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Chris Cavaliere, CPST
Author of FACING FOREWARD
EMBRACING OUR HUMANITYBy ACKNOWLEGING TRAUMA
As I continue in my quest for meaning in suffering the consequences of trauma, I continually turn to traumatic experiences as the root of all behavioral difficulties.
This drives me with a passion that grows the more I see my peers in the mental health system consumed with questions of why or simply absorbed by complacency to the point of a “personal nonexistence”. Because of this, I myself ask the question again and again “why?”
What do I mean by “personal nonexistence”?
It is about the right to choose, the right to one’s own sense of “meaning and of being”. It is my belief that this is a learned thing, deeply ingrained as the familiar loss of control, which is the first loss of trauma, where the loss of one’s inherent right to choose is taken away.
When an individual receiving services in the mental health care system gives up that right to choose, whether by compliance, persuasion, lack of provisions or resources, they lose their “voice for choice”, they lose another part of their sense of meaning and being. I do not deny that for many this is where they find their comfort and sense of security. Perhaps that is the problem, that they can only feel belonging at the mental health center. Does that say something about the greater community?
What if they could feel they belonged at the neighborhood civic association meeting, at the neighborhood block party, or dinner at your house.
In these other places would they be able to have their right to choose, be welcomed, be safe and feel a sense of meaning and being? Could they then feel empowered to be other than mentally ill?
90% of people with a mental diagnosis report having experienced trauma, how many don’t know that hurtful things they experienced WAS trauma, or re-traumatization. People with a mental illness are more often the victims of violence then the cause of violence. If you consider their learned and expected loss of voice and choice, how easily will they become vulnerable to abuse and violence?
All people face challenges in their lives, all are unique in how they experience and address their challenges. All will experience some kind of mental health challenges, and as a person in this world, it is highly likely that most will directly experience trauma in the future, a nearer future than expected.
We find this common thread runs through all people, for as we look more closely at adverse experiences, expanding on what defines trauma (physical or psychological, in the broadest sense in context within traumatic effect), we see now that everyone is affected by trauma.
So where do we go from here?
As children continue to be subjected to abuse and violence, as it comes from areas that are often undetected and unexpected, especially by the child who’s most fundamental need is safety, they are not as safe as we might think. These children often fall into a cycle of self-destruction, fueled by a lack of recognition of how their experiences are manifesting as they grow, a lack of affectively addressing their challenges in attempting to adapt to trauma.
There is an urgent need for trauma awareness, an imperative need for trauma education to be brought into
the very fabric of community, every national policy, and in every culture that claims the goal of peace and acceptance.
The most evident aspect of human survival from the earliest time of our conception, be it believed to be by evolution or God created, was to work together to acquire resources for the greater needs of the community, thus providing for all members efficiently. The unfortunate decline of our values as a people has come from deviations from focusing on that greater need.
While individual needs are very important, it is shown throughout our histories that the emphasis has become more and more on individual wants, overpowering the greater need.
In following the path of wars, nation against nation, culture against culture, religion against religion, individual and group persecution, family dysfunctions, fuels the advent of trauma and from there how many ways the possibilities of traumatization expands from historical trauma down through family generations and whole civilizations. With this in mind, we turn to see it in the violence on our streets, in the homes of our neighbors behind closed doors, in our schools, through social media networks, natural and manmade disasters.
Trauma exists everywhere, threatening to overwhelm us and destroy us.
UNLESS WE COME TOGETHER, WHAT CAUSES TRAUMA WILL CONTINUE TO EAT AWAY AT EVERYTHING WE ARE.
The most baffling thing of all, now in the light of trauma awareness, is how our societies, our communities, have so defined the “wrongness” of trauma adaptations.
When a child, say a five year old boy, is subjected to something so outside the realm of safety that his mind cannot conceive it’s realty, therefore his mind naturally creates his own world of safety, a reality he can tolerate. Then later his world emerges and conflicts with our reality, he is diagnosed “schizophrenic”, told to take medications that cause him to drool, has trouble staying awake and cannot focus or concentrate. Now his inner world has become manipulated and
warped with bits and pieces of the one he tried so desperately to escape. He becomes fearful at what people think about him, he wants to stay in his room and sleep to be oblivious.
He is told he’s not allowed to sleep at the day program at the mental health center, told to stay awake and focus, because those are the rules. He can’t wait to leave and go home, back to sleep, back to oblivion. Even though there are good things that are being offered, this approach is not working.
When a person’s psyche is jolted so severely through trauma, the mind adapts in many ways, sometimes leaving a person in an altered state, and/or in a place where emotions become agonizing and magnified a hundred fold. At times your body feels the awful sensations your conscious mind tried to forget, and so you react, or shut down completely.
What if the medications don’t work? How will you function, how can you find a way to continue? Is it worth going on living this way?
If YOU see someone panhandling on the street corner and you think, if I give them some money for food, will they just get drunk or buy drugs? Why would they rather get drunk or get high than eat, when they look so hungry? What if you asked them, “May I ask what happened to you?”, “Were you hurt?”. What if you sat down with them on the street corner, and
asked them what they really needed, a place to live, someone to talk to, someone to care, someone to believe in them!
Have we so denied the existence of trauma as a personal struggle, because it is unacceptable to express any kind of weakness, therefore causing it to be a hidden thing, now covered up when it emerges as unacceptable behavior and labeled a genetic defect! There has been little verified evidence of this in over 30 years of psychiatric genome testing. People who survive this are strong, not weak!
We as a people must take personal responsibility, and together collective responsibility, to bring this back to the forefront of our thoughts and actions to save our peoples, to save our most precious resource, our children. In doing this we move to accept, embrace and heal those who have been hidden away by our society’s denial of responsibility.
Remember, all people will be subject directly or indirectly by trauma in their lifetime, and all will have mental health challenges.
What comes from trauma?
Normal responses to Abnormal circumstances!
If violence and abuse continues to run rampant what people usually think of normal will be no more, actually I suppose the cruelest fact of all is that trauma is NOW an EXPECTED NORM.
This is wrong!
How do we begin to change this? When we begin to make sense of this, we become empowered to change it.
As individuals, as communities, as nations we were meant to accept each other, embrace each other in harmony of humanity, enjoying a secure sense of meaning and being that nurtures the greater purpose of belonging. To go beyond individual survival, to build on the hope of change, and make it happen!
However, if one by one we continue to turn away, to say this has nothing to do with me or mine, we unknowingly invite it to slowly infect us, to invade us in ways we will never realize. Think about this deeply.
How many ways is this possible? All could say living through war is traumatic, but how many ways does war affect your life? Think about the effect it has on acquiring your basic resources. Let’s start with the food on your table, the quality, the cost. This in turn is affected by your work, how you get there, how you get home. What about people you
work with, the type of work you do? How does this trauma affect your kids at school, or at their work?
Stop and think for a moment.
Now, without judging yourself, or me for asking this, consider your own life experiences, from a child until today. Examine even the minute details of your own “behavior”, what you feel, why you feel the way you do. Think about how far back you’ve had those feelings, and how you think that might reflect on the things you do that are emotionally driven, and everything we do is emotionally driven to varying degrees.
Only you hear the answers in your mind, you don’t have to tell anyone if you don’t want to, but if you start feeling bad about something, you might want to share it with someone you trust that you are very comfortable with, someone good at listening nonjudgmentally.
As normal reactions to abnormal circumstances, adaptations will vary from person to person even though they experience the exact same traumatic event.
Neuroplasticity in brain function allows for the real possibilities for recovery. The brain has been proven to adapt, or readapt, to physically change it’s make up. That proves there
is hope for us as individuals, the question is can we change as a people, to broaden our humanity.
If we see and accept that trauma affects us all in unending ways, we cannot turn away from it, there becomes only one reasonable choice.
Trauma awareness is imperative
to our continued existence!
There is much that shows, both in the far past and today, that it takes a village to heal a village. Each individual is an important and necessary part of the village, thus all are affected by the health of the individual.
To bolster the health of the village, the individual needs to be nurtured as a valuable resource to the village in order for the village to thrive as a whole.
How do we define community?
Webster accounts first that a community is “a body of people living in the same place under the same laws”. It goes on to describe a more lawfully cohesive example; “a natural population of plants and animals that interact ecologically (“relationally functioning as a unit”) and live in one place”. This is the true law of the natural world.
We know that part of that nature is for some animals to eat others, usually the old or sick, an ecological law to foster growth and in sharing resources, but this law is solely the law of nature, not ours! We have been gifted with our reasoning brains, our malleable brains, we can learn many other things from nature.
This is where I look to Webster to define community for our purposes; “joint ownership”. Are we speaking about ownership of commodities? Only if we consider each member to bring their own value to the whole, while ownership of responsibility is shared for the greater goal of the community’s purpose to thrive.
In this joint ownership, how we engage with each other through kindness and understanding, first within family, to nations existing together within our world, that we become a humane people.
If we each take ownership in this, we will not only survive, we will thrive.
Chris Cavaliere
Facing Forward © 2013
A peer facilitated trauma recovery workshop program