YOU CAN BE A COUNSELOR

TO HELP YOUR NEAR & DEAR

Presented To You Through Slide Share

By Life Improvement Mind Engineering

(LIME)

Ganesh Ramachandran

BEFORE WE KNOW WHAT ‘S

COUNSELLING….

Let’s See How And Why People Differ From Each

Other !!

Why This Difference From Person To Person?

What Are The Causes?

Siddhas of Ancient India Say Conception of Child is Banned

In Certain Places

Please Understand

IN THICK FOREST

NEAR A WATER

FALL

CLOSE TO DESERT

SEA SHORE

NEAR MOUNTAINS

& CAVES

NEAR CREMATION

GROUND

Conception should not happen on these days & OCCASIONS

New Moon Day

MOURNING DAYs/ DEATH ANNIVERSARIES

WHEN EITHER OF THE PARTNERS ARE PHYSICALLY OR MENTALLY WEAK / DISTURBED

WHEN EITHER OF THE PARTNER IS SICK

WHEN THE STOMACH IS FULL WITH FOOD

WHEN THE BLADDER / BOWEL IS FULL

WHEN THE ROOM HOME IS NO PEOPLE LIVING IN IT AND WITHOUT ANY LIGHT IN THE ROOM

Parenting Starts Even With The

Unborn Child

Emotions of Mother, Sounds /Noise From

Outside And Environmental

Impact Affect The Unborn Child To A Very Great Extent

Our First Relationship Is

With Our Mother

Through The Emotion of Love & Care

Hard-Wired

Information

Soft-Wired

Information

Hard-Wired

Information

Tells Your SC Mind

How Your Body &

Mind Work In

Tandem with each

other – through non

verbal mode alone

Soft-Wired

Information Soft-Wired Information

tells Your SC Mind how

you personally interpret

your world at any given

time – in relation to

fulfilling your inner

strivings to both survive

and thrive – Verbal &

Non-verbal Mode

A Child’s Brain Is In One Of The Following Two Modes

Protective Mode

To Survive

Learning Mode To

Thrive

Development of A Child’s Mind Is Influenced In Every Stage of Its

Growth

Lose Self Confidence and Develop Dependence on others

Develop Anxiety And Restlessness demanding things to be done at once

Easily lose temper and shout for anything and everything

Easily picks up all sorts of bad habits especially that satisfies the mouth

Those children Are Prone To Mental Diseases at any stage of their life

Oral Fixation (tha; epiy kd tsHr;rpj; jil) may occur

Teach The Child With Love & Care On Toilet Habits – Never Compel Using

Authority And Force

When Controlled, Children Develop Tendency To Control Passing On Urine &

Stools Or Spend Much Time In Toilet Playing There

Later In Life They May Either Adopt Over Sanitation Or Remain Dirty &

Shabby

They Become Misers And Irresponsible In Life

From 3 To 6 Years – This Stage Exists In Children. Children Come To Know Their Gender – They Touch Their

Primary Sexual Parts And Feel Good

Phallic Stage

Male Child Gets Attached to Mother – Become Very Possessive And Not Allowing Father To Touch Mom – Oedipus Complex

For Male Child and Electra Complex For Female Child

Though There Is No Sexual Instinct, Children Know Gender Difference And Get Attached To Opposite Sex

Children Of This Age Watch Their Parents – We Must Be Very Careful

At This Stage

When We Don’t Give Freedom To Children To Make Physical Contacts With

Us As They Like, Serious Mental Reactions Will Happen Which Will Affect The Children When They Become

Youth

This is the Period Children Are Socialized – No Difference Between Male& Female

During Interaction

Children Compare & Feel Inferior/Superior Learn New Behavior & Habits, Peer Group

Influence

Ego, Self Esteem, Self Confidence Develop SEER Belief Sets In

Autism

What’s Is It

IMPORTANT TIPS - INFANTS

Close Proximity – Touch & Emotions – Sounds –

Body Gestures

Mother Feeding – Give Importance To Oral

Pleasure

Know Their Food & Sleep Habits As Well As Their

Bio Rhythm

IMPORTANT TIPS - BABIES

Give Required Moral & Physical

Support

Facilitate Easy Movements

Facilitate Learning Process

IMPORTANT TIPS - CHILDREN

Never Snatch Any Playthings From Children Even- though

They Are Dangerous To Them

Get Them Suitable & Sufficient Toys To Play With

IMPORTANT TIPS - CHILDREN

Encourage Outing & Lot Of Physical

Sports

Mistakes of Parents In Rearing Up Children End Up

In Wrong Attitude & Mentality In Grown Up Men

& Women

Right !! What’s

Counseling?

IT IS NOT JUST TALKING

IT IS NOT PACIFYING SOMEONE ON SOMETHING

IT IS NOT MAKING A COMPROMISE

IT IS NOT GIVING DRY ADVICES

IT IS UNDERSTANDING THE WOES OF AN INDIVIDUAL WITH

EMPATHY IN RIGHT PERSPECTIVE AND GIVING SUITABLE AND ACCEPTABLE

SUGGESTIONS

SUGGESTIONS

WHO CAN BE COUNSELLED?

PERSONS HAVING MENTAL CONFUSION

PERSONS HAVING STRAINED RELATIONSHIP

PERSONS WHO WANT TO GIVE UP BAD HABITS

PERSONS HAVING ILLOGICAL PREPOSITIONS

QUALITIES OF THE COUNSELLOR

GOOD OBSERVER

GOOD HUMAN BEING

HAVING GOOD ANALYTICAL MIND

GOOD PATIENT LISTENER

TYPES OF COUNSELLING

EMOTIONAL COUNSELLING

LOGICAL COUNSELLING

WHO SHOULD NOT BE CONSIDERED FOR COUNSELLING?

INSANE PERSONS

PERSONS HAVING LUNATIC PROBLEMS

PERSONS WHO ARE UNDER PSYCHIATRIC TREATMENT

PERSONS WHO ARE NOT READY FOR COUNSELLING

EVERY PERSON IS UNIQUE IN HIS/HER OWN

PERCEPTION

What is Mind, Where is it, What is

its Shape?

MIND IS NOTHING BUT COLLECTION OF

THOUGHTS

Your Subconscious Mind is 6000

times powerful than

your conscious

mind!!

Critical Filter at Conscious Level

Critical Filter at Sub Conscious Level

OUR PERSONALLITY IS BASED ON

THE CRITICAL FILTERS

PAST EXPERIENCE

TYPE AND QUALITY OF THOUGHTS

ID

EGO

SUPER EGO

Our Perception, Response &

Reaction Reveal Us To The World

EMOTIONS

OUR PERCEPTION IS MAINLY BASED ON OUR

CRITICAL FILTERS AND ON OUR OWN EXPERIENCE

NO SINGLE INCIDENT CAN EVOKE SAME RESPONSE

FROM ALL

You Know The Cockroach Story

On seeing A Cockroach, Different People React Differently !!

HUMAN BEHAVIOUR IS THUS

PROBABILISTIC AND NOT PREDICTABLE

WHAT ‘S MIND PROGRAMMING?

Makes us alive and Makes Us

Happy

BODY

CONSCIOUS MIND

SUBCONSCIOUS MIND

Conscious Mind Works As A Central Command Centre

BODY

CONSCIOUS MIND

SUB CONSCIOUS MIND BYPASSED

WEAK OUTPUT

By Passed

Inputs Directly

Received

BODY

CONSCIOUS MIND

SUBCONSCIOUS MIND

VISION

TASTE

HEARING

TOUCH

SMELL

Inputs Powerfully Enhanced

BODY

CONSCIOUS MIND

SUBCONSCIOUS MIND

VISION

TASTE

HEARING

TOUCH

SMELL

In Mind Programming, We Pass On the Inputs Consciously to the

Subconscious Mind

By Passed

Inputs Directly

Received

BODY

CONSCIOUS MIND

SUBCONSCIOUS MIND

VISION

TASTE

HEARING

TOUCH

SMELL

MENTAL PARADIGM

THOUGHT

IMAGE

EMOTION

ENERGY

EFFECT ON BODY

BODY SYNDROME

WILD SWING BETWEEN LIBIDO

AND MARTIDO

IMBALANCE BETWEEN

ANIMALISTIC INSTINCT AND

CULTURED MIND

First Counselling Session

It is advisable to know the problem of the Counselee from those who know him/her very well without the knowledge of

the Counselee PRIOR to the First Session

First Counselling Session contd..

Establish Perfect Rapport

Facilitate the Counselee Talk Freely

Establish Your Authority

First Counselling Session contd..

The Counselee Should Develop Faith on the Counselor

In case the Counselee wants to talk to you Privately send all others out

Assure the counselee Professional Ethics

We May Require More Than One

Session

IMPORTANT DON’Ts

Never Interrupt The Flow Of The Counselee

Never Indulge In Argument

Never Thrust Your Opinion Initially

IMPORTANT DON’Ts contd..

Never Ridicule, Condemn or Make Sarcastic Comments

Never Reveal To Anyone The Outcome of the session

Never Discourage The Counselee And Avoid Negative Words

WHEN YOU FAIL TO IMPRESS IN THE FIRST SESSION, I AM SORRY YOU WILL NOT BE SUCCESSFUL

IN YOUR EFFORTS

R GANESH FOUNDER LIFE IMPROVEMENT MIND ENGINEERING (LIME) CELL: 9442200231 EMAIL: lime.ganesh@gmail.com Web: www.rganesh.in