God's For-BEAR-ance With Bullies: Chapter 10

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    CHAPTER TEN

    Surviving in Satans World

    He Restoreth My Soul

    Psalms 23: 3

    Throughout my hellish teenage years it was said to me: Girl, if you dont toughen up youllnever survive in this world. True. Its not just healthy bodies and proper self-esteem thatget destroyed by bullying. Many tender hearts grow as combat-hardened as clay baked ina furnace. A bright mind that would otherwise be busy learning happy, positive thingsbecomes a personal Pentagon, forever gathering intelligence on the enemy, amassingstockpiles of clever comebacks to insults, beefing up defenses and drafting plans forsurviving the next enemy attack.

    God uses real people to serve Him, not sheltered stained-glass relics. Even today I mustrely on God to be strong where I am weak. It comes from being a survivor, I guess. I havea deep-seated fear of vulnerability. More than anything I fear appearing weak to satanscrowd. Where I live now, teenagers think nothing of catcalling at strangers and trying to getan angry response from them. Thats happened to me before. When it does, a buttoninside me gets pushed and I suffer from what I term Triggered Response Syndrome.Immediately I am transported forty years back in time to my high school hell. It is then Ionce again confront Butch and Mike Crane, and the anger and hate of that persecutedyoung girl hits me full force like a tidal wave. Thats my Achilles heel. More than anything Ifear being tempted to hate another human being, however disgusting he is. It makes mecry to be put in that position. While others cry their eyes out through funerals I have satdry-eyed through just about everything and learned to roll with the punches of ahardscrabble world, but the one arrow that penetrates my tough facade is humanmeanness. Only the miraculous power of God can pull satans arrows out of my hide andrestore my joy and sense of self-worth after suffering a flashback.

    The earth and the fullness thereof is the Lords (Psalms 24:1). But this present evil world isunder satans control (Luke 4:6; Gal.1:4).If this were a different world I would smile warmlyat everyone I saw on the street, including teenagers. But most of them are way too cool forthat. If you were to smile sweetly at a kid and say: Hello, how are you on Gods beautifulday? you might get a hard stare or nasty reply, especially if their friends are watching. Life in a world of scary entities makes you streetwise. You let your light shine, but like aspotlight you instinctively try to direct it toward those who will appreciate it, not trampleupon it. You avoid eye contact when you spot a gang of youths hanging around the localconvenience store. If you feel uneasy about whats just up ahead, you cross the street andtake a different route. Instinctively you stiffen when you hear giggles behind you as youpass by. Then you ask yourself: Why must I constantly be on my guard, unable to share anice word with those I automatically pigeonhole as off limits? Why do I feel combative muchof the time, instead of peaceful, feminine and gentle?

    Right after I got filled with the Holy Spirit I was continually in a state of effortless joy andthe smile seldom vanished from my face. But as years passed various trials of faith camewhich strained that joy. I suppose the worst thing satan used to try to discourage me wasdisillusionment about televangelists I used to support, only to find out what greedy wolvesthey were (for more info on that read http://banpreachergreed.tripod.com ). It hurtme whenever Id hear of Christians hurting other Christians. There were those stressful

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    years following my husbands accident in 1984, when it was touch and go with his recoveryfrom his leg injuries. There were stresses and aggravations at work, and worries aboutpaying the rent on time. All these things took their toll on my emotions and life made mefeel like a tarnished penny. After all the fun church activities of my early Christian years,and happy times of fellowship, battles against satan had to be fought. I learned that while Idwell in mortal flesh, the Christian life is no endless picnic of joy, but a battle against a

    belligerent devil out to destroy everything good and decent. When I feel down I must do likethe Psalmist David and be led by God to the still waters of calm, where He can restore mysoul_and my joy of my salvation. God can wipe away the soot which accumulates on thesoul from contending with such a heartless world as this. Alone in Gods Presence, I can bewho I truly am_a joyful citizen of the Kingdom of God. A survivor of life who sings of all Hiswondrous mercies.

    In my joy and contentment I remember those who have found no Haven of Rest.

    Psalms 64: A Prayer for Protection

    David who was persecuted (hunted down for destruction) by King Saul, pours out his heartto his God, Who alone is able to preserve Davids life and avenge all the wrongs done tohim. Psalms 64 is one of his many prayers for deliverance and justice.

    VERSE 1: Hear my voice, O God, in my prayer: preserve my life from fear of the enemy.* ** *David cried out to God to preserve him from fear of the enemy. Fear is one of satansdeadliest weapons against a child of God. Fear of other people overwhelms the mind anddestroys your faith in the the greatness of Almighty God.

    VERSE 2: Hide me from the secret counsel of the wicked, from the insurrection of theworkers of iniquity.* * * Did you ever have the creepy feeling others are yakking about youbehind cupped hands? You wonder what stupid insult theyre going to throw at you next, orwhat sick practical joke theyre going to play to make you look foolish. David prayed forGod to hide him from the wicked plots of his enemies. Trust Him to do the same for you.

    VERSE 3: Who whet their tongue like a sword, and bend their bows to shoot their arrows,even bitter words.* * * * The tongue is an unruly evil, filled with deadly poison (James 3:6-8). David prayed for God to protect him from the power of his enemys bitter words.

    The remainder of this chapter speaks of the boldness of the wicked, who really dont expectany retribution to fall upon them. But God will suddenly shoot at them to wound them, andHis righteous judgments will result in glory being given to Him as the Righteous Judge.

    Fragmented FamiliesMark 3:25

    Thanks to the manipulation of the economy by the super-rich, the average cost of living issoaring way out of sight. In the 50s and 60s, one man working one full-time job couldadequately provide for his family. Mother was usually home to greet the kids when they gothome from school. Shed give them some space but whenever they needed a listening ear,she was there for them with homemade cookies and companionship.

    No more. Now only a tiny percentage of American families fit that pattern. Only a fewhighly energetic women can muster the stamina to juggle a home and a high-poweredcareer. But more typical is the woman overwhelmed by a monotonous, exhausting job (ortwo) who views her home as simply just another job to tackle on the fumes of her depleted

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    strength. Guilt feelings arise from the involuntary resentment she feels when her partner(it used to be husband!) or children make demands on her few tranquil moments at home,for the maternal instinct is still there, conflicting with her need of rest. The demands of therat race make it difficult for parents to exit from lifes treadmill and nurture their young.

    Regrettably some children are shifted from caregiver to caregiver, even in their formative

    years. This lack of stability cannot be beneficial to tiny children, who need to form closebonds with nurturers. Its just like taking a young plant and repotting it over and over indifferent soils. It cannot but be harmful.

    In these days of quickie divorce, the original family unit is often disbanded and a blendedfamily formed by merging with the family of a new partner. Unfortunately, the adults romantic needs are often placed ahead of the best interests of the children involved. Ill-concealed hostility and rivalry sometimes exist between step relations, usually because theoffspring of rival parents are resented. Such friction occasionally leads to vicious verbal orphysical abuse of children by step parents, which in turn, motivates a rejected child to wantto become an abusive tyrant himself in order to salve his battered ego; hence, a bully.

    Take Decisive ActionI will contend with him that contendeth with thee, and I will save thy children (Isaiah49:25).

    If your child is being victimized by dangerous school bullies, take him out of school at leastuntil you are certain the immediate danger has passed! Not all children have the resilienceto suffer persecution and physical danger for five whole days out of the week. Thats asscary as being locked up in the same cell with Jack the Ripper, or getting thrown into a denof hungry lions! I know there are truancy laws, but the government does not own yourchild. God does! He has given YOU the responsibility of protecting that child! I dontadvocate anarchy, but the safety of your child must always take priority over pleasinggovernment officials. Leave no legal stone unturned to do whats necessary to take yourown, precious child out of harms way. He or she cannot learn in a torture chamber, and

    why should your child be scarred for life emotionally or physically from such abuse? Youngpeople of my generation rebelled against being drafted to fight an unjust war. Rebelagainst bullying! Stand up for your childs right to learn in a safe environment.

    Take it from me, I endured years of having my self-image trashed by the grossest insults.It is literally emotional rape, committed against you over and over and over again, day inand day out! Nothing hurts more than to be a warm, friendly type with lots of love to share;love which is rejected by teenage peers who only pal around with kids who are too cool tohave hearts and individual personalities. Sensitive people hurt more, so they make thebest target for bulllies who hunt for some soul to destroy. My ability to love others wastotally destroyed by prolonged abuse and only God was able to restore it.

    Adults smugly say: All those other kids cant be the ones who are wrong, while youre theonly one whos right. Its your own fault for attracting the abuse. Yeah, right. You might aswell tell a repeatedly raped woman: 5,000 satisfied rapists cant be wrong. The majority isalways right. Its YOUR fault for being so pretty. The poor things, they cant help beingattracted to you.

    I got tired of being told I was overreacting, and snap out of it by grownups who neverwould have tolerated the same treatment themselves for as long as I was forced to suffer it.When you accidentally touch a hot stove your hand instinctively springs back, so that thedamage to your hand is limited. But being unable to leave a hell hole torture chamber

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    school is like your hand being unable to escape the hot stove. Because youre unable toescape, the injury is only deepened and worsened from prolonged exposure to abuse. Thelonger a kid suffers severe bullying, the less likely he/she will be able to forget it orcompletely recover from it in later life.

    Romans 12:18 says: If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.

    Sometimes peaceful coexistence with everybody is NOT possible, because while we wantpeace others want war (Psalms 120:7). Real life reality must courageously be faced byguardians or parents of the victim! I have read many accounts of parents who waited sopatiently for their childs bullying problem to sort itself out that they waited until thesecond or third bad beating to do more than utter a feeble protest about the situation.Apologetically the parents wheedled with school officials to beg the bully to bestow upontheir child the privilege of living in physical or emotional health. Talk about hate crimes andsocial injustice! It begins at an early age!

    Running in Shackles and Crash Landing

    Parents take great pride in their kids grades. Ive got a fairly high I.Q. But when youre ina pressure cooker of persecution day in and day out, your academic life goes down thetoilet. It was my very first day of seventh grade. Out of the blue my homeroom teacherasked me some ridiculous question. My mind went totally blank and I could hardly chokeout a reply. An awful terror crept over me and I got the shakes. I felt trapped. I began tocry when the rest of the class laughed at me. After school, the teacher called my dad atwork and got him mad at me, so mad he didnt listen to anything I said. At the time thatteacher had barely met me but she told him: That girl acts like a baby. All because Idhad an INVOLUNTARY panic attack of bad nerves which made me cry against my will!

    Parents, NEVER just take the word of an adult without first stopping to listen to hear therest of the story from your child. Dont yell and refuse to listen to your childs side of thestory. Just because the teacher is older doesnt mean theyre always right. I did nothingcalculated to annoy that teacher. All I did was lose control of my tear ducts because a

    terrible sensation of fear and feeling trapped and humiliated overpowered me. It was thedevil beginning a campaign of abuse against me that lasted many years. Id had fewproblems in elementary school, but from that day on, most of my school years would behell. When I get to heaven and see the Lord face to face, I will remind Him to punish thefoul evil spirits who made that trouble for me!

    It only takes ONE bad first impression to ruin you for good! Kids carry a bad joke too farand never let you live it down. One boy liked to stomp on my toes. He and this evil-eyedgirl grabbed my books after school and threw them in the street. My glee club went on afield trip to perform for some big wigs. Id practiced my heart out, but was asked to sit theperformance out, along with one other girl. When we all went to a cafeteria to eat, I satalone at my own little table, while some goofy girl grinned at me and kept saying: Fishgood, Patricia?

    That was the same girl whod complimented me on my art work in sixth grade. But going upto seventh grade changes the whole ball game, doesnt it? A formerly friendly, likable girlbecame a big time operator. Ya just gotta put down the dweebs so youll look good in frontof your fancy friends and climb satans social ladder! Oh, a few kids were kind, but I wasafraid to reach out to anyone anymore, much less to show anybody trust. I just went numbas I let my tender side die to minimize my pain. The baddies in the bunch got me so upsetmy grades went all to hell. How can you help but mistrust a school dominated by bigots?

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    To this day, I remember a big bunch of kids spilling down the front steps cheering wildlyover JFKs assassination. But why not? No big loss to them!

    At the tender age of twelve I was already tempted to just check out of a world that mademe sick. I ended up taking an entire year off from junior high and took nerve medication.The next school wasnt quite as horrible, though I always got picked last for team sports

    and I rode one school bus that was a nightmare.

    But it was Wormwood High that left most of the bad memories as a zoo full of self-centered bigots and ignoramuses. Its courses (except for Math) were easy, but I alwaysmanaged to pass even that. But if other kids sense youre a high-strung type, they wontbe impressed by your good test grades. Once a target, always a target.

    Good grades matter today more than ever before. But asking a shell-shocked, depressedteenager to churn out all As and Bs is just like expecting a marathon runner to finish infirst place with one ankle bound in an iron shackle. The ability might be there, but bullieshave bound him with their chains of hatred.

    You might as well expect an Air Force pilot to make a picture-perfect landing in a battlefieldafter one of his wings has been shot off. Not only that, even the weather goes against him.It starts to hail, then a tornado rips off his other wing, sending the plane in a tailspindownward as lightning strikes the nose of the plane. Meanwhile, surface to air missileskeep blasting away at him from below. If the pilot ends up a casualty of war, after bravelytoughing it out all alone, can he be blamed? Man, it sure does take guts to fight your battlesall alone!

    The sheer irony is this: Many dads who used to be in the military wouldnt have hesitated tograb a gun and wage war against people whod never hurt anybody in their family. Man,those soldiers would storm Pork Chop Hill to fight some nameless, faceless foe of liberty (a favorite buzzword of war-mongering Christian politicians who insist THEIR oil is buriedunder somebody elses sand). But these same men are way too scared to pick up a phone

    and fight for their own child whos facing a REAL threat at school. It never would haveoccurred to this military man to tell his countrymen to Grow up! Youre only imagining theViet Cong are hiding under your bed! No, all the politicians had to do was sell a big scarestory and before long, these soldiers went over there to fight people who never came overhere to hurt anyone. But when the guys kid comes home with a ripped shirt and black eye(even if its a girl) the kids made to feel ashamed if they admit to being just a little bitscared!

    Just like a scared soldier charging the enemy on the battlefield, I forced myself to keepslogging on, through the muck and the mire of the sinful, foul environment of WormwoodHigh. Lots of kids fall totally apart, though, because they arent able to keep one wingfunctioning through sheer dogged will power . So their grades NEVER recover! Some kidscant learn at all in a torture chamber. Still, their parents yell at them for getting rottenreport cards. Grow up! Youre acting like a soap opera! Crybaby! What if you wereREALLY suffering! What if you didnt have food on your plate? Its all in your head! Getover it, or the men in white coats will take you away! You should be ashamed of yourself!Your brother (sister, etc,) doesnt suffer this embarrassment! You cant beat the system!

    Get real! Only an ostrich hides its eyes in the sand from reality. You might just as well hopeterminal cancer will go away if you just ignore it! ITS THE BULLY WHO SHOULD HIDEHIS FACE IN SHAME, NOT HIS VICTIMS!!!!! HELLO? Parents, you brought your childinto this world, and its YOUR duty to protect him, and to hell with namby-pamby politeness

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    or political correctness! Any parent too scared to make tough choices for the sake of hischild needs to pray for holy boldness! Any parent who refuses to fight to protect their ownkids health or safety doesnt deserve to be a parent! If you think a pit bull terrier is fierce,it would be nothing compared to how this riled-up old bear would respond. First Id takethat child out of school till the State either straightened the mess out immediately orassigned a big, beefy bodyguard to protect the child, including going to and from school. If

    they couldnt guarantee such protection, and I were forced to take MY child out of schooland teach them at home to keep them from being pulverized, and the State gave me anyguff about it, Id threaten to fight back with a Loco Parentis Lawsuit. Loco Parentis means

    in place of the parent. While YOUR kids at school (because the State forces you to sendthem there), teachers and school staff act as substitute parents with all the duties belongingto parents, including protecting the health and welfare of your child. Id say that if your kidcomes home with cuts and bruises all over his face, a broken leg, teeth knocked out, and ashredded shirt, the State loused up its loco parentis duty.

    Im soft-spoken and mild-mannered to a fault, but this would be no time for politeness. Idset my phone on fire hollering and screaming to the newspapers and lawmakers. Id picketthe local Board of Education till they fan Frankensteins fanny with a holey board to put thefear of God in him. Id keep writing e-mails, picketing, phoning, hollering and screaming allday, every day, till I raised a big enough stink to get the press on my side, and getlawmakers off their blessed assurances so theyll pass laws to take the schools back fromthe bullies running them.

    Parents, you can turn a blind eye to bullying if youre too wimpy to fight the battle. Its easyto go with the flow and do nothing in the face of gross evil. Even a dog dropping can floatdownsteam effortlessly. You can bury your head like the ostrich and hope the passage of time will make it all come out in the wash. But the sad truth is this: You can choose not toact, but you cant choose the CONSEQUENCES of doing nothing to protect your child. Andits YOUR precious child who will reap the whirlwind for your inaction. What are just a few of the consequences you can expect in that poor childs life as he/she gets older?

    1. Flashbacks and nightmares . Hatred, abuse and hostility has been pounded intoyour childs soul for so long they feel like theyre trapped in a time warp because nothingwas EVER resolved, and they have trouble moving on.

    2. Cries at the slightest provocation. Some stray comment or minor incident can push the pain button in the childs soul because bad memories are triggered bysomething seemingly insignificant. This is similar to peanuts triggering deadly allergicreactions.

    3. Hates social situations, prefers their own company. Bullies who ostracized yourchild conditioned him/her to live their life alone and seek comfort only in themselvesbecause they werent good enough to have friends. The tree grows the way the twig

    is bent. It would feel unnatural to that tree to be anything but a bent tree. Itspossible to turn off any desire for friendship, because it hurts too much to desirethings you know you can never have.

    4. Finds it difficult to live independently as an adult. The human spirit is strongand resilient, but can be broken if too many negative forces impact it for far too long.Too many people told your child he/she was dumb, clumsy, fat, stupid, weak, etc. If others psychologically or physically tortured your child over a long period of years andmade him too insecure to make his own way in the world, place the blame squarely

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    on your own shoulders for leaving that child in a negative, hostile shark pool schoolwhich ate away his precious soul like caustic acid till nothing was left.

    5. Takes only menial jobs beneath his/her intelligence or ability. Your child wastold thousands, if not millions, of times that he/she would never amount to anythingand nobody wanted them on their team in P.E. Ever flaw or failure, both real andimaginary, was blown up 1000X and waved in their face. Even some sadistic teachermight have put them down. A street sweeper or janitor has far less chance of jobfailure and related stress than a doctor, lawyer, or data systems analyst.

    Bullies isnt a piddly little kiddie game. Its a spiritually destructive HATE CRIME whichmust be fought against, aggressively and non-stop. I know, the System IS stacked in favorof the criminal, and the problem seems invincible. Parents of juvenile thugs could care lessyour child has been hurt. They care only for their own kid and he (or she) can do no wrong.Their primary reason for loving their child is to them, he or she is an extension of themselves. Their offspring represents THEM at that school, and any reprimand he suffers

    reflects on THEM. The love of a sinner is very selfish indeed.Seek Compensation to Aid Your Childs Recovery

    But whenever there is non-cooperation do your utmost to avail yourself of any rights youhave within the legal system. Get legal advice if necessary, to give you every possibleleverage, to combat the foot-dragging of a system which is becoming more and more biasedtoward the rights of victimizers, rather than victims. If the bullying has given rise tomedical or dental expenses, get legal aid or no-win-no-fee legal advice and sue thebullies parents or guardians to recoup expenses of treatment plus lawyers fees. You couldcheck on the availability of Legal Aid programs in your community, if money is a problem. If the parents are cooperative, but plead for mercy because theyre too poor to pay, dontthreaten to land them in jail, because the time might come you yourself might need for God

    to forgive your debts. Nevertheless, your child may need physical therapy, dental repairs oreven reconstructive surgery because he was severely attacked by thugs. Why should yourown family have to be wiped out financially by catastrophic medical expenses because of acriminals cruelty?

    It could be the school itself is just as much to blame for failure to provide a safe learningenvironment for your child. If so, take out a lawsuit against the school system to recover alldamages incurred by their negligence. Theyre just as liable as your workplace would be if bosses refused to fire a foul-mouthed pervert who assaulted you on the premises.Common sense tells you: why should a child get less protection under the law than a full-grown adult?

    If your childs injuries were inflicted on the bus because the driver refused to put the bullyoff, sue the bus system. But take some kind of positive action. Do the very thing I was tooscared to do when I was a teenager: Make plenty of noise! Pull back the rug and expose thecockroaches underneath! Share your story with the local media (if they are sympathetic). If the local paper wont help, seek other outlets for airing your grievance. This could make abig difference to some other child if it became common knowledge that people are fed upwith school bullying and will take it no more. Declare a war on bullying. Be a pillar in yourcommunity whos got principles hes willing to fight to defend. All that is necessary for evilto triumph is for decent people to do nothing.

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    Compile any medical records or other available evidence requested by your attorney. Findwitnesses and ask them to come forward. Maybe other kids have been bothered by thesame bullies. It could be the bullies parents wont worry about their childs behavior until ithits them where it hurts the most, in the wallet! Thats a terrible thing to have to say, butlots of folks love their precious money more than anything else on earth!

    Your Childs Enemies Need Gods TOUGH Love

    Now dont tell me thats breaking Jesus command to love your enemies and pray for God tobless them. When Jesus said we had to love our enemies He didnt mean were supposed tobless their wicked ways and pray they would prosper in their wickedness. Jesus didntmean we should pray that God would give them the means or strength to do even moreharm! What I suggest is the same kind of tough love God uses on His own childrensometimes. Remember Kind David in II Samuel Chapters 11 and 12? The sweet singer of Israel, he was called. One of the greatest saints of ancient Israel. The type whod always befirst to file into church and last to leave. David not only sang in the choir, he directed ithimself and composed the choirs repertoire. But what happened?

    Despite His devotion to God David stole Uriah the Hittites wife and then plotted his death.If Davids moral restoration hadnt involved tough love, the Prophet Nathan might havetold him: Aw...thats all right, Your Majesty, no sweat, man. Jesus loves you anyway. Itdoesnt matter what you did, its all water under the bridge. And if Uriah were still here,hed just let it go. After all, hes in a far better place now, so maybe you did him a favor bybumping him off. Dont dwell on it. The Lord bless you real good, brother.

    David was forgiven but he didnt get off that easy. Lessons had to be learned so he got onthe receiving end of Gods tough love. David reaped what he sowed, not because God is ameanie but because the integrity of Gods Holy Law had to be upheld. David was protectedfrom the penalty of his sin: eternal death; but he wasnt spared the temporal consequencesof his actions. Bullies, like everyone else, need to learn that life is not a computer gameand actions have consequences. They need tough love, not a nod of one-size-fits-all

    acceptance. Bullies need to learn to be responsible and considerate members of society.Mollycoddling them in the Name of Jesus does them no favor. It does not prepare them forthe probability they will go to hell to suffer Gods everlasting vengeance.

    Contrary to popular belief, the God of Love does not throw a blanket amnesty over allunrepentant evildoers, any more than He is behind the lenient sentencing of hardenedbullies. Denial of Gods justice is denial of His Holiness! In Ezekiel 13:22 God denounceslying prophets who promise the wicked leniency. These popular prophets only strengthenedthe hands of the wicked to commit further wickedness by telling them God didnt much carewhat they did, so Hed let them off easy. When a gutter rat knows he aint got nothin tolose by staying what he is, hell only sink lower in the sewer of sin.

    Where it concerns protecting your loved ones, be a man (or very strong woman), not amouse. Dont ever threaten violence or mayhem, but be very assertive ( I Cor. 16:13)Yell, scream if you must, theres no law against getting loud. Even God gets mad at evil andraises His voice against it (Isaiah 42:13; 58:1; Jeremiah 6:11; Nahum 1:2; Zephaniah 2:3)A woman must be as iron-willed as a man in times of crisis! Dont be too chicken to peep aprotest!

    Some Practical Suggestions

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    If possible, switch your child to another school to give the child a fresh start. After the firstweek or so, get some feedback from his teachers, who can point out any problems. Takeany practical measures needed to nip any new problem in the bud before it spirals out of control. If your child is ready for such a thing, get him involved in one or more wholesomeextra-curricular activities of his choice, e.g. music or drama club, where he might cultivatesolid friendships by working in a group setting with others toward the same worthwhile goal.

    If your child has any pals or friendly acquaintances in his class, encourage the cultivation of these relationships. You could ask your child to invite a couple of other kids over for asleepover, barbeque or other happy event.

    If you have switched your child to a new school and he is happy there, dont even THINK of sending him back to the old one! One mother I read about had her severely bullied sontransferred to a new school where things went just fine. Then she remembered he wouldonly end up going to the same high school with his former tormentors. So she switched himback in hopes hed eventually make friends with the bullies.

    But the bullies saw this as weak capitulation. Instead of a beating the poor kid, this timethey blinded him in an attack! And what justice was meted out to the ringleader? A piddlytwo years probation! I can picture that young criminal patting himself on the back forpulling that off!

    If keeping your child in school jeopardizes his safety, by all means his safety must comefirst, even before a conventional education. Remember, God has entrusted YOU, not somegovernment, with this precious life you brought into the world!

    If you have the resources and time (especially if youre a two-parent family who canmanage on one income) consider tutoring your child at home. If both of you must work,perhaps you could do this in the evening. Thats not timidity, thats common sense. Anysmart general will resort to a tactical retreat until he gets reinforcements and can face theenemy again. And consider this: Is the soul any less real than the body? Protecting achilds wounded heart is no different from keeping the weight off a broken leg. Victims of

    verbal abuse cant just snap out of it. They need time to heal.

    In the worst-case scenario, school officials might look the other way and pretend not tonotice their school is a haven for bullies. But dont buy unnecessary trouble. Never crossgovernment authorities unless they drag their feet about cracking down on the bullyingproblem, or otherwise hinder your efforts to protect the well-being of your child. If continuing in a conventional school environment is no longer an option for your child, notifyschool authorities of your intention to home-school, in accordance with local law. Getexpert advice on curriculum content and standards which need to be maintained in enactingyour home schooling program, and on helpful resources: e.g. wholesome educational websites, appropriate text and work books, library resources. If you are deficient in disciplineslike math or science, enlist the help of a paid tutor if at all possible. Perhaps youre luckyenough to have a network of supportive friends or relatives, and some of them haveexcelled in subjects you never conquered. Maybe one or two of them will gladly lend ahand tutoring your child as his or her contribution to the War On Bullying.

    It would cost the state some precious MONEY, but kids at high risk of being badly bulliedshould be picked up by a special school van AT THEIR DOOR and taken home from schoolthe same way. If this isnt possible, at the very least BUG all school buses with hiddenmicrophones and CCTV cameras to collect evidence of any harassment that goes on whiletraveling to or from school. The bully counts on apathetic school officials giving this tired oldexcuse: We cant do anything. Its your word against theirs. Audio-visual evidence isnt

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    biased and its solid proof of wrong-doing. If enough electronic evidence of actual harm orthreats to harm (how many injuries does it take?) is collected, the bull(ies) should bepermanently expelled from the school district as dangerous undesirables.Classrooms, locker rooms, hallways, lunchrooms, and even rest rooms should be bugged todiscourage verbal or physical assaults. Teacher cant always be there to personally see thebullying, so electronic eyes and ears should do the monitoring to help keep order on

    campus.

    I also suggest surveillance systems be installed on playgrounds, not just to protect kidsfrom aggressive peers, but to gather evidence on any unauthorized adults who mightapproach playing children.

    Im all for an individuals right to a reasonable amount of privacy in daily life, and Imagainst the Orwellian Big Brother State which watches you so closely the authorities evenknow what youre eating for breakfast. A police state could be a byproduct of fear gone wild.A balance needs to be struck between personal privacy and electronic vigilance againstcriminals who make life miserable for others. But your right to privacy ends at the pointwhere you use your privacy to hurt other people.

    Airlines have begun to install Air Marshalls on their planes to protect passengers. An adultBus Marshall (preferably a volunteer) should be installed on every school bus, morning andafternoon. The best qualified for the job would be ex-Marine drill sergeants in top physicalcondition, skilled in self-defense techniques. If a kid is caught beating up some other kid onthe bus, that dirty little thug would be kept under restraint by the Bus Marshall while thedriver parks the bus and calls the cops on his cell phone. That rotten bully would be handedover to the police for assault and battery, just the same as if an adult had been attacked inthe street by a thug. If the parents get upset about THEIR kid being detained by the cops,tough luck! Its their own fault for not making their brat mind.

    One idea for safer education would be to organize an educational co-op with parents of other children who for one reason or the other, cant attend a conventional school. But only

    a calm, confident, dependable type of person should help home-school other peopleschildren. ONLY adults known to be morally sound and responsible should be included in sucha project! If you are a Christian, perhaps your local church could organize a home schoolingco-op, if a great enough need for one exists. At least two people should be on the premisesat all times, and for the sake of propriety, men should not tutor mixed-gender or all-girlgroups alone. They should be assisted by their wives. Especially in the case of Christians,a married man or woman should obviously not work alone all day with someone of theopposite sex to whom they are not married. If the male tutors are single, they should havethe assistance of two or three other women, preferably women at least thirty years olderthan themselves, ha! Seriously, all appearance of evil should be avoided (I Thes.5:22). It isessential to have at least one other person nearby to help with any emergencies that mightarise from being responsible for a whole group of children. Younger kids, especially, can getrowdy or get into something when your back is turned.

    A school pool would be a nifty name for this tutoring co-op. A school pool would beorganized on the same principle as a car pool or baby-sitting pool. Everyone benefits all thetime and contributes some of the time. It would especially be suitable for those parentswho are self-employed or have very flexible work schedules, or for part-time employees orstay-at-home moms. Christians who started a school pool and allowed those of other faithsto join could make it clear that Jesus Golden Rule of Do unto others as you would havethem do unto you is to be strictly observed (Matt.7:12). Discipline of students should be

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    agreed upon from the outset. Loss of privileges, detention, or writing sentences could bepossible punishments for misbehavior.

    Enrollment could be limited to five or six children per group (or even fewer), so as to easethe burden on parents work schedules and help prevent parental burnout. Eachparent/educator would take his or her turn to tutor the kids and provide lunch for them.

    Tutors can take advantage of online assistance for those subjects which are challenging.One advantage of home schooling is extra flexibility in which subjects are studied on anygiven day. Say, youre excellent in English but John is a whiz in math and algebra. MathDay would fall on Johns tutoring day. If any time is left over after each child finishes hisor her math assignment, the rest of the day could be used for art projects, crafts, orwhatever enrichment program the child is interested in at his or her own age level. Eachchild could learn at his or her own pace, using online resources. Each computer-literate childwould need to bring his or her own personal laptop to sessions. Legal requirements forgetting a permit for such a School Pool Co-op would need to be checked out first, to complywith local government regulations.

    Granted, a lot of poor parents cant stay home to teach their kids. Theyre in a real bind.Theyre out working all sorts of crazy hours, often moonlighting to survive. The cost of living is way out of control, and millions of harried parents can barely find the time to dothe grueling job of overseeing the education of their kids and being there for them with akiss and a cookie. Many cant even pay for basic child care. A kid left to raise himself makesa poor substitute parent. He is unlikely to teach himself right from wrong or discipline hisown behavior. The spiritual consequences of this sad scenario can be disastrous (Prov.29:15). Inability to be there for the kids is one of the hardest burdens of the working poorin America.

    But in the case of affluent parents who give climbing the corporate ladder a higher prioritythan family life, having it all is far more important than raising the kids they brought intothis cruel world and teaching them to be good citizens. Talk about immaturity.

    The biggest tragedy is kids having kids. There are some excellent teenage mothers outthere who make heroic efforts to do the best they can for their kids. But there are otherswho view babies as a cute fashion accessory. Having one is a rite of passage in their peergroup. With their confused concept of what love really is, these young girls are tooimmature to know how to raise their children to be loving, considerate people.

    Walk a Mile in My Shoes Christians, beware of being so sweet that you back away from the devil. The suffering-obsessed Christian reminds you that you are to rejoice in all tribulation, because tribulationbuilds character. Supposedly you should gladly embrace each and every evil thing as a giftof God because you can learn from it. But Jesus came to destroy the works of the devil, notto sanctify them (I John 3:8). Bullying is such a profoundly damaging crime against thehuman soul that God has no use for it except to be glorified in executing justice againstbullies. Even animal excrement is less repulsive than bullying. At least you can use it forfertilizer to grow things. Bullying is destructive, psychological murder! And when it leads tovictim suicide, it is physical murder for which the bully himself is responsible, punishable byan eternity in a devils hell. Even if a bullying victim killed himself fifty years ago, God is stillkeeping that sin recorded in His book of judgment against the bully. Time means nothing toGod. God has sworn to avenge the destruction of his Temple, and that happened thousandsof years ago (Jere.51:11). How much dearer to God than some stone temple is a personsbody, which houses a spiritual creation made in His own image!

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    Sin alienated mankind from God. Sin has sent countless millions to hell. Sin put Gods onlySon on the Cross. So how can you thank God for the kind of thing you have endured? Whatyou are to rejoice in is any lessons you can learn from the bad experience or any ways youcan grow inside as a result of having gone through it. And even that might take gritted-teeth determination when you consider how costly that lesson was!

    Some Christians wallow in suffering. They write books and preach sermons telling otherChristians how to pretend theyre having a picnic while satan is trashing their lives. Theysay that others who long for the peace and perfection of heaven are immature wimps. Butits easy to ride out someone elses famine while youre chowing down on steak.

    Jesus said it was possible to move even mountains through faith in God (Matt.17:20). Butsome Christians only learn how to make friends with their mountains. Chances are, thosewho are philosophical about other peoples problems have carved a cozy, secure niche inthis world for themselves in it and are quite comfortable with the status quo. Wisdom is called for in dealing with our mountains, whether they are bad situations orhostile enemies. God wont always bless both sinner and saint alike. This Dispensation of Grace will soon be past. The perilous times when the saint of God must do good to thosewho hate you (Matt. 5:44), in hopes that the Love of Jesus will soften the heart of fiercepersecutors, will be no more and God will at long last pour out his fierce, unadulteratedvengeance upon wicked, violent people. King David knew what it was like to feel vulnerable to the sword thrusts and spear jabs of the wicked. Above all things, he feared finding himself in a captivity situation where hisfate hung on the cruel mercies of his enemies. Deliver me not over unto the will of mineenemies, he prays in Psalms 27:12. In I Chronicles 21:9-13 David has just committed aserious sin and is being judged by God for it. The Lord offers him a choice of three possiblepunishments, one of which is three months of being overcome by his enemies. Davidpleads with God not to let him fall into the hand of man, because as a professional soldier

    he knew how just low depraved human enemies could sink in their cruelty.

    Jesus, our supreme Example, was never delivered into the hand of His enemies until thetime came he willingly offered Himself up for our sins. At the beginning of His ministry Hemiraculously escaped a lynch mob (Luke 4:28-30). So why should we cheerfully acceptevery blow of satan that comes our way?

    I would like to share further warnings from the Throne of God to wicked, cruel sinners.These are perhaps, the most hard-hitting warnings in this whole book, but God would holdme accountable if I didnt share them. First Ill cite just a few of the references in scripturewhich support these prophecies, and you can look them up yourself:

    Deut. 32: 22-23; Psalms 2:4-5; and verses 9 and 12; Psalms7:11-13; Psalms11:5; Psalms37:12-15; Psalms 45:3-7; Psalms 72:4; Psalms 89:20-23; Prov. 1:24-31; Isaiah 13:6-11;Isaiah 63:3-6; Isaiah 66:24;Zech. 2:8; Mark 9:42-48; Luke16:19-31; Luke 19:27; Romans 2:5-6; 9:22;

    2Thes. 1:7-9; 2 Pet. 3:7; Rev. 2:26-27; Rev. 6:16-17; Rev.11:18; Rev.19:11-16;Rev.20:11-15

    Christians say you shouldnt judge anyone. But on at least two occasions the apostle Paulnot only judged cases of sin within the church, he dealt severely with fellow Christians who

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    sinned and refused to repent, and in a way you NEVER hear of being done in any churchtoday.

    Heres how Paul dealt with an adulterer who slept with his stepmother.

    I Cor.5:2: For I verily, as absent in body, but present in spirit, HAVE JUDGED ALREADY, as

    though I were present, concerning him that hath so done this deed,4 In the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, when ye are gathered together, and my spirit, withthe power of our Lord Jesus Christ,5 TO DELIVER SUCH AN ONE UNTO SATAN for the destruction of the flesh, that the spiritmay be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus.

    The second is Pauls judgment upon a believer who blasphemed the Lord.

    I Tim.1: 19 Holding faith, and a good conscience; which some having put away concerningfaith have made shipwreck:20 Of whom is Hymenaeus and Alexander; WHOM I HAVE DELIVERED UNTO SATAN, thatthey may learn not to blaspheme.

    Ive already revealed that some, if not most, of those who bullied me were probablychurchgoers and Sunday Christians dragged to church by their hypocrite parents. Wilddogs run in packs and these kids acted more like demon-driven beasts than churchgoers.They made my bus ride from school sheer hell. Through their cruelty they blasphemed theLord Who bought them. They slicked back their hair and wore their fanciest duds onSunday, did their Sunday School lesson and sang their dead hymns, but they denied Jesusdaily by persecuting one of His children. I was a child of God because Id been converted atage twelve, though I wasnt yet filled with the Holy Spirit. Even if I felt estranged from Godbecause I hated those churchgoing hypocrites, I still had been saved. So in attacking andthreatening me, they were doing the same to Jesus. Whatever you do to one of His own,even unto the least important of them, you do also to Him (Matt.25:40). I dont hold theoffice of an apostle in the church. But I am just as much of a child of God as Paul was. Ive

    found a solid Biblical case for praying Gods judgment on unrepentant bullies. Jesus said tobless your persecutors. I cant pray God will give them a fun time in this world or prosperfrom their wickedness. But I can pray God will wear those reprobates out real good in Hiswoodshed so their reprobate souls will be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus. Thats ALL theblessing I can give them, prayer for a little tough love from the Ruler of the Universe. If delivering someone over to satan to discipline their sinful nature helps them get right withGod and keeps them out of hell, then here goes:

    Lord, in the Name of Jesus, I follow Pauls example. Paul told believers to imitate him (ICor.4:16), and Im imitating him in this. You know which of those bullies had a conversionexperience and which ones didnt. If they, at any point in their miserable lifetimes,accepted Christ before they hurt me, then this prayer especially applies to them. If theynever were born again, they will suffer the judgment of unbelievers at the Great WhiteThrone Judgment of Revelation.

    Lord God, Great and Holy Judge of all the earth, hear my prayer. The ONLY blessing I canbestow upon these reprobate Christ-deniers is that they might be severely dealt with by Youin order that their rebellious souls be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus instead of beingsent to hell with this doomed, dying world. You know the REAL entities behind the fictitiousnames I gave these scary characters. I ask that each one who has not repented bedelivered over to satan for the destruction of their flesh until such time as they cry out toYou for mercy and forgiveness of their sins against me and anyone else theyve harmed.

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    Mike Crane assaulted me from out of nowhere, and Id never even spoken to him. Heridiculed my looks and left lasting emotional scars. His taunts put an eating disorder on meand made me worry Id never look good enough. Lord, see to it that Mike Crane gains atleast fifty pounds in all the wrong places. Let someone else ridicule HIM for his looks andsee how HE feels. Let some younger, better-looking guy take his job at work. Turn the

    devil loose on him to teach him a good lesson, Lord!

    Rainy Spacey tormented me on the bus, said I had lice, made ugly faces at me. She didthis on many occasions. Worst of all, when Butch hit me with the club, she urged him to doit again! I could have been paralyzed or killed if he had. Spacey was one of the meanest,ugliest bullies at that school. Make her feel just as scared and insecure and miserable asshe made me feel. Prevent her from ever getting a decent job, Lord. See to it shes alwayson the bottom of the heap and no one ever shows her kindness or helps her get ahead inthis world, until she cries out to You for mercy and forgiveness.

    This sluttish girl giggled to her friends about me while I was using the toilet. I didnt evenhave peace there. Shes so dumb, Sonya Hoggart said, knowing I could hear everything.Sonya bragged that she could get friends and I couldnt. She constantly mouthed off at me,although Id done nothing to hurt her. As part of her punishment, Lord, I ask that You takeaway every friend this gal has, if she never repented. I ask that shell struggle with thesame kind of loneliness the bullies put on me, and shell never again be able to get anyoneto love her. Heap shame on her until she repents of her sins and accepts Christ as Savior.

    Bad Billy persecuted me in art class, kept saying I had maggots. He looked at me with evileyes as he whispered to his goofy friend. Billy didnt dare say those mean things out loud,because he was covering his own backside and didnt want the teacher to hear. Take awaythat creeps ability to whisper bad words to avoid trouble. Cause him to say OUT LOUDthings that will land him in hot water. Make Bad Billy say what he REALLY thinks of theboss at work and so that he gets fired, instead of just being sent to detention. Let hiswicked way fall fully upon his own head!

    Butch persecuted me every single day on the school bus, unless he was home sick. Hethreatened me with knives, rubber bands, and clubs. He and his buddies threw soggyspitwads at me, day in and day out. Bruce jeered at me and called me dirty names. Givesatan orders to work his own servant over. Someone spotted Butch once and told me theold guy was still skinny. Make this nasty creep put on sixty pounds in all the wrong places.Reduce him to abject poverty. Make HIM feel scared every day of his life and fill his soulwith fear and dread, like he did to me (Deut.28:66). Let some of his own relatives find outwhat a horrible character he was, and still might be. Let Butch lose the respect of his ownkids and be treated like the dog he is.

    All he ever saw me do was sit on the school bus, cowering in fear as I was attacked everyday. But Rover MacGunn said I belonged in a mental institution. Let Rover reap the fruit of his own words, Lord. Turn the devil loose on old Rover to give him no rest night or day.Let Rover lose the love and respect of his wife. Let his business slide down in the dunghill.Let Rover be the one who ends up in the place he talked about. Until he realizes what arotten sinner he is and repents, Lord.

    I remember Sadie Brown, who stared maliciously at me in class and called me ugly names.She and that big oaf who stomped on my toes, Randy Snail, ganged up on me after I leftschool, grabbed my books and threw them in the street, laughing and pointing. Turn satanloose on them, Lord, to make havoc of THEIR lives. Just when they think theyve lived a full

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    life and have it all and can be no happier, take away everything from them which lendsrespectability to their wicked lives. Sadie bragged about her family being religious. I ask,dear Heavenly Father, that until she repents of her sins against me and others, You wouldclose your ears to her prayers. She said she wanted to have a million kids. Well, howevermany Sadie had, cause them to find out what shes really like and to turn their backs onher.

    Then there was Maggie Batch and Debbie Scarecrow. After wed all gotten along so well insixth grade, they thought theyd act cool and start picking on me in seventh grade. Shesnot MY girl friend! Scarecrow giggled. Maggie Batch made our Glee Club field trip hell forme, pointing at me in the cafeteria and teasing me as I ate at my lonely table. Take awayall their friends, Lord. Take away every enjoyment they have in this life. Make thesewomen so depressed they hate to get out of bed in the morning. Make them lonely anddesolate (Psalms 40:15). Cause them to lose their jobs or fail to get promoted if theyvenever repented and still treat people that same bitchy way.

    Then there were those two complete strangers who taunted me, after I was forced to take awhole year off school, nerves shattered by constant abuse. Those two cheap chicks spottedme in the streets. They kicked me when I was down and felt like I could go no lower. Turnsatan loose on them, Heavenly Father, to lay THEM low and make them feel friendless,persecuted and utterly alone. Give them no peace in their old age, and leave them ALONEto struggle in trials of pain and rejection till they cry unto You for forgiveness and mercy.

    A busload of kids attacked me like a gang of vultures, throwing stuff at me, screamingcurses at me. I know most of this bunch were churchgoers. Reject their lifeless religionlike dog dung, Lord. Let those who never repented by delivered over to satan for thedestruction of their flesh till they cry out unto you in SINCERE repentance.

    Deal with that wimpy assistant principal if hes still alive and kickin, Lord. Let him feelintimidated with no one courageous enough to help him, and all they do is turn a blind eyeto his troubles.

    Mrs. Barton, Mrs. Foxtail and Mrs. Hutton humiliated me, making me feel stupid in front of the other kids and accusing me of things I didnt do. Whether theyre alive or dead, Lord, letthem know the pain they put on me. Let them be misunderstood, rejected and humiliatedin front of others, with nowhere to hide their tearstained faces.

    That old bus drivers probably dead and six feet under by now. Lord, if he never repented of turning a blind eye to the crimes committed for so many months on HIS bus, let his ownprivate hell be full of flying spitwads and insults, and a fire of fear and anxiety which nevergoes out. Let him know how I felt. If he squeezed into heaven by the skin of his teeth,keep us from meeting in heaven until hes ready to fess up to his cowardice and ask myforgiveness.

    Let tribulation be paid back to every bully who ever persecuted me and patted themselveson the back for getting away with it (2 Thes.1:6). Without repentance theres no room forforgiveness. Jesus said, Unless you repent, you shall ALL perish (Luke 13:3).

    In His Holy Name, amen.

    Evil Beasts Destined for Destruction

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    How beastly you foul oppressors are, saith the Lord, and how marred is the image of thedivine in you! You have become a corrupt beast and a vessel of wrath prepared for finaldestruction. Like a sow you wallow in the filth of this world and draw from it your inspirationfor living. Like a rabid dog you seek out victims to sink your teeth into, that they might beinfected with your disease of hatred and make a futile attempt to fight back as you laugh intheir face and rend their souls to pieces. Like a worm you feed on filth. Like a virus you

    infest all of society, and like a virus you kill quickly and are difficult to defeat. Like aferocious lion you sink your teeth into another soul and tear it to pieces, then eat your fill.Like an ugly vulture circling overhead you wait anxiously to pick the bones of thosemortially wounded by your father satan, the lion who goes about seeking whom he maydevour. Like a laughing hyena you are too cowardly to fight others of equal size andstrength. You feast on rotting carcasses. Instead of fighting valiantly you devour instead theold, the crippled, the frail and the weak. Like a rattlesnake you lie in wait for a precious soulto destroy it. Like a louse you infest the soul of that person and drive him mad from anitching desire to get you out of his hair. Like a shark that smells blood and zeroes in for thekill, you instinctively find the most vulnerable face in the crowd and then, like abloodsucking leech, you begin to suck the vitality and life out of that person youve chosento torment. Like a monkey you make mocking sounds at your victim when they cry out forpity. Like a wild jackass you laugh at the notion that you could ever be called to account foryour sins. So like an ostrich you bury your head in the sand, choosing not to hear or heedMy warning, sinner.

    But where, oh, where in this universe can you run to hide when My mighty angels seek youout, to drag your filthy, corrupt soul before My judgment seat for destruction? You whofeasted on innocent blood shall be given blood to drink on that day, for you are worthy.

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    The following prophetic message is especially for Christians. It is a reminder to love ourneighbor as ourselves. If you encounter abusive people in church, dont blame Jesus. Hewill never stop loving you! In a world of instability and even in an imperfect church, Jesus is

    our unmovable Rock of Salvation and our Refuge (Psalms 62:7; I Cor.10:4; Heb.6:18).)

    Spiritual BullyingMatt.5:33-37; 18:21-35;Luke 12:45-46; Rom.9:21-22; Eph.4:5;

    I Tim.2:5; I Pet.5:3; II Pet.2:1-3

    There have been times I have permitted My children to be tested and tried through unkindtreatment by other people, for reasons known only to Myself. I stepped in to shield themwhen the trial became too great, and deliverance always came at the right point. I evenshowed great forbearance to the bullies themselves, hoping against hope that those wickedsinners might come to repentance and faith in My Son the Lord Jesus Christ. I delayed

    judgment and justice in order to give the persecutor space to repent. Many former abusersand persecutors have repented and come to saving faith in Christ. Still more feared theopinion of their equally wicked friends and threw My compassion and forbearance back inMy face. So those particular wicked people became vessels of wrath fitted only to receivethe outpouring of My indignation in the more unpleasant kind of for-BEAR-ance!

    There is a bullying of the body that leaves bruises, disabilities and scars. There is a bullyingof the tender soul of a person which cripples the victims development into a person capableof living a fully productive life. Such bullying of the heart kills or cripples a victims ability tohave a well-rounded social life, or even their ability to love and reach out to others.

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    Bullying of another persons body or soul is punishable by an eternity in a devils hell, if thebully resists the drawing of My Spirit of Grace and decides not to repent.

    But a terrible, terrible line is crossed when bullying crosses over into the spiritual realm.The spirit of a converted individual is the Throne Room of My Holy Spirit. There are peoplein the church who have usurped fearful power over meeker individuals. Some people carry

    over faults from their former life of sin into the way they relate to fellow Christians in thechurch. For example, a hard-hearted religious hypocrite might refuse to forgive an offense,real or imagined, committed against him by someone else in the church. He (or she) mightpompously proclaim, by twisting My Word: The Bible says that I have the power to retain orremit the sins of anybody I please, and if I choose not to forgive your sin, the Lord wontforgive you either. You dare to cross me again and Ill ask God to send you straight to hell!And youd better PROVE youre worthy of forgiveness by showing yourself to be a goodfriend from now on. And so the meeker individual cringes away from his adversary anddoes his best to be a good lackey worthy of mercy. In the process, his close relationshipwith Me is marred by a slavish fear.

    How horrible will be the fate of the merciless religious hypocrite who stands before me!What is even more repugnant than blind and ignorant spiritual bullies are those preachers inthe pulpit who know their Bible inside out and KNOW theyre being mean and manipulative.They just enjoy the heady thrill of power which comes from browbeating the saints for gain.Some loudly proclaim threats of divine retribution if insufficient offerings are put in theplate. They threaten to pray My chastisement upon any sheep who dont pay an unscripturalmoney tithe or fulfill unscriptural pledges to give money for this or that project, ignoringthe fact I expressly forbade the swearing of oaths to God. Those who refuse to donate freelabor in the nursery, church kitchen or on the building site are cursed with a curse byspiritual tyrants. It is then that my indignation boils over. Christians in the pew are held tospiritual ransom by bully boys in the pulpits demanding tribute from people I haveredeemed with My own blood. Those pulpit Pharaohs are violating My sanctuary! Theyare, in effect, saying that THEY stand between Me and My people, and they expect Mypeople to render obeisance and obedience unto THEM as overlords to be catered to out of

    abject fear of divine retribution!

    I dealt with Pharaoh before, now Im squaring off against him again. Guess Who is gonnawin? Dont be duped, My people. There is only ONE Mediator between you and Me, themerciful Lord Jesus. There is only ONE Lord, the precious Savior Who purchased you withHis own Blood. And NOTHING shall ever separate you from My Love, saith the LordAlmighty.

    God Declares War on BulliesPsalms 72:4; 2 Thes. 1:7-9

    Yea, saith the Lord, I am against communities and nations which look the other way whenelderly people are set upon and abused. I hate, I detest, the prideful, arrogant smirk uponthe face of the young thug who gangs up on the weak and the helpless. I see violent bulliesas the most loathsome of dogs, those hooligans that roam about in packs and fearlesslyseek out victims to hurt, rob and destroy them.

    A vile and godless nation casts away the precepts of My Word and allows its young peopleto rape, torture, murder and vandalize at will. Sodom now fills the whole wide expanse of the earth. The cries of its helpless, frightened victims rise daily to My Throne and I will bepatient no longer.

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    I speak no longer peace and reconciliation to hardened, impudent sinners, I declare war onthem! I am strapping on My Mighty Sword of Judgment. I will recompense blood for blood.I will fill the servants of violence with the vile fruit of their own ways. They have shed tearsand blood in the earth, and I will dash them to pieces as a shard of glass is smashed to bitson the pavement. In ages past I commanded My servants to turn the other cheek and

    repay evil with good. I held My peace as lions and wild dogs tore My people apart in Romanarenas. I showed great forbearance toward persecutors in Russia and Communist China asthey put My people in prison, tortured them and put them to death in the most hideousways. In the workplace and in the schoolyards I admonished My children to bear patientlywith evildoers, that they might see the light of My Love in their lives and come torepentance. A few found life through the forbearance of My people, but the returns for Mypatience and forbearance are diminishing. The sinner is hardening in wickedness and is nowas perverse as the wicked men of Sodom. Well, I will coddle the impenitent persecutor no more, saith the Lord, nor will I show him theslightest pity. Because the Great Tribulation is at hand Sodom is about to be destroyedonce again, and the wine of My wrath is about to be poured out in full fury without mixtureof moderation. Instead of thousands perishing in a single catastrophe, or even hundreds of thousands, it will be millions, even billions of base sinners throughout Planet Earth who arestruck down in the Day of my unbridled wrath. My fury will sweep like a firestorm from hellthroughout the earth. Countless parents have made themselves lower than the beasts of the earth, the way theyabuse their children by refusing to make them mind when they are young! Even a housecat will cuff its young to discipline them. Not because the cat hates its offspring, butbecause it realizes that if the young kitten is allowed to do as it pleases it will become preyout in a hostile world. But godless, unprincipled parents value their own work and personalinterests much more than the eternal welfare of their offspring. They have as little care fortheir offspring as a salmon does for the eggs it spawns! People worship at the demonic altarof Political Correctness. They give birth but do not nurture. They smile and look the other

    way when their child breaks the basic laws of human decency, and they take pride in a chipoff the old block whos got enough spunk to get what he or she wants, regardless of whogets hurt.

    I can neither bless nor even tolerate societies which allow abuse of the elderly and condonewild behavior in children as normal. I will hold parents and guardians accountable forrefusing to raise their children in My fear. Great will be the terror of transgressors whostand at the brink of the Lake of Fire and realize that their descent to that terrible placebegan in the womb when the parents decided not to raise them to know the Lord and teachthem to fear My Holy Name.

    Unrepentant Bullies Will Burn in HellThe wicked shall be turned into hell, and all the nations that forget God (Psalms 9:17).

    Many ministers of the Word airbrush and soft-peddle the sad message of hell and what itmeans to end up there after a lifetime of sin and rebellion. The blatant, unsavory truth isthis: While parents fight for their childrens right of self-expression and refuse to trainthem to fear the Lord of Heaven, they have no right to choose the CONSEQUENCES of theirdecision to rebel against the clear teaching of My Word: Train up a child in the way he shallgo, and when he is old he shall not depart from it (Prov.22:6). And: the rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame (Prov.29:15). This

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    does not necessarily always mean corporal punishment, just discipline which fits the offenseand serves to teach the child to behave in a kind, responsible manner. I am able to giveeach parent wisdom to discern the disciplinary and training needs of each particular child,and to judge the intent or degree of responsibility the child is able to be held to, accordingto his maturity level and understanding. But parents should be responsible stewards of their children at all stages of their development. They should do their utmost to shield their

    children from temptations and hazards of this world, as a wise, caring shepherd will protecthis own sheep.

    Whatever wise, loving discipline I lead you to administer, be firm and consistent in notletting the child have his way in all things. If you have children, YOU are the parent, and Iexpect you to act like it. All too many parents are behaving like spoiled childrenthemselves. Some will only discipline their children when they are exasperated with them,and might do actual harm by losing control of themselves! Discipline is not abuse, it is avital part of training and guidance. Even unruly soldiers are disciplined when they get out of order.

    Kids out of control yell about what they dont like, and what they do like they will take byforce. I, more than anyone, also have the right to make My own decisions about what I likeand dislike. Bullies freely choose victims to pound into submission and to humiliate.Tearaway kids torment older people and throw stones at them as they take walks, mindingtheir own business. If one of these precious elder people has a heart attack and dies as aresult of being frightened by such abuse, I hold the child guilty of MURDER in the firstdegree, and that one is headed for hell, just as sure as Hitler and Judas Iscariot went thereafter death.

    Do not say I must clear the guilty youngster just because he or she is under a certain age.People of all ages perished when I destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah thousands of years ago.When I look at the so-called Western Christian nations, I see a permissive, sex-jaded,lustful, selfish generation who are out only for their own pleasure. My people have reachedthe point where theyre saying Whats the use anymore? And a very few have an If you

    cant beat em, join em attitude which really stinks in My nostrils!

    Parents and their beastly, murderous brats will equally end up in a devils hell unless theyrepent and receive Christ as Savior. Sinner, do not say that you will be in good companydown there and while I might not be with you, at least your family will be together having ablast in hells blast furnace. In hell there are many guilty, despairing moms and dads whocry out in their loneliness and lament their lack of duty toward their children, theirnegligence in teaching them that sin exacts a horrible penalty. At long last theyacknowledge that there are dread consequences for rebelling against the righteous Creatorof the Universe and following satan. Doomed, damned parents look longingly across animpassable chasm to beloved youngsters they are unable to reach, prisoners of satan whoshare their terrible fate. Likewise their children pine away for parents now out of theirreach. Their arms are outstretched to parents no longer able to bail them out or makeexcuses for them.

    Parents in hell neglected their families in life and sought only their own sinful gratification.When they and their families end up in hell the parents are unable to save their childrenfrom the everlasting torments of the damned. While they lived, those parents had turned ablind eye to the devilish deeds of their sons and daughters or disclaimed any responsibilityfor damage done by their wickedness. Now they are pining away in grief that they cannotescape their own prison of darkness to carry a single drop of water to relieve the endlessthirst of their child. While they lived, the parents refused to allow others to teach their child

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    about Jesus, Who alone can give people living water that they might live and not die in adevils hell. But in that dark, gloomy region of eternal torments, no help, no succor isavailable. While the child lived, he thumbed his nose at earthly law and order and took hisvindictiveness out on the helpless and the weak. Now, the bully finds hell offers him nofurther hope of redemption or rehabilitation.

    I have seen the despair of souls in hell, but I no longer love them and seek theirredemption! Once the utter hopelessness of hell sinks in, the child who ended up therebecause of the neglect of his parents will scream at them and curse them, whether theparents are living or dead. Hell is the graveyard of any hope of salvation, and it is adreadful place of punishment where every last spark of love and caring is finally, totallyextinguished. Any parent who truly loves his/her son or daughter will go to extreme lengthsto introduce them to Jesus, Who came to seek and to save those who are lost.

    I am fed up with this lawless, perverse generation! Divorce your emotions and youraffections from any fellowship with the utterly ruinous things of this present evil world.Repent of all known sin and walk in Christ, the Light of the World, Shine unashamedly forChrist in the midst of this rotten hellhole of a world, for soon I shall receive you who loveMe unto Myself and let the final curtain of darkness fall. It is then My terrible final

    judgments upon a Christ-rejecting world shall be poured out before I return and FORCEmankind to live in loving peace with his neighbor.

    Leave Room for My Righteous Wrath

    My Son was not willing that any man should perish (2 Pet.3:9), but that ALL men shouldcome to repentance. Yet Christ preached Except ye repent, ye shall ALL likewise perish(Luke 13:3). And in case you missed it, He repeated the same warning in verse 5.

    The fact that so many do perish instead of repent is no fault of Mine. I provided a Lamb forthe redemption of ALL who would come to repentance and faith in Christ (John 1:29). There

    is a signed and sealed pardon for ALL who would come to My Throne of Grace and pick it up,but so few do.

    John 3:16 is the bedrock scripture of evangelists. I so loved the world that I gave My onlybegotten Son that whoever would believe on Him would not perish, but have everlastinglife. But conveniently ignored by most is verse 18, which clearly states that those who donot believe are ALREADY condemned. I cant do the repenting for the sinner, for that wouldviolate free will. Whosoever WILL may come (Rev.22:17).

    So many bullies and men and women of violence are out there in this wicked world waitingto pounce on a lone victim to murder, rob, rape or just verbally harass that one to tearthem down. So many times I give such wicked, vile sinners space to repent of their sins,but they refuse all My overtures of mercy and kindness and just spit on the holy things of God out of sheer spite.

    It isnt just genuine God-fearing Christians who get persecuted. Even someone whomanifests a poor imitation of holiness in their life will come under fire from the devilshenchmen, because satan hates anything or anyone who even remotely reminds him of Mycharacter. People with a happy, peaceful expression on their faces or someone who appearsto be a square, honest, decent, kind, hard-working individual will be targeted byloudmouth louts or thugs. Let all oppressed believers who trust in Me ditch the notion thatChrist was a weak-wristed milksop Who taught only love, love, love and didnt believe in

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    justice for victims of violence. Just read Luke 19:27 and Revelation 19:11-21 if you think Ishall forever be patient with the unrepentant wicked.

    Remember Christ taught about the persistent widow who pleaded with the Unjust Judge:Avenge me of mine adversary (Luke 18:1-7). Christ did not rebuke that widow fordemanding her right to be protected from the oppression of her enemy. Christ did not

    suggest that the widow should patiently bear with her oppressor in love and forget abouther own rights. Instead, Christ called the judge unjust because that judge delayed doingwhat is good and right on behalf of the innocent widow. Many Christians have been taughtthat it is a sin to demand their own right to live a dignified, peaceful life. Christ taught Hisdisciples to pray for their own deliverance from evil (Matt.6:13). He even commanded themto buy a sword when they were in danger from criminal attack (Luke 22:36).

    Some Christians teach and believe that vengeance is a dirty word and every evil personshould be forgiven automatically and have their slate wiped clean whether or not there isgenuine, heartfelt repentance toward God and faith in My Son. That is a distortion of thetruth. I teach love toward enemies. But there comes a point where My patience towardhard-hearted sinners is utterly exhausted and I must finally judge them.

    Never take your own vengeance, beloved. My heart aches for those who are lost and ontheir way to hell. But sometimes I must punish sinners even in this life. Why? Becauseyou, as heirs of God in Christ, have a right to live in My peace and joy. Sometimes youmust, for a season, bear with ugly, mean, spiteful people. But when the situation becomesso intolerable that you no longer sing praises unto Me and you are troubled and sad most of the time, it is then you are losing My rest and even the dwelling place of My Spirit withinyou is being troubled.

    Its bad enough that satan often robs My people of their material possessions. But when hecrosses a certain line and steals away the eternal treasures of My people, then I stir up allMy wrath to come in fury against the devils instruments of sin. The devil has NO RIGHT torob you of My rest and peace, provided by the blood of My only Son!

    As a New Testament believer, you are forbidden to take your own vengeance. But you arenot forbidden to claim and stand upon scriptures, especially those also included in the NewCovenant. Paul states in Romans 12:19 that I will repay people for the harm they do you.Vengeance is mine.

    Romans 12:19: Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath:for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.* * *Here Paul repeats ateaching already stated in the Old Testament:

    Deuteronomy 32:35: To me belongeth vengeance, and recompence; their foot shall slide indue time: for the day of their calamity is at hand, and the things that shall come upon themmake haste.

    When you give place unto My just wrath against sin, you MAKE ROOM FOR my righteouswrath against sin. You step aside to clear the way for it to burst forth against yourenemies. Get out of the way and let ME smite those who are making your life a miseryinstead of the blessing I intended it to be.

    Galatians 5:10: I have confidence in you through the Lord, that ye will be none otherwiseminded: but he that troubleth you shall bear his judgment, whosoever he be.

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    2 Thes.1:6: Seeing it is a righteous thing with God to recompense tribulation to them thattrouble you;7 And to you who are troubled rest with us, when the Lord Jesus shall be revealed fromheaven with his mighty angels,8 In flaming fire taking vengeance on them that know not God, and that obey not thegospel of our Lord Jesus Christ:

    9 Who shall be punished with everlasting destruction from the presence of the Lord, andfrom the glory of his power;10 When he shall come to be glorified in his saints, and to be admired in all them thatbelieve (because our testimony among you was believed) in that day.

    2 Pet.2:9 The Lord knoweth how to deliver the godly out of temptations, and to reserve theunjust unto the day of judgment to be punished:

    Dont be misguided by misplaced sympathy for the bull(ies) who hurt you. Even if youyourself are able to tough it out and take their blows for a lifetime, others arent so able toendure it. Dont think youre the only one theyre picking on and harassing. Consider othersin the line of fire. You might move far away from these people and be forever safe fromtheir threats. But others might stay stuck in the same place for a lifetime and have to findways to cope with them after youre safely gone to a much nicer area. Once youre nolonger around the bullies will look for an even weaker, more timid person to pick on.

    Unless you pray for judgment to come upon your unrepentant persecutors, others will likelybe bitten by those rabid dogs. Pray earnestly for Me to punish those dogs who are soilingon the peace and joy of your life. Not just for your own sake but for the benefit of othersyour enemies could hurt or damage for a lifetime. Plead Romans 12:19 in your prayercloset. Ask other Christians to stand with you in prayer. Remind Me of My promise to exactvengeance upon those who have already hurt you and refused to repent of it.

    If those cruel bullies wont let Christ pay for their awful sins, then theyll have to pay fortheir sins themselves. And of them I shall exact the uttermost farthing till the whole debt is

    paid.

    * * * * *A Light in the Dark

    Ephesians 6:12 makes it clear that it is satan and his demons who are fighting us, ratherthan flesh and blood. If you are wearing a glove on your hand and hit someone with it, youmust assign the blame to the mind which drove the gloved hand to commit the act. Yet Ibelieve that insofar that bullies choose not to repent of their sins, and love to do the worksof the devil, they themselves are to be held culpable. Admittedly, not everyone has heardthe Good News of salvation through Christ. So what is Gods attitude toward those whohavent heard? The apostle Paul gives us the answer in Romans 1:18-20: The wrath of God is revealed from heaven against the sin and unrighteousness of all mankind, who know right from wrong, and yet continue in sin. That which can be known about Gods nature ismade plain to them, for God has revealed it to them. Ever since God created the world, Hisinvisible qualities, both His eternal power and His divine nature, have been clearly seen;they are perceived in the things that God has made. Such people are without excuse. Thebully can, even through nature, see evidence of the loving nature of God, Who sends rainand sunshine to mankind for the raising of food crops. God provides air for everyone tobreathe.

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    But the bully uses every breath God gives him to spew out filthy insults. The bully usesGods name as a swear word. He is a mere pawn of the devil, yet he cannot be excused.The bully does a devils work, so he will receive a devils reward (II Thessalonians 2:12).

    The bully uses the strength obtained from Gods gift of food to harm other creatures Godhas made. The bully hounds his victims to the verge of insanity. The severe, prolonged

    daily stress of bullying is enough to lower the victims resistance to infection and illness, andcause catastrophic damage to his soul.

    Many will undoubtedly take issue with my belief that Christ-rejecting sinners should bepunished. Now, I believe that where there is sincere repentance, peace with God ispossible. But He certainly isnt going to bestow a blanket amnesty on those who go aroundbragging about their sins, instead of repenting of them, and God isnt going to admit suchhardened souls into His heaven. This world is extremely lenient toward hardened criminals,and our spiraling crime rate reflects that. Many innocent people have been murdered herein Northern Ireland, just over religious differences. I read about two men who wereconvicted of killing a Catholic and his Protestant buddy in a pub, just because mixed friendships are frowned upon here. After sentence was passed upon them, the twomurderers laughed and smirked. They had just found out that because of the peaceagreement, they would, most likely, be released in just six months time. How cheap theirgrisly entertainment came! The conflict here gets so perverse that when sectarian murdersoccur, grieving relatives might be taunted by others who support the opposing faction. Howcould anyone with a sense of fair play feel that such a diabolical, unrepentant attitudeought to go unpunished by the Lord? It is NOT the place of individuals to avengethemselves, and earthly justice is biased and unreliable. But the day WILL come when Godis going to wipe the dirty grins off the faces of sinners for good, and dole out to them thecomeuppance they escaped in this world. Every young hoodlum who was let off the hookfor being underage , and stuck his tongue out at the judge who was powerless to sentencehim, will one day face an angry God Who will turn his laughter into shrieks of terror.

    The smirks of sinners are inspired by the minions of darkness, who want bullies to THINK

    theyll get away with it in the end. Demons of varying ranks spread satans dark influencethroughout the earth. The Bible refers to them as principalities, powers, and rulers over thedarkness of this world (Eph. 6:12). The bullys beliefs are rooted in darkness. His attacksare founded on lies whispered to his soul by the demons who control him. The mass mediawhich promotes the tawdry things his darkened soul holds dear, is also driven by the princeof darkness. That system which pulls the strings of his likes and dislikes is motivatedstrictly by greed.

    Remember these truths I have received from the Lord and benefited from myself. They willgo far in fortifying your soul against verbal bullying in particular. Remember above allthings to rely on God moment by moment to bring the truth to the surface of yourconsciousness the next time you are verbally attacked. I have, in the past, had to workwith the public, and a tiny percentage of them are mentally unbalanced. They aresometimes snappish, impatient, or rude. They may feel superior to you because youre theone behind the counter serving them, and they know you need their money to survive.Some years back I even had to work with a couple of people who were verbally abusive.They despised me for my mild nature. One even taunted me for being too old for the job.But I saw these people for what they were: lost sinners who act out their true nature. Iknew my value in the eyes of God. I remembered that I am a citizen of His eternalKingdom, and have no soul ties to this present world I live in as a mortal human being.

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    God has shown me my own frailty. It is He Who holds me together moment by moment,even as He holds this whole universe together and prevents all the atoms of His creationfrom flying apart. I must depend on His life in me for all the wisdom, goodness andstrength I need. What God did for me was nothing less than a miracle. My ability to loveothers was shattered by the bullying, and the Baptism of the Holy Spirit enabled me to loveothers again with Gods love.

    There are still battles with the devil, for he never gives up easily. He sometimes dredges upold memories so vividly that they seem recent.

    There are times I sleep but dont feel refreshed. The Lord showed me that experience hasits roots in all the thousands of taunts I endured from those who wished I would die. Godmust continually fill me with His resurrection life. My zest for life is supernaturally imparted.When satan brings back bad memories I must remind myself that everything any evilperson ever said about my life being a waste of space is a lie from hell. Then I wouldliterally feel God breathing life back into my soul, driving out the death inflicted on itthrough bullying.

    I must forever lean upon God, Who keeps the truth fresh in my mind, so that thoseshadows of darkness are driven back by the power of the Light of the World.