

For the friends of ed victims it gives an insight to how these girls really feel and that your

friends symptoms and feelings are not out of the ordinary for a sufferer of an ed. It gives them

an understanding of what the illness entails and how one becomes addicted to an ed, It

also gives an idea of how their friend may be struggling and how to help.This side also helps

victims because it can be hard to describe and explain to friends their situation and even

though the material here is not personal to you it is a good base and will hopefully help you

express and describe your dissorder.

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How to use this bookFlick through It Read It Flip It Do It

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then really listen to them.

People with anorexia nervosa are often perfectionists, who are overly critical of themselves. Anorexics also tend to socially isolate themselves,

and to avoid conflict when possible.

Have you heard?

Most likley both of you have heard most of these songs, but have you really heard them? All of them are about eating dissorders, or have references to eating dissorders or addictions. Listen to Them

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The dictionary is the one place where success comes before work .. . In opening this book you have started a journey that will not be easy in any way...

The aim of this is to help all create a healthier, happier life with peace of mind.

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in slow motionLike a bullet to the brain

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Perfection

Sometimes... Most of the time...Nearly always...It’s self control; One thing that I can say I have Totally in my grasp.

Who said that no one’s perfect... They’re wrong.

I see others, thin, small... Perfect.Societies emphasis that thin is...Perfect... rends me to the bone.I wish that I was Perfect...Able to uphold every set of Expectations Set upon me.

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Every question they ask,Every meal I convieniently ‘miss’;They all put me one step closerTo perfection.To what I am expected to be,Trying to uphold expectationsWhich I now see as a way of life to me.

Am I hungry? No; I. am. satisfied.I just control it,Making my way towards Perfection.When I look in the mirror, I see something I loathe to behold.How could one bear to look at me?

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Social pressure , psychology, or serotonin?

A single cause for anorexia ner vosa has not been discovered. While some researchers believe social pressures affect an anorexic’s body image, others believe psychological disorders or physical problems (such as serotonin imbalances) may be to blame.

Here are the factors thought to be responsible for the eating disorder: Body Image and Social Pressure:public opinion and social pressure has been considered as a possible cause for some time. Western cultures equate thinness with an ideal body image. Thinness and low body weight is equated with beauty and success. Overweight or obese individuals are equated with ugliness, a lack of success, and an implied lack of self-control.

The social vision of the “perfect” body is simply not attainable for most. Simple biology prevents the average American woman, who weighs 140 lbs and stands 5’4” tall from conforming to a body image idealized by fashion models who stand 5’11” tall and weigh only 117 lbs. (it’s worth noting that fashion models, under pressure to conform to this ideal body image, are at higher than normal risk of anorexia nervosa and other E.D).

The conflict between actual and desired body image is thought to trigger anorexia in some people. Teenagers are especially vulnerable to social and peer pressure, which may explain why peak rates of anorexia occur in the teen years. According to statistics from the National E.D Association, by the time they reach college, 92 percent of young women have tried to control weight through dieting, and 22 percent “often” or “always” diet.

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What causes anorexia?

While there is no question that social pressure and idealized body image plays a role in anorexia nervosa, alone it does not cause the eating disorder. The majority exposed to the social message of the “ideal body” do not develop anorexia nervosa. Nor does every woman unhappy with her body image become anorexic. Social pressure and idea of perfection may be a trigger for anorexia, but some other underlying problem must be present for this to occur.

Psychologically, certain personality traits increase the risk of anorexia. People with anorexia nervosa can often have low self-esteem, and suffer from feelings of insufficiency. They may have rigid thought patterns, and have an almost compulsive need to control their lives. Anorexics may appear as effective people going all-out in all areas of their lives, constantly striving to overachieve in careers, sports, or schoolwork and in particular, weight loss.

People with anorexia nervosa are often perfectionists, who are overly critical of themselves. Anorexics also tend to socially isolate themselves, and to avoid conflict when possible.

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Anorexia is undefinable, the definition always changes for each individual and unique case, only the symptoms are the common factors. Thats probably why its so hard for other people to understand, also you cant fix it like you fix a broken leg, theres no medical treatment or exact procedure that will cure any two people the same.

Well, its. . . .

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Anorexia, or any eating disorders are NOT diet plans for the slightly more desparate. They are illnesses, just like cancer or lung disease. Although on the surface, the pain may seem self-inflicted, nobody makes themself anorexic. These things happen through circumstance and life events.

It generally doesn’t happen suddenly, often a victim (yes, victim) will just sink deeper and deeper into the obsession with calories, food, and immense fear of gaining weight.

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I look in the mirror,

And what do I see?

Something terrible,

Staring back at me.

A fat, ugly girl with a bruised knee

I wish I could see the perfect girl I want to be

Nobody can tell of my disease

Only me and my soul that pleas

Perfection is my goal

Nothing will stop me not even my soul

I look in the mirror again and again

And I still see fat all over my skin

I wish and I pray

That maybe some day

I might be the pretty girl

I saw on TV with beautiful curls

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fears gaining weightwon’t eat in front of others

weighs food and counts calorieshas dry skin and thinning hair and brittle nails

acts moody or depresseddoesn’t socialize

has absent or irregular periodsfeels cold frequently

has difficulty concentratingtakes pills to urinate or have a bowel movement (BM)

doesn’t eat or follow a strict dietconstantly exercises

moves food around the plate; doesn’t eat ittalks about weight and food all the time

adopts rigid meal or eating ritualsfeels fatigued or dizzy

has a flat mood, or lack of emotionwears baggy clothes to hide appearances

The power of ED’sGirls with anorexia can be extremely thin. They often hide themselves in baggy clothes. Girls with anorexia are unreasonably obsessed about losing weight. All they may be talking about are about dieting and shedding off pounds. There is more to that with girls with anorexia. Girls with anorexia have a distorted perception of reality.

To them, losing weight is everything. This perception has to do with today’s society’s standard of beauty. Celebrities have set the trend for it. The more skinny a woman is, the more attractive she is. Or so it seems. And so the public is inclined to adhere with this standard of beauty.

Beauty has so much to do with social acceptance. Unknowing girls often associate social acceptance and self-esteem with appearance. A healthy weight may become loathsome to unwitting girls. This may lead to developing an eating disorder.

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This eating disorder can be in the form of anorexia. A large number of girls in the United States have fallen prey to anorexia. Girls with anorexia have a distorted image of their bodies. They think they are overweight when in fact they are not. This erroneous psychological belief may have been instilled by the modern society.

It is where being thin means being beautiful, that being fat and overweight means being ugly. Girls with anorexia are compelled to adhere with today’s standard of beauty. They become obsessed with the idea that they will become unpopular if they do otherwise.

So girls with anorexia begin to do everything within their capacity to lose weight as much as they can. This obsession of girls with anorexia begins to cloud their vision. They see themselves as overweight even if they are in fact thin. Girls with anorexia do all to lose more weight.

They are happy as they think it is a good thing. They don’t realize there can be grave health repercussions for many years with this condition. Girls naively believe they are doing a good thing when they are putting themselves to peril.

Girls with this condidtion are in dire need of professional help. Often they would not acknowledge it which is why initiative from friends and family is absolutly necessary.

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Addicted to star vation

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I’ll run,run

As fast as i can

So you can’t add to me

Little gingerbread man

The nibble on your arm

Was a moment of sin

Which is why i didn’t hesitate

Throw the rest of you in the bin

Because of that little bite

I won’t eat anything for days

I’l do an extra mile of jogging

Until i’m happy on the scales

But that will never happen

All my bones already show

But i just can’t stop myself

Though i’m a size 0

Little gingerbread man

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Starvation, purging, and over exercising

Looking at body types, and over analyzing

True beauty equals bones and skin

It’s beyond the normal perception of “thin”

People may say it’s not sane

To cause myself so much pain

Just to lose a few pounds

It’s more addicting than it sounds

Stomach constantly grumbles

Thoughts always jumbled

Bones aren’t visible yet

But purging is no sweat

My body has only me to blame

Makes me wear the fat as shame

It will all change when I’m thin

When I fight hunger- and win.

I’ll run,run

As fast as i can

So you can’t add to me

Little gingerbread man

The nibble on your arm

Was a moment of sin

Which is why i didn’t hesitate

Throw the rest of you in the bin

Because of that little bite

I won’t eat anything for days

I’l do an extra mile of jogging

Until i’m happy on the scales

But that will never happen

All my bones already show

But i just can’t stop myself

Though i’m a size 0

Fighting hunger

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Compulsive Overeaters: Those that are compulsive overeaters demonstrate uncontrollable binge eating without weight control and see that as normal behavior. They become addicted to food and lose control over the amount of food they eat. Overeaters are moderately to severely obese and the average is 60% overweight. Unlike bulimics (who “do” something about the food they consumed), compulsive overeaters believe what they are doing is normal.

Anorexia Nervosa: It is defined by an intense fear of gaining weight. Behaviors include excessive weighing oneself, excessive measuring of body parts, and consistantly using a mirror to check body size. One’s self-esteem is dependent on body shape and weight.

Bulimia Nervosa: Also known as binge eating, bulimia is another type of food addiction that is used to prevent weight gain. Sufferers become ashamed of their eating behavior and try to hide symptoms through rapid consumption of food. They will until they become too full (painfully so) or stop if they are intruded upon. 80-90% of bulimics will make themselves vomit. Other behaviors include using laxatives, fasting and excessive exercise.

The addiction

Food addiction is a disorder pertaining to preoccupation of food, the anticipation of pleasure of eating and simply the availability of food. It involves a loss of self-control over food or depriving oneself of food and a preoccupation with body weight and image. There are 3 types of food addiction.

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Such mysteries cry out for a biological explanation. Researchers are probing the brains of anorexics painting a new picture of anorexia as a multifaceted mental illness whose effects extend beyond appetite. The illness is accompanied by disturbances in the brain’s reward circuitry that may lead to a general inability to feel delight from life’s pleasures, be they food, sex or winning the lottery. The ailment shares characteristics with drug addiction, the drug in this case being deprivation itself. The study of anorexia, therefore, may yield insights into brain mechanisms for producing pleasure and how something as unpalatable as starvation or asceticism might, give rise to a sense of hedonism. individuals may come to associate a lack of food with reward. In this way, the person could become addicted to hunger itself.

Cultural cues cannot easily explain why the afflicted, who are shockingly skinny, misperceive themselves as fat. Girls say they feel more energetic and alert when starving: starvation boosts their metabolic rate, in contrast to the slowing of metabolism that occurs in people during a fast.

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You can rarley just ‘grow out of anorexia’. Once the illness takes hold, people with anorexia are often in such a deep state of denial about the amount of weight and the physical and psychological sffects, and are so afraid of gaining even a pound in weight, they are terrified of seeking treaetment. However left untreated, anorexia can continue to dominate lives indefinatly, ive been lucky with the treatment i recieved but iv seen first hand girls who let it consume their lives and suffer for years without treatment

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Size 2Mental decay

Don’t let me go,You know that you need me…

I’ve caused all your weight loss, Don’t you agree?

That’s only because,You eat things you should not.You last the whole day, But then eat a great lot!

All that weight lost,

Just returns when I eat,

So forget it Mia,

You’re just a big cheat!

My therapist says,

It’s the fact I don’t eat,

That makes me binge and throw up,

And then weep at your feet

Stop being stupid!You’re not strong enough!You bring it on yourself…When you’re doing it tough.

Mia, I’m just tired,

Of feeling so down,

Of looking in the mirror,

With only a frown

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Myconstantdebate

Stop being stupid!You’re not strong enough!You bring it on yourself…When you’re doing it tough.

Exactly, that’s why,You won’t let me go.If you lose weight, get thinner,You’ll be happy, you know

Lighter or not,

I still feel depressed.

It’s exhausting,

Trying so hard to impress…

Your mum…? I know,She’s a tough nut to break,But stay true to me,And her love she won’t fake

And what of my school work?

I already compromise that!

Now I’m losing my social life,

All because I’m fat!

You don’t even need them,To lead a life, long and thinIt’s all a small price to pay, To be but bone and skin.

Mia, you’re right,

I let you down, I’m sorry…

But with you my loyalty remains,

Of that, you need not worry…

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Edema gives the victim a false impression that he/she is gaining weight. Upon noticing the swelling the victim becomes frightened that she is gaining weight and further restricts her food intake. Thus bloating and again less food is given to the body.The intellect is the last to go. Victims often accomplish extraordinary feats while on the verge of physical collapse.

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In its desperation for nutrition, the body begins to cannibalize itself. First the protective fat cushions around the heart and kidneys disappear. Then the protein structure of the muscles and internal organs is immobilized for nutrition ( just as the calcium is taken from the bones.) The body eventually deteriorates and wastes and eats itself away.

The deadly effects

Depression is a term often used to describe a short-term mood when one “feels blue” or down. Nearly everyone experiences these temporary feelings of depression at one time or another during their lifetime. Clinical depression, however, is a psychiatric disorder defined as a “pervasive low mood with loss of interest in normal activities and a diminished ability to experience pleasure.” People often describe depression as feeling like walking in mud, being in a constant fog or like a black curtain covering them. Clinical depression varies widely and can happen once in a lifetime, have multiple recurrences, last for a few months or be a life-long disorder. Symptoms of depression vary but always include change in mood and usually a feeling of deep sadness.

Anxiety is a physiological state that creates feelings of extreme fear, worry or apprehension. It’s a normal emotion and it plays a very important function in relation to personal survival. An anxiety attack is often accompanied by physical symptoms such as heart palpitations, chest pains, shortness of breath, nausea, lightheadedness, feelings of smothering, shaking or trembling. They often feel they are losing control and fear they are “going crazy.” It may cause the person to avoid certain social situations out of fear they will have a panic attack, with this they will feel smoothered, feel they cant breathe and they fear they will pass out and die. Most people who experience anxiety attacks have a “safe place” or “safe person” whom they feel will save them if they panic. Anxiety disorder is a term used to describe several different forms of abnormal fears, anxiety and phobias.

Suicide is a mental health concern and is associated with factors such as difficulty coping with depression or a feeling of inescapable suffering due to other mental disorders or life pressures. A person may feel overwhelmed. Nearly half of all suicides are preceded by an attempt that does not end in death and is often a “cry for help” or a wish to escape - rather than a genuine intent to die. Those with a history of suicide attempts are 23 more times likely to eventually end their own lives than those without any attempts. Women attempt suicide more frequently than men, although men are 4 times more likely to die from their first attempt. Relatives of people who comit suicide often blame themselves or become extremely angry because they see the act as selfish. However, when people are suicidal, they often mistakenly believe that they are doing their friends and relatives a favor by removing themselves from the world.

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Its the secrecy that gives it all the power...

Your worst nightmare would be for all your friends to know, yet sharing this secret creates a special bond, if you can share it with your closest of friends it makes that relationship stronger, until you reject their help that is!You want an outlet to share the load but just dont want them to do anything about it.... then this relationship starts to crumble as your friend gets frustrated at constant rejections and a lack of understanding as to why you do this to yourself.... Eventually your left all alone.

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Its the lonelyness and isolation from all those you loved and cared for that triggers the depression... and the more you feel this the more you think its because your not thin enough... If you were skinner... they would love you again...

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Share your secret...

Size 1Locked in and locked out

Size 1

As she models her clothes her mother states

“You’re putting on a little weight”

When she looks in the mirror she cant debate

So she decides to limit what she puts on her plate

She cuts out certain foods and restricts the rest

All in her ambition to be the best

It doesn’t take long before she’s obsessed

And in her mind the disorder infests

She curls up in pain on her bed

As her body cries out to be fed

But she has to obey the voice in her head

“All of this fat you must shed”

She whispers desperately “Save me, please.”

As she falls once again to her bruised knees

She’s lost all control to this disease

She’s fading fast and no one sees

Distor tion

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She desperately fights for just a little control

She wants a perfect body and a perfect soul

The effects of this disease are taking a toll

As lower and lower she sets her goal

Seven years later she’s struggling still

Still no dreams have been fullfilled

She’s tired of this disease, of being ill

To fight for life, she’s lost all will

Her weight drops to a mere sixty-five pounds

But still she can’t see the loss so profound

In this disorders chains she is bound

There’s no way out, she’s hit the ground

She grows weaker day by day

Her heart is failing, she’s in a state of decay

With her last breath she whispers a pray

As her body dies and spirit fades awayz

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When you realize that someone you love may be struggling with anorexia nervosa or bulimia nervosa, naturally you want to know more about it. And because you care, you also want to understand what they are experiencing and be as supportive as you can throughout their recovery.

You may already know that anorexia and bulimia are complex and confusing illnesses. Now that you are past the initial shock of discovery, you may be experiencing feelings of anxiety, guilt, anger, and frustration-all understandable reactions. Seeing a loved one suffer from an eating disorder is very frightening and trying.

When singer Karen Carpenter died of anorexia in 1985, it was at a time when many doctors lacked the awareness and education needed to diagnose and treat victims of eating disorders. Today we know much more about these illnesses, what causes them, how to recognize the symptoms earlier, and the steps required for recovery.

How to see

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First, understand that the illness did not develop overnight, and that recovery will not happen overnight. It will take an initial six months of treatment and a further year for complete recovery. But also know there is hope. Recovery is attainable and it is up to you to wheather you attain it.

Even though you may find it difficult to understand, your loved one finds security in their eating disorder. To its victims, the illness is a powerful, though misguided, coping mechanism. But with correct treatment, enough time, and lots of love, you can look forward with hope to a day when your loved one

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will be able to break the stranglehold of this illness. You can play a critically important role in the recovery process. Your knowledge-based, appropriate actions can be a tremendous source of strength and comfort to your loved one. Although at times it may seem like they dont want help they really need you.

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I hate being around others because they just don’t understand. My family know but just don’t say anything. I think they just want to avoid a fight. My friends don’t understand and have stopped talking to me. People that don’t have it, don’t understand that it is a disease and it is something that just consumes you and you can’t control it.

We dont understand exactly but were trying to relate and be as supportive as we can, but we feel she doesnt want us to understand because she is afraid we will try treat the dissorder and make her stop and she doesnt want that.

Hearing both sides

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Just because I’m losing doesn’t mean I’m lost-Coldplay

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Bulimia, you are:

A thief-

You robbed me of decent relationships with my friends, family, and anyone else

who could hope to get close. You stole time that I could have used studying, being

happy, or doing anything that WASN’T destroying my body. You wasted countless

dollars of my money on binge food that only made me feel worse about myself.

I’m still trying to make up for all that you’ve taken from me.

A liar-

You told me that if I just kept going, kept losing, that if I got to that weight, I would

be happy. Well, I’ve been there and back and it wasn’t the dream you made it out

to be. You told me that my friends were using me and talking behind my back, when

really, you kept me so tied up in your games that I saw them as little as possible. You

told me that if I wanted to be anything in life, I just had to listen to you. Well, I’m

right back where I started, only now I’m picking up the pieces you left in your wake.

A murderer-

You killed my spirit, my mind, and my dreams. You’ve left my body battered and scarred

and murdered any chance I could have had for a normal five years of high school. You

tore the last years of my life to shreds, and now it’s time for you to get out of my life.

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The answer-

to anything that goes wrong in my life.

The control I so desperately needed.

You are NOT my friend. And, most importantly..

you are NOT me.

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You are not:

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is the fir st step towards Most people with an ED will have considered treatment, researched and studyed the treatment process and so will know exactly how to go about recieving treatment. All they require is the state of mind to want it. Treatment for anorexia usually begins with addressing the medical problems that are present. This often requires an inpatient hospital stay due to the seriousness of the problems.

Wanting

recieving

Treatment is essential, about 20% of people with anorexia die from the disorder. Even with treatment, only about 60% make a full recovery. Treatment is a lengthy process, with the initial phase of treatment taking about three to six months of intensive therapy and follow-up taking a year or longer.

After the patient is medically stable, anxiety depression and anorexia symptoms can begin to be addressed. This can require inpatient hospitalization in a psychiatric hospital that specializes in eating disorders. A combination of education and psychotherapy are used to treat the anxiety depression and anorexia symptoms.

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I feel so confused and scared. I want it all to go away, but I cant get it off my mind. It’s like I’m in a nightmare and can not wake up. I see all of these people that have died of this and think “Oh this is never going to kill me”, but it easily can. But I WILL NOT let this ED take my life. I am not the same as all the other girls who have

lost to this. I won’t be.

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Ed, thank you. You have shown me the light., enabled me to see what I do not want for the rest of my life, taught me more about myself then anyone else, taught me to play the game. And these past five years, you’ve been winning. But the road is ending. Run while you can, because I am comming at you full force. Stronger, more determined than ever.

These past few years of my life Ed, have not been mine. They have been just yours. You’ve taken everything from me and I want you to know that though you still have me in your grasp, you should watch out. Because my power, courage, and strength are soon going to match to my hopes. I will become separate from you. For real this time.

I know I will get better, I have to. But what scares me is that I can’t picture my life with out this because my ED is all I’ve known for so long. It is overwelming to have to deal with this everyday.I’m tired, and weiry, and my knees are about to give out. All I want to do is give up. BUT I WIIL NOT. I will not be just another name on a memorial website. I will not crumble under the grip of this. I will not die because of an eating disorder. I AM DIFFERENT. I AM BEAUTIFUL. I AM STRONG!!!

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Acknowledgments

I would also lke to thank all the girls I interviewed, they helpd me along the way so much with information design, and sharing personal information, a hard thing to do and to these brave girls I thank you endlessly. As aswell as everything else, you were my inspiration.

I would like to thank all the sources I researched from and to those who sent on information in abundance and so willingly helped.

To all the writers that gave me material for the book you are the real creators and owners of this book.

I would especially like to thank my model who volunteered her body to portray such uncomplimentary images associated with such a controversial dissorder. Thank you Alice.

To lecturers who played their part I thank you for your guidance without whose help I could not have finished this project

I would like to thank Dr John A.Griffin, MB, MR, C Psych, LM, for his help and advice in providing valuable information in order to keep this diary as accurate and functional as possible.

I would like to thank all my friends that had to listen to me for the duration of making this book, for just being such good supportive friends.

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Side two, Write

Consumed By Lack Of Consumption

1 Be Honest Be PreciseBe Honest

Day

wet and

forget

Day

2DayShare this diary every day

wet and

forget

Day

3DaySeal each page at the end of every day

wet and

forget

Day

4DayLog Absolutly Everything

wet and

forget

Day

5DayInclude Fasts Purges, Binges and use of Laxitaves

wet and

forget

Day

6DayBe HonestBe PreciseBe Honest

wet and

forget

Day

7DayMost important include lack of purging, binges, fasting and use of laxatives

wet and

forget

Day

8DayWrite about how you resisted the temptation to purge or binge

wet and

forget

Day

9DayExpress All Emotions

wet and

forget

Day

10DayAttacth anything that had an impact on you that day.

wet and

forget

Day

11DayExpress yourself through Poetry or Song Lyrics

wet and

forget

Day

12DayBe HonestBe PersistantBe Honest

wet and

forget

Day

13DayNever look back

wet and

forget

Day

14DayWrite Every Single Day

wet and

forget

Day

15DayTry write at the same time each day

wet and

forget

Day

16DayInclude positive and negative interactions with friends or family

wet and

forget

Day

17DayWrite about goals & aspirations, always keep them in mind

wet and

forget

Day

18DayInclude people that influence you, good or bad

wet and

forget

Day

19DayNote all achievments, big and small

wet and

forget

Day

20DayBe HonestBe PersistantBe Honest

wet and

forget

Day

21DayDiscuss the entry at time of sharing and never again

wet and

forget

Day

22DayWrite how you feel about this diary

wet and

forget

Day

23DayLog why you want to break from your ED

wet and

forget

Day

24DayInclude every thing you eat, drink or chew

wet and

forget

Day

25DayInclude photographs of you, friends, role models, magazines etc.

wet and

forget

Day

26Daywrite about how you think about your ED less and less

wet and

forget

Day

27DayNever miss a day

wet and

forget

Day

28DayLog every emotion from the rollercoaster of that day

wet and

forget

Day

29DayBe HonestBe PersistantBe Honest

wet and

forget

Day

30DayInclude one great thing about you every day.

wet and

forget

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