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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
How to Use Emotional Intelligence to Get Results
Dr. Martin Armstrong, CPP, MBA, DBA
• Adaptability to a new or changing environment
• Capacity for knowledge and the ability to acquire it
• Capacity for reason and abstract thought
• Ability to comprehend relationships
• Ability to evaluate and judge
• Capacity for original and productive thought3
Intellectual Intelligence
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Emotional Intelligence• Defined as…
The ability, capacity, skill or a self-perceived ability to identify, assess, and manage the emotions of one’s self, of others, and of groups.
Self-Awareness Self-Management Social Awareness Relationship Management
Emotional Intelligence 2.0 - Bradberry & Greaves, 2009
What is Emotional Intelligence?
Self-Awareness
Self-Manageme
nt
Social Awareness
Relationship
Management
Personal
Social
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Self-Awareness Strategies
•Ask yourself:
▫What am I feeling?
▫Why am I feeling it?
•Keep a journal or log
•Reflect on your behaviors
•Know your triggers
•Seek feedback
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Self-Management Strategies
•The ABC’s of Life
A – Activating event
B – Belief about the activating event
C – Consequential emotional response
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Self-Defeating Beliefs
•Add D
▫Dispute our thinking
▫Replace self-defeating, irrational beliefs with rational logical beliefs
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Self-Management Strategies
•Choose your battles
•Mix pleasantness with anger
•Realign your expectations
•Speak to someone that is not emotionally invested
•Recognize the irrationality of worry
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Self-Management Strategies
•Ask anxiety inventory questions
▫What is going on here?
▫What’s the worst thing that could happen?
▫How likely is that?
▫Is it in or out of my control?
▫Is there anything I can do?
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Social Awareness Strategies
•Greet people by name
•Notice things about people
•Watch body language and tone
•Listen
•Step into their shoes
•Seek the whole picture
•Pay attention to the mood in the room
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Relationship Strategies
•Be open and curious
•Acknowledge other people’s feelings
•Have an “open door” policy
•Explain your decisions
•Tackle a tough conversation
•Take feedback & give constructive criticism
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Putting People at Ease
• Make everyone feel like they belong
• Portray positive emotions
• Make people feel comfortable
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Difficult Conversations
Personal Inventory
SelfAwareness
Take an inventory of your state of mind
SelfManageme
nt
Plan for your triggers of frustration and
anger 20
Difficult Conversations
Social Inventory
Social Awareness
Determine the emotional level of the
team member
Relationship Managemen
t
Address problems directly with an open
ear 21
Dealing With People You Can’t Stand
1. Do nothing
2. Vote with your feet
3. Change your attitude
4. Change your behavior
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The 10 Most Unwanted List
•The Know-It-All
▫Your Goal: Open their mind to new information and ideas
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Emotional Intelligence
• Emotional Intelligence is a highly flexible skill
• Individuals need to develop an active awareness of their emotions and appropriately manage their behaviors
• Individuals with high emotional intelligence carry a heightened awareness of other’s emotions and use this knowledge to build positive social relationships
• Effective leaders exhibit behaviors that correspond to high-levels of emotional intelligence
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THANK YOU
CONTACT INFORMATION
Dr. Martin Armstrong – 704.731.1715