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Develop Character, Deepen Relationships…Tools for
Daily Growth
Mountville Mennonite Church
Retreat at Camp HebronFebruary 12-14, 2016
with Mervin Charles
Here’s the key motivation and strategy for this series:
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4
Here’s the key motivation and strategy for this series:
• Begin with a Biblical principle.
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4
Here’s the key motivation and strategy for this series:
• Begin with a Biblical principle.
• Express this principle in a practical tool that…
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4
Here’s the key motivation and strategy for this series:
• Begin with a Biblical principle.
• Express this principle in a practical tool that…
• Develops our character (our inner core) to become more like Jesus;
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4
Here’s the key motivation and strategy for this series:
• Begin with a Biblical principle.
• Express this principle in a practical tool that…
• Develops our character (our inner core) to become more like Jesus;
• Deepens our relationships, becoming more open, transparent, healthy, constructive, and giving;
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4
Here’s the key motivation and strategy for this series:
• Begin with a Biblical principle.
• Express this principle in a practical tool that…
• Develops our character (our inner core) to become more like Jesus;
• Deepens our relationships, becoming more open, transparent, healthy, constructive, and giving; and…
• Can be used as helpful for daily growth.
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4
Here’s the key motivation and strategy for this series:
• Begin with a Biblical principle.
• Express this principle in a practical tool that…
• Develops our character (our inner core) to become more like Jesus;
• Deepens our relationships, becoming more open, transparent, healthy, constructive, and giving; and…
• Can be used as helpful for daily growth.
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4
Biblical principle:Each of you should look
not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Express this principle in a practical tool:Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument
(How much energy do I give to meeting my interests/concerns, your interests/concerns?)
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4 – Tool #1
3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit,but in humility consider others better than yourselves.
4 Each of you should look not only to your own interests,
but also to the interests of others.
5 Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus…Philippians 2:3-5 (NIV1984)
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4 – Tool #1
High
High
Avoiding
Competing
Accommodating
Collaborating
Compromising
How much energy do I give to meetingYOUR INTERESTS?
How much energydo I give to meetingMY INTERESTS?
YOURINTERESTS
MYINTERESTS
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4 – Tool #1
Using this Tool
• For this tool to work, you need to identify the following:
• What are my interests and/or concerns?
• What are your interests and/or concerns?
• Both of the above need to be “placed on the table.”
• This is an act of trust (in God, and in others), and requires openness, transparency, self-awareness, communication skills, and concern for others.
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4 – Tool #1
Biblical principle:As Jesus modeled for us, we are to release our rights
into the hands of our loving heavenly Father, trusting God to meet those rights in His way and time,
while partnering with God in active, trusting obedience.Express this principle in a practical tool:
A 7-Step Prayer for an Attitude(How can I follow the example of Jesus who daily lived by
entrusting rights and accepting responsibilities?)
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4 – Tool #2
5 Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus: 6 Who, being in very nature God, did not consider
equality with God something to be grasped; 7 but made himself nothing [emptied himself]…
he humbled himself and became obedient to death…9 Therefore God exalted him to the highest place
and gave him the name that is above every name…to the glory of God the Father.
Philippians 2:9-11 (NIV1984)
Philippians 2:5-8 (NIV1984)
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4 – Tool #2
12
34
5
.
67
Identify
Decide
ReleaseWorship & Rest
Receive
Commit
Walk (with a new
attitude)
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4 – Tool #2
Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus.
TRUST and OBEY
• (Counted cross-stitch)
• “In His Hands”
Do you see
yourself?
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4 – Tool #2
12
34
5
.
67
Identify
Decide
ReleaseWorship & Rest
Receive
Commit
Walk (with a new
attitude)
Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus.
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4 – Tool #2
Biblical principle:Do not judge, or jump to conclusions.
With humility recognize what you do not know.Live daily with a wisdom “open to entreaty.”
Express this principle in a practical tool:Identify Your Working Assumptions
(With humility, accountability, and transparencydiscern between assumptions and conclusions.)
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4 – Tool #3
Quick Tagline:
Identify your Working Assumptions!
Challenge:
Thinking in different, new, creative ways
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsDon’t Judge…But You May Assume
…Tools for Daily Growth
Identify your “Working Assumptions!”
In sharing this tool, which I’ve used intentionally and frequently over the past nine or ten years, I’d like to do two things: Give you PA
• Give you PERMISSION TO ASSUME
• Give you ADVICE ABOUT HOW TO DO SO WISELY
• I hope to use some things to help you remember. :)
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4: Tool #3
Experience: Observe:Ask
Questions:Consider Answers:
Identify “Working Assumptions”:
Draw Firm Conclusions:
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4: Tool #3
A fool finds no delight in understanding,but only in expressing his opinion.
Proverbs 18:2 (TLB)
Understanding a person’s thoughts is as hard as getting water from a deep well.
But someone with understanding can find the wisdom there.Proverbs 20:5 (ICB)
A person’s thoughts are like water in a deep well,but someone with insight can draw them out.
Proverbs 20:5 (GNT)
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4: Tool #4
Biblical principle:There is a treasure to be found
for those who would seek itthrough thoughtful, caring, intentional listening
Express this principle in a practical tool:Listening to Learn
(Imagine that you’re thirsty, and there’s refreshing waterat the bottom of a deep well.)
…Tools for Daily Growth
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsReview 4: Tool #4
Develop Character, Deepen RelationshipsDrinking Daily from the Saucer
…Tools for Daily Growth
Biblical principle:Giving thanks…being grateful…honors God, encourages others,
and transforms me. Express this principle in a practical tool:
Drink daily from the saucer!(How can I live a life of daily gratitude?)
Philippians 2:12-18