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COIN | 1 Intergroup Central Office 274 East Hamilton Ave. Suite D Campbell, CA 95008 P: 408.374.8511 email: [email protected] www.aasanjose.org IN THIS ISSUE Monthly Topic Articles ...1-5 Editor’s Bag...6 The History Buff...7 Calendar...10-11 Meeting Changes...12 Birthdays...13 Intergroup Minutes...16-17 Financials.... 18-19 Group Contributions...19-20 THIS MONTH’S ACTIVITIES Local Events...10 Events around California...10 Events around the Country...10 VOLUME 9, ISSUE 10 OCTOBER 2014 FOCUS: STEP 10/WILLINGNESS Here’s lookin’ at you! Happy October, all you Libras and Scorpios! Weather’s changing again, leaves are turning, and this is one of my favorite months – another one of those marriage months. (Hmmm. The end of the year seems to be my time for weddings: September, October, November, and December.) The end of this month is, of course, Halloween, but October is also the month of Awareness: Breast Cancer, Domestic Violence, Lupus, and also National Diabetes month. In the food arena, October is Seafood Month as well as Eat Country Ham, Pizza, Vegetarian, Popcorn-Popping, and Cookie Month. Something to keep in mind, World Smile Day is the first Friday of the month, and World Teacher’s Day is the 5th of October. Columbus Day lands on the second Monday of the month, and United Nations Day happens on the 24th. Willingness is the topic this month, and stories start on this page and continue on page 2. Next month’s topic is Gratitude (it IS Thanksgiving month, guys and gals! Time to remember why we got sober!) as well as Step 11: “Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.” We need your stories, so send us your version of why you are grateful, or how prayer has influenced your life, and send them to [email protected]. We love hearing YOUR tales. Thanks for everything so far, and tell your friends we need more stories. MONTHLY TOPICS continued on page 3 I have often found myself in less than ideal situations due to thinking that my way is the best way. For example, at the start of a study abroad trip in 2007 I arrived at the Fremantle, Western Australia train station. It was after dark and I was dragging around ten months’ worth of luggage -- and a violin. I had no idea where I was, nor how to get to the hostel where I had a reserva- tion for three nights, which I figured would be enough time to find perma- nent housing. If only I had willingly gone the suggested route of living in the on-campus flats like everyone else had, then I could have already been unpacked. No, being independent and doing things my way would certainly be better, I thought. Such experiences have made me realize that I can be too independent for my own good. So when I was in a recovery house six months ago and it was expected of me to find a sponsor before the 30 days of treatment were over, I only went along with it because it was a rule. I thought, “Why do I need a tutor? I’m smart. I can read the Big Book. It’s like a textbook, right? I’m familiar with those.” I had no idea that the first woman I asked would turn out to be the most perfect sponsor for me. I soon realized that having a sponsor is a hugely important part of the A.A. program, and without one I would be lost. Following my own way would have eventually led me down the path of failure. I quickly learned that the 12 steps aren’t just textbook prob- lems to solve, but lessons that, when willingly worked with one’s sponsor and higher power, guide us along our intended daily

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Intergroup Central Office

274 East Hamilton Ave.

Suite D

Campbell, CA 95008

P: 408.374.8511

email: [email protected]

www.aasanjose.org

IN THIS ISSUE

Monthly Topic Articles ...1-5

Editor’s Bag...6

The History Buff...7

Calendar...10-11

Meeting Changes...12

Birthdays...13

Intergroup Minutes...16-17

Financials....18-19

Group Contributions...19-20

THIS MONTH’S ACTIVITIES

Local Events...10

Events around California...10

Events around the Country...10

VOLUME 9, ISSUE 10 OCTOBER 2014

FOCUS: STEP 10/WILLINGNESS

Here’s lookin’ at you! Happy October, all you Libras and Scorpios! Weather’s changing again, leaves are turning, and this is one of my favorite months – another one of those marriage months. (Hmmm. The end of the year seems to be my time for weddings: September, October, November, and December.)

The end of this month is, of course, Halloween, but October is also the month of Awareness: Breast Cancer, Domestic Violence, Lupus, and also National Diabetes month. In the food arena, October is Seafood Month as well as Eat Country Ham, Pizza, Vegetarian, Popcorn-Popping, and Cookie Month. Something to keep in mind, World Smile Day is the first Friday of the month, and World Teacher’s Day is the 5th of October. Columbus Day lands on the second Monday of the month, and United Nations Day happens on the 24th.

Willingness is the topic this month, and stories start on this page and continue on page 2. Next month’s topic is Gratitude (it IS Thanksgiving month, guys and gals! Time to remember why we got sober!) as well as Step 11: “Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.” We need your stories, so send us your version of why you are grateful, or how prayer has influenced your life, and send them to [email protected]. We love hearing YOUR tales. Thanks for everything so far, and tell your friends we need more stories.

MONTHLY TOPICS

continued on page 3

I have often found myself in less than ideal situations due to thinking that my way is the best way. For example, at the start of a study abroad trip in 2007 I arrived at the Fremantle, Western Australia train station. It was after dark and I was dragging around ten months’ worth of luggage -- and a violin. I had no idea where I was, nor how to get to the hostel where I had a reserva-tion for three nights, which I figured would be enough time to find perma-nent housing. If only I had willingly gone the suggested route of living in the on-campus flats like everyone else had, then I could have already been unpacked. No, being independent and doing things my way would certainly be better, I thought. Such experiences have made me realize that I can be too independent for my own good.

So when I was in a recovery house six months ago and it was expected of me to find a sponsor before the 30 days of treatment were over, I only went along with it because it was a rule. I thought, “Why do I need a tutor? I’m smart. I can read the Big Book. It’s like a textbook, right? I’m familiar with those.” I had no idea that the first woman I asked would turn out to be the most perfect sponsor for me. I soon realized that having a sponsor is a hugely important part of the A.A. program, and without one I would be lost. Following my own way would have eventually led me down the path of failure. I quickly learned that the 12 steps aren’t just textbook prob-lems to solve, but lessons that, when willingly worked with one’s sponsor and higher power, guide us along our intended daily

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HOW IMPORTANT IS MAKING AN AMENDS?

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Allow me to go back in time! Before I even reached my teens I had many run-ins with the law. From tak-ing slapshots at moving cars with snowballs made of ice, to stealing gas from milk trucks, for joyriding in daddy’s ‘65 Belair Chevy, to bum-per riding on the back of my school bus all the way to school; I was on a 1st name basis, with the law.

My parents separated when I was only 13 yrs. old so my mother lost control of the reins the moment the man who literally, made me fear for my life left the scene! The 13 yr. old, 6’4”, little Indian brave, has come out of the woods only to wreak havoc in the big city.

Believe it or not, at 13, I could go drink for drink with most ‘normal’ drinking adults because I was weaned on whiskey. In a year’s time, I was on a 1st name basis with city cops, too! My girlfriend and I were selling weed and L.S.D. in school and she almost got caught with 70 hits of L.S.D. She panicked and swallowed them all. I never saw her again. The police came looking for me. They had a lot of questions for me and then my mother. What an embarrassment I was to her, our family and her friends. That was just the beginning of a long line of arrests and many serious charges, for a teen. I attended keg parties on the weekends along the banks of the Neshaminy Creek and the Delaware River. This is where I had a chance to show off all the survival skills my mother and father had taught me; my favorite being starting a fire without matches. I was real good at starting fires; not so good at putting them out. This led to many arson charges. I always pled, “Not guilty”, with the ex-cuse; “I was just trying to keep warm, your honor and it got out of hand.” That doesn’t fly when the judge and you are now on a 1st name basis, too!

Other than the judges I had no re-spect for authority at all! I was a Reb-el in Yankee territory! This lifestyle continued on into adulthood with a D. U. I., public drunkenness, drunk

and disorderly charges, more arson charges, bomb threats on an airplane (my father & I), and many numerous drug-related charges. So many ac-complishments for any mother to be proud of, huh? Whatever happened to her saintly, little altar boy, her little choir boy/trumpeter, her three letter, sport enthusiasts, her Graphic Arts, Creative Writing and English Litera-ture Major? Where had all his hopes and dreams of becoming a success-ful News Journalists/Creative Writer/Poet, gone! Who could blame her, if she was to suddenly, disown me? And she did. I look back now and I won-der, why was I so surprised? I was oblivious to how I was treating her and how I was tearing her apart emo-tionally. I had turned into a monster, (much like my father), right before her eyes! At one point she had said, “You are becoming more and more like your father everyday!” She was right! I was my father, only worse, because I was a junkie, too. She told me never to contact her again unless I had something positive to tell her! So, I said goodbye to her that day and I never saw my mother again.

I attempted to touch base with her when I had a moment of sanity last year. I had something positive to tell her about! I couldn’t seem to find her and it turns out I would never find her because she passed away, in 2007! I didn’t know what to think! I was in shock and I think I still am, because I never got a chance to tell her I’m sorry, to tell her I missed her, to tell her I love her or to tell her goodbye! I cried ‘silent’ tears every night, for a week, because “Men don’t cry.”, according to my cold, heart-less father! Eventually though, the levee broke, because apparently, I am not like my father in every way.

I have discovered in sobriety that I am filled with emotions I never knew existed and at times I am an emotional wreck! I found I could not wait until I got to the 9th step to apologize to my mother, so I got out my pen and I put down on pa-

per everything I never had a chance to say. This is my poem for her.

MAMA’S ONLY SON!

Here I am now, mama’s only son,

With so many goals, still left undone.

I’ve always tried to stand out in the crowd.

I only wanted to make mama proud.

Though I wasted time for fifty some years,

By doing hard drugs, drink-ing whiskies and beers.

My God-given talents, were cast aside,

So my unfulfilled dreams re-main locked inside.

I could’ve wrote nov-els or poetic books,

Instead, I just grovel and I sense dirty looks;

From cousins who’ve succeed-ed, because they’ve tried,

While I procrastinat-ed,- my mama died.

I never had a chance, to say, goodbye

Or to tell her I’m sorry, for making her cry.

Do you think she knows, I don’t drink anymore?

Do you think she knows, I don’t sleep, on the floor?

Do you think she knows, I love her today?

Is she with the God, to whom I now pray?

Can she ever forgive me, for breaking her heart?

Does she see this disease, was there, from the start?

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MY EXPERIENCE WITH ACYPAAHOW IMPORTANT IS MAKING AN AMENDS? continued from page 2

WILLINGNESS continued from page 1

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and lifelong paths.

My first “ah-ha” lesson that my sponsor taught me had to do with willingness. I was nearing the end of my stay at the recovery house, and I thought I knew everything about myself. I had everything planned out in my head. I was going to move back in with my parents temporarily, find a job, then find a place to live with my dog, while all the while going to meetings regularly. However,

my parents no longer trusted me to live with them, and I had drunk all of my savings. I resented them for insisting that I live in a sober living home and for what I viewed as trying to control my life. What my sponsor taught me was that if I was fighting to have things go my way, then I was probably going against what God wanted. I stopped fighting with my parents and became willing to take their advice and, not surpris-ingly, everything fell into place.

I don’t really like the phrase, “fake it ‘till you make it,” but that was how I learned willing-ness. Willingness begets willing-ness. Six months ago I was barely willing enough to do what I was told, but that little bit was enough. I have realized the more willing I am, the more willing I become.

If you can still hear me and you can still see,

You can see your son’s claimed, a victory!

Still powerless over alco-hol and likewise drugs,

My God and good people, protect me with hugs.

Now the same disease, that has torn us apart,

Has led me to a program; I can make a new start.

And though the alcohol’s gone, the damage is done,

Now it’s all about change and I’ve just begun.

A lifetime of losses, now I feel, that I’ve won

And I’ll make you proud, of your only son......

Love,

JIMI K.

I got sober when I was 24 years old. If you would have asked me, I would have told you that I was a grown man. However, after some time sober, in-ventories, and self-reflection, I now realize that I was just a 24-year-old little boy. I was living at my parents’ house, spiraling into debt, harming everybody I was in contact with, and killing myself with alcohol. I hated myself so thoroughly that I had no hope the next day would be any better. The best outcome of the next day was that it would be just as bad as the day before and probably a little worse. The best I could do was black out. At least then I wouldn’t have to face reality…

Thankfully, it was recommended that I go to meetings of Alcoholics Anony-mous. I reached out to a friend from high school and he said that he went to a good meeting in Los Gatos on Tuesday nights. As I walked up to the meeting, fear gripped me. A bunch of young people were there, smoking cigarettes, giving each other hugs, and smiling. This was not what I expected when I thought of an AA meeting. After the meeting, a handful of young men reached out to me and gave me their phone numbers. I left the meet-ing with a Big Book and a sponsor.

I began attending the Young at Heart group regularly after that. With only two weeks sober, I had to go through my first sober Christmas. I was very worried about it because I knew that

my family would be drinking. I came up with a plan with the help of my sponsor, and things worked out just fine. It wasn’t as big a deal as I made it out to be in my own head! It went so well in fact, I thought it would be a great idea to go out to the bars with my friends on New Year’s Eve and be the designated driver! Luckily, the people in my outpatient program laughed at me. I had heard that SCCY-PAA (Santa Clara County Young People of Alcoholics Anonymous) was throw-ing a New Year’s dance in Mountain View, and I begrudgingly attended.

At the event, I was again gripped with fear. A similar scene as my first meet-ing was present as I walked up to the location. Everybody seemed to have friends and be happy. The speaker meeting was great and I felt comfort-able. As soon as the meeting ended, however, the dance started and I wanted to crawl out of my skin. Other people did not bend over backwards to make me feel at home! (I don’t know how true that actually was be-cause I remember quite a few people reaching out to me there, but I was so consumed with self that I couldn’t see it.) I spent the rest of the night chain smoking and vowed to never attend another stupid young people’s dance.

As the next year progressed, I began to take the Steps, get involved with ser-vice, and sponsor other young men. I was convinced that these young people

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WILLINGNESS AND ACTION

LET’S HEAR IT FOR WILLINGNESS

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From “My Chance To Live” on page 317 of the 4th Edition of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous

“If asked what the two most impor-tant things in recovery are, I would have to say willingness and action. I was willing to believe that A.A. was telling me the truth. I wanted to believe it was true in a way I can-not relate in words. I wanted this thing to work. Then I began to take the course of action prescribed.”

“When I am willing to do the right thing, I am rewarded with an inner peace no amount of liquor could ever provide. When I am unwilling to do the right thing, I become restless, ir-ritable, and discontent. It is always my choice. Through the Twelve Steps, I have been granted the gift of choice. I am no longer at the mercy of a dis-ease that tells me the only answer is to drink. If willingness is the key to unlock the gates of hell, it is action that opens those doors so that we may walk freely among the living.”

I grew up in a household that had social drinking as well as an alco-holic. I thought drinking was part of being a man. In the end King Alcohol had beaten me into submis-

sion although submit I would not and simply could not. I was at the jumping-off point mentioned in the Big Book. True growth came after the fall from egocentric destruc-tion. A life of being only too willing to take the short cuts, blame others for my shortcomings and unmet ex-pectations was coming to a close.

It was not until I realized that I was the center of all my problems that I had a chance of staying sober. The seductive elixir of alcohol lost its death grip on me for a very small window of time. The reality that my downfalls came from my own actions hit me like a ton of bricks one day as I looked in the mirror.

Someone recognized the defeat in my eyes and introduced me to a life far more fulfilling than the only life I had known. When I came to A.A. I had no hope to end the suffering of my life. I got a sponsor and was willing to take some suggestions, the Steps, and eventually help oth-ers. The hope my sponsor gave me was built on trust; trust that this program would work. Through my sponsor’s personal stories and expe-riences this trust built a solid faith that things do work out if I don’t pick up a drink one day at a time.

From my own personal experiences of willingness I have found this amazing power working through me. I am simply the conduit and it’s brought me closer to others and to myself. Doing the steps and being willing to ask for guidance through prayer, and working with a sponsor as well as newcomers, I have grown. I sense a deeper connection with my world and a profound sense of personal and interpersonal growth that money simply could never buy.

I have found that willingness to face my fears and challenges head-on, with honesty and open-mindedness, has slain the paper dragons that kept me from true peace, contentment and a life much richer than I had ever wished.

From page 568 of the Big Book:

“There is a principle which is a bar against all information, which is proof against all arguments and cannot fail to keep a man in ever-lasting ignorance – that principle is contempt prior to investigation.”

- Herbert Spencer

Anonymous

Willingness helped me to fall back to sleep in the middle of the night. It helped me to keep my part of the street clean, and it also helped me to speak calmly and lovingly.

The other day before leaving work I checked my assignment for the fol-lowing day and recoiled. I work as an operating room nurse. My fate was to work with an intense sur-geon and a nurse also known for being difficult. Both are very com-petent, skilled caregivers and we had five surgeries to perform.

Before going to sleep that night I paused and thought of the follow-ing day. I thought of my patients and

asked God to help me to stay focused in the moment at work. I was tired but somewhat anxious. I woke up around 2:00 and after a bit of restless-ness fell back to sleep after turning my anxiety over to God. I awakened again, and the same thing—restless-ness, followed by turning it over to him once more. My willingness to turn the situation over to the care of God as I understood Him helped me to fall back to sleep. When my alarm went off at 5:00, I felt pretty good. I lay there briefly thinking about my workday when the words, Peace of Christ, entered my mind out of nowhere. What followed were several seconds of joyous serenity

and gratitude. I drank my latte, read my Daily Reflections, my Christian devotional, and was off to work.

I was the scrub person for the surger-ies that day. I always like having all of the supplies given to me before the surgery starts. I could tell at one point that the other nurse appeared a little put out by this, but thought to myself, well, she’s difficult. The surgeon came in and was downright charming. When the anesthesiolo-gist commented on how nice he was that day, he said, “I left my evil twin at home.” Thank God, I thought.

In between surgeries, the other nurse told me that she wanted her assign-

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LET’S HEAR IT FOR WILLINGNESS continued from page 4

CHEYENNE’S CORNER

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ment changed. She said that I was way too demanding asking for things needed later in the case while she was busy taking care of the patient. She also told me that she’s not the only person who complains about me. I looked her in the eye and thanked her. I said, “I’m so sorry. You are do-ing me a big favor by telling me!” She breathed a sigh of relief and hugged me twice. During the following sur-gery, I took a deep breath, feeling relaxed and happy. The openness and softening towards change that I felt was the result of being willing to see my part in the situation. “My level of comfort is in direct relation to the degree of willingness I pos-sess at any given moment to give up my self-will and allow God’s will to be manifested in my life. With the key of willingness, my worries and fears are powerfully transformed into serenity,” Daily Reflections, page 75.

Our son, a senior in college, is a little OCD. He sees a therapist, has made great progress but still obsesses over minor ailments from time to time. He then runs to see a doctor to get his flavor-of–the-day obsession checked. The other day he texted me to ask for the name of a homeopathic doc-tor not covered under our health plan. I really didn’t want to waste the money. Oh for God’s sake, I thought. Why does he have to be that way? Why can’t he just be normal?

I ignored his text and went out to walk the dog. Before we were halfway down the street my thoughts shifted course towards a spiritual life raft, a quote by Mother Teresa I first read af-ter my AA debut. It’s enough to make me wonder if she was a Friend of Bill.

“The fruit of silence is prayer.

The fruit of prayer is faith.

The fruit of faith is love.

The fruit of love is service.

The fruit of service is peace.” –Mother Teresa

I thought if I can just give my-self a little space and not re-act, then maybe I can pray.

If I pray then maybe I’ll have more faith in his ability to recover on his own. I may also have more faith in my ability to be a good mother.

If I achieve this faith, then it will be easier to love because I won’t feel stressed. If I love him then I can ap-proach him calmly and maturely.

If I’m open-minded, helpful and positive when speaking to him, then I will feel peaceful.

Two days later I spoke to my son on the phone. He was cooking sausage and didn’t even mention any ailments and neither did I. My willingness to apply this quote to the situation calmed me. I had more hope and we had a wonderful, brief conversa-tion. “Even the smallest amount of willingness, if sincere, is sufficient to allow God to enter and take control over any problem, pain, or obses-sion,” Daily Reflections, page 75.

J.H.K

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Guidance©2014 – CheyenneC SJ-CA

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EDITOR’S BAG

Topics Upcoming & Deadlines

October, month of the eighth annual Sponsor Brunch at the Lincoln Glen Church on Booksin Ave in San Jose, starts at 11 a.m. and ends at 2 p.m. Get tickets at Central Office for taking your sponsor on Saturday the 4th for some great food and fellowship, as well as a terrific speaker. Another October event is The Halloween Monster Mash Costume Ball which will be held on Saturday October 18th at the Masonic Hall in Los Gatos; it starts with a speaker at 6 p.m. and the costume dance and raffle will follow until 11. And then there is yet another masquerade dance for Halloween on Friday, the 31st at 7:30 pm at the Billy deFrank Center, 938 the Alameda, SJ 95126. Fun month!

In October of 1951 the American Public Health Association presented Alcoholics Anonymous with the Lasker Award in San Francisco – “in recogni-tion of its unique and highly successful approach” to an “age-old public health and social problem.” The ceremony, with Bill W. and Board of Trustees chairman Bernard S. as speakers, was attended by some 3,000 A.A.s and family members, physi-cians, public health experts, and clergymen.

The first Native American Convention was held in October of 1991 in Las Vegas with 100 tribes rep-resented. Their motto was “Living Our Traditions Through Sobriety.” (Reference: AA Timeline.)

This month’s topic is Willingness, and I need to be willing to let God work in His own time, not necessarily when I

would like to see results. I’ll just keep going here until someone jumps in and says, “I’d love to do that, and I’m really good at writing as well as finding spelling and grammatical errors!” When that happens, we’ll figure out how to make it all work out, and Brian and I will stand down from producing the COIN on a monthly basis. Meanwhile, the topics for the months upcoming are:

COIN Production — Address: [email protected]. Editor: Fran U.; Design & Layout: Brian M.; Photography: Richard U.

Nov: Gratitude 10/22/14

Step 11 Sought through Prayer & Meditation

Dec: Gifts vs Peacefulness 11/24/14

Step 12: Having had a spiritual awakening...

Jan: A New Happiness and a New Freedom 1/21/15

First Principle: Honesty

THE Upcoming Topics: Principle of the Month

1: Honesty

2: Hope

3: Faith

4: Courage

5: Integrity

6: Willingness

7: Humility

8: Brotherly Love

9: Discipline

10: Perseverance

11: Spiritual Awareness

12: Service

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were more concerned with looking good and partying than carrying the message. I had heard that ACYPAA (All California Young People in Alco-holics Anonymous) annual Round-Up was coming up in Fresno, but swore that I wouldn’t go. I was the secretary of the Friday midnight meeting at the time and the room was almost empty. All of my friends were in Fresno! I decided to go with my two spon-sees to ACYPAA the next morning.

I really had no idea what to expect or what was going on once we arrived. However, two things stuck out: One was that I saw my friend Mike talk-ing with somebody I didn’t recognize. It turned out that Mike went to high school with this guy and they used to party together. He just happened to stumble upon ACYPAA and real-ized that he needed and wanted to get sober. Mike and a few other guys were 12th stepping this guy in the middle of a conference! The other aspect of ACYPAA that stood out to me was the unity. I saw a group of people that were all wearing red during the main meeting. I could see an aura about them. They were uni-fied and it showed. It turns out that they were from Redding and were later awarded the next ACYPAA.

Needless to say, my thoughts about YPAA were changed at that confer-ence. Shortly after we got back, SCCYPAA elections took place. I made myself available and was elected as the Outreach Chair. I had no idea what I was doing, but people kept telling me to get in the car. I spent the next year travelling around California on the weekends. I met new people, had amazing ex-periences, and formed lasting friend-ships in those car rides and at those events. As the year progressed, I started getting involved in helping to put together a bid for the next ACYPAA. I again had no idea what I was doing, but people gladly helped and we came together as a commit-tee in Redding to present our bid.

To see so many formerly hopeless

alcoholics come together for a com-mon purpose was astounding. As the announcement of the next host came nearer, I became increasingly nervous and excited. SCCYPAA was scheduled to host a marathon meeting shortly before the main meeting on Saturday and it was a packed room. It was at that marathon meeting where my life was forever changed. I felt the presence of God in that room and couldn’t hold back the tears. I was certainly not alone in crying a few hours later when it was announced that ACYPAA would be coming to Santa Clara County in 2015.

The young people in Santa Clara County are on fire for recovery. ACY-PAA has a large part to do with that. Every year ACYPAA changes lives like mine was changed at the previous ACYPAAs that I have attended. I hope that everybody, regardless of age, gets an opportunity to experience the indescribably wonderful happen-ing which is ACYPAA. The amount of service that ACYPAA allows us to participate in has fortified our own sobriety and encouraged many of us to get involved in other aspects of service work. Whether you have never been to an ACYPAA or go ev-ery year, I would encourage each and every person reading this to come see what the future of AA is all about.

I have grown up quite a bit since I came into AA. That is due to God, good sponsorship, and ser-vice in YPAA. This year’s ACY-PAA will be held at the Hilton in downtown San Jose Feb. 26th-Mar. 1st. For more information check out www.2015.acypaa.org.

Devon M

MY EXPERIENCE WITH ACYPAA continued from page 3

CLASSIFIED -- HELP WANTED -- ON-GOING

YOU ARE NEEDED !!!Bill Wilson learned that in order to stay sober he had to work with other alcoholics. My sponsor sent me down to Central Office on the day I had six months, and told me to sign in as a 12th Step volunteer. I did, and I stayed sober.

Please pass the word at your meetings and to your sponsees that A.A. needs 12th Step volun-teers with six months or more of sobriety willing to 12th Step and to return calls from suffering alco-holics asking for the hand of A.A.

Note the importance of this service: Recently a suffering alcoholic called the hotline at 7:00 a.m. The diverter worker who took the call spent two hours trying to find someone to take his call. The 12th Step worker was able to take the individual to his first meeting. We need YOU!

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VOLUME 9, ISSUE 10

Step 10 Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it

Step 10 is all about embarking on that road of Happy Destiny... it’s our attempt to “stay sober, keep in emotional balance, and live to good purpose under all condi-tions.” Wow! That sounds like a pretty tall order, but it really boils down to living a happy, joyous, and free life. To me, that’s worth the work of a tall order.

I have worked Step 10 multiple times, formally, and I do an informal Tenth step every night. By “formal,” I mean that I cre-ated a written log of my daily interactions and emotions each night. I described the things that I wished I had done differently and the things that I felt good about. I searched the entries for indications that I needed to make amends. If amends were indicated, I put them on a To-Do list for the following day. Then I searched the entries for characteristics that either already existed on my lists of shortcomings and assets, or that I needed to add to those lists.

This sounds complicated and involved, but I got into a bit of rhythm with it, and it began to just sort of flow each evening. I didn’t have to be guided to see

that the things I wished I’d done differently all fell into some very basic categories... I dealt with financial insecurity, I was not patient enough, I didn’t speak up for myself when I should have. And I didn’t have to be guided to see that the things that I felt good about were growing in number. It became more and more obvious that my character assets were growing as I more readily prac-ticed this new way of living.

I also began to see that I was incorporating that “spot check” inventory into my days. I was using tools like the Serenity Prayer and my sponsor to get myself out of places (physical or mental) that would lead to behavior or emo-tions that I’d later feel badly about.

Today, Step 10 is mostly informal for me... the spot checks during the day and a mental, not written, review of my day each night. I do this because it’s beneficial for me. My life is constantly changing, so I’m constantly doing and feeling different things. That nightly assessment is reassuring for me and gives me insight into when things are happening in my life that I want to get another per-spective about. I mentioned last month that I don’t really believe in living amends. Well, Step 10 is a big part of why I don’t. By keeping the Tenth Step active in my life, I keep my attitudes, behaviors, and choices in check and I am more

likely to be authentic with myself and with others. I know what my values are and I honor them.

Ceased The Fight

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VOLUME 9, ISSUE 10

LOCAL EVENTS

October 4 8th Annual Take your Sponsor to Brunch, 11am - 2pm, Lincoln Glen Church, 2700 Booksin Ave, San JoseOctober 18 Monster Mash, Costume Party and Dance, 6pm - 11pm, Masonic Hall, 131 E. Main St., Los GatosOctober 20 43rd Anniversary Speaker Mtg., Gay Men & Women Together Group, 8pm - 9pm, 160 N. Third Street, San JoseOctober 31 Sober & Free Halloween Masquerade Party, Billy Defrank Community Center, 938 The Alameda, San Jose 7:30pm Step Study 8:30pm Party BeginsNovember 15 Trinity Group’s 68th Anniversary, 8pm - 9:30pm, Trinity Cathedral, Downstairs, 81 N. 2nd St., San JoseDecember 6 3rd Annual Holiday Tamale Party, 11am - 2pm, Central Office, 274 E. Hamilton Ave., Suite D, Campbell

CALIFORNIA EVENTSNovember 21-23 Serenity In Yosemite 2014: Curry Village Pavillion, Curry Village, Yosemite National Park, CA

EVENTS AROUND THE COUNTRY AND GLOBE November 27-30 48th Annual Las Vegas Round Up: Riviera Hotel & Casino, Las Vegas, NV www.lasvegasroundup.orgDecember 18-21 WACYPAA Western Area Conference of Young People in AA, Hapuna Beach Prince Hotel, HI

SUNDAY MONDAY TUESDAY WEDNESDAY THURSDAY FRIDAY SATURDAY

1 PI/CPC WORKSHOP: 5:30PI/CPC MEETING: 6pmOUTREACH MTG: 6pm3151 Union Ave. Trinity Church, SJINTERGROUP MTG: 7:30pm

2 3 4

SECRETARY’S WORKSHOP10am, Central Office

ARCHIVES WORK DAY11:15am, Central Office

5 6 7 8

NORTH COUNTY GENERAL SERVICE MEETING 7:30pm

9 10 11

PI/CPC Workshop10am, Central Office

12

ACYPAA BUSINESS MEETING 12 NOON 222 Keyes St., SJ

13 14 15 16 17 18

DIVERTER/12TH STEPPERS WORKSHOP10am, Central Office

19 20BRIDGING THE GAPMEETING:: 7pm1980 E. Hamilton Ave., SJ

21SO COUNTY GENERAL SERVICE MEETING: 7pm

22 23 24 25

26

ACYPAA BUSINESS

MEETING 12 NOON

222 Keyes St., SJ

27 28H & I Committee 7pm 1980 E. Hamilton Ave., SJ

29 30 31

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OCTOBER 2014

SUNDAY MONDAY TUESDAY WEDNESDAY THURSDAY FRIDAY SATURDAY

1

SECRETARY’S WORKSHOP10am, Central Office

ARCHIVES WORK DAY11:15am, Central Office

2 3 4 5 PI/CPC WORKSHOP: 5:30PI/CPC MEETING: 6pmOUTREACH MTG: 6pm Trinity Church, SJ 3151 Union Ave.INTERGROUP MTG: 7:30pm

6 7 8

PI/CPC Workshop10am, Central Office

9

ACYPAA BUSINESS

MEETING 12 NOON

222 Keyes St., SJ

10 11 12

NORTH COUNTY GENERAL SERVICE MEETING7:30pm

13 14 15

DIVERTER/12TH STEPPERS WORKSHOP10am, Central Office

16 17 BRIDGING THE GAPMEETING:: 7pm1980 E. Hamilton Ave., SJ

18SO COUNTY GENERAL SERVICE MEETING: 7pm

19 20 21 22

23/30

ACCYPAA BUSINESS

MEETING 12 NOON

222 Keyes St., SJ

24 25H & I Committee 7pm 1980 E. Hamilton Ave., SJ

26 27 28 29

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Please send news and information about your group’s activities before the end of the month so we can get them in the COIN.

We accept them in any form, but emailing a flyer is best: [email protected]

NOVEMBER 2014

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VOLUME 9, ISSUE 10

Telephone Calls Received During September 2014

Daytime at Central Office...... 390Daytime 12 Step Calls......5

(Evening 12 Step Call information is not available.)

An average of just over 8,000 hits are made on our website each month!!

I AM RESPONSIBLE…WHEN ANYONE, ANYWHERE,

REACHES OUT FOR HELP,I WANT THE HAND OF A.A.

ALWAYS TO BE THERE.AND FOR THAT: I AM RESPONSIBLE.

To all the members and groups who support us, WE THANK YOU!

SPEAKER MEETINGSSerenity Speaker Meeting

Sundays at 6:15 p.m.West Valley Presbyterian Church: 6191 Bollinger Rd., Cupertino

Grapevine Speakers MeetingFridays at 8 p.m.

United Presbyterian Church728 W. Fremont Ave. (at Hollenbeck), Sunnyvale

Second Tradition Group of AASaturdays at 8 p.m.

Lincoln Glen Church, 2700 Booksin Ave, San Jose

Remember We Deal With AlcoholSaturdays at 8 p.m.St. Mark’s Church

1957 Pruneridge Ave., Santa Clara

Saturday Nite Live GroupFridays at 8 p.m.

2634 Union Ave., San Jose

Saturday Morning Fellowship Saturday at 10 a.m.

United Presbyterian ChurchFremont & Hollenbeck, Sunnyvale

MEETING CHANGESNEW

The Family Afterwards: Wed., 6PM, Los Altos Lutheran Church, 460 S. El Monte, Los Altos (Room 8).

Fireside Drunx’s: Mon., 8PM, Change of Recovery House, 526 Page St., San Jose.

Powerless - There is Hope: Thurs., 7PM, South Hills Community, 6601 Camden Ave., Rm. B403, San Jose.

Good Orderly Direction: Thurs., 2PM, Regency of Evergreen Valley, 4463 San Felipe Rd., San Jose (3rd Floor Conference Room).

Page St. Firing Squad: Thurs., 8PM, Change Recovery House, 526 Page St., San Jose.

The Way Out: (men’s mtg) Wed., 7:30PM, City Teams, 580 Charles St., San Jose.

Sunday 11th Step: Sun., 7:30AM, South County Fellowship, Friendly Inn, 17666 Crest Ave., Morgan Hill.

CHANGED

Open AA: Thurs., 6PM, Alano Club West. Name changed to Good Men and Women.

As Bill Sees Book Meeting: Sun., 5PM, We Care Group: Mt. Olive Lutheran Church, 1989 E. Calaveras Blvd., Milpitas. Time changed to 5PM from 6PM.

Men’s Freedom from Alcohol: Wed., 8PM, Maywood Park, Pruneridge and Pomeroy. Changed to Maywood Park, 3000 Pruneridge (Park at Tennis Court).

Basic Book Study -Thurs., 8PM and Men’s Basic Step Study - Tues., 8PM, All 4PM meetings, are moving to St. Edwards/Good Samaritan.

Sisters Seeking Serenity: Wed., 4PM, Good Samaritan Episcopal Church, 15040 Union Ave. @ 85, is an OPEN meeting.

The Survivors: Wed., 7PM, Veteran’s Housing Facility, San Jose is now a Step Study.

NO LONGER MEETING

The Seeker’s Group: Fri., 7:30PM, Fair Avenue Fellowship: Alano Club of San Jose, 1122 Fair Ave. @McLaughlin.

Women’s Topic Discussion Group: Tues., 7PM Good Shepherd Christian Church, 940 S. Stelling Rd. @ Jollyman, Cupertino.

Fireside Group: (Big Book Topic Mtg.), Fri., 6PM, Advent Lutheran Church, 16870 Murphy Ave., Morgan Hill.

Chuck S: passed on the 11th of August one week shy of his 35th year of sobriety.

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OCTOBER 2014

Birthday Contributions

A. A. Needs Your Help!

We are in need of 12-Step volunteers. If you are available to take 12-Step phone calls and/or go out on a 12-Step call

(although, never alone!), come to the workshop and sign up!

We are especially in need of Women 12-Step Volunteers

Every 3rd Saturday of each month10 AM

Central Office274 E. Hamilton Ave. Suite D., Campbell

408-374-8511

BIRTHDAY CELEBRANT YEARS CONTRIBUTIONS BIRTHDAY

Bob C. 33 Anonymous 08/17/1981

Nina M. 31 Anonymous 08/27/1983

Steve T. 22 Steve T. 09/09/1992

Jean E. 29 Aileen B. 09/29/1985

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ALL!! 115 YEARS OF SOBRIETY!!If you would like to participate or honor a friend, please use the birthday forms at your Meeting or Central Office.

Birthdays are listed in recognition of contributions made to Central Office on a member’s behalf, be it by them-selves or a friend, for a sobriety milestone and will be listed in this section (unless requested otherwise).

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Intergroup Central Officeof Santa Clara County, Inc.

274 E. Hamilton Ave., Suite D

Campbell, CA 95008

Non-Profit Org.

U.S. Postage

PAIDSan Jose, CA

Permit No. 3556

REMEMBER ...PERSONAL CONTRIBUTIONS TO CENTRAL OFFICE (any amount, to a maximum of $3000.00 per year, please) ARE CHEERFULLY RECEIVED AT:

INTERGROUP CENTRAL OFFICE274 E. HAMILTON AVE., SUITE D

CAMPBELL, CA 95008

(*your contributions are tax deductible)

RETURN SERVICE REQUESTED

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InterGroup Minutes September 3, 2014

Gloria V., Intergroup Chairperson, opened the meeting at 7:30 PM, followed by a Moment of Silence and the serenity 

prayer. 

Leroy read the definition of Intergroup. 

Mike read the 12 traditions. 

New Intergroup Reps: 

o Mike (alt‐rep), 7:30 Young at Heart meeting Palo Alto 

o Brian, Freedom Fellowship Group 

o Bill, Living Solutions Group 

o Leroy, Gilroy Fellowship 

o Dan, A Vision For You 

Visitors: Elizabeth, Devon, Max 

Birthdays:  Chris, 5 yrs., Brian, 14 yrs., Phillip, 9 yrs., Andy, 20 yrs., Jose, 9 yrs., Nancy, 5 yrs., Vicky, 25 yrs. 

7th tradition. 

Corrections or Additions to the agenda (None) 

Corrections or Additions to the previous month’s minutes (None/Minutes approved) 

Treasurer’s Report – Joe:  Rent is paid through September, we have 300.00 in prudent reserve and we currently have 

322.00 prior to today. 

59 voting Intergroup representatives in attendance. 

Reports:

Intergroup Chair, Gloria V. Thank you Gavin for coffee and setup!  As a reminder, please keep committee reports under 5 minutes.  

Nominating Committee, Allegra Thank you for the opportunity to serve, we talked to lots of wonderful people, we are very proud of the nominees, all are very eager to serve and have great backgrounds in service. Introductions:

Central Service Board Nominees – Mike: 11 years of sobriety. The Dalles is his current home group and has been the treasurer there for the last 3 years. Business finance background in Silicon Valley since 1972. John: 7.5 years of sobriety, background includes Secretary of literature, treasurer, GSR, DCM facilitator, sponsor, service sponsor, Elmwood. Business owner for 20 years. Laura: 36 years of sobriety, got sober in Santa Cruz and was introduced into service since. Newsletter, GSR, DCM, Elmwood, SW Test in Silicon Valley, own business experience as well. Carol: 10 years of sobriety, home group is Mid-day Women’s Group at St. Marks. H&I rep, Secretary, GSR, Intergroup Rep, literature coordinator, Diverter, Secretary for Intergroup. Professional background in Silicon Valley, other board positions.

Intergroup Chair Nominees Carol: (previously introduced) Robby: 6 years of sobriety, Sponsor, Service work since 2008, Sober and Free committee member (treasurer). Activities chair for the last two years, served on Billy DeFrank board. Event coordinator, loan underwriter, business management.

Intergroup Alternate Chair Nominees Robby (previously introduced)

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Max: Sober for 8 years, ACYPAA host committee, founding member of SCYPAA, H&I, Events chair and business coordinator. Sales, marketing and bookkeeping business background.

Intergroup Secretary: Bill: 2.5 years sobriety, Alt-recorder for Intergroup for the last year, business recorder for Remington and Bernardo and Fremont and Hollenbeck groups in Sunnyvale. Mary: 1.8 years of sobriety, Service is a huge focus of my sobriety, many service position in the last year, GSR, Intergroup Rep, H&I, Chairing. 17 years at Fortune 100 Company, recording secretary for multiple meetings, budget and people management background.

Intergroup Alternate Secretary Mary: Above

Central Service Board, Mike W The board met on Thursday the 28th, excess funds in cash account, increase in staff/office space discussed. Board invested in a 20k Certificate of Deposit to make funds available for the new board and welcoming 3 new members to the board as other board members move on. Central Office, Bruce Unity day was a terrific event. Committee in Bob’s Head also terrific, camaraderie and fellowship was the highlight, thanks to all who made it happen. Managers seminar coming up in Chicago (11th time for Bruce). Many Paths to Spirituality Pamphlet very popular also (250 copies gone in 9 days) also book prices increase in October. Registration is open for the Atlanta International Conference online. Accommodations closest to the events will go quickly. Central Office fairs well. PI/CPC, Chris PI/CPC for those who do not know is Public Information and Cooperation with the Professional Community. SCU presentation was very successful. Professor invited us to come back. Volunteer opportunities throughout September. PI/CPC really needs a rep from each meeting. Mock DUI presentation coming up October 1. Each meeting could help by sending a PI/CPC representative to our meeting. 12 Step Committee, Bill D. 12 step workshop at Unity Day brought 35-50 however when the slips were counted only 9 had signed up. 12 Step workshop happens every 3rd Saturday of the month at 10:00 AM at Central Office. Daytime Coordinator, Mike M. (Bruce) Daytime office phone volunteer shift is open from 11:30 – 2 on Wednesday and every other Friday shift at 9- 11:30. 2 year sobriety requirement. Nights & Weekends Diverter Coordinator, Tommy O. I am the Diverter Chairperson and the diverter is AA’s after hours hotline. Sobriety requirement is 1 year, 3 hours a month. 5 applications from Unity Day but two seeking duplicate shifts. Volunteers are needed! 3rd Saturday of the month training at 10:00 AM. Outreach Committee, Jessica Great day at Unity Day, lots of people signed up. Did a workshop there and got lots of interest. Outreach has 3 purposes: We make sure that the information in the AA Meeting Guide is correct. Next, we educate the groups about Intergroup, Central Office, Events that are coming up, etc. Lastly, we invite participation! COIN, Fran FYI, Brian and I are going to continue to do the COIN until somebody else volunteers to do the editing. Willing to show somebody how to do this. Upcoming topics: October: Willingness. November: Gratitude (Thanksgiving). December: Gifts vs. Peacefulness. Please remember to tell your groups that we need stories when you report!

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Give it your best and submit a story. Submit your stories in Word format to [email protected] OR to [email protected]. Website, Josh: No report Activities Committee, Robby W. Old timers meeting coming up and October 4th is the “Take your sponsor to brunch” event. Vegan options, music, food, friendship and recovery at Lincoln Glen Church (Second Tradition). Volunteers needed, $10 suggested donation. Make this announcement at your meetings! Old/Ongoing Business, Gloria: None New Business Other Service Committee Reports Unity Day – Chris: Thanks for all your help this year!! NCCAA, Dennis Next NCCAA conference in Sacramento, CA October 3rd, 4th and 5th Great speakers from all over the country, conferences are a lot of fun, come make friends. Hospitals and Institutions, Judith Sandy for Judith: H&I meets the 4th Tuesday of the month at 7pm at the First Congregational Church of San Jose, 1980 Hamilton Ave. at Leigh, San Jose 95025. Next meeting is September 25 and all are welcome. Area 71 contributions to the Pink Can for July 2014 totaled $5,463.27. Year to Date Total from Dec 2013 to Apr 2014 $42,348.46. Each week AA brings over 57 meetings into 29 Hospitals and Institutional facilities. City Team looking for secretaries for the 3 Wednesday (men only). House of Grace looking for speakers (women only). Julian Street Inn coordinator needed Bridging the Gap, Cindy If you don’t know what Bridging the Gap is, we take meetings and presentations inside facilities and we tell them about what AA is and offer our services to bridge them into the AA community once they get out of their facility. Two presentation at Unity day yielded volunteers. We desperately need female temporary contacts in South County, Gilroy, Morgan Hill including Spanish Speaking. Elections for all committee positions are in October, our Meetings are held the third Monday of the month at 7:00 at First Congregational Church, 1980 Hamilton Avenue (Hamilton & Leigh), San Jose. Orientation is held immediately following North County General Service, Eric Good news, the money taken has been returned to District 4 which after donations has too much money. The General Service Office in NY is currently preparing the Young People’s Video Project. Contact Eric for more info. Atlanta conference registration, only after you register for the convention can you book hotel rooms. The California Northern Coastal Area Election Assembly will be held in SJ on November 8th at the Scottish Right Temple. South County General Service, Larry This month’s meeting included a really interesting presentation on the concepts. Very fun and participatory. Eric covered most of the stuff. ACYPAA, Devon The ACYPAA Annual Roundup is coming to San Jose on February 10 at the Hilton. Registration price will go up soon! Sept. 27 at 8:00 at Alano West (Speaker then dance) ACYPAA is always there for service opportunities. 2015acypaa.org Open Forum Allegra thanked the candidate seekers Powerpoint + sound editor needed at Central Office, contact Bruce. Los Gatos group had a great picnic, writing a check to Central Office for $1500.00 Alano Club West Halloween Party (October 25) coming up The meeting was adjourned at 8:33 pm

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SOBER & FREE 2015 PRESENTS

~ THE ~

HALLOWEEN

MASQUERADE PARTY

A celebration of the masks we have worn and the freedom to be true to who we are!

Friday

Oct. 31

7:30pm Step Study

8:30pm Party Begins

Billy DeFrank Community

Center

938 The Alameda

San Jose, CA 95126

~ Hosted by the fabulous Paige Knyte~ Costume Contest ~ Food, Fun, and Dancing ~ Mask Decorating ~ Fun Games ~ Free admission & treat bags for children

Celebrate Halloween with friends and fellows. Support the 7:30PM Step Study upstairs, and then show the Newcomer the best way to party downstairs in the ballroom! More information is available at www.soberandfree.org.

$10 donation*

* All proceeds benefit the annual Sober & Free conference held in San Jose. Join us to celebrate 30 years of fun-filled recovery and fellowship.

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CELEBRATE

68TH

FIRST MEETING: NOVEMBER 9, 1946

WHEN? NOVEMBER 15, 2014, 8:00 PM- 9:30 PM

WHERE? TRINITY CATHEDRAL, DOWNSTAIRS

81 NORTH SECOND STREET, SAN JOSE

(AT INTERSECTION WITH E. ST. JOHN STREET)

A special 90 minute meeting!!! Great Fellowship.

Come help celebrate the longest continuous

meeting in San Jose!!!

There will be cake, cookies, coffee, tea, parking

and anything you want to bring.

Further information will be forthcoming! Stay Tuned…

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Gay Men & Women Together Group

Monday, October 20, 2014 8:00 – 9:00pm

Location: First Unitarian Church

160 N. Third Street San José, CA

Speakers: Gordon S.—Sacramento Carol H.—Auburn Brad W.—San José

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Costume party & dance extravaganza!

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Sep 14 Sep 13 Jan - Sep 14

Ordinary Income/ExpenseIncome

3030 · Contributions-General 9,874.00 10,499.08 114,159.993050 · Group Insurance (Group premium payments) 130.00 240.00 4,225.008010 · Literature Sales 4,570.24 4,523.12 44,116.508020 · Meeting Guide Sales 391.50 589.00 5,961.678050 · Activities Committee 307.00 120.00 4,420.338055 · Central Office Events 500.00 0.00 5,202.008060 · Newsletter Subscriptions 10.00 10.00 105.00

Total Income 15,782.74 15,981.20 178,190.49

Cost of Goods Sold5000 · Cost of Goods Sold

5100 · Cost of Inventory Sold 2,972.65 3,205.54 31,573.655150 · Cost of Meeting Directories 346.52 620.99 4,851.505000 · Cost of Goods Sold - Other 8.40 0.00 25.20

Total 5000 · Cost of Goods Sold 3,327.57 3,826.53 36,450.35

Total COGS 3,327.57 3,826.53 36,450.35

Gross Profit 12,455.17 12,154.67 141,740.14

Expense6010 · Alarm Service 0.00 0.00 621.006015 · Activities Committee Expense 1,906.99 1,674.80 4,101.376025 · Central Office Events Expense 0.00 0.00 3,704.446030 · Accounting and Legal Fee 0.00 0.00 2,625.006070 · Bank Credit card charges (Credit card costs and fees) 107.06 104.31 1,099.746140 · Conferences - Exec. Dir. 669.91 0.00 1,388.636150 · Unity Day Expense 0.00 0.00 1,500.006160 · Copier Expense 177.59 322.18 1,472.136190 · Depreciation Expense 236.00 236.00 902.006220 · Insurance - Worker Compensation 198.75 412.00 694.706230 · Insurance - General Liability 0.00 85.33 2,128.806231 · Insurance - CGL Group Umbrella 0.00 0.00 2,137.006240 · Employee HRA Plan 703.27 381.90 5,461.696245 · Internet Access Charges 0.00 0.00 851.476280 · Miscellaneous Expense 0.00 39.22 0.006320 · Newsletter Expense 53.42 855.09 1,435.546330 · Office Expense 266.15 0.00 1,619.606370 · Office Paper Supply 0.00 99.60 1,464.726380 · Payroll Taxes 278.49 566.22 5,605.586410 · Postage 68.19 7.66 1,028.656430 · PI/CPC 0.00 93.30 329.896480 · Rent 2,153.90 2,090.55 19,321.756540 · Salaries - Office 3,640.18 7,401.63 60,858.686560 · Payroll Expenses 190.01 90.79 1,046.516600 · Signing Services 150.00 300.00 1,900.007010 · Taxes and Licenses 0.00 0.00 60.007050 · Telephone 155.53 154.83 1,400.089080 · Sales Tax (Sales tax paid on purchases) 0.00 0.00 125.96

Total Expense 10,955.44 14,915.41 124,884.93

Net Ordinary Income 1,499.73 -2,760.74 16,855.21

Other Income/ExpenseOther Income

8030 · Interest Income 0.00 23.56 168.99

Total Other Income 0.00 23.56 168.99

Net Other Income 0.00 23.56 168.99

Net Income 1,499.73 -2,737.18 17,024.20

2:10 PM INTERGROUP CENTRAL OFFICE OF SANTA CLARA COUNTY, INC.10/02/14 Profit & LossAccrual Basis September 2014

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ASSETSCurrent Assets

Checking/Savings1010 · Petty Cash 119.061020 · First Republic Bank (Checking account) 2,996.071021 · (PR) First Rep. Bank CD 0429 (12 Mo. CD @ .45%, 08/12/15) 17,602.191023 · (PR) First Rep. Bank CD 3228 (12 Mo. CD @ .3%, 02/05/15) 16,477.141025 · (PR) First Rep. Bank CD 7266 (12 Mo. CD @ .25%, 01/06/15) 20,125.201026 · (PR) First Rep. Bank CD 7619 (12 Mo. CD @ .45%, 06/21/15) 15,077.081027 · (PR) First Rep. Bank CD 7681 (10 Mo. CD @ .1%, 10/29/14) 15,069.721028 · (OA) First Rep. Bank CD 6955 (12 Mo. CD @ .35%, 08/29/15) 20,000.00

Total Checking/Savings 107,466.46

Accounts Receivable1110 · Accounts Rec - Group Deposits -2,080.96

Total Accounts Receivable -2,080.96

Other Current Assets1250 · Literature Inventory 22,405.551310 · Prepaid Insurance 1,583.171499 · Undeposited Funds 5,766.59

Total Other Current Assets 29,755.31

Total Current Assets 135,140.81

Fixed Assets1630 · Office Equipment 30,259.021640 · Office Furnishings - Asset 7,757.801641 · Less Accumulated Depreciation -35,601.971680 · Leasehold Improvements 300.001681 · Less Accumulated Amortization -300.00

Total Fixed Assets 2,414.85

Other Assets1860 · Deposits 1,993.85

Total Other Assets 1,993.85

TOTAL ASSETS 139,549.51

LIABILITIES & EQUITYLiabilities

Current LiabilitiesOther Current Liabilities

2100 · Payroll Liabilities (Payroll Liabilities) -1,516.152111 · Direct Deposit Liabilities -2,459.022240 · Sales Tax Payable (due quarterly) 1,398.622600 · Unity Day 1,732.30

Total Other Current Liabilities -844.25

Total Current Liabilities -844.25

Total Liabilities -844.25

EquityComparative Balance 350.002740 · Temporarily Restricted Funds 10,842.083900 · Unrestricted Funds 112,177.48Net Income 17,024.20

Total Equity 140,393.76

TOTAL LIABILITIES & EQUITY 139,549.51

2:00 PM INTERGROUP CENTRAL OFFICE OF SANTA CLARA COUNTY, INC.10/02/14 Balance SheetAccrual Basis As of September 30, 2014

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1 INV Early Bird Group 70968 0.00 350.001 INV Fremont & Hollenbeck Group 70907 0.00 1,330.001 INV Fremont & Manet Group 70975 490.00 1,960.001 INV Gilroy Groups 70906 0.00 835.001 INV Men Seeking Guidance Group 0.00 910.001 INV One Day at a Time 70903 624.68 12,578.081 INV R and B Group 70972 0.00 1,861.291 INV Saturday Nite Live Group 70905 70.00 630.001 INV Serenity Discussion 210 (Wed.) 2.27 2.271 INV South County Fellowship 70954 300.00 2,700.001 INV Spiritual Progress Group 70979 1,400.00 2,700.001 INV Winchester Fellowship 70960 0.00 25.0012 Steps at Noon 303 ( Fri.) 0.00 175.003rd Steppers Book Study (Wom) 610 (Thur.) 0.00 325.604 Directions 855 (Fri.) 0.00 336.00A Vision for You Women’s 802 (Tues.) 150.00 1,280.00A.B.C. Women's Group 58 (Mon.) 210.00 465.34Alano Club West 0.00 107.30Almaden Valley Discussion 30 (Sun.) 0.00 244.63Attitude Adjustment SJ 861 (Thur.) 0.00 119.00B.F.E. 143.00 740.16Back to Basics Saratoga Noon 151 (Tues.) 0.00 505.00Beginners & Beyond LG 345 (Sat.) 0.00 100.00Big Book Speakers Group 289 (Fri.) 0.00 771.54Big Book Step Study (Men) 325 ( Fri.) 0.00 1,065.00Big Book Study Mlpts 347 (Sat.) 0.00 80.00Bill’s Basement 384 (Fri.) 0.00 260.50Birthday Contribution 00951 203.00 2,465.00Boiled Owls (Men's) 816 (Wed) 0.00 1,070.00Bon Air Siding BB Study 202 (Wed.) 0.00 120.00Bowers Fellowship 46 (Sun.) 0.00 457.94California Ave. Supper Group 715 (Thur.) 0.00 956.03Cambrian Park Men's Group 567 (Thur.) 0.00 420.00Cambrian Saturday Night (Chips) 376 (Sat) 0.00 1,310.30Campus Group 234 (Thur.) 0.00 259.20Candlelight Group 380 (Sat.) 0.00 120.00Change (Sun.) 0.00 100.00Character Defect Freedom 201 (Tues) 655.00 1,161.00Chip Winners (Chips) 168 (Wed.) 0.00 713.09Chips and Dyps (Chips) 559 (Tues.) 0.00 110.00Courage to Change (Women) 145 (Wed.) 0.00 129.51Daily Reflection MH 537 (Tues.) 50.00 50.00Daily Reflections 432 (Thur.) 0.00 140.00Design for Living 200 (Tues.) 0.00 100.00District 40 0.00 165.20Dr. Bob’s Nightmare 360 (Sun.) 219.00 269.00Early Bird SJ 244 (Thur.) 0.00 77.00Early Monday Night 68 (Mon.) 0.00 464.49Early Tuesday Group 119 (Tues.) 0.00 1,034.97Easier Way Group 290 (Fri.) 302.00 987.00East Valley Group 322 (Fri.) 199.50 349.50Eleventh Step Meditation Mtg 276 (Thur.) 0.00 105.00End of the Line Men’s Group 147 (Tues.) 0.00 156.80Evergreen Group 884 (Thur.) 0.00 280.00Fireside Big Book Study 809 (Tues.) 0.00 80.00Firing Line (The) 404 (Mon.) 0.00 1,324.33Free to Be Me SJ (Women) 736 (Tues.) 0.00 122.50Friday Big Book Study 702 (Fri) 161.00 491.00G Attitude Adjustment 0.00 123.00G Forged From Adversity Group 70957 0.00 404.00G Higher Power Hour 70952 0.00 904.00G Men's Basic Study Group 70985 0.00 152.00G Milpitas We Care Group 70934 0.00 630.00G Remember We Deal With Alcohol 70938 0.00 676.56G Serenity at Noon (fka Agnew) 70921 0.00 1,120.00G Sunrise Group of Palo Alto 70963 0.00 3,307.68

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G Sunrisers Group/Dennys 70932 334.68 3,720.21G Ten O'Clock High 889 (Thur.) 0.00 325.00G Third Tradition Women's Gp, The 70979 157.90 2,481.35G We Care Group 70934 378.00 938.00G West Valley Fellowship 70942 140.00 536.90Gay & Lesbian Sober Experience 896 (Mon.) 56.70 147.00Gay & Lesbian Step & Trad GP 221 (Fri.) 0.00 98.00Gay Alcoholics Living/Sobriety 742 (Wed.) 0.00 173.31Gay Grab Bag Solution 41 (Sun.) 0.00 70.00Gay Living Sober Group 21 (Sun.) 0.00 130.32Gay Men & Women Together 85 (Mon.) 0.00 1,003.83Gay Men’s Freedom 262 (Thur.) 0.00 252.70Gay Reflections on the Solution 841(Wed.) 0.00 60.00Get Up and Go (Women) 187 (Sat.) 700.00 2,500.00Get Well Group 17 (Sun.) 0.00 280.54Grateful Live Group 535 (Mon.) 0.00 110.00Happy Destiny (Women) 109 (Tues.) 0.00 1,595.00Happy, Joyous & Free 650 (Tues.) 0.00 68.00High Hope (Men's) 239 (Sat.) 0.00 710.00HOW Group 71 (Mon.) 0.00 1,004.00In the Basement 545 (Sun.) 0.00 140.00In the Solution 647 (Sat.) 140.25 455.46Inspiration Big Book 195 (Wed.) 81.00 273.08Intergroup Council 80909 0.00 627.00Joy of Living MH 699 (Mon.) 0.00 110.00Just For Today 238 PA (Thur.) 0.00 820.50Ladies Amethyst AA Study Group 749 (Wed.) 0.00 586.79Lesbians Living the Promises 349 (Fri.) 132.00 447.00LGBT Happy Destiny Group 621 (Sat.) 0.00 326.60LGBTQ Gay & Lesbian Topic Disc 516 (Sat.) 0.00 78.00Liquor Was But A Symptom 203 (Thur.) 0.00 268.10Living in the Solution MH (W) 33 (Sat.) 70.00 70.00Living with Serenity (Chips) 599 (Wed.) 0.00 413.70Los Altos Big Book 860 (Thurs.) 0.00 329.30Los Altos Group 225 (Thur.) 0.00 355.01Los Gatos Chips 413 (Sat.) 0.00 134.04Los Gatos Tuesday Night 110 (Tues.) 0.00 304.50Meditation Meeting LA 39 (Sat.) 0.00 140.00Men's 4th Step Group 320 (Fri.) 0.00 25.00Men's Big Book (Caveman Gp) 659 (Sun.) 0.00 393.00Men's Closed AA Mtg. 687 (Sat.) 0.00 338.00Men's Group 97 (Mon.) 0.00 867.40Men's Honesty Group 26 (Sat.) 0.00 1,050.00Men's Single Problem Study Gp 220 (Thur.) 0.00 367.00Midday Women’s Group 91 (Mon.) 0.00 659.56Monday at a Time 208 (Mon.) 0.00 290.04Monday Midday Meeting 714 (Mon.) 0.00 140.00Monday Night Chip 405 (Mon.) 0.00 379.02Mountain Miracles 882 (Thur.) 0.00 418.60Mountain View Group 350 (Sat.) 0.00 805.00New Direction 12 x 12 90 (Mon.) 0.00 37.10New Nooners 808 (Mon.) 0.00 297.95New Steps for Living 20 (Sun.) 0.00 447.30Newcomers, Oldtimers (Women) 769 (Sat.) 0.00 101.39No Bull Big Book 655 (Fri.) 210.00 889.92Pass It On Group 418 (Sun.) 0.00 453.02Personal 00911 184.67 7,360.50Plaza Del Rey Group 52 (Sun.) 0.00 308.00Positive Outlook Group SJ 368 (Sat.) 0.00 55.07Queer and Sober 671 (Sat.) 0.00 141.00Recovery Roulette 326 (Thurs.) 108.00 218.25Roots 344 (Sat.) 0.00 431.74Saratoga Family Group 328 (Fri.) 0.00 738.00Saratoga Serenity Gp (Chps) 329 (Fri.) 0.00 150.00Second Tradition Group Spkr 721 (Sat.) 0.00 2,417.93Serenity Speaker Meeting 533 (Sun) 0.00 292.50

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Shared Gift, The (Women) 61 (Mon.) 742.50 742.50Silver Serenity 517 (Thurs.) 75.00 215.00Single Problem Study (Men) 212 (Wed.) 0.00 676.54Single Problem Topic (Men's) 582 (Mon.) 0.00 790.66Sisters in Sobriety 548 (Thur.) 0.00 123.87Sisters Seeking Serenity 858 (Wed.) 376.00 791.00Sober in the Park 688 (Sun.) 0.00 200.00Sober Mafia 204 (Sun.) 0.00 100.00Sober Thoughts 499 (Wed.) 0.00 140.00Society of the Second Chance 305 (Tues.) 0.00 399.00Source of Strength (Women) 501 (Mon.) 0.00 25.00South Valley Men’s 845 (Thur.) 0.00 374.50South Valley Women’s Surrender 88 (Mon.) 96.00 96.00Spiritual Awakening 813 (Tues.) 0.00 609.00Spiritual Step Study 233 (Sun.) 0.00 1,726.78St. Luke’s Group 113 (Tues.) 0.00 420.00St. Mark’s Group 270 (Thur.) 420.00 420.00Starting the Steps 753 (Fri.) 0.00 125.00Step Study (Women) LG 820 (Wed.) 0.00 236.42Sundowner's Dinner Mtg (Chips) 768 (Wed.) 0.00 100.00Sunshine Group noon 243 (Thur.) 0.00 112.00Survivors (The) Step Study 331 (Wed.) 0.00 70.00T.G.I.F. Speaker/Discussion 298 (Fri.) 0.00 110.00Think Tank (Men's) 361 (Sat.) 0.00 700.00Trinity Group 370 (Sat.) 0.00 85.00Truly Happy Hour 324 (Fri.) 0.00 552.23Tuesday Night Happy Hour 796 0.00 116.00Tuesday Night Men's Mtg 525 (Tues.) 0.00 1,323.00Tuesday Night Saratoga Group 152 (Tues.) 0.00 300.00Tuesday Noon Step Study 556 (Tues) 0.00 280.00Unknown 0.00 100.21Up the Creek-Daily Reflections 745 (Tue.) 0.00 150.00Veterans of Alcohol 874 (Tues.) 0.00 130.00Veterans of Alcohol NortH 338 (Tues.) 0.00 280.00Villages Group of AA, The 406 (Mon.) 0.00 517.00Waves of Healing 526 (Mon.) 0.00 308.00We Are Not Saints 12 & 12 520 (Tues.) 0.00 120.00Women's Brunch 640 (Sat.) 0.00 1,595.69Women's Topic Disc. Group 103 (Tues.) 0.00 444.00Women on the Move 570 (Wed.) 291.85 545.25Women to Women 704 (Sat.) 0.00 492.00

TOTAL 9,874.00 114,159.99

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