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I F A P A C l a s s e s Thurs., Sept. 17

6pm-8pm

SHELDON - It's Not About You: Invisible

Suitcase

Sat., Sept. 19

9am-12:15pm

ANKENY - Building Relationships

Through Play

Sat., Sept. 19

1:30pm-4:45pm

ANKENY - But What Does Therapy Do?

Demystifying the Therapy Process

Sat., Sept. 19

1:30pm-4:45pm

COUNCIL BLUFFS - When Old

Parenting Strategies Don't Work!

Sat., Sept. 19

8am-12:15pm

DAVENPORT - CPR & First Aid

Cost - $40

Sat., Sept. 19

1:30pm-4:45pm

DAVENPORT - Mandatory Child Abuse

Reporter Training

Sat., Sept. 19

9am-4:30pm

FORT DODGE - Domestic Minor Sex

Trafficking & Its Impact on Foster Kids

Sat., Sept. 19

9am-4:30pm

SIOUX CITY - Utilizing the Nurtured Heart

Approach with Challenging Behaviors

Thurs., Sept. 24

6:30pm-8:30pm

ESSEX - It's Not About You: Invisible

Suitcase

Thurs., Sept. 24

6pm-8pm

SPENCER - It's Not About You: Invisible

Suitcase

Sat., Sept. 26

9am-4:30pm

ANKENY - Get Me Off This Roller

Coaster: Coping Skills for Emotional

Intensity Issues

Sat., Sept. 26

9am-12:15pm

CEDAR RAPIDS - How to Talk So

Everyone Will Listen

Sat., Sept. 26

1:30pm-4:45pm

CEDAR RAPIDS - Working Through

Anger

Sat., Sept. 26

9am-4:30pm

COUNCIL BLUFFS - Working with Birth

Families

Sat., Sept. 26

9am-12:15pm

MARSHALLTOWN - Alakazam! Does It

Take Magic to Create a Healthy, Positive

Attachment with Foster & Adoptive

Children? Was previously scheduled as:

Decoding the Mystery of ADHD

Sat., Sept. 26

1:30pm-4:45pm

MARSHALLTOWN - Worrywarts & How

You Can Help Them: Anxiety in Children &

Teens CLASS CANCELLED

Sat., Sept. 26

9am-12:15pm

SIOUX CITY - How to Organize Time &

Paperwork While Raising Kids

Sat., Sept. 26

1:30pm-4:45pm

SIOUX CITY - A Guide to Childhood

Trauma in Kids with Special Needs

To Register: 800-277-8145 or REGISTER HERE

Learning to Let Go :

Coping with Reunification Anxiety

From the moment a child enters your home, the fear of

reunification can also move in. How will you say

goodbye? Will the child be returning to a safe and

stable environment? How will the other kids in your care

react when this child leaves?

The first goal of foster care is often reunification. And,

while you may have known that this was the goal from

the start, that doesn’t mean that, when the time comes

to say goodbye, anxiety can’t happen. Reunification

anxiety can happen to anyone, but understanding what

to do in certain situations may help you cope with some

of those feelings. CONTINUE READING

Iowa College Aid Success StoryIowa College Aid Success Story

Randie Camp is a recipient of the

All Iowa Opportunity Foster Care

Grant and an ETV Grant recipient

who has proven that statistics

don’t always tell the full story

when it comes to education.

After entering the foster care

system in 3rd grade, Randie

finished high school early before

continuing on to Iowa State

University to complete both her

bachelor’s and master’s degrees.

As she embarks on her doctoral studies at ISU, Camp sat

down to talk about overcoming the challenges that lead

to only 3% of foster youth completing their bachelor’s

degree by age 26 and how she hopes to see more foster

youth take the next step beyond high school. This is the

first of a two-part series focusing on Camp’s story and the

work being done in Iowa to increase higher education

opportunities for foster youth. WATCH VIDEO

View the COLLEGE PLANNING section of IFAPA’s website for

information on the ETV and All Iowa Opportunity Foster Care Grant.

Randie Camp

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12 Things to Remember

WHEN YOUR CHILD GETS ANGRY

Written By: Dr Laura Markham

When our kids get angry, it pushes buttons for most of

us. We're not perfect, but we try to be loving

parents. Why is our child lashing out like this?

Many parents send an angry child to her room to "calm

down." After all, what else can we do? We certainly

can't reason with her when she's furious. It's no time to

teach lessons or ask for an apology. She needs to calm

down.

If we send him to his room, he will indeed calm down,

eventually. He'll also have gotten a clear message that

his anger is unacceptable, and that he's on his own

when it comes to managing his big scary feelings--we

don't know how to help him. He won't have worked

through whatever led to his anger. Instead, he'll have

stuffed the anger, so it's no longer under conscious

control, and will burst out again soon.

No wonder so many of us develop anger management

issues, whether that means we yell at our kids, throw

tantrums with our partner, or overeat to avoid

acknowledging angry feelings.

What can we do instead? We can help our kids learn to

manage their anger responsibly. That begins with

accepting anger -- without acting on it.

This is one of the most critical tasks of childhood--learning

to tolerate the wounds of everyday life without moving

into reactive anger. People who can do this are able to

resolve challenges more constructively. We call them

emotionally intelligent.

Kids learn emotional intelligence when we teach them

that all their feelings are okay, but they always have a

choice about how they act. How?

WHEN YOUR CHILD GETS ANGRY FOLLOW THESE 12 STEPS

"Sending children away to get control of their anger "Sending children away to get control of their anger

perpetuates the feeling of 'badness" inside them...perpetuates the feeling of 'badness" inside them...

Chances are they were already feeling not very Chances are they were already feeling not very

good about themselves before the outburst and the good about themselves before the outburst and the

isolation just serves to confirm in their own minds that isolation just serves to confirm in their own minds that

they were right." they were right." ---- Otto Weininger Otto Weininger

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Waiting Child

Spotlight

Madisen (age 12) is

a funny, helpful girl

who has been

blossoming this past

year. She enjoys

animals, coloring,

board games,

singing, and has

been getting more

and more into

reading books. She

loves experiencing

new things, and

looks forward to outdoor adventures

with her future family, especially parks,

drawing with sidewalk chalk, and

waterslides! Most importantly, Madisen

hopes for a family who thinks she is a

special person, will love her and be her

support system forever.

A two-parent or a single female parent

household with consistent structure and

routine would be ideal for Madisen. It

would also be best if Madisen were the

youngest or only child in the household,

as she gets along best with older

children she can look up to. Currently,

Madisen’s DHS worker will consider

families residing in Iowa and states

bordering Iowa in order to maintain

relationships with her relatives.

Madisen is a little girl who hasn’t had Madisen is a little girl who hasn’t had

many chances in her short life. many chances in her short life. She

deserves a loving family who will

accept her as their own—a family who

will stand by her forever. Will you be

Madisen’s forever family? LEARN MORE