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Why Exclusionary T Time-out in Early C Wendy Young www.kid Tactics Deserve a Childhood Settings , LMSW, BCD lutions.com

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Why Exclusionary Ty yTime-out in Early C

Wendy Youngwww.kid

Tactics Deserve a Childhood Settings

, LMSW, BCDlutions.com

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The Clubhouse Rules:The Clubhouse Rules:

1. Nobody act big.y g2. Nobody act small.3. Everybody act

dimedium.

Charles P. Swindoll,I i ht f Li iInsight for Living

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How do we treat the H w w"Youngest

Among Among Us"?

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Back to the clubhouse.

h ddWe might add:~Everybody helps everybodyeverybody.~Those that need more help get it.p g

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Kids need help:Kids need help

Tying shoes zipping Tying shoes, zipping

R i i l Recognizing colors, s

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coatscoats

h l tthapes, letters

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at about:al Relationships

flict Managementflict Managementsion-Making

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What do we do when What do we do when a child has difficulty

ith l nin l tt s with learning letters, colors or numbers?

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H I h l How can I help you?

Try again!

You almost got it!

You're close!

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Who Misbehaves?

When?

Why?

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The origin of some behavior problems starts behavior problems starts

here...

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The Positive Positive Working ModelModel

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TheNegative Negative Working ModelModel

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Whichever model we operate from has a profound has a profound impact on our world view.

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Temperament is another area that has a HUGE area that has a HUGE impact on behavior.

BUT...

Biology is NOT destinyBiology is NOT destiny.

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We need to stop reacting and start

b ld building a community.

There is much we can There is much we can do to change outcomes

for even the most challenging

of children.

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Helping kids become successful become successful is highly tied to helping them p gdevelop a certain set of skills thatis teachable.

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REMEMBER:REMEMBER:A child's misbehavior

rarely has anything to do y y gwith YOU.

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The EMOTIONAL The EMOTIONAL part of a child's brainis WAY bigger thanggthe THINKING part

of the brain.

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The History History

of TTime-out

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First alternaalterna~Emba

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used as a classroom native to:native to:arrassmentdindingoral punishment

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her means fordealing with dealing with room conflicts.

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Does i time-out really really work?

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Problem with TraditionalDiscipline

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Punishes childrenr making mistakes gn their behavior.

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"TiTi

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ime-outs can confuseime outs can confuseyoung children."

L KatzL. Katz

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Ti t di Time-out discourages the individual child and dampens the and dampens the

spirit of all children in the class.

Cl~Clewett

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Ingroups andt foutgroups form.

dBreedsDiscouragementg

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No time-out?No time out?

We'll beWe ll beencouraginganarchy!anarchy!

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We need to gWe need to gour hearts and

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'Rithm

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RELATIOth 4tthe 4t

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ONSHIPth "R"th "R"

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Find the best in Find the best in everybody, no

tt h l matter how long you have to

f h wait for them to show it.

Randy Pausch

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What is our role?

STOP the behavior?

HELP ll th hild HELP pull the child towards success?

TEACH a better way?

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StoppingStoppingthe behavior

k f h works for the shortterm.

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TeachingTeachingnew skillsH NGECHANGESlives!

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Building well adjustedwell-adjusted

individuals requirestime.

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BehavioralCrises:Crises:Danger

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If we don't use time outuse time-out,

what can d dwe do instead?

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GUIDANCE PROGUIDANCE PRO

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OFESSIONALSOFESSIONALS

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DEMOCRATIC DEMOCRATIC

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LIFE SKILLS LIFE SKILLS

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Teachers build a

ENCOURAGING CLASSROOMCLASSROOM

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We all belong.W ll t ib tWe all contribute.We all matter.

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Challenging Behavior

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Challenging Behavior

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