Date Like a Man By: Myreah Moore and Jodie Gould Group: The
Jets Kimberley Vicari Stephanie Vitale Onyeka Uzonwune FCST
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Do you get depressed every time a date turns out to be an AWFUL
ONE? Are you devastated when you don't get "the call" from a guy
you like? Do you constantly check your dates out for marriage
potential? Chances are you're taking dating way too seriously.
According to Myreah Moore -- "America's Dating Coach" -- women need
to start dating to HAVE FUN!!!!!, which is what men have been doing
for ages!
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Fatal Attraction Clip Fatal Attraction Clip Women can sometimes
be a little crazy when it comes to men.
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In this book, Moore says, dating is a lot like a science. And
with any scientific experiment, it's trial and error. In Date Like
a Man, we learn dating secrets from men (the masters of datingor so
she claims) This book is a mini personal training program that will
boost your dating prospects -- and increase your chances of finding
a soul mate. Clear, quirky, and empowering, Date Like a Man makes
the manhunt FUN -- the way it should be. Even if you think you're a
dating expert (which your probably not!!), you'll devour this
manual!!
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MenWomen Marriage Crazed UptightClingyRelaxed Have fun
Dating
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Dating should be fun! Dont stress so much about Dating THINK
LIKE A MAN Dont be so needy Dont date to get married! Dont make it
all about the man!! DATE LIKE A MAN -the new theories on surviving
and thriving in today's DATING world:
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pg. 14, If we find one thing wrong with another woman, if she
doesnt have the perfect nose, or shes not at the perfect weight, we
say, Shes not so hot! And were just as hard, or harder, on
ourselves. Men give each other more encouragement and support.
Their pal might weigh 250 pounds or be coyote ugly, and their
buddies will tell him hes a prize (whether they believe it or
not).
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DATA This chart shows some gender differences in the
relationship area between men and women. Women seem to be less
secure and dismissing when it comes to their attachment style.
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Moore used interviews as a way to collect her data. She
interviewed 200 NYC men and women and from their gathered data on
the gender differences in data. Moore seems to know what she is
talking about but she didnt go to school for or get her masters in
DATING, so her information lacks credibility. Another limitation to
her advice is the data was only based on people in NYC which doesnt
make it national.
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What we are comparing.. Gender Differences in Dating and
Relationships and Attachment. What the sexes want from dating and
relationships.
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Researchers found many gender differences in dating and
relationships. In the article, What Valentine Announcements Reveal
about the Romantic Emotions of Men and Women, romantic emotions of
men and women were investigated by analyzing the content of 300
Valentines Day announcements. The emotions studied were love,
praise, commitment, and fidelity, as expressed by dating and
married individuals. Women emphasized love and fidelity relatively
more than men did; men emphasized praise and commitment relatively
more than women did. Relationship status influenced the gender
differences; most interesting is that dating men expressed
commitment, but not fidelity. Social-cultural and evolutionary
perspectives are considered in the interpretation of the findings.
(Quintero Gonzalez & Koestner, 2006)
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This article does support Moores thoughts in her book. She
stresses how men and women want different things. Women want more
romance and men date for fun. Gonzalez & Koestner, state how
women emphasized love and fidelity relatively more than men did;
men emphasized praise and commitment relatively more than women
did.
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Article: Humor styles and relationship satisfaction in dating
couples: Perceived versus self-reported humor styles as predictors
of satisfaction. Authors: Cann, Arnie/ Davis, Heather B./ Zapata,
Christine L. This article discusses a study based on the role humor
has in relationships. The article is relevant to Date Like A Man
because throughout the book, author Myreah Moore discusses what
woman look for in men, and humor is mentioned. In an exercise done
by one of Myreahs clients, they had to make a list of wants
andneeds for a man. Out of 35 wants, Myreahs client wrote humorous
towards the top of her list at number 4!
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Quotes from the article A good sense of humor is identified as
a very highly desired quality in prospective romantic partners, and
both men and women appear to share this preference (Buss 1988) What
helps a romantic relationship last and remain satisfying over time?
In studies of couples who have long-term successful marriages,
humor has been consistently mentioned as one characteristic
partners believe has contributed to their continued satisfaction
(Carstensen, Gottman, and Levenson 1995; Lauer, Lauer, and Kerr
1990; Ziv 1988).
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This was definitely a cute, quirky book, but we are not sure
how accurate it is, especially in todays society. Women are
becoming more and more powerful as time goes on. I dont think we
necessarily fuss and obsess over dating as we used to. More and
more everyday we see women, getting college educations and more.
The data in this book is a little old and is somewhat unreliable.
Moore isnt a psychologist or doctor, so what makes her know more
than any one else on the topic??? For future researchers, there is
little information on gender differences in dating. Future research
should focus more on the specific differences in men and women and
their emotional attitudes towards dating and the opposite sex.
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Women have always turned to the experts for advice about love,
dating, and marriage. In High school we looked for love advice in
Seventeen Magazine. Now, and probably for awhile, it will be
Cosmopolitan and our friends. Well listen to the advice of
relationship gurus who may NOT KNOW ANYTHING, hoping that someday,
someone can explain the mystery of LOVE!! From this book and
others, I think it is safe to say usually the professionals are as
confused as we are. If the puzzle were ever solved, what would we
have to talk about with our friends?
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One thing we learned from this book, BE YOURSELF, if it is
meant to be its meant to be!!!!!
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Quintero Gonzalez, A., & Koestner, R. (2006). What
Valentine Announcements Reveal about the Romantic Emotions of Men
and Women. Sex Roles, 55(11-12), 767-773. doi:10.1007/s11199-006-
9130-z Cann, A., Davis, H. B., & Zapata, C. L. (2011). Humor
styles and relationship satisfaction in dating couples: Perceived
versus self- reported humor styles as predictors of satisfaction.
Humor: International Journal of Humor Research, 24(1), 1-0.
doi:10.1515/HUMR.2011.001 Kelly, K. & Levy, K. (2009). Sex
Differences in Jealousy: A Contribution From Attachment Theory.
Psychological Science.
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1) According to Moore, what shouldnt you do while beginning
your dating journey? a) Dont be so needy b) Dont date to get
married! c) Dont make dating a numbers game d) Dont make it all
about the man! e) ALL of the above ANSWER - E 2) According to
Moore, women are: a) Clingy b) Uptight c) Not marriage crazed d)
Both a & b ANSWER - D 3) What are the main points Moore
emphasized throughout, Date Like A Man? a) Dating should be fun! b)
Dont stress so much about Dating c) THINK LIKE A MAN!! d) ALL of
the above ANSWER- D