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CAPE TOWN’S FREE COMMUNITY LIFESTYLE MAGAZINEPROUDLY CAPE TOWNMarch 2013, Vol 10 No 03
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PUBLISHERDales Nesbit
EDITORMeryl Francis - [email protected]
ASSISTANT EDITORMegan Diener - [email protected]
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ILLUSTRATIONS Derrick Nesbit
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MISSION STATEMENTAn interactive, community-lifestyle magazine that aims to communicate in a positive, inspirational, and motivational manner by highlighting the beauty that surrounds us, the wonderful people of South Africa, the social needs that confront us and the role models that we look up to.
DISCLAIMERAll rights reserved. Reproduction of this magazine in whole or in part is prohibited without prior written permission of the publisher. The views expressed herein are those of the authors exclusively and not necessarily the views of the editor. Full Circle Magazine cannot be held responsible for perceived errors in advertisements or any consequences thereof.
March 2013
UP the CREEKFour days of river, live
bands, comedians and
lot’s of sun.
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Editor’s NoteAs you bask in the warmth of this glorious summer, FCM in hand, perhaps bobbing on some inflated animal in the pool, close your eyes, breathe deeply, slowly, and remember the women in your life, past and present; remember the women in your world, their dreams and aspirations; remember the women who relentlessly work towards making a difference, and remember the girl who once had that potential…before the abuse…she too had a place before this.
UCT Cape Otter ProjectUCT begins a project to
study the otters
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Earth HourTurn off the power
Go green for an hour!
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Little CircleMake a lantern for
Earth Hour
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Grant Clark V-I-C!
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Janet WinterbourneWisdom of Conflict
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16 John LloydWhy are women such
good negotiators?
Russell BrownLow cost hot water
- part 3
Business Circle
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FCM WILL BE LAUNCHING IT’S FIRST FULLY INTERACTIVE DIGITAL PUBLICATION ON
THE 27 MARCH 2013.BE PART OF THE VERY FIRST COMMUNITY
LIFESTYLE DIGITAL PUBLICATION ACCESSIBLE ON SMART PHONES,
TABLETS, AND COMPUTERS.See page 21 for details.
CONCERT IN THE PARKThe annual Lever Street CONCERT IN THE PARK in Kalk Bay will take place on Sunday 10th March from 2pm to 7pm. Live bands, belly dancers, magicians, face painters and most important, plenty of good food and drink will provide the entertainment. All money raised will be used to maintain the popular community park so come and support this annual event! More info contact Judy 021 788 5113 * 073 211 4508
TEARS OF JOYA few weeks ago Lee-Ann Laufs, owner of The Business of Catering, decided that her birthday would be the perfect opportunity to help collect some much needed goods for TEARS Animal Rescue. She decided to ask her guests not to bring her a gift, but instead to bring a donation for TEARS. The response was amazing. “I am completely blown away,” says Lee-Ann. “It was great that we were able to gather so many needed things for TEARS.”
Clownfishphotograph by Geoff Spiby
[email protected] by Georgina Jones
Among the features of tropical reefs are the Clownfish which
inhabit and protect anemones. They are better known as Nemoes since the advent of the animated film, Finding Nemo. These courageous little fish don’t hesitate to attack any creature which comes too close to their anemone, and despite their size (less than 20cm), can deliver an impressive bite. The largest fish in any anemone is a female, which dominates males and other smaller fish in the colony by emitting pheromones. When the dominant female dies, the largest male changes sex and the anemone’s life continues.
Mellissa McLaren (16), took this photo at Long Beach Kommetjie of her friend, Samantha Sutton (16)
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UP the CREEK
For those who know me, they can verify that I do not like crowds. And I certainly do not care to share my shower and
toilet with 2 500 revellers! So it was with some trepidation that my colleague, Richard, and I headed off to Swellendam to cover the Up the Creek Festival on the Breede River.
We thought that if we arrived early on Friday morning we would have the pick of the camping area, under a shady tree, to protect us from the blistering heat. To our dismay, we were met by a sea of tents with not even a tiny bit of shade available. So we opted for convenience and chose a spot right next to the ablution block. Note to self: arrive early on Thursday next time!
After setting up our tent we headed to the river to cool off. The temperature by this stage was well into the 30s. Already the river was filled with all sorts of floating paraphernalia, either bobbing next to the stage or parked under a massive awning that had been constructed in the middle of the river. On the paraphernalia were friendly and considerate people of all shapes and sizes, some with their children, just letting their hair down, escaping from reality for 4 days and having a ball. Heee ha!
As the day progressed we discovered that in fact we had not chosen such a bad spot for our campsite after all. Being right next to the outdoor showers meant that it provided us with instant relief, however brief, from the now unbearable 40 degrees. The other added benefit, and I know I am going to sound like a bit of a pervert, (but it was mainly due to Richard’s encouragement), was the continual stream of
lovely ladies taking lengthy showers to cool off. We had many a male offering us money for our space. With my strong entrepreneurial spirit, I must admit, I was tempted.
As the sun descended behind the hills, the party began to change gear. The sheer energy of the music took me somewhat by surprise. I sort of expected a more chilled out vibe. Looking around me however, I noticed that there were far younger people around, compared to myself, which would explain why I didn’t recognise any of the music. Although
not all the music appealed to me, I was not to be outshone by the younger crowd and soon got into the spirit of things. What I did appreciate most about the bands was their raw energy, the rapport they created with the crowd, and the obvious talent they possessed. It was quite an eye opener and put my support firmly back in SA music. My favourites were December Streets, Jeremy Loops, Desmond and the Tutus, and The Nomadic Orchestra
(which is a five-piece instrumental band that got one’s foot a tapping). Although I did not get to listen to all the bands, one thing is certain - for the 500 bucks one pays for the four days and three nights of pure entertainment by over thirty of SA’s top musicians, is a pure give away. So, to the organisers, a resounding WELL DONE for getting all these artists together, and credos on the sound quality, too. Absolutely first class!
Just when I thought I had had as much fun as I could, it was time for the Anything That Floats competition. This was a celebration of the creative spirit. Anything and everything that could float, and even some that couldn’t, took part in this awesome competition. The winners of The Best Float, The Float with the Mostest, and The Most Romantic Float were treated to an array of prizes to reward their grand efforts.
As for the rest of the festival, I overheard a fellow reveller put it in a nutshell when saying she felt quite exhausted by the continual entertainment and was completely overstimulated by the kaleidoscope of colour, music, people and activities. The glow on her face indicated it was a pleasant weariness.
Thumbs up to Reliance (reliance.co.za), and Greenpop (greenpop.org), who partnered in greening the festival by calculating and offsetting their carbon footprint, as well as implementing various recycling activities. A local company, Bontebok Recycling, worked tirelessly at all sorts of hours, managing the collection, separation and removal of waste. Trashback (trashback.org) also had an innovative program that rewarded people for rubbish that was brought in.
“What I did appreciate most about the bands
was their raw energy, the rapport they created with
the crowd, and the obvious talent they possessed.”
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A beautiful river, three epic stages, thirty awesome live bands and our country’s coolest comedy acts.
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Would I go there again? Absolutely! Would I camp in the same eye candy spot? No! I would find a more peaceful spot (if that’s possible) on the outer regions of the camping ground. I would also not bother to bring my own food as the food stalls are of a high standard, well-priced and cater to all culinary needs. Less stuff to pack, too. Any extra space needs to be dedicated to ice. And beers.
If I could offer any caution, it would be that parents should be aware that their children will be exposed to some rather hectic language by some of the bands and the MCs. That’s just me…older, and all that!
In a quieter moment, (not sure when that was!), I wondered where it had all began.
On returning home I logged on and went to upthecreek.co.za and found that it was inspired and created by Annie Sowden who says in her blog, “A LIFE magazine, a 40th birthday party and a riverside camp called Up the Creek. That’s how it all started.” She had read an article on the 1969 Woodstock festival in a LIFE magazine and when asked what the highlight of the festival was, one reveller simply replied, “Jimi Hendrix at dawn.” This was the inspiration she needed to organise a friend’s 40th birthday party at Up the Creek camp. With three bands playing on the stoep of the farmhouse, “I got my Jimi Hendrix-at-dawn moment,” says Annie. “Four months later, in January 1991, Up the Creek Festival debuted with 150 paying punters. 22 Years on…and Up the Creek is still one long weekend of rock ‘n roll revelry.”
22 Years! Well that explains how well organised the event is. Many years’ experience! It also explains all the guys I saw who were older, die-hard looking types. Older than me, I might add. They’re addicted and who can blame them?
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Calling all beach catamaran sailors! Get ready to set sail at Fish Hoek Beach Sailing and Surfski Club’s 19th annual Cape Point
Challenge on Saturday 16 March.“We are calling as many competent Hobie ‘or beach cat’ sailors to participate in this exclusive event, a highlight on the Hobie sailing calendar,” says Commodore, Caroline Hutchison.
The course traditionally starts in Fish Hoek Bay with the fleet sailing onwards past Roman Rock lighthouse (constructed in 1861). This is the only
lighthouse in South Africa constructed on a single rock.
The course then continues parallel to the coastline to Miller’s Point and then on to Cape Point, before returning to Fish Hoek Beach.
The race starts at 10am for the Hobie 14’s,16’s and Darts. The Hobie Tigers and Dragoons and other very fast boats start an hour later at 11am.
This five to eight hour endurance event will test competitors’ sailing skills and patience to tactically get ahead of the fleet. Wind conditions can range
from light breezes to big gusts. Safety is a high priority for this event which is
why Rescue 10 from Simon’s Town assists race officials with rescue duties. Proceeds from entry fees are donated to the National Sea Rescue Institute (NSRI).
See the Fish Hoek Beach Sailing and Surfski Club Facebook Group and visit fhbsc.co.za for more details. For more information about the race email Mark at [email protected] or contact him on 083 267 0982.
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River and wetland ecosystems are amongst the most threatened, yet most valuable systems worldwide.
Habitat degradation through increasing urbanisation and water pollution are two of the largest threats to these systems, and to the animals dependent on them for survival. Of particular concern in urban areas is sewage, and the dumping or run off of waste into water ways. Sewage effluent contains industrial waste, municipal wastes, domestic waste, animal remains and faecal matter, all containing a variety of harmful substances. Toxic chemicals are known to enter the food chain and accumulate in the tissues of top predators, leading to infertility, poor health and vulnerability to disease. Throughout the world, otters and other aquatic top predators have suffered population declines and even local extinctions due to exposure and subsequent bioaccumulation of toxic pollutants.
The Cape Clawless Otter (Aonyx capensis) occupies the role of top predator in the Western Cape’s aquatic systems and is a potentially important umbrella species for freshwater ecosystems. Listed as ‘Least Concern’ on IUCN’s Red List, it may also serve as an important flagship species and bio-indicator of water pollution throughout the Western Cape and South Africa. Within the Western Cape,
the Cape Peninsula provides a microcosm of the current threats to otter survival with both urban and agricultural land transformation altering their natural habitat and both chronic and acute pollution events threatening their health. Presently there is no data on the biology, distribution and conservation status of otters in the Cape Peninsula and thus there is no baseline data upon which to assess the combined effects of habitat loss and pollution of aquatic ecosystems on the distribution, abundance and health of otters.
It is for this reason that UCT began a PhD project to study the otters in the Cape Peninsula. Their reliance on fresh water in an urban environment like the South Peninsula does put them at risk to exposure to pollutants and the loss of suitable habitat. In addition,
the fact that they’re most active at dawn and dusk makes them difficult to monitor, and so any change in population size might not be noted until it is too late. Still in its early stages, the project aims to understand the spatial ecology of otters living in the Peninsula: how they use the urban space as opposed to the more natural, pristine areas; and, most importantly, to gain insight into how they are coping with the pollution loads in the urban rivers. Ultimately, by understanding the needs of an aquatic top predator, the project hopes to provide management recommendations for the conservation and sustainable use of the Peninsula’s rivers and wetlands, which in turn will benefit all species dependent on these systems for their survival.
As part of the data collection, we are asking for all sightings of otters to be reported to the Peninsula Otter Watch who coordinates otter sightings to monitor the presence of otters in the Cape. Please contact Nicola Okes with details of any otter sightings, injuries or deaths. If possible, indicate: location, time, unusual behaviour or markings/injuries, what the otter was doing, and any other information you may have. Photographs and GPS positions of sightings are most welcome. Further information can be found and sightings can be submitted online at www.nicolaokes.co.za
UCT Cape Otter Projectby Nicola Okes
UCT begins a PHD project to study the otters in the Cape Peninsula
Otters Murdoch Valley - Liz Hardman
Presently there is no data on the biology,
distribution and conservation status
of otters in the Cape Peninsula
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Nicola Okes sampling rivers for otter prey
Otter in Cape Point - Matt Lewis
Otter in Langebaan Rehab - Nicola Okes
HABITAT
African clawless otters can be found anywhere from open coastal plains, to semiarid regions, to densely forested areas. Surviving mostly in southern Africa, the otters live in areas surrounding permanent bodies of water, usually surrounded by some form of foliage. Logs, branches, and loose foliage greatly appeal to the otter as this provides shelter, shade and great rolling opportunities. Slow and rather clumsy on land, they build burrows in banks near water, allowing for easier food access and a quick escape from predators. In the False Bay area of the Cape Peninsula they have been observed scavenging along beaches and rocks and hunting in shallow surf for mullet. They are mainly nocturnal in urban areas and lie up during the day in quiet bushy areas.
REPRODUCTION
Females give birth to litters containing two to five young around early spring. Mating takes place in short periods throughout the rainy season in December. Afterwards, both males and females go their separate ways and return to their solitary lives once more. Young are raised solely by the females. Gestation lasts around two months (63 days). Weaning takes place between 45 and 60 days, with the young reaching full maturity around one year of age.
DIET
The diet of Aonyx capensis primarily includes water-dwelling animals, such as crabs, fish, frogs, and worms. They dive after prey to catch it, then swim to shore again, where they eat. Their fore paws come in handy as searching devices and are great tools for digging on the muddy bottoms of ponds and rivers, picking up rocks and looking under logs. Extremely sensitive whiskers (vibrissae) are used as sensors in the water to pick up the movements of potential prey.
BEHAVIOR
Though mostly solitary animals, African clawless otters will live in neighboring territories of family groups of up to five individuals with each still having its own range within that territory. They mostly keep to themselves, unless seeking a mate. Territories are marked using a pair of anal glands which secrete a particular scent. Each otter is very territorial over its particular range.
Awkward on land but acrobats in the water, these animals spend their days swimming and catching food. They return to underground burrows (holts) for safety, cooling or a rubdown using grasses and leaves. Mainly aquatic creatures, their tails are used for locomotion and propel them through the water. They are also used for balance when walking or sitting upright.
PREDATION
Quick in the water and burrowing on land, A. capensis does not have many predators. Its greatest threat comes from the python, which will often lay in wait near or in the water. Other predators would include the crocodile and fish eagles. If threatened, a high-pitched scream is emitted to warn neighboring otters and confuse a predator.
THERMOREGULATION
Living in Africa, environments can become very hot. Staying cool means spending time in the water, and also using burrows as a way to escape the highest temperatures of the day. To stay warm, on the other hand, the otters depend solely on their thick fur. Guard hairs cover the body, acting as insulation. Since the otter lacks an insulating layer of body fat, its only means of warmth is provided by its thick coat of fur.
ECONOMIC IMPACT
The biggest threat to African clawless otters comes from humans. Aonyx specimens will often forage in man-made fisheries and may be hunted or become entangled in nets. Overfishing by humans may reduce the food supply available to otters. They are sometimes hunted for their thick, soft pelts, which humans use in forms of clothing. In forested areas, logging may be a major threat since erosion leads to greatly increased turbidity in rivers which can in turn greatly reduce the populations of fish on which the otters depend. This may well be a far greater threat to otters than hunting.
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If you look out the window on the 23rd March at 8.30pm and notice that all the lights have gone out except yours, don’t panic. Don’t check the
time in case you should be in bed, don’t feel sorry for the neighbours who have a power outage, don’t phone them and offer an extension cable, and above all, don’t take too personally shouts from over the fence of a derogatory nature. Any of these actions will almost definitely set you up for embarrassment. Just know that millions of people around the world have turned their lights out. Millions, that is, bar one!
Now, you can go to bed early, or you can invite those insulting and offensive neighbours over and get them to help unplug your small appliances such as the microwave and coffee maker, and yes, your cell phone charger! Hopefully, your toaster is already unplugged when not in use! Next, it’s the TV, DVD and O.M.G. the computer! Resist the rising panic! Just stay calm. Gather everyone around and with great ceremony, start turning off the lights, one at a time and feel the darkness surround you. Don’t panic, I said! Light some candles and take a deep breath. Relax. Earth Hour is upon us…
“Well, what now?” you may say. Nothing breaks the ice better than food. And
drink. Remember that old Fondue set that hasn’t seen the light of day since the eighties? Bring it out! Once you’ve got the food and wine flowing,
encourage some storytelling. If there are children present, they will love it. They could also enjoy a bunch of grown-ups having an eighties sing-a-long inspired by the arrival of the Fondue set (or more likely, the wine) but this depends on the individual child’s temperament. They could also be traumatised! A much safer game could be a shadow puppet show. But without accompaniment.
What they will love much more than any of these activities is a game of hide-and-seek. Somehow, this is extra fun in the dark, even for grown-ups. If some grown-ups are too scared of the dark, a game of flashlight tag could be a fantastic substitute.
A word of caution though – if you’re hiding and aren’t found, and the whole “conserve your energy” theme overtakes you, and you decide to conserve some of your own, and slip onto your bed and take a quick nap – remember that your digital alarm clock has been unplugged and you are likely to be late for work in the morning.
So now that you are prepared for the event, what is it all about?
Earth Hour is intended to get people talking about the importance of reducing human impact on the Earth and to help spread awareness about Earth issues such as climate change. To make Earth Hour an even bigger success, spread the word to friends and family via Facebook, Twitter or email.
Turn off the POWER
Go green for an hour!by Meryl Francis
GOOD OLD ESKOMA little old lady answered a knock on the door one day, only to be confronted by a well-dressed young man carrying a vacuum cleaner.“Good morning,” said the young man. “If I could take a couple minutes of your time, I would like to demonstrate the very latest in high-powered vacuum cleaners.”“Go away!” said the old lady. “I haven’t got any money” and she proceeded to close the door.Quick as a flash, the young man wedged his foot in the door and pushed it wide open. “Don’t be too hasty!” he said.“Not until you have at least seen my demonstration.” And with that, he emptied a bucket of horse poop all over her hallway carpet.“If this vacuum cleaner does not remove all traces of this horse poop from your carpet, Madam, I will personally eat the remainder.”“Well,” she said, “I hope you’ve got a good appetite, because Eskom cut the electricity this morning!!
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Little CircleWe Earth
by Meryl Francis
So what is Earth Hour all about?
It is held by millions of people around the world on a special day, at a special time.
It lasts for one hour and during that time everyone all around the world turns off all their lights.
They spend the hour thinking of ways to help care for our planet.
Some ideas you can suggest to your family:
• Switch off the TV when you’re not watching it.• Turn the computer off when not using it.• Turn out the lights when you leave the room.• Turn off the tap when you’re brushing your teeth.• Use hot water sparingly.• Recycle. Recycle. Recycle.
Time: 3 daysDay 1: Blow up a balloon. Paste white tissue paper over the bottom of the balloon using a mix of glue and water. Hang up to dry overnight.
Day 2: Add layers of colourful tissue paper. You can add leaves in between layers. Hang up to dry.
Day 3: Once dry, cut the balloon out and punch four holes along the edge. Thread string through and attach to a long stick.
Now you’re ready for Earth Hour
Where: At homeWhen: 23rd March 2013Time: 8.30pm – 9.30pmWhy: We our planet!
Make a lantern for Earth Hour
WILL YOU SWITCH OFF YOUR LIGHTS THIS EARTH
HOUR? Y / NCount how many light bulbs you have in
your home! ____
How many of these are energy-saving light
bulbs? _____
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V-I-C!
It’s not often that I come out on top. TLJ says that I am unlikely to ever come out on top if I don’t make the effort to get off the couch at the
bottom first. That may well be true but it does sound terribly exhausting and I am sure that if I wait long enough someone will figure out a way to get me and the couch to the top.
I obviously have a story here where I come out on top. Well, as much as I like to win but really can’t be bothered to try, TLJ is the exact opposite and is okay with not winning but feels there is real merit in trying. I know, I have no idea where she gets most of her philosophies from but I find some of them quite disturbing. Mostly the ones that involve me doing any form of manual labour.
Anyhow, TLJ saw an opportunity for the family to be together and to be a part of a snowman building competition out at the Grand West Casino ice rink.
I am not a huge fan of the casino, simply because TLJ and I once went out there for an evening when the casino opened and casinos were new in South Africa, to see what all the fuss was about. We agreed to spend no more than R100 each and to have some fun. My R100 went into a one-armed bandit – presumably called that because all they do is steal your money – and was gone in under 60 seconds. TLJ, on the other hand, went to the food court and had a lovely meal.
Returning to the scene of the crime, we arrived at the casino ice rink, paid our entry fee and together with the 20 or so other entrants, were told we had one hour to build our snowman. As soon as the countdown timer started, TLJ and the Moose dived into the project and started building furiously. Mackers immediately got bored and demanded a cooldrink while Sizzles busied herself by stealing snow from the piles of
snow belonging to other competitors. It was quite amazing to watch actually. Snow
(more like crushed ice) was in high demand as it had been deposited in small piles on the ice rink with each family having a designated pile of snow. Here in the midst of this highly-charged and competitive atmosphere was this two-year-old tottering around with her bucket (being encouraged by her mother mind you) nicking snow right out from underneath peoples noses, and taking it back to the Moose and TLJ. I didn’t know whether to hug her or turn her in.
Frankly, after watching for three minutes, the whole thing seemed like too much effort and so partly in order to avoid Sizzles being arrested and ‘Team Clark’ being disqualified, and partly to find something to do, Mackers, Sizzles and I trooped off the ice to go and explore the food court and the casino.
By the time we arrived back an hour later, we had - between us spilled an entire can of Grapetiser on the already slippery casino floor, been ejected from the gambling floor, gotten lost in some kind of weird restaurant town and been frisked by security twice. When we got back to the ice rink, our (I use the term ”our” very loosely) snowman was magnificent.
The Moose and TLJ had, thanks to Sizzles’ thievery, managed to build the biggest snowman by far. How no one was suspicious is beyond me and clearly the field of competitors was not comprised of the shiniest spoons in the dishwasher.
Not only was the snowman twice the size of everyone else’s but it was also bedecked in all
sorts of princess-like garb including a crown, dark glasses, ear rings, a necklace and a Paris Hilton type dog! I’m not sure where all this stuff came from but I can vouch for Sizzles – she was with me getting thrown out of the gambling area at the time that these items must have been liberated.
While we were waiting to go; Sizzles, Mackers and I busied ourselves by scooting around illegally on the ice rink in our shoes. As we scooted I happened to overhear one mom saying that our snowman was sure to be the winner. Never one to miss out on an opportunity for glory I steered Mackers and Sizzles quickly back to our snowman before judging started.
It was initially nail-biting stuff as I hadn’t bothered to look at the competition but I was pretty sure we were in with a good shot, especially when Sizzles came past eating a carrot while another little girl in the distance was crying that her snowman’s nose was ”lost”. I swear I didn’t put her up to it.
As fate would have it all our hard work was rewarded and we, the Clark Family, were declared the winners. We won a Wimpy voucher, an ice skating voucher and some nifty Grand West Casino water bottles which I will be proud to send my girls to school with. We also got our photo taken with some radio DJ dude. I don’t know who he was because they introduced him before we got back.
I know technically that all the credit should go to the Moose and TLJ, but we are a family, which means we stand together. We win together and we lose together. We mostly lose together. But for one bright moment we were the stars and everyone was envying us and our R150 Wimpy Voucher! I suspect there is a lesson in here somewhere but it probably backs up one of TLJ’s weird philosophies. Maybe I will have a sit down on the couch and think about it.
“I swear I didn’t put her up to it.”
The Clark family’s latest hilarious adventure - a snowman building competition
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The Competitive Partner These are goal-orientated and often aggressive people with a need to win or be right, sometimes at all costs! Rarely does this type of person see a win-win situation, rather for them there has to be a winner and a loser. This type of person is often abusive or domineering and can be forceful and intimidating with an unapproachable style. They can be hostile and resort to name calling, door slamming and shouting to solve their disagreements. Their partners are forced into a ‘silent resentment’ and quickly become unhappy within the relationship. Although not ideal, this style of conflict resolution CAN work but only in instances where there is a crisis and quick decisions need to be made where this person will then assume the dominant role. Partners in this relationship need to find their voice and also be heard to avoid being bullied into submission.
Conflict Avoider These people will withdraw or even run away from conflict. They will deny or ignore a conflict situation, making them seem unassertive, cowardly or uncooperative and may frustrate their partner. They will at times sacrifice their own goals (which can lead to dissatisfaction and unhappiness later in the relationship) and may seem naïve and passive, offering their partner an opportunity to take advantage of their reluctance to deal with issues. This method of conflict management will work where trivial matters are brought up which do not warrant lengthy debate by defusing, or where situations arise where it is useful to acquire information to understand an issue better.
The Accommodator Their main goal is to maintain peace and harmony and their primary aim is to ‘smooth over’ problems as they see little gain in thrashing things out. It is common with this type of person that they get ‘lost’ within their relationship as they often ignore their own goals and dreams and give in to their partners’ wishes and may come across as weak. I have seen too many times in my counselling practice the ultimate resentment, passive aggression and disillusionment in a person who has facilitated this situation. Allowing their own desires to be deferred invariably leads to trouble in a marriage. At some stage in their relationship, often years down the line, they feel that enough is enough and they decide to try to assert themselves. This can lead to major relationship issues as the opposing partner has become used to this passive partner who now feels the need to assert themselves, sometimes presenting unsolvable challenges!
The Compromiser A compromiser will pursue their point but are also mindful of keeping a stability within the partnership. They are prepared to sacrifice some of their own goals but will encourage their partner to similarly make sacrifices within the relationship. This type of conflict style works towards a win-win situation and the person is often assertive but co-operative in debate. Compromise is needed and valuable where there is no obvious solution or where partners have totally opposing views from each other.
The Collaborator Even if this person disagrees with their partner they will listen to what they have to say, with a view to maintaining a stable and harmonious relationship. Their goal is to achieve a conciliatory win-win and try to find ways to resolve matters which are agreeable to all. This style of communication is very useful in group situations with a number of differing perspectives when one is trying to obtain consensus or buy-in from all concerned.
Ideally, the aim of conflict is to find constructive solutions to joint problems in a relationship. Given that problems will inevitably arise, it is vital to acknowledge the role of conflict as a healthy part of a good relationship. By knowing one’s own conflict style a person will be able to predict to some degree how they will behave in conflict situations and be better placed to handle these matters. Understanding these styles in each other can minimise the risk of a minor tiff becoming a destructive and hurtful fight and strengthen the relationship, creating a confidence in a couple that the joint effort to resolve an issue shows that they have the cohesiveness to weather future conflicts together without the relationship breaking down under the pressure and disappointment of conflict.
Wisdom of Conflict
Janet Winterbourne explores conflict style within relationships
There are 5 basic conflict styles
Janet Winterbourne is a relationships and family counsellor in private practice (South African College of Applied Psychology Diploma in Counselling and
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Some people thrive on and promote conflict in their relationships whilst others dread it and run for the hills at the first sign of an issue! Either way, conflict and conflict resolution are key
components to a healthy relationship. If handled correctly it can offer a couple a sense of stability within their relationship by knowing that when faced with difficulties they have the tools and communication skills to manage things.
Some people however are unaware of their own particular style of conflict management. If you are aware of your own particular style and that of your partner, it can enable a couple to choose to respond to a situation thoughtfully rather than to react to it irrationally, making marital conflict constructive rather than destructive.
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Why are women such good negotiators?
1. The ability to put themselves in their counterparts shoes. 2. A comprehensive, attentive and detailed communication style. 3. A natural empathy that facilitates and builds trust. 4. They have a curious and attentive listening ability. 5. Women have a less competitive attitude. 6. A strong sense of fairness and ability to persuade. 7. They are proactive risk managers. 8. They easily understand collaborative decision-making.
“AS LEADERS, WOMEN RULE: New studies find that female managers outshine their male counterparts in almost every measure” - Special Report, Business Week
We live and operate in a ‘high trust’ selling environment. We are also living in a business era that I call the ‘relational marketing’ era. This “relationship stuff” comes naturally to
women (it’s in their genes), but it is painfully difficult for many men.
Old school selling is dead! Endless boozy lunches are a thing of the past and so-called golf course negotiations are history. This is a time when deals are struck on high trust and powerful relationships. Women have a natural aptitude for good communication, natural empathy and softer aggression. These are all powerful characteristics that benefit the new age negotiator.
EIGHT STRENGTHS THAT MAKE WOMEN NATURALLY BORN NEGOTIATORS:
John Lloyd is a business growth strategist, award-winning marketing consultant, speaker, trainer, columnist and author of Smart Thinking for Crazy Times. Contact John 083 638 8788 * [email protected] * www.brandstorm.co.za
“ Be smart! Make sure that women dominate your negotiating teams and processes. Even better, ensure that you have a strong representation of women at top management and board level. ”
“ The ‘Connection Proclivity’ in women starts early. When asked, ‘How was school today?’ a girl usually tells her mother every detail
of what happened, while a boy might grunt, ‘Fine.’ ” Faith Popcorn, EVEolution
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Artist and conservationist, Deziree Smith will be hosting a private exhibition at the Kalk Bay Studio from Thursday 18 April at 6.30pm. A painting of a Rhino (1,2 m x 1,2 m ~ Oil on Canvas ) will be auctioned at the opening of the exhibition. The full proceeds of the sale will be donated to the African Conservation Trust. Steve Newman, who recently did a naked skydive to raise funds for Rhino Conservation, will be the guest speaker. The collection, ‘From the Ashes’, is a collection inspired by humanity’s influence on our natural world, and the balance thereof.
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The Simon’s Town Art Group will be having their annual art exhibition from 23rd March to 1st April at the Simon’s Town Library Hall from 9am to 5pm each day. The exhibition will be opened by Penny Steynor, winner of numerous awards. Live background music and tasty snacks and drinks will add to the ambience. For more information contact Janet Spurr on 021 782 0339.
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Why are women such good negotiators? “AS LEADERS, WOMEN RULE: New studies find that female managers outshine their
male counterparts in almost every measure” - Special Report, Business Week
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by Russell Brown, Ruach Consulting
To recap, last month I introduced the concept of a payback period which is important to understand when considering spending money on hot water technology. A payback will enable you to
understand the potential for saving and how long the money you spend (the cost) will take to be repaid by the saving made.
We started to look at low cost technology covering efficient shower heads. Have you checked your shower heads to see if they are efficient? If they are inefficient, have you bought an efficient fitting yet?Every month you delay the decision will cost you. I will now continue to address the next of low cost interventions – insulation.
THE USE OF INSULATIONInsulation is one of the unsung heroes of the energy efficiency world that is often neglected when looking at methods to save energy. This is a low cost way to limit the loss or gain of heat or cold, which means savings on energy. Areas where insulation proves effective are keeping heat in (hot water or your house) or keeping the cold in (your fridge or house); or visa versa.
Research shows that insulation is still one of the better “business value” initiatives that can be implemented by a business to drive out energy savings. What do I mean by “business value”? – essentially value achieved by a business in implementing an intervention versus its related cost.
The same is true for your home and specifically relating to your hot water. So what should you do?
There are two ways to insulate for hot water. The first is to insulate your geyser and the second is to insulate (or clad) the hot water pipes leading from your geyser to your taps.
Low cost hot water technology - part 3
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GEYSER INSULATION Geyser insulation, often commonly referred to as a “geyser blanket”, can help reduce the electricity a geyser uses. Insulation helps retard the rate at which a geyser cools when switched off and helps reduce the heat loss to the atmosphere while hot water is being stored. Less electricity is required to keep the water hot at the pre-set thermostat temperature or reheat the water after the geyser has been switched off (e.g. when using a timer).
Tests have shown that up 20% of the electricity used to heat water can be saved by insulating the geyser.
Cost : R700 (plus installation – this can typically be done as a DIY job)
Saving : R1000 per year (R83 per month)*
Payback : less than 1 year*
*Based on tests done on a 150l geyser switched off for 24 hours and then reheated.
PIPE INSULATIONInsulating the pipes is a similar process to wrapping the geyser in blanket but typically saves less. This is because a smaller volume of hot water in the hot water pipes is kept warm. Pipes are wrapped in insulated cladding material similar to how you would wrap a limb in a bandage. This is can be difficult to install as pipe work may be difficult to access.Cost: R300 (excluding installation – this can typically be done as a DIY job).Saving: Exact savings unknown* Payback: Estimated to be just over a year**Has not been formally tested by any recognised organisation.
Next month we will take a look at geyser timers or controllers as the final low cost intervention for hot water.
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