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Emo&onalCPR(eCPR)Goal:totrainpeopletoassistothersthroughanemo&onalcrisisandtomake

thisprac&ceaccessibletopeoplearoundtheworld

Host/Loca&onSantaClaraCBHSD-SanJose,CADate::September11&12,2019

TrainingTeam:MariaOstheimerandDanielB.Fisher

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Host/Location: Santa Clara CBHSD - San Jose, CA Date: : October 1 and 2, 2019

Training Team: Maria Ostheimer and Daniel B. Fisher

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Emo&onalCPR:What,Why

Justasaperson’sphysicalheartneedsaFenGoninacardiaccrisis,aperson’semo&onalheartneeds

aFenGoninanemoGonalcrisis.

eCPRisaformofheart-to-heartconnec+onforemo&onalresuscita&on.

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PurposeofeCPR

We aspire to connect through feelings first, respecting each other as equally

human, enabling us to be together without fixing, judging or imposing our

beliefs, allowing us to explore the unknown together, in the present

moment, releasing our power to create new Voice, new purpose, and new hope.

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Threephasesoftheprac&ceofeCPR

C = Connect with Compassion and Concern to open up Communica3on, especially heart-to-heart

P = emPower to experience Passion and Purpose R = Revitalize increased energy, new life, crea3vity,

hope, interest in people

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1.IsharewhatIfeelinmybodyinresponsetobeingwithapersonindistressbysaying,“InoGcethatmystomachisGght...”

2.Irespondwithmyfacialexpression,eyes,handgestures,andbodypostureinbeingwiththepersonindistress;ImightuseagesturesimilartotheirsbutIamtryingonthefeelingsthatIexperienceincarryingoutthegesture,notmimickingthem3.IshareimagesImightvisualizeinresponsetotheirimages;ifthepersonisinacave,Imightexplorewiththemwhatthewallsofthecavefeellike,howdarkisit?

Howtohaveaconversa&onemphasizingthenonverbaldimensionsofcommunica&on

4.InoGcethefeelingsexpressedindifferentwordsorphrases,andifthereseemwordsthatcarryheavierfeelingsrepeatthemwithequalfeeling;thishelpsthepersontorealizethefeelingsbehindtheirwords5.Irealizethatmybreathingisavitalindicatorofmyfeelings.Wemightholdourbreathwhenapprehensivethenletitoutwithasighwhenseekingsomerelief;itisbeFertocommentonone’sownbreathingpaFerns,especiallyanychangesinpaFerns,suchassighingratherthancommenGngontheirs

Howtohaveaconversa&onemphasizingthenonverbaldimensionsofcommunica&on(Cont…)

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•  PracGcinghowtoexperienceconnecGng,empowering,and

revitalizingwithsomeoneindistressisanessenGalprocessof

learningeCPR.TwopeoplevolunteertocarryoutapracGce.

OnepersonstartsindistressandtheotherstartsassisGng.

•  WhilethepracGceiscarriedout,thefacilitatorandother8

parGcipantssitinasemicircleandplayroleofresonators,

respec^ullyobserveandemoGonallyresonatewiththe

pracGcepair.

Prac&cePair&Resonators

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Prac&cePair&Resonators(Cont.)• Whenitseemsuseful,forinstancewhentheconnecGngisnot

proceeding,thefacilitatorgentlyasksthepracGcepairtopauseorthepracGcepaircanaskforapause.

•  ThefacilitatorresonatesandasksthepersonsresonaGngasagrouptosharewhatfeelingsandimagestheyexperiencedduringthepracGce,givingposiGveimpressionsfirst.

•  Facilitatorengagesthewholegroup,includingthepracGcepair,indialogue.

•  ThepracGcepairresumesthepracGcetakingintoaccountwhattheyhavefeltandheardfromresonators.ThiscouldbefollowedbyanotherroundofresonaGngandgeneraldialoguewiththepracGcepair.

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Six Intentions of eCPR

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1. Connect: I will connect through feelings first, respecting you as equally human by listening with my eyes, ears, heart, and respect 2. Connect: As I feel your presence, I will stay with you sharing my feelings in being with you. 3. emPower: I will BE WITH YOU without fixing, judging, or advising you. (emPowering)

SixInten&onsofeCPR(cont.)

4.emPower:Iamnotsurewhatisbestforyou;togetherweexploretheunknown

5.emPower:Together,wereleasethepowertohealthatlieswithinus,movingtowardsour

wellness.

6.Revitalize:Weauthen&callycreatenewlife,newVoice,andnewhopeinthepresentmoment,whichisrevitalizing.

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SuicidePreven&onandeCPR

ü  Restoringhopeandregainingasenseofpossibility.

ü  Developinganyplanstogether:CollaboraGon,notcoercion.

eCPRApproach:

Ø  Canwefindwayswherewecanbetogethersoneitherofusfeelalone...

Ø  LetsexplorewaystobetogethersowecanexperiencenewpossibiliGes,newlife...

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CulturalEmpathy

ü Startwherethepersonis…

ü BesensiGvetoculturaldifference…

ü Respec^ullyexperiencetheotherperson’sworld...

ü AvoidassumpGonsaboutwhothepersonisandwhattheyneed...

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ComparisonofConventionalHelpandeCPRAssistance

Conventional eCPR

Connect

Engageverballyusingquestionstoassessand/ordeterminediagnosis.

Firstfeelpresenceoftheotherpersonwithyourwholebeing.

Refrainfromemotionalexpressiontomaintainboundaries.

Expressemotionsthroughchannelsofcommunicationthatenhanceconnection.

emPower

Explain,judge,andfix. Noneedtoexplain,fix,oradvisepersonaboutwhatsheorheshoulddo.

Expertknowswhatiswrongandknowshowtofixtheproblem.

Bythepowerofconnectionwecanexploretogethertheuncertaintyoftheunknown.

Expertsthinktheyhavethepowertohealthebrokenperson.

Bothpeoplediscovertheirinnerwisdomthroughheartconnection.Powertohealiswithinourrelationship.

RevitalizeGoal:Expertreliefsthesymptomsofthepersonwhoislabeledill.

Goal:experiencenewlifeandnewhopetogether.

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Ways%Emotional%CPR%Heals%Trauma%!

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Trauma!Outcomes%of!Emotional%CPR!

Relatedness! Alienated!Emotionally!Connected!

Power! Voiceless!Emotionally!Powerful!

Emotional%State! Numb!and!dissociated!

Emotionally!Revitalized!

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Websites:Emo&onalCPR:www.emoGonal-cpr.org

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