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RESEARCH ASSIGNMENT
Divorce and threat to institution of
marriage in India: Socio-Legal study
Submitted To: Submitted By:
Mr. Rajeev Mahashwaram Animesh Kumar
Dy. Director Student- B.A.LL.B. (H)
Institute of Judicial Training and Research (U.P.) Amity Law School, Lucknow
Divorce and threat to institution of marriage in India: Socio-Legal study
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PREFACE
This assignment take cares of the topic ‘DIVORCE’. Its social-legal
perspective is covered. Different aspects of human life have been
included. The changing profile and new laws which are required have
been given extra emphasis.
I am sure my effort would these inclusions and will keep on guiding
me as faculty have done earlier.
I am extremely thankful to Mr. Rajeev Maheshwaram Sir for the extra
time given to me for preparation of this assignment. I took too much
time to complete the given task.
Animesh Kumar
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ACKNOWLEDGMENT
This assignment is intended to cover the socio-legal aspect of Divorce
and threat to institution of marriage. Basic and pre-requisite
information have been included.
I acknowledge the inspiration and blessing of my Parents and my
elder brother Ravindra Kumar Dwivedi.
I am full of gratitude to my seniors Pratik Mishra, Abhash Sharma,
Swastik Viswakarma and Mayank Dubey for the patience shown and
encouragement given to complete this assignment.
My heartful thanks are due to my friends Priyesh, Krisnath and
Avinash for providing relevant resources.
In the last but not the least, my sense of gratitude is due to AMITY
LAW SCHOOL, LUCKNOW.
Every effort has been made to avoid errors and mistakes; however
their presence cannot be ruled out.
Animesh Kumar
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INDEX
1. Introduction……………………………………………………………1
a. No fault theory of Divorce…………………………………………..3
2. Marital Discord and Divorce in India: The Changing Profile…….10
a. Higher Incidence of Divorce……………………………………....11
b. Divorce by Mutual Consent……………………………………….14
c. Adjustment and Understanding………………………………...…17
3 Misuse of Anti-dowry laws in marital disputes…………………….19
4 Conclusion
a. Laws In India……………………………………………………….26
b. A Changing India…………………………………………………..27
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Introduction
While we talk about marriages and its significance in the life, it‘s important that
we also discuss the intricacies of the separation as it‘s a right provided to all
men and women on different grounds to the separate if the marriage is not
considered happy. Though it is still look upon as a social evil, the law permits a
couple to separate ways on mutual grounds. Also Indian women have their own
rights to file for a divorce if not treated well. Even though we observe that
women are ill treated in our country in rural as well as urban areas of India; a
very small percentage of women who initiate for separation. But more and more
social activists and social agencies are creating awareness about the laws and
rights available to women as well as men. While this is one side of the tale,
there are also cases where the law is twisted and turned and misused by both
men and women. However, we must discuss the other side of the heavenly knot.
Divorce is the ‗dissolution of a valid marriage in law‘, in a way other than the
death of one of the spouses, so that the parties are free to remarry either
immediately or after a certain period of time. The Concept of divorce was
introduced in India in the latter part of the 19th century among two classes of
Christians. It was introduced for Hindus in 1955 in the form of the Hindu
Marriage Act 1955. Before the commencement of the Hindu Marriage Act
1955, there were Acts in some of the States providing for divorce in certain
circumstances, viz., the Bombay Hindu Divorce Act (22 of 1947), the Madras
Hindu (Bigamy, Prevention and Divorce) Act (6 of 1949), and the
Saurashtra Hindu Divorce Act (30 of 1952). These Acts were repealed by
Section 30 of the Hindu Marriage Act 1955. Under the Hindu Marriage Act
1955, initially, adultery, cruelty, and desertion were not made grounds of
divorce but of judicial separation. These grounds were based on the fault theory
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of divorce. At present, ‗Divorce‘ is governed by different Acts1 among different
communities in India.
All major religions have their own laws which govern divorces within their own
community, and separate regulations exist regarding divorce in interfaith
marriages. Hindus, including Buddhists, Sikhs and Jains, are governed by the
Hindu Marriage Act, 1955; Christians by the Indian Divorce Act, 1869; Parsis
by the Parsi Marriage and Divorce Act, 1936; and Muslims by the Dissolution
of Muslim Marriages Act, 1939, which provides the grounds on which women
can obtain a divorce, and the uncodified civil law. Civil marriages and inter-
community marriages and divorces are governed by the Special Marriage Act,
19562. Section 13 of the Hindu Marriage Act 1955 has undergone many
changes through amendments. Section 13 (1-A) was introduced in the present
Act by the Hindu Marriage (Amendment) Act (44 of 1964). The amendments of
1976 in the Hindu Marriage Act 1955 have made these three grounds as
grounds of divorce as well as of judicial separation and also added Section 13-
B, providing for divorce by mutual consent. The other grounds of divorce are
virulent leprosy, incurable and continuous insanity, venereal diseases,
conversion to another religion, renunciation of world by entering a holy order or
sect and when whereabouts are unknown for a period of seven years or more.
By the Marriage Laws (Amendment) Act (68 of 1976), the words ―is living in
adultery‖ stated in Section 13 (1) (i) were substituted by the words ―has after
solemnization of the marriage had voluntary sexual intercourse with any person
other than his or her spouse‖.
1 Section 13 of the Hindu Marriage Act 1955; Section 27 of the Special Marriage Act 1954;
Section 32 of the Parsi Marriage and Divorce Act 1936; Section 10 of the Divorce Act 1869 and
Section 2 of the Dissolution of Muslim Marriage Act 1939.
2 (Kapur and Cossman 101)
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No fault theory of Divorce
The institution of marriage being distinct as regards its socio-economic and
legal footings, it will be unjust if the law ignores the importance attached to it.
But at the same time it is the choice of the parties to a valid marriage to
understand the importance of the institution and to preserve its sanctity. With
the changing requirements, attitude and aptitude, the society has drastically
Changed and it is very difficult for the married couples to cope with change.
While adjusting in a new atmosphere in the matrimonial home, spouses may
commit, knowingly or unknowingly, with or without intention, whether
economical dependent or independent, some kind of mistakes which lead to a
communication gap between them and create havoc in the matrimonial home.
Sometimes no party is willingly ready to hurt another one but circumstances
beyond control create unhealthy atmosphere in the matrimonial home. It is
difficult to say which party is at fault but matrimonial relationship loses its
sweetness and its sanctity. At the same time it is more difficult to find out
bitterness between the parties if they are well educated, working and
economically independent because each individual has his own style of living.
Where both the parties of a valid marriage are at fault of any kind of
matrimonial offence, it is difficult to prove which one is an aggrieved party.
According to the Doctrine of Recrimination, no remedy can be granted to the
party who is at fault. It is imperative in law to have one party as innocent and
another at fault to provide a matrimonial relief. A person who seeks
matrimonial remedy must come to the Court with clean hands. For example, if
in a petition for divorce on the ground of respondent‘s adultery, it is found the
petitioner is also guilty of adultery, then the petition will not be granted divorce
even though there is no co-relationship between the two adulteries. English law
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abandoned this position in later law and changed the matrimonial laws as per
the need and requirements of the time.
In case of no fault theory of divorce, it is not necessary to prove which party is
at fault. There may be many reasons based on which sweetness of matrimonial
relationship is at risk. If the parties prove with reliable evidence on record that
their marriage is beyond all possible repairs then law should understand the
reality of the facts and should help the parties to the marriage which has broken
down irretrievably. The Law Commission of India in its 71st Report on ―the
Hindu Marriage Act 1955 - Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage as a Ground of
Divorce‖ had suggested that the theoretical basis for introducing irretrievable
breakdown as a ground of divorce is one with which, by now, lawyers and
others have become familiar. Restricting the ground of divorce to a particular
offence or matrimonial disability, it is urged, causes injustice in those cases
where the situation is such that although none of the parties is at fault, or the
fault is of such a nature that the parties to the marriage do not want to divulge it,
yet there has arisen a situation in which the marriage cannot be worked. The
marriage has all the external appearances of marriage, but none of the reality.
As is often put pithily, the marriage is merely a shell out of which the substance
is gone. In such circumstances, it is stated, there is hardly any utility in
maintaining the marriage as a façade, when the emotional and other bounds
which are the essence of a marriage have disappeared. The breakdown theory of
divorce which is inherently attached with no fault theory of divorce represents
the modern view of divorce. Under this theory, the law realises a situation and
says to the unhappy couple: if you can satisfy the Court that your marriage has
broken down, and that you desire to terminate a situation that has become
intolerable, then your marriage shall be dissolved, whatever may be the cause.
The marriage can be said to be broken when the objects of the marriage cannot
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be fulfilled. When there is not an iota of hope that parties can be reconciled, it
can be considered as irretrievable breakdown of marriage.3 Another logic why
this theory holds is that after the marriage has ceased to exist in substance and
in reality, there is no reason for denying divorce. Divorce should be seen as a
solution and an escape route out of a difficult situation. Such divorce is
unconcerned with the wrongs of the past, but is concerned with bringing the
parties and the children to terms with the new situation and developments by
working out the most satisfactory basis upon which they may regulate their
relationship in the changed circumstances. In fact, the intention of the
Parliament to introduce the concept of breakdown into the Hindu Marriage Act
1955 is evident from the statement of objects and reasons of the Amendment
Bill, which reads as follows:
The rights to apply for divorce on the ground that cohabitation has not been
resumed for a space of two years or more after the passing of a decree for
judicial separation, or on the ground that conjugal life has not been restored
after the expiry of two years or more from the date of decree for restitution of
conjugal rights should be available to both the husband and the wife, as in such
cases it is clear that the marriage has proved a complete failure. There is,
therefore, no justification for making the right available only to the party who
has obtained the decree.4 In Madhukar v. Saral
5, the Bombay High Court held
that the enactment of Section 13 (1-A) in 1964 is a legislative recognition of the
principle that in the interest of society, if there has been a breakdown of the
marriage, there is no purpose in keeping the parties tied down to each other. In
3 Kusum, “Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage: A Ground for Divorce”, 20 JILI (1978), p. 291.
4 Vide Gazette of India, Extraordinary, Part II, S. 2, p. 86.
5 AIR 1973 Bom. 55-57.
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Abu Baker Haji v. Manu Koya,6 the Kerala High Court held that trivial
differences get dissolved in course of time and may be treated as teething
troubles of early matrimonial adjustment. The stream of life lived in married
mutuality washes away smaller pebbles but that is not the case when the
incapability of minds breaks up the flow of stream. In such circumstances the
breakdown of marriage is evident so we recognize that fact and accord divorce.7
The Delhi High Court also observed in Ram Kali v. Gopal Das8 that it would
not be a practical and realistic approach, indeed it would be unreasonable and
inhuman to compel, the parties to keep up the face of marriage even though the
rift between them is completed and there are no prospects of their ever living
together as husband and wife.
The Law Commission of India in its 71st Report on ‗Reform of the Grounds of
Divorce‘ said that objectives of any good divorce law are twofold: ―One, to
buttress, rather than undermine, the stability of marriage, and two, when
regrettably, a marriage has irretrievably broken down, to enable the empty shell
to be destroyed with the maximum fairness, and the minimum bitterness,
distress and humiliation‖.9 If a marriage has broken down beyond all
possibilities of repair, then it should be brought to an end, without looking into
the causes of breakdown and without fixing any responsibility on either party.
In contemporary society, the breakdown of marriage theory is recognised by the
laws of many countries and a trend towards this theory becomes discernable
through two methods: (1) by enlarging the number of grounds based on the fault
theory; and (2) by giving the widest possible interpretation to the traditional
fault grounds. Cruelty has proved to be the most fertile ground. In Gollins v.
6 AIR 1971 ILR 338 (Ker.).
7 Aboobacker v. Mam 1997 KLT, 66 as quoted in Paras Diwan, Hindu Law, 2nd ed. 2002, p. 565.
8 (1971) ILR 1 Del. 6.
9 71st Report of the Law Commission of India, para 15.
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Gollins,10
the husband‘s failure to take up a job, his inability to maintain his
wife and his dependence on his wife to pay off his pressing debts was held to be
a conduct amounting to cruelty. In Williams v. Williams,11
husband‘s persistent
accusations of adultery against the wife were considered amounting to cruelty,
despite the fact that the husband was found to be insane. In Masarati v.
Masarati12
, the Court of Appeal held that ―today we are perhaps faced with a
new situation as regards the weight to be attached to one particular factor that is
the breakdown of marriage‖. In the Mortimer Committee‘s report the
breakdown of marriage is defined as: ―such failure in the matrimonial
relationship or such circumstances adverse to that relation that no reasonable
probability remains for the spouses again living together as husband and wife.13
It‘s the 21st century, the year of 2007 and 21 year olds are no longer expected to
‗settle down‘.
―The age for marriage in India is slowly edging towards the late twenties. And
why not,‖ Roshini, a 23 year old software professional says. ―Women today, are
increasingly giving priority to their ambitions, instead of getting crushed in the
dichotomy of marriage and career. They are red-hot and refuse to be the sole
compromiser in the relationship‖.
The traditional role of the man being a breadwinner and the woman being the
caretaker of the household is totally non-existent. A vast majority of young
couples are striving to attain that coveted balance in their marriages and that
work-gender division has vanished. Previously, when the woman earned more
than a man, or was academically more qualified, it was considered as a major
hindrance in the relationship. This difference in qualifications in 21stcentury
10
[1963] 3 All ER 966: [1964] AC 644.
11 [1963] 2 AII ER 994.
12 [1969] 1 WLR 392.
13 Paras Diwan, Modern Hindu Law, 17th ed. 2006, pp. 68-77.
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marriages is not considered as a deterrent to the relation. Nevertheless, it hasn‘t
completely disappeared from our social mindset. ―An ‗I‘ and a ‗you‘ form a
‗we‘. But if the ‗I‘ is not ready for commitment or has other priorities, why
unnecessarily force him/her to form a ‗we‘? Man! People should get into a
marital relationship only after they sort themselves out‖, opines Kanishka, a 21
year old collegian.
Its fantastic how two biologically, mentally, genetically different human beings,
can unite in a bond and vow to stay united for their entire lifetimes, among a
billion other human beings! ‗Generation X‘ seems to be imbibing the concept
that a marriage is the union of 2 minds, rather than caste, religion, creed, or
although still socially unacceptable, but nevertheless existent, genders! With the
dominance of nuclear families in cities, it is very normal to hear a girl say, ―I
am marrying you, not your family!‖, if she is asked to ‗compromise‘ and put up
with her in-laws‘ demands.
Gone are the days, when infidelity sent shock waves in the entire
neighbourhood and caused major disequilibria. Although unacceptable, it
doesn‘t break marriages today. The emergence of more reliable matrimonies
and professional match-making centres has diluted the role of that
neighbourhood aunty. The focus is more on how compatible 2 people are with
each other, rather than how compatible the society judges them to be.
Mrs.Sajani Bhat, a marital counsellor, puts things into perspective, ―It isn‘t that
the society is becoming immoral or that the sanctity of marriage is getting
diluted. It‘s just that with the evolving world, values are changing. Nowadays, it
isn‘t expected of woman to grin and bear the injustices done to her. People
don‘t stay together only for the sake of their children. Instead, choices are being
made and lives are being separated if 2 people find each other incompatible
after a certain time period.‖
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Disappointingly, the mindset of the masses, urban or rural, seems stagnated. A
recent survey conducted by the Times of India reveals that, in spite of the
changing culture almost 50% of Indian men prefer virgin brides as they consider
non-virgins to be ‗second-hand‘ material. However, certain sections of society
consider pre-marital sex acceptable and are gradually opening up to the concept
of live-in relationships. This trend is very evident in metro cities.
Marriage, which is a serious decision, is taken after careful thought and
understanding of the partner, both by the couple and by their families. As long
as there are humans, there will be a union of souls and of minds. The concept of
marriage in India is never going to lose its sanctity due to our culture, how
much ever the West influences us. However, there are those young wisecracks,
which follow their own untraded path and keep us guessing. For instance, this
21 year old youngster completely overthrew my analysis with the following
statement, ―Marriage is an institution and who wants to spend their life in an
institution?‖
In recent years more and more married couples in India are walking away from
their marriages. Court figures and data from crime record bureau reveal that
over the past decade, divorce rates have doubled and in some cities even
trebled. This trend is evident not just in metropolises but in smaller cities and
semi-urban areas as well. It is a reflection of India's changing socio-economic
landscape where this phenomenon is not restricted to the affluent, urban
populace as it used to be in 1980s.Figures suggest that more people from middle
class and lower middle class are opting out of unhappy alliances.
Delhi leads the way registering about 9,000 cases every year, a huge increase
from the average 1,000 cases that were registered in the 90s.Kolkata and
Chennai have also recorded a rise of 200 % in divorce rates. Kerala has seen a
quantum leap of 350%.Punjab and Haryana have seen an increase of 150% in
divorce cases.
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Incompatibility and adultery are among the most cited reasons by those filing
for divorce, a substantive number of young couples. A combination of factors -
nuclear family structure, professional ambitions, mismatched expectations and
modern life styles is contributing to the increase in the number of couples that
decide to part their ways. Youth today do not subscribe to the rigid notions of
the sanctity of marriage as an institution.
A significant upshot is that more women are filing petitions for dissolution of
marriage something that was unheard of in the 70s and 80s.Women have
always had the legal option to walk out of abusive or unhappy marriages in
India. But mere legal sanction means little where life is governed by
patriarchal social mores. However while women are becoming empowered to
take charge of their lives even now only women who are economically
independent and have the backing of their families can afford to exercise the
divorce option.
Divorce can have negative impact on families especially children who bear the
brunt of failed marriages. The problem confronts people all over the world and
there is no solution which can make everybody happy. It is a reality that calls
for us as individuals and as a society to make adjustments to our ideas and
expectations of marriage. There is need to have strong support system for
people who decide to go for divorce.
Marital Discord and Divorce in India: The Changing Profile
Family is the most important primary group in society. Family and marriage are
considered to be the two pillars of any society and as such they are the two most
important societal institutions. In India, traditionally and from time immemorial,
marriage has been hallowed as sacred; and marriage for most Indians is not
merely a sacrament but is sacrosanct. Once the couple enters into the bond of
marriage, the relationship is considered perpetual—till death does them apart. In
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other words, marriage used to be for life and it worked as a bulwark against
social vulnerabilities. It had an inbuilt system of checks and balances, and roles
and priorities were defined by the society for the couple. What distinguished
marriage in India from marriage in the West was the sanctity attached to
marriage: a sense of perpetual bonding and an element of divinity in it.
The phenomenon of divorce, however, is not new to India, and it has existed at
all times in known history. But it was resorted to only in extreme cases where
there was unbearable cruelty, desertion, mental illness, impotence/infertility,
and infidelity. But it is no longer so.
With the new strains and challenges that have emerged for the Indian family,
the latter has been going through a new kind of transition. It has been wavering
between traditional and Western models. The fast-changing social and family
environment has thrown up new challenges, particularly to the young people,
like growing instability, lack of communication, changing attitude towards sex,
changing roles of husband and wife, and tensions of fast life. All these have
resulted in the lack of harmony among married couples. The decline in harmony
can be associated with values that emphasise individualistic, materialistic and
self-oriented goals over family well-being.
Higher Incidence of Divorce
Not only is the incidence of divorce in Indian society increasing but also the
underlying causes of divorce have been assuming a new dimension or getting a
new impetus, if not entirely changing. The underlying forces of change have
been giving a new meaning to the causes of disharmony. It is not that conflict,
for example, due to incompatible personalities did not exist earlier, but the fact
is that it has become more vibrant and open. Factors such as incompatibility of
personalities etc. have all existed in the past, but what is new is that the
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tolerance threshold seems to have sided down while the egos of individuals
have risen remarkably.
An extensive study of the working of family courts in urban India by a Mumbai-
based legal activist indicated that whereas in 1995, 2055 couples filed for
divorce in Mumbai, in 2004, the number went up to 3400 in that city alone. In
the eight matrimonial district courts of Delhi, an average of 25 divorce petitions
was filed every day in 2004. In Bangalore the number increased threefold from
653 in 1988 to 1861 in 2002. In Kolkata the number has gone up from 1633 in
1966 to 2388 in 2003. Seventy per cent of these figures represent divorces in the
age-group of 25-35. In Kolkata, divorce cases have gone up nearly 200 per cent
in the last few years14
.
According to a consultant psychiatrist of Kolkata‘s Belle Vue Nursing Home,
nearly six out of ten married couples now require counselling to prevent break-
ups and for every five weddings registered in Mumbai in the past five years,
there have been two divorce applications—an increase of nearly 50 percent15
.
A very recent report points out that of the 1.3 lakh marriages registered every
year in Delhi, about 10,000 do not live happily ever after. Alarmed by this, the
Delhi Commission for Women (DCW) has set up a pre-marital counselling cell
where young men and women and their parents can call for help and guidance16
.
Because of increasing number of young couples resorting to divorce, six more
family courts have come up in Delhi since the late nineties to deal with over
9000 cases of matrimonial disputes.
14
India Today, February 28, 2005 15
Hindustan Times, February 17, 2008 16
Hindustan Times, July 29, 2008
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An extensive study of 243 individual respondents, directly involved in disputes
and who had approached some external formal agency17
for intervention,
mediation or help, revealed that the main causes of marital discord (male and
female taken together and in descending order) were (Jamwal, 1998):
Overall, the three prominent main causes (with 20 per cent or more incidence),
which contributed to marital discord, were personality related
behaviours/tendencies including deficiencies/disorders (24 per cent),
material/monetary gains through marriage (23 per cent), and incompatibility (21
per cent).
A comparison of the data regarding marital discord between male and female
respondents, as per the above study, brought out the following four main
distinctive features:
1. While as many as 46 per cent of the male respondents attributed the main
cause of their marital discord to ‗incompatibility‘ factors, far fewer, that is, 11
per cent female respondents attributed the main cause to such factors.
2. For as many as one-third of female respondents, the main cause of marital
problem was ‗material/monetary gains through marriage (mainly dowry)‘.
3. Personality related behaviours/tendencies (including deficiencies/disorders)
were reported more by female respondents than by male respondents (27 per
cent Vs. 19 per cent).
4. More female than male respondents reported ‗desertion‘ as the main cause
(13 per cent Vs. three per cent).
17
Marital Dispute Resolving Agency (MDRA)
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In a study of 1165 cases from four urban cities—Mumbai, Pune, Aurangabad
and Nagpur—concerned with the reasons for divorce, the researchers found that
most couples seeking divorce were educated, between 25 and 35 years of age,
and childless. Though they had arranged marriages and lived in joint families,
seventy per cent break-ups took place due to reasons which included
temperamental differences (apart from financial issues, family interference,
dowry, and adultery). Eighty-five per cent called off their marriage within the
first five years. (Desai and Bhujbal, 2004)
In the present scenario what is new is not only the growing number of divorces
but also a qualitative difference in the undercurrents of the causes leading to
marital discord and divorce. The social/societal stigma attached to divorce is
also diminishing. Divorce is no longer a dirty word. A kind of social
transformation that may lie at the crux of today‘s marriage splits is the growing
tolerance of society for divorcees. Divorced people are no longer looked down
and judged by ―there-must-have-been-something-wrong-with-him/her‖ kind of
comments. They do not now have horns on their heads.
Divorce by Mutual Consent
More young people are filing for divorce, some in the first year of their
marriage. Most of these divorces are mutual consent petitions. According to one
estimate, the amicable separation within the first year of marriage has increased
by 30 per cent since 2000. Contrary to what prevailed earlier, more women are
initiating divorce proceedings. The society seems to be accepting the fact that
divorcees need companionship. An increasing number of women are now
hoping to click with someone online. For example, as reported seven per cent of
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all registered women on jeevansathi.com are divorcees, as against four per cent
of all male users18
.
Divorce is no longer a taboo and a divorced daughter is not unwelcome in her
parents‘ home even in small towns. Social trends originating in metros slowly
percolate down to smaller towns and from there to villages. In the new socio-
economic environment, women in small towns do not feel shy of walking out of
marriage.
In the present environment two main causes/reasons stand out:
• Assertion of independence; and the
• Diminishing urge/capacity for adjustment.
These two factors, though different, are not unrelated to each other.
Assertion of freedom and the need for individual space, characterised by
ambition and the fast pace of life; have created new pressures on marriage. For
many career-oriented girls, their career, success and money are more important
and hence get more priority over family. Priority of job over relationship is now
an observable phenomenon. One partner likes films, the other the theatre; one
wants to dance at night and get up late in the morning, the other wants to study
and get up early in the morning. The words like ―I hate you‖ and ―I can‘t stand
you‖ have become commonplace. ‗Me‘ and ‗you‘ are now replacing ‗we‘ and
‗us‘. Psychological tiredness is one of the new realities, not much known
earlier.
Many of the young divorces are the result of violent ego clashes. In many ways,
these are the stresses of changing times and are generational issues and arise
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from work stress and changing mores. Unfortunately, however, the issues at
dispute sometimes are so trivial that they do not fall in the age-old but still
common factors like dowry harassment, impotence and the mother-in-law
factor. Sixty per cent divorce cases, according to one Allahabad-based family
court lawyer, relate to trivial issues. Today‘s Indian wife has a mind of her own
which unsettles the patriarchal male. For instance, it is interesting to note that a
seven-year-old love marriage, in Darjeeling, went on the rocks because the man
and his wife had different political affiliations. Obviously, the intolerance for
each other is soaring and the tolerance threshold is declining.
Job opportunities for women have multiplied over the recent past, giving them
economic independence. This motivates them to choose out of a bad marriage,
particularly when they have no kids. Because of the opportunities the present-
day work environment provides to the young people for closer interaction at the
workplace and liberal views of the new generation, extra-marital relationships,
including sexual relationship, have become a common malaise over the recent
past, especially if there is a context of a failed/failing marriage. It is a well-
known fact that, with modern methods of contraception available, many a
couple delays starting a family. In a way, these are the compulsions of modern
times.
As many of the female spouses today are well educated and employed on good
jobs, they have become quite conscious of their rights. They also expect
cooperation and adjustment from their husbands. While women have tended to
become assertive, many of the males, on their part, have not learnt to adapt to
the new situation. Our society is in transition, in a state of flux. While old values
are getting uprooted, the new value system has not got sufficiently entrenched.
The frequent ego clashes may be the consequence of this fluid situation.
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With the elderly sane counsel or intervention of the joint family system, which
earlier used to ensure the stability of the young couple‘s marriage being largely
not available or absent today, small differences get magnified in the nuclear
family of today? While the level of intolerance has gone up, there is a
diminishing urge/capacity for adjustment. Earlier, unlikable personality traits,
which got to be known after marriage and which led to sulks or temporary
suspension of intimacy, are now resulting in divorce.
The assertion of independence and diminishing capacity for adjustment quickly
gives rise to the emergence of a feeling of incompatibility. The couple are
tempted to conclude that they are incompatible to each other. The so-called
temperamental differences get highlighted.
Adjustment and Understanding
Though, in general, incompatibility may arise from a number of factors such as:
differences in values and beliefs; differences in educational, socio-economic
status/level; differences in life style/social orientation; differences in personality
characteristics, including temperament differences, differences in sexual
behaviours; and differences in likes, dislikes, tastes, hobbies etc., however, it
may be noted that no two persons can be totally compatible in temperament and
behaviour, even siblings may not be. In marriage two individuals with often-
different backgrounds come together. The thinking, attitudes, mindsets and
behavioural patterns cannot be expected to be similar or exactly matching. It
naturally takes some time to know and understand each other. The
understanding, resulting in compatibility in marriage, can thus develop only
gradually and, further, if there is a desire to adjust with each other.
The essence of success in marriage ―understands‖ which also means
understanding of each other‘s compulsions. Adjustment requires not only the
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merging or submerging of two personalities, but closer interaction to
complement each other for mutual satisfaction and the achievement of common
objectives. Conceptually, the two main elements of marital adjustment are
cohesion and affection. This is not to say that there would always be perfect
adjustment. Since marriage involves two persons, perfect adjustment is a myth.
Some differences at times may take place or are inevitable. Perceptions about
life, its problems and solutions are individualistic and vary from person to
person. Speaking even about religion, Dr Radhakrishnan once said: ―Religion is
behaviour, not mere belief.‖
From the practical standpoint, the concept of adjustment between husband and
wife is not that of assimilating the one into the other but of togetherness and
simultaneity in behaviour with the greatest possible level of feeling for each
other. Marital cohesiveness is the glue that holds partners together. The other
side of cohesiveness is marital commitment, that is, the desire to stay in the
marriage relationship through thick and thin, good times and bad times over the
years of marital life. Commitment springs from emotional bonding and the
belief about the permanence of marriage per se. The greatest chance of divorce
is where partners feel a lack of cohesiveness and are not committed to making
the marriage last, despite personal dedications. (Jamwal, 1998, 232)
All said and done, however, despite the new strains on the marriage and the
increasing number of divorces being filed or taking place, the faith in the
universality of marriage as an institution remains unshaken in our society and
will continue to be so in the foreseeable future. The survival of the family unit,
in a large measure, is dependent on the ability of the family to absorb and adapt
to the external challenges. And it should be explored how this adaptability or
capacity to absorb the likely strains can be fortified in society.
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Misuse of Anti-dowry laws in marital disputes
Marriages in India are supposed to be very sacred and considered to be once in
lifetime affair. The marriage occasion is an integral part of social traditions and
rituals in which both side family members get involved very emotionally and
their community members participate to give blessings for the happy married
life. But very recently, increasing number of married couples are experiencing
distress and incompatibilities. Due to various socio-economic factors, there is a
rapid rise in the discontent marriages in India as a result of which, the rate of
Divorces and Separations have gone up. By this unpredictable social disaster,
the family courts and other courts, police administration and various Counseling
Cells are feeling helpless due to sudden bombardment of matrimonial problem
related cases.
It has become a custom in India that a lot of social and legal concerns are
expressed for wives in cases of matrimonial disputes, but husbands and their
family members are ignored. It turns more fatal to the husband and his entire
family when the trivial marriage disputes are given shape of the cruelty to wife
due to dowry demands by false intentions of a promiscuous wife. The facts of
the matter may be totally different, which are intentionally distorted to gain
benefit from women-favored laws of India. There are stringent laws made in
favor of women, which are normally misused against those husbands and their
parents who don‘t agree to their wives' demands. So it adversely impacts the
entire family, and rightly proves that the moment of marriage in Indian society
is that important decision of life, which can extremely change the lives of not
only husband and wife but also the lives of parents. In fact a true harassment
case is actually an exception to this rule. As a man is physically stronger while
it is claimed by women that women are mentally stronger, hence it‘s protecting
men from mental violence while protecting women from physical violence.
Indian Social & Legal Systems take for granted the notion that in marital
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dispute and domestic violence cases, the husband, his relatives and friends
usually harass his wife for demanding dowry, and ignore the instances when the
wife and her relatives falsely accuse and harass the husband and his relatives by
putting various false and baseless allegations pertaining to stringent provisions
of Anti-Dowry law. It is to misuse the laws for sympathy, extortion and
blackmailing. There are special women-favoured laws that provide for women
who claim to be harassed but not for men. Men, being innocent, who seek to
fight back against such harassment find that they have also to fight the systemic
bias of the governments, the corrupt system, the police and the courts against
them in addition to prejudice propagated by feminist organizations. The
harassment of husband and his relatives has grown worst in recent times as the
norms of Indian Society has evolved from the Joint Family to the Nuclear
Family, making the husband, his parents and relatives more susceptible to
domestic violence which is not defined under the law.
To deal with Dowry / Harassment cases, the Anti-Dowry Law Section 498A
was inserted into the Indian Penal Code (IPC) in year 1983 by Criminal Law
(Second Amendment) Act of 1983 (Act No. 46 of 1983). It reads that Whoever,
being the husband or the relative of the husband of a woman, subjects such
woman to cruelty (mental or physical) shall be punished with imprisonment for
a term which may extend to three years and shall also be liable to fine.
Explanation: For the purposes of this section, ―cruelty‖ means(a) Any wilful
conduct which is of such a nature as is likely to drive the woman to commit
suicide or to cause grave injury or danger to life, limb or health (whether mental
or physical) of the woman; or(b) Harassment of the woman where such
harassment is with a view to coercing her or any person related to her to meet
any unlawful demand for any property or valuable security or is on account of
failure by her or any person related to her to meet such demand.
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Analysis of the section shows that this law deals with four types of cruelty: 1)
Any conduct that is likely to drive a woman to suicide, 2) Any conduct which is
likely to cause grave injury to the life, limb or health of the woman, 3)
Harassment with the purpose of forcing the woman or her relatives to give some
property, or 4) Harassment because the woman or her relatives are either unable
to yield to the demand for more money or do not give some share of the
property.
Under this provision, the following acts would amount to cruelty to a wife that
may become the ingredients of a false and fabricated FIR:o drinking and
coming home late coupled with beating and demand of dowry;o filing false and
defamatory proceedings against the wife and humiliating her with search
warrants and seizing her personal property;o maltreating wife for dowry and
sending her back to her father's house resulting in illness due to shock and after
effects of cruelty;o cruelty and harassment of a mistress;o baseless allegations
of adultery, infidelity or unchastity of wife;o baseless allegation that wife was
carrying illegitimate child;o accusing wife of being barren;o scolding the wife
leading her to commit suicide;o repeated demands for dowry articles and money
from newly married wife and parents and consequent harassment;o taking away
child to harass wife for dowry;
Sec. 498A of IPC is a cognizable crime, which obliges a police officer to arrest
the accused without a warrant. In such cases of ‗Crime against Women‘, the
police authorities are under an obligation to take immediate action on receipt of
a complaint or of credible information, visit the scene of the crime, investigate
the facts, apprehend the offender and arraign him before a court of law having
jurisdiction over the matter. The aims of section 498A were to help wife to stay
with her husband, protecting wives from marital violence, abuse, and
extortionist dowry demands. But the actual implementation of this Act has left a
bitter trail of disappointment. Since there is no penalty or a fine for filing a false
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case, many women are misusing this law to dictate terms. It is a myth that Sec
498A is protecting the women, in reality it is against women themselves and
also adversely affects children and aged people. Reality is 498A is destroying
marital harmony and gives no solution to solve the Problems of Marriage; rather
it is breaking Indian family system. If the husband has filed for ‗Restitution of
Conjugal Rights‘ under Section 9 of IPC, or Divorce and wife does not want to
comply so she files false complaint under Sec. 498A to blackmail husband to
increase her bargaining powers. The IPC498A is so convenient to misuse and
worse than TADA or POTA, but the lawmakers didn't consider the effect of any
possibility of its misuse and how it will spoil the basic foundation of institution
of marriage in Indian Society.
A large number of cases filed under anti-dowry law IPC 498A are not cases of
actual dowry demands, but a reflection of a more sinister design to legally
blackmail innocent husband and in-laws for money. This is borne out by the
statistics from many sources (including the Council of Social Research) that
show that more than 90% of the cases filed under section 498a are without
merit. Though projected to be a law benefiting women, 498a has, ironically,
victimized countless innocent women related to the husband‘s family.
These biased laws and their unfair implementation is increasing the single
parenting, distrust in the ‗laws and legal system‘ and marriage, dissatisfaction
and insecurity among the law abiding citizens and a great hatred and vengeance
for country. It is taking a heavy toll on the sensitive minds of young people who
are now scared to marry with an Indian bride. Due to these faulty laws, many
innocent, lawful and reputed citizens are being defamed as culprits and
criminals in society. The whole drama also affects and involves other people of
society who are colleagues, friends and relatives of the accused and get shocked
to hear the dowry harassment case on accused which they can not believe as
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they have known the person very well. It is seen that the society is altogether
opposing such laws that are heavily misused in the interest of daughter-in-law
only, who terrorizes the husband, his family and the whole society. Abuse of
Section-498A Should Be immediately curtailed and law abusers should be
punished without mercy to stop this dangerous trend, which is creating havoc in
family, society and the nation.
Today, the issue of ―misuse of laws‖ has become a real threat to the
sustainability and existence of ‗Institution of Marriage‘ in Indian society and
family. The problem can be controlled by the proactive participation and
initiatives of government, senior persons and social workers of society, in the
same way when they together raised voice to safeguard harassed women and
supported the making of such gender-biased laws which are now easily misused
due to corrupt administrative framework.
The state governments and police authorities shall consider the proactive
measures while dealing with complaints under ―Cruelty Against Women‖ so
that safety and protection of family unit and marriages in Indian society. It is
becoming the utmost society‘s responsibility today that such laws related to
―Crime Against Women‘ shall not be misused by unscrupulous women, and the
society shall help and support for saving the marriage and the future of involved
children, the wife, the husband and their relatives.
Many harassed husbands and their family members cannot handle the drastic
and dramatic changes that shake their lives so desperately seek genuine advice.
They need experienced persons to share problems of intimate relations that are
very sensitive in nature. To sort out the upsurge in such marital disputes,
various volunteer based self-help groups are formed to provide free advice and
counselling on Indian Marriage Issues like Separation, Divorce, Harassment,
Cruelty, Torture, Incompatibility, Depression, Psychological disorders,
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Misunderstanding and Domestic Violence. They provide free advice for
preserving the marital harmony and counselling for amicable settlements
between the disputed parties. These self-help groups are formed by victims of
abuse of dowry law, that provide support though help lines at Delhi, Mumbai,
Bangalore, Hyderabad, Jaipur, Kolkata and many other places. Volunteers
organize weekly counselling meetings on every Saturday and Sunday. The
members are victimized husbands and their family members who are running
the country-wide campaign ―Save Indian Family Movement‖ against their false
implication in false complaints under laws related to Dowry Harassment like
Dowry Prohibition Act (DP Act), Sec. 498A of IPC and the new Domestic
Violence Act 2005 (DV Act). The members are actively organizing regular
Press Conferences, Seminars, Public Protests and Dharnas around the country to
create the social awareness on misuse of ‗women favoured laws‘. The
resourceful websites like www.498a.org and www.mynation.net are extensively
developed to provide assistance pertaining to the information on misuse of Sec.
498A IPC. The Assumption of the Law that in a given marital dispute, domestic
violence happens only to a wife in unfair and in violation of the basic principles
of justice. In a typical situation, a wife could act cruel to her husband
physically, mentally or by her anti-social behaviour. As in most Indian families,
the husband‘s parents, unmarried sisters and brothers, married brothers and their
wives and children also live with him, so the wife can be cruel to them. In such
circumstances, many husbands and their old parents have committed suicide
after being abused by everyone including the police, the courts and the civil
authorities. The vast majority of cases where the wife and her aides are guilty of
harassment and more go unpunished due to limitations in our laws and social
values.
Traditionally, in India, a newly married woman was expected to be quiet and
submissive to her husband and his relatives, but principally with his mother,
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sisters and sisters-in-law, with a clear hierarchy operating among the
womenfolk. While in name, a Patriarchy, the Indian family has traditionally
been a Matriarchy. This operating hierarchy in joint Indian families used to
work as major mental and physical support and helped newcomers the daughter-
in-laws or ‗bhahu‘ to adjust and provided for their all type comfort at all times.
The aim has always been to provide for the needs of all members of the
household without exception. However, under pressures of modernity, this norm
has fractured and these days the married males get separated from their parents
and other siblings early in their married life to establish independently with their
wife and children. There may be many reasons for creating such nuclear
families but the most prominent ones are the disputes and tensions in between
the daughter-in-law, the ‗bhahu‘ and rest of family members. In most of such
cases, the husbands are compelled to leave their old parents under the enormous
pressure, threatening of filing false complaints in police (Dowry Case and
Domestic Violence Act) and blackmail by their wives and In-laws.
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Conclusion
Till 1990s, India had amongst the lowest instances of separations in the world,
as low as 1 %. The last five years however have seen a steep increase with
surveys stating that the rate in Delhi has doubled in just 4 years. Other Metro
cities like Mumbai have reported figures as high as 2 out of every 5 marriages
ending in a legal breakdown. Even conservative and family oriented states such
as Punjab have seen a 150% increase.
Laws In India
Legally, a petition can only be filed after one year has elapsed from the date of
marriage unless there are exceptional circumstances. The Hindu Marriage Act
1955 lists 9 grounds for divorce. Namely –
Adultery
Cruelty
Desertion
Conversion of religion
Unsoundness of mind / serious mental disorder
Virulent and incurable form of leprosy of partner
Venereal and communicable disease suffered by a partner
Renunciation of the world
Unknown whereabouts of partner for more at least 7 years
In addition to the above grounds, parties may also file for dissolution of
marriage on the grounds of mutual consent, no resumption of cohabitation or no
restitution of conjugal rights for a period of one year or upwards after a judicial
decree of separation has already been passed.
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Women have certain additional grounds for filing, namely – polygamous
husband, rape or sodomy inflicted on her, or if she was married before she
attained the age of 15 as long as the marriage was repudiated before she attains
the age of 18.
Because our country is a culturally and religiously diverse country, there are
more than one set of Personal Laws. Muslim law does not require seven years
of unknown whereabouts of husband. Four is sufficient period for the wife to
file for divorce. Similar is the case for the wife of a man who has been under
imprisonment for more than 7 years.
A Changing India
Divorce in our society has become increasingly common. Fifty percent of
all marriages will end in divorce and each year 2 million children are newly
introduced to their parent‘s separation, (Monthly Vital Statistics Report).
Demographers predict that by the beginning of the next decade the majority of
the youngsters under 18 will spend part of their childhood in single-parent
families, many created by divorce. During this confusing period of turmoil and
high emotional intensity, the child must attempt to understand a complex series
of events, to restructure numerous assumptions and expectations about
themselves and their world. He or she may be uprooted to a new school, city or
neighbourhood leaving their familiar social ties behind. They must often assume
new household duties, possibly feel the financial loss and most importantly
receive less support and nurturing from their parents. This are just a few
implications of divorce but demonstrates how it changes the lives of children.
Each child is unique, so the short and long term functioning of the
children after divorce varies widely. Wallerstein and Kelly (1980) observed and
interviewed parents and children three times in five years, and reported an
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estimate of one third of the children come out of divorce unharmed. Another
one third function adequately, but experience difficulties, and the remaining one
third have severe upsets in their developmental process. However, the authors
of the "Family in Transition", approach this finding with caution because the
conclusions were made without comparing the children of two parent families.
Never the less they do note there are overall trends in the functioning of
children after divorce.
Courts have always considered the breakdown of marriages as the weakening of
society but the judicial system is slowly coming to terms with the fact that
marriages are dissolving faster and for a number of varied reasons such as
exposure to globalisation, financial liberation of women, sexual incompatibility
of spouses etc. New trends also suggest that women are becoming more
proactive in seeking separation.
The Rajya Sabha has recently proposed an amendment to marriage laws and is
seeking to provide additional grounds, thus simplifying the process by repealing
certain provisions, such as repeated appearance before the court in cases of
divorce by mutual consent.
Though there is stark opposition to the above move, it is comforting to see that
Indian laws are trying to incorporate the current reality of marriages and are
moving away from the age old concept of matrimonial alliances.
Not only has the country begun to open its eyes to the many hassles of
an increasingly urban lifestyle, it has now begun to accept the fact that the
dissolution of a marital union is as natural a process as the act of committing to
it in the first place.
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