Empowering ParentsSCIS - 2014

Facilitated by: Anne Gribble, Maz Cox, and

Catherine Geisen-Kisch

Introducing…Anne!•Education•Teacher•Parent Educator•Parent

Introducing…Maz!•Education•Teacher•Counselor•Coach•Parent

Our Purpose:• Partners with you on the Parenting Road• To support you as parents • Give ideas/suggestions, share experiences• Share some more “tools” for your

parenting “tool box”

****You are here because you want to be here. You are open to learning.****

Our Schedule:• 3:15 – 4:15 PM Wednesdays1. Topic of the Week2. Note Cards – Burning Questions and Topic suggestions3. Handouts

Upcoming Topics: May 7Entitlement: How do I know if my child is spoilt?May 14RAFT – Preparing to leave SCIS in an emotionally healthy way

This week…

What is You Can Do It Education?

YOU CAN DO IT (YCDI) Education is a platform for the development of positive social and emotional characteristics that promote success.

Research and understandingsSocial and emotional development is not only essential to social and emotional wellbeing but also to a child’s academic achievement (meta analysis of over 2000 studies)

The 5 foundations - 5 Keys to success and Happiness

• Persistence• Organization• Confidence• Getting Along• Resilience

Rate your child on the 5 keys

Key Characters

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• Give tasks where organization is required

• Set time frames and work with your child to set time frames

• Chunking• Prioritization• Give behavior specific feedback• explicitly teach,• modeling and reinforce habits of

mind - "goal setting" and "planning my time”

• Be careful not to"rescue” your child by doing their work for them or asking for extension of time.

• If there is an ongoing concern with homework however, please contact your child’s teacher

What can you do to help?

• Provide social opportunities from a young age

• ASA, teams, classes, activities, play

dates, sleepovers

• Role model and teach E.g. tolerance, thinking first, social expectations, logical consequences

• Use the teachable moments with specific feedback “I like the way you shared the book with your sister”

• Social attributes: honesty, respect, responsibility, fairness, caring, citizenship

What can you do to help?

• Understanding and labeling feelings (Opportunities to experience different feelings)

• Feelings continuum – down/anxious/angry

• Thoughts > feelings > actions > consequences

• Methods to manage emotions – self talk, relaxation, talk to others, exercise

• catastrophising

What can you do to help?

Catastrophising

• Specific feedback – “I know that wasn’t easy but you worked really hard on it

• Model • Success comes from hard work, not luck• Working together as a family to achieve a

task• Discussing characters in

books/movies/your family that show persistence

• Provide tasks where your child will need persistence

• Encouraging and rewarding• See your child’s teacher if your child is

working hard but still experiencing difficulty

What can you do to help?

• Provide opportunities for your child to participate in outside school activities that they enjoy and feel successful at

• Focus on your child’s strengths and communicate your approval to your child. Remember there are many ways of being smart or successful

• “Catch” your child being successful and use the opportunity to give specific feedback E.g. I like the way you showed confidence when you….”

• Reward your child when they demonstrate confident behavior

• Ensure plentiful opportunities for success

What can you do to help?

Writing sample

You Can Do It Education

Case studiesJohns Story:John rushed home almost in tears. While he was one of the top scorers in the championship basketball game (one of his goals for the season), his team lost by 1 point and he missed the last shot! John moaned to his mother “I’m a real loser, I think I’ll quit the team”

Chloe’s Story:Chloe rushed home with two different feelings. You see, her team lost the championship basketball game by 1 point. She felt sad and disappointed for her team and all her team mates. On the other hand, she felt successful. Chloe played for almost 10 minutes and had scored 4 points. This was more minutes than she had ever played and more points than she had ever scored! Her goal had been to score more points in this game. She announced to her mother, “I think I’ll try and make the team again next year.”

“Children who achieve consistently high levels of achievement while forming positive relationships and enjoying positive health and well-being have well-developed ways of thinking” (You Can Do It Parent Newsletter)

www.youcandoitparents.com

Next week:

Entitlement: How do I know if my child is spoilt?

Thank you for coming! Hope to see you next

week!

Enjoy your children!