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Getting Into Reality
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Too many people today are living an illusion. Theyll
escape into the fabricated world of a movie, or into a
virtual reality experience.
But isnt the most beautiful reality the one thats real?
Isnt it better to see a fantastic sunset than watch it in
a movie? To experience the thrill of adventure rather
than simulate it in an amusement park? To achieve
greatness rather than hallucinate youre Cleopatra?
Everyone has a sneaking suspicion theres something
truly breathtaking about life.
So why are so many people miserable? Because
theyre not focused on reality. A person can create the
impression that his act is together, though in reality
hes deluding himself. Reality itself is absolute. At any
moment, its either night or day. You can sleep through
reality, and choose not relate to it. But thats still what
it is.
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Dont live a life of illusions. Get into reality. Its the real
thing.
* * *
YOU CAN FIND TRUTH
There are many different theories on the purpose of
life. This indicates how easy it is to delude oneself.
You have to know what your purpose of life is based
on. Intelligent decisions are built on evidence. What is
the source of your information? What is your evidence?
Two people can be neighbors for years, play golf
together, share barbecue dinners, and consider
themselves the best of friends. They only argue over
one issue: God. The most fundamental issue of lifewhich colors our thinking on virtually everythingand
these two cant even agree if He exists!
Co-existence is not the same as living in the same
reality. So whose reality is true?
Become a truth seeker. Be ambitious to know what life
is really about. Constantly look for evidence to either
substantiateor contradictyour ideas. Always be
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open to new information that will enable you to hone
your understanding of the truth.
* * *
KNOW THE EVIDENCE
In our generation, people often dont bother seeking
truth, because they dont believe it exists. Everyone is
right. Its one opinion against the other. So we accept
living in confusion. People are even afraid to debate
deep issues because they say, Youre going to
brainwash me. I wont be able to determine if what
youre saying is right or wrong.
Fight this insanity in yourself and others. We need to
have confidence that truth exists and it can be found.
Thats the starting point for all reality.
Gain confidence in your ability to distinguish right from
wrong. For example, you know you have 10 fingers. But
what if somebody says youve got 74 fingers. Whats
your proof that theyre wrong?
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The sum total of all your senses and prior experiences
says youve got 10 fingers. It is an unshakable
conviction.
Now lets try a more difficult example. Is it more
important to be happy or to be rich? Most people will
say happy. And what if somebody says, Its alright
to be miserable and isolated, as long as youve got
loads of money! Whos right and whos wrong? Do you
know?
What if you were born in Germany and they said, Kill
all the Jews, the plague of mankind. When they put
you on trial for war crimes, why cant you claim
innocence, that your opinion is as valid as any other?Because we know that certain things are objectively
wrong. And every human being has the responsibility
to know that reality.
Get clear on the evidence for your outlook. Itll keep
you from being dragged around by passing fads orworse.
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ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT
Reality is largely a function of attitude.
Imagine a young woman flying from Chicago to attenda friends wedding in New York. She has a beautiful
gown, custom-made especially for the occasion. Then,
just before leaving her hotel for the wedding, a clumsy
bellhop spills a tray of room service all over her dress.
Catastrophe!
Instantly, her mind races through all the possibilities:
look for an emergency dry cleaner, try to borrow
another dress, or simply skip the wedding. Shes got to
make a decision!
She concludes that the best option is to go to the
wedding with a dirty dress. This triggers another whole
series of decisions, because when someone asks, Why
is your dress all dirty, what will she answer? She can
simply say, It doesnt really matter, the important
thing is that Im here to enjoy my friends wedding. Orshe can say, poor meand spend the whole evening
commiserating exactly how it happened and how she is
crestfallen and what a disaster it is!
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* * *
FIGHT INSANITY
Judaism says that ignorance is the most terrible,
painful, destructive disease of all. People may even
commit suicide out of ignorance. They lose money in
the stock market and suddenly feel that life is no
longer worth living. What happened? They severed
their connection with reality.
Sanity means more than just not getting locked away
in an insane asylum. Sanity clears your mind of
fuzziness and allows you to see the beauty of creation.
Sanity is energizing, expansive, awesome.
Insanity is contagious. Imagine we lock you up in an
asylum where everyone sees snakes crawling on the
walls. After six months, its almost guaranteed youll
believe there are snakes on the walls.
People accept the most ridiculous things because
everyone else accepts it. Fashion trends and mass
marketing operate on this principle.
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Whats the best way to survive an insane asylum? Cure
your fellow inmates. Otherwise youre bound to be
influenced by them.
* * *
LOOK FOR THE ROOT
Weve all tried to help someone with a problema
friend, a roommate, a colleague, a cousin. The guy is
all muddled and depressedIm no good, Im weak,
Im nothing. You support him, cheer him up, get him
ready to tackle life, and then hes down again the
next morning.
The problem is you did not set him firmly into reality.
You did a patch joband the patch came off.
To align someone with reality, dont just look for
cosmetic solutions. Get to the root of the problem. Find
the gap in knowledge which leads to the negative
action. What is the core issue holding him back? Look
for the single strategic move that will turn him around,
release his potential, and get him moving in the right
direction. This will make your solutions more effective
and permanent.
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Imagine the father of a teenager, frustrated that his
son is not listening to parental advice. There is
constant tension and fighting. Whats the solution? Get
the father to realize a basic principle: You can never
tell anyone what to do. You can only show him why its
meaningful and to his benefit. This helps the father
reframe his approach.
And how do you reframe the son, whos convinced that
his father hates him? Focus him on the following case:
Youre travelling through Europe, get hit by a
car and wind up in the hospital. Whos going
to travel 5,000 miles to see that you get the
best treatment? You know who will comeyour father. Yet you say he hates you!
Focus his attention: His parents are totally devoted to
him and cant possibly hate him. Youve now given him
clarity. At least until the next time his father calls him a
dumbbell
* * *
PERSONALIZED PROBLEM SOLVING
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Realize there are no pat solutions. Just as every
person is unique in appearance, so too everyone has
different motivations and needs. One person may be
driven by idealism, another needs security, another
wants material possessions, another is in pursuit of
honor. So even if youve found one solution, it may not
be universally applicable.
(On the other hand, there are certain universal drives:
the desire to be good, to actualize potential, to help
others, etc.)
The best solution to a problem is the one that someone
comes up with on their own. Because when someone
understands the obstacles that interfere with their ownfulfillment, theyll devote themselves more fully to that
solution.
Setting a person on the straight course doesnt mean
being a solution-wiz dispensing answer. It means
being a facilitator, showing others their mistakes, andguiding their personal exploration of correct solutions.
Dont forget to tackle your own problems. Because in
order to get someone else into reality, you first have to
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understand it yourself. So strive to resolve your own
issues, to free yourself to look beyond the little box.
And the more perfect you become, the better leader
you become for others.
In some instances, however, if you do hit an impasse
with yourself, one way out is to try solving other
peoples problems. With yourself, youre all boxed up.
With others, youre more objective. So once you
experience success in external problem-solving, you
can then apply it to yourself.
* * *
GOD AND THE JEWS
Youre walking down the street and see a child running
into traffic to chase his ball. A car screeches to a halt.
The driver yells from his window about the childs
foolishness. Some of the bystanders shake their head,
others wag an accusing finger in his direction. But one
person runs after the kid, chases him five blocks, grabshim, and smacks him across the behind. Who is that
man? His father. Everyone else says, Hes going to get
himself killed one day, what a pity. But only the father
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cares enough to make sure hes scared stiff not to do
something like that again.
God cares about the Jewish people more than any
parent cares about his child. The Jewish people are the
transmitters of Torah values and God will not allow us
to disappear. Thats why He has to keep us set into
reality. Even if we say, We dont care about being
Jewish, we want to assimilate. The Almighty says: No
way. I have a deal with Abraham and you are too
precious to get lost. If I have to teach you the
difference, youll learn.
God never punishes. It is always instructive, setting
us on the path of reality.
Furthermore, the Almighty does not take revenge on
His children. Imagine if your son was doing awful
things, putting his life in danger and causing you
terrible suffering. Then one day he comes back and
says, Dad, Im sorry. I made a lot of bad mistakes.Please forgive me. Now what are you going to say
wait, Ive got to get some blood out of you? Or will you
break down crying, hug him and celebrate.
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A parent doesnt take revenge on a child. Thats the
principle of our Father in Heaven.
* * *
WHY IS GETTING INTO REALITY A WAY TOWISDOM?
- Never stop asking: Is it good to be alive? What am I
living for?
- We need to be good. Helping others straighten out
their lives is not just part of living; its what living is
about.
- Get to the root of the problem. Cut it out and release
the latent potential.
- Ask yourself: Do I really want to live in reality?
- Make decisions about the wisdom you learn: Am I
going to live with it, or ignore it?
- Live in the real world. It will make you yearn for
sanity.
by Rabbi Noah Weinberg
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