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FIRST RESPONDERS: THE
CALMING ELEMENT OF
RATIONALITY BETWEEN THE
BULLY AND THE VICTIM
A BIT ABOUT ME
Educational Consultant with NDT Educational Services since April 2010
Taught high school, elementary & college
Certified in EC-4 ELA & Reading 4-8 & G/T Supplement
Have two daughters, two dogs, one cat and five fish
Love school
TODAY IS THE…
Festival of Sleep Day Scientists say that sleep is essential to memory
Brain uses those hours to arrange memories so you can better recall key emotional moments
Skimp on sleep = elevated levels of inflammation and crave higher-calorie foods
BAD JOKE OF THE DAY
WHAT IS KNOWN AT PALMER
Bullying is an increasing problem.
Students do a good job telling adults when bullying happens.
How to address the problem if it escalates to an office referral-type situation
WHAT IS UNKNOWN AT PALMER
Issue #1 - How to help other students, i.e. witnesses to the bullying, to step in appropriately to help the victims
Issue #2 - Various strategies to teach students to help deescalate inappropriate interactions
Issue # 3 - How to give students the power to proactively address the problem before they get to an office referral
THE BULLY - GARFIELD
THE VICTIM - CALVIN
THE BYSTANDER -
WHAT IS BULLYING?
Please honestly complete the page “What is Bullying?” in your handouts.
(This will not be discussed with anyone)
Quick Review
THE DEFINITION OF BULLYING
Bullying happens when someone hurts or scares another person on purpose and the person being bullied has a hard time defending himself or herself.
Usually, bullying happens over and over.
EXAMPLES OF BULLYING
Punching, shoving, and other acts that hurt people physically
Spreading bad rumors about people
Keeping certain people out of a "group"
Teasing people in a mean way
Getting certain people to "gang up" on others
OTHER FORMS OF BULLYING
Cyber bullying is when children or teens bully each other using the Internet, mobile phones or other cyber technology.
Can include sending mean text, email, or instant messages
Posting negative pictures or messages about others in blogs or on Web sites
Using someone else's user name to spread rumors or lies about someone
EFFECTS OF BULLYING
Bullying is "just a fact of life" or "no big deal."
Too often, people just don't take bullying seriously - or until the sad and sometimes scary stories are revealed.
It happens a lot more than some people think.
Studies show that between 15-25% of U.S. students are bullied with some frequency, while 15-20% report they bully others with some frequency
EFFECTS OF BULLYING CONT.
It can mess up a kid's future.
Young people who bully are more likely to skip and/or drop out of school. They are also more likely to smoke, drink alcohol and get into fights
It scares some people so much that they skip school.
As many as 160,000 students may stay home on any given day because they're afraid of being bullied
EFFECTS OF BULLYING CONT.
It can lead to huge problems later in life.
Children who bully are more likely to get into fights, vandalize property, and drop out of school. And 60% of boys who were bullies in middle school had at least one criminal conviction by the age of 24 (Olweus, 1993).
AND IT’S A
NATION-WIDE PROBLEM
States with laws on bullying States with no laws on bullying Updated October 2010
MYTH #1 -
BULLYING IS THE SAME
AS CONFLICT
Bullying is aggressive behavior that involves an imbalance of power or strength. Often, bullying is repeated over time.
Conflict involves antagonism among two or more people.
MYTH #2 –
BULLIED CHILDREN WILL
ALWAYS TELL AN ADULT
Most studies find that only 25%-50% of bullied children talk to an adult about the bullying.
MYTH #3 - CHILDREN WHO
OBSERVE BULLYING DON’T
WANT TO GET INVOLVED.
In a recent study of t’weens, 56% said that they
usually either say or do something to try to stop bullying that they observe or tell someone who could help.
ISSUE #1 - HOW TO HELP
STUDENTS GET INVOLVED
Share Your Story
Listen to Their Stories
Take a Pledge
ISSUE # 2 - TEACHABLE
STRATEGIES TO DEESCALATE
INTERACTIONS
Speak Up
Reach Out
Be a Friend
ISSUE # 3 - GIVING STUDENTS
THE POWER
Rule of 3/Broken Record Technique
Tattling vs. Reporting
Give a Certificate
WHAT YOU CAN DO
TO HELP –
SUGGESTED READING LIST
Amelia's Bully Survival Guide, Marissa Moss Suggested age: 8 to 12 years As if science class isn't enough to deal with–now Amelia has to deal with the class bully.
Because You Matter, Jan Carmen Liles Suggested age: 5 to 8 years There is trouble at the Countryside Zoo and Harriet Hummingbird is out to investigate. When she finds her dear friends at the zoo feeling down about themselves after being bullied by a gang of weasels, Harriet takes action. First of all, she reassures each animal of their unique beauty and goodness. Then Harriet rallies her bird friends to craft a solution everyone will love.
Blubber, Judy Blume Suggested age: 9 to 12 years A young girl goes along with tormenting a classmate and the finds out what it is like to be target too.
SUGGESTED READING LIST
CONT.
Hooway for Wodney Wat, Helen Wester Suggested age: 5 to 8 years Classmates makes fun of someone because of a speech impediment.
Just Kidding, Trudy Ludwig Suggested age: 8 to 12 years Addresses the topic of teasing and emphasizes that jokes make people feel bad and can damage self-esteem.
King of the Playground, Phyllis Reynolds Naylor Suggested age: 4 to 8 years With his dad's help, a young boy overcomes her fear of a boy who will not let him on the playground.
Mi Enemiga Secreta (My Secret Bully), Trudy Ludwig, translator Aurora Hernandez My Secret Bully, Trudy Ludwig Suggested age: 5 to 8 years A girl confides to her mother that her best friend is treating her badly, and together they figure out what to do.
SUGGESTED READING LIST
CONT.
Recess Queen, Alexis O'Neil Suggested age: 4 to 8 years The biggest bully on the school playground is challenged by a new girl at school.
Say Something, Peggy Moss Suggested age: 8 to 12 years A child who never say anything when other children are being teased or bullied finds herself in their position one day when jokes are made at her expense and no one speaks up.
Stand Tall, Molly Lou Melon, Patty Lovell Suggested age: 4 to 8 years A young girl is ready for when the class bully at a new school makes fun of her.
Stop Picking on Me, Pat Thomas, Leslie Harker Suggested age: 5 to 8 years Simple and direct language to help young kids accept the normal fears and worries that accompany bullying.
SUGGESTED READING LIST
CONT.
Nobody Knew What to Do, Becky Ray McCain Suggested age: 6 to 9 years When bullies pick on a boy at school, a classmate is afraid, by decides he must do something.
The Hundred Dresses, Eleanor Estes Suggested age: 8 to 10 years Classic, award winning book about prejudice and understanding.
MOST IMPORTANT THINGS
YOU CAN DO…
LISTEN TO THEM
WATCH THEM
ACKNOWLEDGE THEM
Any Questions?
CONTACT INFORMATION
Nichole Hertel, M.Ed.
NDT Educational Services
Email: [email protected]
Phone: (713) 857-5262
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