Dating Marriage and Spirituality

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Dating Marriage and

Spirituality

Rasaraj Das


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Dating : Socializing of potential lovers

who have mutual interest in each other.


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If milk is available in the market why buy

a cow ?

- Swami Prabhupada


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There is a glimpse of love, but tendencyis to get carried away.

Dating not limited to one person. No

commitment.


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Why does one look for a loving experience ?

And what are the expressions of love that we

find in a loving relationship ?

Dating in one sense is looking for the perfect

match, in an aspiration for love. And thisaspiration is common to all species of life


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The Vedic perspective

Love begins at the point when a child is born.

Loving relationship is reciprocative. The form of love

does not happen alone and is never passive. There

is a subject and an object.


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Forms of love

Early in life there is the love of a child for the parents

and vice versa.

There are loving relationships shared among friends

and teachers

Conjugal love is separate as the propensity to love

is focused on one person unlike those with parents

friends or teachers.


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Conjugal relationships

Humans psychology is divided into animus

(masculine) and anima (feminine).

People complete the psyche with help from others,

so that a balance is established.


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Conjugal relationship

When a suitable partner is established the

following stages ensue to establish a mature

relationship

- Admiration for the beloved

- Service

- Reciprocation

- Care- Total Love


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Love is blind

When the partners in love have their own happiness

as the primary guiding force for forging a relation

then there is distress.

Old Testament : Samsung

King David

Vishwamitra MuniThe President of the USA !


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Anger in Love ?

If the person in whom ones love is reposed cheats

of leaves, causes great distress.

When love is frustrated, it blazes into the fire of

anger. People kill each other due to violation of

faithfulness or lack of satisfaction in a relation !

There is no greater pain than frustrated love.

- Leads to suicide, not seen even with the terminally ill


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Law of Satiation

Repeated interaction with the same individual

changes ones perception of that individual.

.. even in a mature relationship.

One is looking always for unconditional love.


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Why do we need this Love


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The Spiritual perspective

The body is known as a machine yantra and the

passenger is the atma.

Atma refers to body, mind or soul depending on the

consciousness of the person.

The body changes constantly and the mind is easily

diverted like a butterfly flying on different flowers.


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The real person is the soul. When the soul or the

spirit leaves there is no consciousness needed to

operate the body and the mind.

The soul is pleasure seeking. Anandamayo

bhasyat

Its constitutional position is to experience ecstatic

love.


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The person who loves and is loved is the soul.

Even if you have the best body, the best intelligenceall the money and fame and power, without love

there is only frustration !

Our essential need is to love and to be loved.


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Depending on our free will we decide how to direct

our propensity for pleasure.

If we are selfish and egoistic then we come under

the control of Mahamaya.. The all pervading

powerful external energy.


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This energy is very powerful. We remain her

prisoners since we cannot to escape her power of

love.

Infact we dont want to escape this power

And in this endeavor we are constantly dissatisfied,

constantly looking for love.


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We sometime reject the pleasures of the world

looking for peace, who the spiritual masters call

impersonal liberation, a genuine level of spiritual

realization.

But in this state one cannot satisfy our loving

aspirations (lacking the object of love) and

constantly keep coming back


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Beyond the impersonal aspect is a higher realm, the

realm of Bhagavan or God !

In this realm there is reciprocation at the purest

conception of love.

Which also frees us from the clutches of Maya.


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God is known in many ways

As the maintainer controller and proprietor ofeverything that exists.

The lawmaker and creator of all of creation.


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The souls original constitution is to engage in

various loving relations with Krishna

Looking for this love, one wanders through various

life forms, getting frustrated and the carrying those

desires to other life forms.


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When one reposes this love in the supreme Lord,

one becomes completely satisfied.

This is the natural position of the soul.


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One develops this love by desiring this relation

.. and then working on the relation

Following certain regimens to attract Krishna and to

be attracted by him.


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Marriage

This requires that relationships are forged so that

one helps one another in reaching this highest stage

of love of God.

By Date Flipping one is only increasing ones

frustrations.. marriage helps in limiting this

frustration and helps develop respect

Which in turn helps us focus on God.


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Perfection of Love

By following these regimen we come to the ultimate

state of unconditional loving relation with Krishna.

By which even Krishna is conquered !


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Purifying our Loving propensity

Various process, but one that is recommended by all

scriptures is the chanting on the holy names.

Hare Krishna Hare Krishna

Krishna Krishna Hare Hare

Hare Rama Hare Rama

Rama Rama Hare Hare


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Summary

Every person has a tendency to love.

When we measure others with respect to our ownegocentric view we create frustration.

Unconditional love is required to truly connect with

the other person.


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