God’s warnings to Dads (and moms)

• (Ephesians 6:4) Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

• (Colossians 3:21) Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.

Love & Discipline – 4 Parenting StylesUniversity of Minnesota Study

Permissive Parent•Lots of love, Little discipline•Child learns he can disregard authority

Authoritative Parent•Plenty of Both •Child learns love and respect for others.

Neglectful Parent•Little of Either •Child learns he has to look out for himself.

Authoritarian Parent•Lots of discipline, Little love •Child learns to devalue relationships.H

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Love & Discipline – 4 Parenting StylesUniversity of Minnesota Study

Permissive Parent•Lots of love, Little discipline•Child learns he can disregard authority

Authoritative Parent•Plenty of Both •Child learns love and respect for others.

Neglectful Parent•Little of Either •Child learns he has to look out for himself.

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Love & Discipline – 4 Parenting StylesUniversity of Minnesota Study

Permissive Parent•Lots of love, Little discipline•Child learns he can disregard authority

Authoritative Parent•Plenty of Both •Child learns love and respect for others.

Neglectful Parent•Little of Either •Child learns he has to look out for himself.

Authoritarian Parent•Lots of discipline, Little love communicated•Child learns to devalue relationships.H

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Love & Discipline – 4 Parenting StylesUniversity of Minnesota Study

Permissive Parent•Lots of love, Little discipline•Child learns he can disregard authority

Authoritative Parent•Plenty of Both •Child learns love and respect for others.

Neglectful Parent•Little of Either •Child learns he has to look out for himself.

Authoritarian Parent•Lots of discipline, Little love communicated•Child learns to devalue relationships.H

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Love & Discipline – 4 Parenting StylesUniversity of Minnesota Study

Permissive Parent•Lots of love, Little discipline•Child learns he can disregard authority

Authoritative Parent•Plenty of love and discipline.•Child learns love and respect for others.

Neglectful Parent•Little of Either •Child learns he has to look out for himself.

Authoritarian Parent•Lots of discipline, Little love communicated•Child learns to devalue relationships.H

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Love & Discipline – 4 Parenting StylesUniversity of Minnesota Study

Permissive Parent•Lots of love, Little discipline•Child learns he can disregard authority

Authoritative Parent•Plenty of love and discipline.•Child learns love and respect for others.

Neglectful Parent•Little of Either •Child learns he has to look out for himself.

Authoritarian Parent•Lots of discipline, Little love communicated•Child learns to devalue relationships.H

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Most Rebellious,

identifying with

counter-culture

Best Self-worth, Following

authority and following

religiosity of parent

A dad’s authority Ephesians 6:4; Colossians 3:21

1. Authoritative – Firm, gentle leadership

• Motivated by love, godliness, grace and humility

2. Authoritarian – Harsh unbending control

• Motivated by pride and anger.

A Parent’s Plan Deuteronomy 6:1-9

1. Walking with God – Is my heart committed to loving and following God (Deuteronomy 6:1-6)?

2. Talking about God – Will I commit myself to teach and share spiritually with my children what I know and experience with God (Deuteronomy 6:7-9)?

Orthodox Jewish Phylacteries