counseling transcript

8/19/2019 counseling transcript

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Kate Bingle

CPS 510 – J. Mullen

Oswego State University

Novemer 15! "00#

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COUNS)*O+ ,o%ening- /i Bet Be2ore we get starte& to&ay! 34& ust li6e to in2orm you aout

a 2ew tings. 7irst o2 all! tis session is 2or a s'ool assignment an& it involves me 'riti8uing my

res%onses to you! um! an& ust to let you 6now! my %ro2essor is going to listen to tis ut no oneoter tan mysel2 or se will rea& or ear anyting. Um! unless you say anyting tat woul& lea&

me to elieve tat you migt arm yoursel2 or someone else! tis is stri'tly 'on2i&ential. Um!

now in te %ast! we4ve tal6e& aout your relationsi% wit 9ustin! so woul& you li6e to 'ontinueto tal6 aout tat or woul& you li6e to tal6 aout someting else: 3t4s totally u% to you! wenever

you4re rea&y;

1.1 C*3)N$ ,*augs.- Um! yea! 3 'oul& 'ontinue on tat! 3 guess. U! lately e4s een

annoying te e'6 out o2 me y getting onto a


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e'ome 'lose an& eA'lusive.

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".@ $is res%onse was e22e'tive e'ause it sows tat 3 un&erstoo& ow te in'ongruen'e

etween is a'tions an& is wor&s ma6e er 2eel! wi' is u%set. 3n oter wor&s! it sowe& ertat 3 am genuinely em%ateti' towar& er. $is is evi&en'e& in er neAt statement! werein se

agrees wit wat 34ve ust sai& ,


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F.1 C*3)N$ 3 tin6 tat4s wat it is. 3 also tin6 tat it4s e'ause e is! e4s een in %ast

relationsi%s an& e4s een engage& twi'e. /e4s een 'eate& on y tose girls! e4s een urt so

a&ly y tose girls tat 3 tin6 e4s ust a2rai& o2 me &oing tat to im also; an& 3 did on'e!an& 3 &i&n4t mean to. 3 a%ologiDe& an& ave trie& to sow im tat 34m not going to &o it again!

ut at te same time! 3 tin6 e4s always loo6ing 2or revenge on tat one situation.

F." COUNS)*O+ ?ou4re 2rustrate& e'ause even toug you &i& te eAa't ting tat e

was a2rai& o2 e'ause it4s a%%ene& to im e2ore! you4ve sown tat you4re sorry an& tat

you4re not going to &o it again! ut it seems tat e4s not a''e%ting tis.

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F.@ $is res%onse %rove& to e e22e'tive e'ause se agree& wit it an& 'ontinue& to givemore in2ormation ,


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was te real %rolem in er relationsi% wit 9ustin! an& 3 wante& to 6now more aout ow se

2elt aout tis. My res%onse allowe& er to %rovi&e tis in2ormation.

5.@' lternative +es%onse ?ou4re &isa%%ointe& tat 9ustin seems to e sus%i'ious o2 you an&

wants to get a'6 at you! wen you4& really li6e to wor6 to ma6e your relationsi% more mature!

serious! an& trusting.

#.1 C*3)N$ /e4s a'ting sus%i'ious o2 me! tere2ore! ma6ing me sus%i'ious o2 im! an& it

snowalls into tis ig


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G." COUNS)*O+ So you4re irritate& tat e &oesn4t sow you te su%%ort tat you eA%e't

an& &eserve an& tat you give to im.

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G.@ $is res%onse was e22e'tive e'ause se agree& wit it in er neAt statement ,


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stalemate o2 sorts. 3t4s ust; ut tat same time! my 2eelings are 'augt u% in im an& e says

tat e4s gonna e tere 2or me! so e stays! an& ten e says tat 3 annoy im e'ause e stays!

tat e s%en&s too mu' time wit me. 3 s%en& too mu' time wit im! tere2ore! e gets ti'6e&.,*augs.- 3 'an4t tal6 to im! 3 'an4t ave a 'onversation wit im e'ause e4ll see it! an& ten

e4ll e li6e!


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%revious statements tat were relevant! su' as 9ustin not 'onsoling er an&


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n& e says!


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2or it an& to sow er tat 34& een listening 'are2ully.

1@.@' lternative +es%onse ?ou4re almost a2rai& to enoy it wen tings are going well etween te two o2 you e'ause in te %ast! your relationsi% as gone &ownill sortly a2ter te

goo& %erio&s.

1F.1 C*3)N$ ?u%. $ey! li6e! we went out to &inner an& a movie one nigt. $e neAt nigt!

e was 'oo6ing &inner 2or some oter la&y an& 3 6new aout it. /e ma&e tese %lans rigt

&ire'tly in 2ront o2 me an& 3 was li6e!


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&oesn4t want to ear it! e &oesn4t want to see it! an& wants noting to &o wit it. 3 'an tal6 2or

ours! 3 'an tal6 until 34m lue in te 2a'e to im! ut e &oesn4t ave any in%ut as to wy e

&oes te tings e &oes. /e4s ust li6e!


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wen 3 nee&e& im! an& it ust wor6e& really well. n& now it4s li6e an ol& marriage. 3t4s really

getting to te %oint! li6e! we4re marrie& wit 'il&ren ut we &on4t ave 'il&ren an& we &on4t

ave te titles. 3t4s li6e owning a 'ar! ut you &on4t really own te 'ar4s title! it4s yours! ut it4snot.

COUNS)*O+ >ell! um! 34m sorry to en& it at tis %oint ut you &i& tell me tat you ave ana%%ointment to e at! an& 3 want you to e ale to e on time! so 3 tin6 we soul& en& tis 2or

now! an& o%e2ully we 'an %i'6 it u% again some oter time.

Summary

My greatest im%rovement is tat 3 2elt an& soun&e& mu' more relaAe& an& 'on2i&ent intis session tan in te 2irst one. *oo6ing a'6 on tis session! 3 realiDe tat 3 was not tin6ing

too mu' aout my own res%onses. 3 &i&n4t worry at all aout my statements soun&ing li6e

8uestions! an& 3 was very a%%y tat noting soun&e& li6e one. 3 was really engage& in listening

to er an& trying to 2eel wat se was 2eeling. 3 tin6 3 soun& a little too tentative at times! uttat will %roaly lessen wit %ra'ti'e! an& 3 migt e only one wo noti'es it. 3 am no longer

a2rai& to e wrong! an& it &i&n4t 2aDe me too mu' wen 3 was wrong a 'ou%le o2 times! mainly e'ause we a& a goo& ra%%ort an& 3 was 'on2i&ent tat se 2elt 'om2ortale enoug to 'orre't

me. 3 also noti'e& trougout te session tat 3 2re8uently mat'e& er o&y %osition! an& we a&

eA'ellent eye 'onta't te entire time. 3 tin6 my 2a'ial eA%ressions! tone an& %a'e o2 s%ea6ingwere relaAing an& 'om2ortale to er. ll o2 tis 2elt %retty natural to me tis time! so tat is a

maor im%rovement.

One ting 3 nee& to wor6 on is my in2orme& 'onsentLo%ening statement. 3t soun&e& li6e 3

was nervous or &i&n4t 6now wat 3 was &oing! wit all te


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tem a't li6e er6s= 3 so a&ly wante& to say tis to er to try to ma6e er 2eel etter! ut

oviously 3 6new etter an& el& o22. $is may not ave een wat se was tin6ing at all! ut

e'ause 3 ave a& %ersonal eA%erien'e wit it! tat4s were my min& went! an& tis in2luen'e&my res%onse. 3 also nee& to wor6 on my lo'6ing s6ills! as evi&en'e& y my interru%ting er at

tis %oint. 3 really wante& to um% in tere an& say wat 3 a& to say! an& 3 tougt se was

2inise&! ut it was really ust a sligt %ause. 3 2elt a& e'ause my interru%tion migt ave %revente& er 2rom saying someting im%ortant.

s %reviously state&! anoter ting 3 nee& to wor6 on is not ma6ing assum%tions. 7or

eAam%le! in lo'6 (#! 3 ma&e te assum%tion tat 9ustin mistreats Bet

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