Don’t be a bully, be a Don’t be a bully, be a friendfriend

A program to teach students strategies and skills to handle and defeat A program to teach students strategies and skills to handle and defeat bullying situationsbullying situations

No Bullying [Photograph]. (2013).

Part # 1: Understanding Part # 1: Understanding bullyingbullying

•OutlineOutline•What is bullyingWhat is bullying•Who are the bullies Who are the bullies •Who are the victims Who are the victims •Types of bullying Types of bullying •Consequences of bullying Consequences of bullying

What is What is Bullying?Bullying?

• Bullying is done on purpose in order to hurt someone else

• A person who bullies thinks they have more power over the person they are bullying

Kids Fighting [Photograph]. (2013).

Types of bullyingTypes of bullying

• Verbal bullyingVerbal bullying: Hurtful : Hurtful name-calling, teasing, name-calling, teasing, gossiping, making gossiping, making threats, etc.threats, etc.

• Physical bullyingPhysical bullying: : Hitting, punching, Hitting, punching, pushing, kicking, etc.pushing, kicking, etc.

Verbal Bullying [Photograph]. (2013).

Bullying-1 [Photograph]. (2012).

Types of bullyingTypes of bullying• Non-Verbal bullyingNon-Verbal bullying::

• Giving attitudeGiving attitude• Ruining belongingsRuining belongings• Threatening gestures or Threatening gestures or

actionsactions

• Social, Relational, and Social, Relational, and Psychological Bullying: Psychological Bullying: • Put down others Put down others • Embarrass othersEmbarrass others• Fool othersFool others• Take advantage of othersTake advantage of others• Isolate Isolate • Peer pressurePeer pressure

Non Verbal [Photograph]. (2012).

Victim-1 [Photograph]. (2010).

Who are the Who are the bullies?bullies?

• Any child, boy or girl can be a bully

• Kids who bully may • be more violent, • not get along well with

others • talk back to adults

• Boys who bully try to act like “tough guys”

• Girls who bully may “gossip”

Kids Club [Photograph]. (2013).

Who Are the Who Are the victims?victims?

• Any child, boy or girl, can be a victim of bullying

• Bullied children may be victimized because they appear to be different from their peers

• Victims may • have few friends or

none at all• feel alone • respond to bullying by

crying or running away

Kids-in-Classroom [Photograph]. (2013).

What happens What happens because of because of

bullyingbullying

• Children who are bullied suffer from • Worry • Loneliness• Staying home from

school• Low self-esteem• Sadness • Anger• Stomach aches• Headaches• Low school

performanceBullying Hurts [Photograph]. (2013).

Part #2: Bullying Part #2: Bullying scenariosscenarios

• Learn the appropriate way to handle a Learn the appropriate way to handle a bullying situation bullying situation

Bullying-2 [Photograph]. (2008). Collins, J. (2005). Playground bullying.

Scenario # 1Scenario # 1

Saatchieric. (2010, November 8). McGruff – Anti-Bullying Film [Video file].

Scenario # 2Scenario # 2

Taylor, J.P. (2011, October 29). Cabear and the Bullies: Anti-Bullying Video [Video file].

What should you do if you are What should you do if you are bullied/ see bullyingbullied/ see bullying

• Stand up to the bully— Tell the bully “STOP” Stand up to the bully— Tell the bully “STOP” • Walk awayWalk away• Stay with a friend or group of friends Stay with a friend or group of friends • Tell a teacher/principal/adult immediatelyTell a teacher/principal/adult immediately

What not to do!What not to do!

• DO NOT FIGHT BACK!!!!!!!! DO NOT FIGHT BACK!!!!!!!!

Kids-Fighting-1 [Photograph]. (2013).

Part # 3: How to Part # 3: How to Respond/ Be a leaderRespond/ Be a leader

Different types of bystanders •Passive bystander•Angry bystander•Fearful bystander•Relieved bystander•Accomplice bystander•Star bystander

Bystander-1 [Photograph]. (2013).

Passive Passive bystandersbystanders

Passive bystanders:Passive bystanders:• Do not want to get Do not want to get

involved in the involved in the situationsituation

• Protect themselves Protect themselves firstfirst

• It is not helpful to be It is not helpful to be this kind of bystanderthis kind of bystander

Bystander-2 [Photograph]. (2009).

Angry Angry BystandersBystanders

Angry bystanders:Angry bystanders:• Get upset with the Get upset with the

their peer(s) who are their peer(s) who are being bullied for not being bullied for not defending themselvesdefending themselves

• They may also get They may also get angry with the bullies angry with the bullies for bullyingfor bullying

• It is not helpful to be It is not helpful to be this kind of bystanderthis kind of bystander

Angry-Child-Boy [Photograph]. (2013).

Fearful Fearful BystandersBystanders

Fearful bystanders:Fearful bystanders:• Are afraid they will be Are afraid they will be

the next kid who gets the next kid who gets bulliedbullied

• It is not helpful to be It is not helpful to be this kind of bystanderthis kind of bystander

Child-Curious-1 [Photograph]. (2013).

Relieved Relieved BystandersBystanders

Relieved bystanders:Relieved bystanders:• Happy that the bully is Happy that the bully is

picking on someone picking on someone else and not them.else and not them.

• It is not helpful to be It is not helpful to be this kind of bystanderthis kind of bystander

Relieved-Bystander [Photograph]. (2011).

Accomplice Accomplice BystandersBystanders

Accomplice bystanders:Accomplice bystanders:• Team up with the bully Team up with the bully

to bully others in order to bully others in order to avoid being bulliedto avoid being bullied

• It is not helpful to be It is not helpful to be this kind of bystanderthis kind of bystander

Bystanders [Photograph]. (2013).

It is best to be a It is best to be a Star BystanderStar Bystander

Star bystanders:Star bystanders:• Choose to stop Choose to stop

bullying by bullying by • Challenging the bullyChallenging the bully• Telling an adultTelling an adult• Getting a group to Getting a group to

challenge the bully challenge the bully • Including a target in Including a target in

their activitiestheir activities• Not being an audience Not being an audience

for the bullyfor the bully• Befriending a troubled Befriending a troubled

bullybully• Talking to a bullied kid Talking to a bullied kid

privately privately

Friends-Group [Photograph]. (2011). Source: Getting Better at Getting Along,

pg. 26

Counselor [Photograph]. (2010).

Part # 4: Apathy vs. Part # 4: Apathy vs. empathy & sympathyempathy & sympathyWhat is What is

• ApathyApathy• EmpathyEmpathy• Sympathy Sympathy

You-Are-Not-Alone [Photograph]. (2013).

Hesselberth, J. (2012) Empathy [Photograph].

apathyapathy Apathy isApathy is• Lack of interestLack of interest• Uncaring attitude Uncaring attitude

Apathy [Photograph]. (2013).

empathyempathyEmpathy isEmpathy is

• Understanding Understanding another student’s or another student’s or adult’s feelings as if adult’s feelings as if they were your own they were your own feelingsfeelings

Empathy Cartoon [Photograph]. (2012).

sympathysympathySympathy isSympathy is

• Being sensitive to Being sensitive to another student’s or another student’s or adult’s feelingsadult’s feelings

Sympathy [Photograph]. (2011).

Part # 5: friendship, Part # 5: friendship, teamwork & cooperationteamwork & cooperation

What is What is •FriendshipFriendship•Teamwork Teamwork •Cooperation Cooperation

Teamwork Benefits [Photograph]. (2012).

Children [Photograph]. (2011).

friendshipfriendshipA friend isA friend is

• ““someone you know, someone you know, like and trust. Friends like and trust. Friends can help us do what is can help us do what is right, or they can right, or they can influence us to do influence us to do things we know are things we know are wrong.” wrong.”

What do you look for in What do you look for in a friend?a friend?

Kids [Photograph]. (2007).

Source: Getting Better at Getting Along, pg. 66

cooperationcooperation Working together for the Working together for the same purposesame purpose

Cooperation [Photograph]. (2010).

teamworkteamwork

Teamwork [Photograph]. (2013).

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