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aboutEddieLeMoine
• Canadian-borninternationalbestselling
author
• keynotespeaker
• Seminarleaderandcorporatetrainer
• 35plusyearsofexperience
www.eddielemoine.com email [email protected]
Change Your Thinking, Change Your Futureeddielemoine.com
aboutEddieLeMoine
• Canadian-borninternationalbestselling
author
• keynotespeaker
• Seminarleaderandcorporatetrainer
• 35plusyearsofexperience
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My Research
Science Psychology
Divinity
Where is your attention?
Health
Relationships
Career
“Whateveryoufocusyour“attention”onand“energy”towards
you“Bring”intoyourlife.”
Where is this impacting you?
YouHealth
SocialSpiritual
Career
Family
Where is this impacting you Page 3 ?
“Your secret internal conversations are slowly shaping your destiny”
What is attention?
Thoughts
“Your secret internal conversations are slowly shaping your destiny”
“Sow a thought, reap an action
Thoughts
Habits
“Sow a thought, reap an action Sow an action, reap a habit
“Your secret internal conversations are slowly shaping your destiny”
Thoughts
Habits
Character
“Sow a thought, reap an action Sow an action,
reap a habit Sow a habit,
reap a character
“Your secret internal conversations are slowly shaping your destiny”
Thoughts
Habits
Character
Destiny
“Sow a thought, reap an action Sow an action, reap a habit Sow a habit, reap a character Sow a character, reap a destiny “ – Samuel Smiles
“Your secret internal conversations are slowly shaping your destiny”
Energy (Our emotions tell the story)
Death
Fear
Anxiety
Stress
Boredom
Happ
ines
s
Excitement
Passion
Ecstasy
Energy (Our emotions tell the story)
Death
Apathy
Grief
Fear
Anxiety
Anger Ecstasy
Boredom PassionHappiness
ExcitementContentment
Resistance Allowing
Negative Positive
Energy (Our emotions tell the story)
Death
Apathy
Grief
Fear
Anxiety
Anger Ecstasy
Boredom PassionHappiness
ExcitementContentment
Resistance Allowing
Negative Positive
Energy (Our emotions tell the story)
Death
Apathy
Grief
Fear
Anxiety
Anger Ecstasy
Boredom PassionHappiness
ExcitementContentment
Resistance Allowing
Negative Positive
Change Your Focus Inordertogetwhatyouwant,focusonwhatyouwant,notonwhatyoudon'twant..
“Allthecomplaining,worryingandtalkingaboutwhatyoudon’twantwillneverattractwhatyoudowant.”
Change Your Thinking
Change Your Future
I am going to love every student.........
A story about inspiration
W H Y W O R R Y A B O U T S T R E S S
L E T S G E T T H E FA C T S
• Over 80% of doctor visits is stress related.
• The cost to the economy is in the billions of dollars.
• Rising health care cost and stress are linked.
• Technology is actually increasing stress
Situations, activities, and relationships that cause ‘trauma’ to one’s physical, emotional, or psychological self
W H AT I S S T R E S S
“Stress is what arises when something we care about is at stake.” Kelly McGonigal The upside of stress
G O O D S T R E S S A N D B A D S T R E S S
• Productive Stress
• Destructive Stress
W H AT I S G O O D S T R E S SW H E R E A R E Y O U O N T H E S T R E S S
L E T S TA K E C O N T R O L
W H AT I S Y O U R S T R E S S M I N D S E T ?
• When you embrace stress, you can transform fear into courage, isolation into connection, and suffering into meaning.
• -Kelly McGonigal
A B O U T T H E R E S E A R C H
In a 1998 study of thirty thousand adults
High levels of stress increased the risk of dying by 43%. But-it only applied if people felt stress was harming their health. If they felt stress was not harmful they had a lower risk of death and even lower than the participants who felt they had low levels of stress.
L E T ’ S “ B O U N C E ” B A C K
L E T ’ S “ B O U N C E ” B A C K
Be conscious of the things that are your stressors
Be Optimistic about your future, and you ability to change it
Use your stress reducing techniques
Never forget you have a more control over the outcome than you may think.
Choose how you respond to Stress
Exercise, diet and relaxation are very important in reducing and managing stress.
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Be conscious of the things that are your stressors
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When you feel stressed, ”stop” and ask yourself, ”What is causing this feeling of stress I am currently experiencing? What is the trigger?”.
Be Optimistic about your future, and you ability to change it
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“Yesterday does not equal Tomorrow. Forget the past and move towards your goals.”-Tony Robins
Use your stress reducing techniques U
"In a year you'll barely remember why you felt so stressed, so why stress about it today?”-My Father
Never forget you have a more control over the outcome than you may think.
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“If you accept the expectations of others, especially negative ones, then you never will change the outcome.” -Michael Jordan
Choose how you respond to Stress
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“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” -Victor Frankl
– J O H N N Y A P P L E S E E D
Exercise, diet and relaxation are very important in reducing and managing stress.
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H E A LT H Y H A B I T S
• Eat Healthy ( your body will only function as well as you fuel it)
• Exercise everyday (from walking to going to the gym)
• Have regular checkups
• Limit the amount of alcohol you consume
• Get 8 hours of rest
• No Caffeine after 3PM
• Limit screen time
M E D I TAT I O N A N D S I L E N C EG I V E Y O U R M I N D A R E S T
L O O K T O Y O U R F R I E N D S A N D FA M I LY
Oxytocin: The 'Cuddle Hormone'
Oxytocin: The 'Cuddle Hormone'
• Express your feelings to those who are involved in the stressful situation in your life.
• Discuss the situation you are facing with trusted friends and confidantes.
Making it work!
Step 1IdentifyyourGoals
• Negative • Resisting • Desires
• Positive • Attracting • Allowing
Your emotions are your guidance system.
StrengthWeakness
What makes you feel empowered? Page 19
What are strengths?
Meet Jayson
• Goal is to use this strength more. – Try to increase the amount of time you use this strength
at work. – Create goals around leveraging your strengths.
• Use this strength in your current role. – Where can you volunteer this strength at
work? – Be sure to schedule time each week to work
on your strengths. – Try to put yourself in situations where you can
leverage your strengths.
• Tools needed to use this goal. – Is there any specific training you can receive
to enhance these strengths? – Find people who use these strengths and
model yourself after them. – Create an action plan to become an expert in
your area of strengths.
• Share your strengths with people around you.
–Embrace this philosophy “Each day you learn something; each day you teach something.”
Reducing your weaknessesYour Weakness ( dis-engagement)
Stop doing the weakness.
After you have identified things that are making you weak, if at all possible, stop doing them. You will discover some of your weakening tasks have been created from habitual thoughts and not a necessary part of your daily activity.
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Withdraw from volunteering to do things that weaken you.
Withdraw from volunteering your services if the activities are disempowering. As much as you may feel obligated to contribute, if the task you accept disempowers you, then you are of no real benefit to the group. If this feeling spills over to other tasks, it will influence your performance in many areas.
Initiate more things that strengthen you.
The most effective way to squeeze weakening activities out of your day is to replace them with strengths. By doing this, you will reduce the amount of disempowering activities you do and replace them with empowering activities. This will increase your performance, energy and overall contribution.
Team up or outsource activities that weaken you.
If at all possible, team up with people who may have your weaknesses as strengths. We often think that because we don’t like a particular task that everyone feels the same way about it. You may not realize that doing a task you see as a weakness can be depriving someone of doing a task that they see as a strength.
Change the way you do weak activities.
You may find changing the way you tackle weaknesses can make it a more pleasant activity. Doing them first thing in the morning and saving your strengths for the balance of the day can give you a sense of accomplishment and end the day on a positive note.
Help others by volunteering your strengths.
Helping others by volunteering your strengths may show people around you what your real value is. In addition, this will often lead them to help you complete tasks that you may not enjoy doing, giving you more time for your strengths.
Dream Sheet • Education
• Relationships
• Finance
• Travel
• Health
• Spirituality
Manifesting a Horse
CREATE A VISION
of the future
CREATE A VISIONof the future
CREATE A VISIONof the future
CREATE A VISIONof the future
Let’s do a “Dream Sheet” Page 6
Let’s do a “Dream Sheet” • Make a list of what you
would like to “BRING”into
your life
• Write them in present tense
• Start each line with the
words I AM
Let’s do a “Dream Sheet” From the above dream sheet pick two items and create a goal to change a habit and a goal to create an outcome
IE 1. Outcome ( I enjoy weighing _____
lbs)2. Habit (I am enjoying a walking
8500 steps a day)3. Habit (I enjoy going to the gym 3
times a week)
Let’s do a “Dream Sheet” Page 16
Write a short story about what it would be like to have a perfect day. What do you wake up to? Where are you working? What do you feel? Write everything you would like to have to make it a perfect day. Remember, to go on the journey to success we must first know what it will be like to be there.
Step 2Believe
Where do your thoughts come from?
Thoughts Words Action OutcomeBeliefs
We attract by who we become...
“We do not attract that which we want but that which we are.”
• James Allen
“There for by changing your beliefs, you change who you are.”
Step Three Be Receptive
IT’S MORE THAN A POSITIVE ATTITUDE
WHY IS IT NOT HERE YET?
BECOME DETACHED FROM HOW IT IS DELIVERED
LIMITING BELIEFS
YOUR REALITY TODAY VS YOUR DESIRES
The Value of Giving
Live in an Attitude of
Gratitude
I am so grateful... I am a realist
Life is so hard
Start a Gratitude List.
Bring about what you think about in action
Relationships
Attracting and keeping the person of your dreams....
One of the biggest blunders we make....
A wait and see relationship
Wait long enough and you will see something you don’t like.
Focus on making the relationship you want.
Attracting and keeping the right person
How do you show affection?
Attracting and keeping the right person
How do you show affection?
Focus on what you like about a person and it will attract more of what you like.
Attracting and keeping the right person
How do you show affection?
Focus on what you like about a person and it will attract more of what you like.
How do you attract the person of your dreams.
Attracting and keeping the right person
How do you show affection?
Focus on what you like about a person and it will attract more of what you like.
How do you attract the person of your dreams.
Is “opposite attracts” a myth ?