Health Relationships and communications

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Copyright © 2010 Pearson Education, Inc. written by Bridget Melton, Georgia Southern University

Lecture Outline

Chapter 5Healthy

Relationships:

Communicating

Effectively with

Friends, Family, and

Significant Others



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Objectives

• Discuss ways to improve communication skills andinterpersonal interactions.

• Identify the characteristics of successful relationships,including how to maintain them and overcome commonbarriers.

• Explore similarities and differences between men andwomen in communication styles and decision making.

• Examine factors that are important in determining thesuccess of an intimate relationship, and where to get helpwhen a relationship has problems.

• Discuss actions that can improve interpersonalinteractions.

• Examine factors that affect life decisions, such as whetherto have children.




Forming Intimate Relationships

• Characteristics of intimate relationships

• Behavioral interdependence

• Need fulfillment

• Emotional attachment

• Emotional availability• Intimate relationships are a means of need fulfillment.

• Intimacy

• Social integration

• Nurturance

• Assistance

• Affirmation



How Intimate Is a Relationship?





Being Self-Nurturant

• Accountability

• Responsible for your own decisions, choices, andactions

• Self-nurturance

• Realistic appreciation of self-worth and ability



Families: The Ties that Bind

•

Family of origincomprises the peoplepresent in thehousehold during achild’s first years of

life.

• Nuclear familyconsistsof parents and theiroffspring.



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Establishing Friendships

• What makes a good friendship?

• Enjoyment

• Acceptance

• Respect

• Mutual assistance

• Confiding

• Understanding

• Spontaneity




Significant Others, Partners, Couples

• Along with the characteristics of friendship, loverelationships include these characteristics:

• Fascination: paying attention to the other person at theexpense of other activities

• Exclusiveness: giving the love relationship priority overall others

• Sexual desire: desiring physical intimacy and wanting totouch, hold, and engage in sexual activities with eachother

• Giving the utmost: providing unlimited support when theother is in need, sometimes to the point of extremesacrifice

• Being a champion or advocate: actively championingeach other’s interests



Common Bonds of Friends and Lovers

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This Thing Called Love

• Two types of love

• Companionate ormature

• Passionate or lust

• Triangular Theory ofLove

• Intimacy

•

Passion• Decision and

commitment





Activity Break: Turn to a Partner

• In groups of two to three, answer the followingquestions.

• Is there only one right person for everyone?

• How does society promote this soul mate notion?

• How do we encourage children, adolescents, andourselves to believe there may be more than oneperson who would be a suitable partner?

• How do we distinguish between lust and love?

• How do we distinguish between fantasy (media,books, etc.) and reality?




How Perception Affects Communication

• Perception is the process by which people filterand interpret information from the senses to createa meaningful picture of the world.

• Factors that affect self-perception

• Self-concept

• Self-esteem




Improving Your Communication Skills

•

Learn appropriate self-disclosure.• Get to know yourself.

• Become more accepting of yourself.

•

Be willing to discuss your sexual history—with yourpartner of course.

• Choose a safe context for self-disclosure.




Improving Your Communication Skills (cont.)

• Be a better listener.

• Competitive, or combative, listening: more interestedin promoting our own point of view

• Passive, or attentive, listening: genuinely interested

in hearing and understanding the other person’spoint of view

• Active, or reflective, listening: active in confirming

our understanding before responding with our ownnew message




Nonverbal Communication

• Nonverbal communication includes all unwrittenand unspoken messages, both intentional andunintentional.

• Touch

• Gesture

• Interpersonal space

• Facial expressions

• Body language

• Tone of voice




Managing Conflict

• Conflict is an emotional state that arises when thebehavior of one person interferes with the behaviorof another.

• Conflict-resolution strategies

• Identify the problem or issues.

• Generate several possible solutions.

• Decide on the best solution.

• Implement the solution.

• Follow up.




Gender Issues in Relationships

• Genderlect is differences in word choices,interruption patterns, questioning patterns, languageinterpretations and misinterpretations, and vocalinfluences that are based on gender.

• Understanding gender differences in communicationpatterns is the first step toward promoting effective

communication.



Troubles Talk: How Men and WomenRespond: Men




Troubles Talk: How Men and WomenRespond: Women

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Activity Break: Match.com Ad

• Get in all-male or all-female groups of four to five.

• Create an online ad for Match.com (3 to 4minutes).

• After your group has come up with a list, please putit on the board; no need to repeat qualities.




Picking Partners

• Influenced by more than just chemical andpsychological processes

• Proximity

• Similarities

• Reciprocity

• Physical attraction




Jealousy in Relationships

• Jealousy is an aversive reaction evoked by a realor imagined relationship involving one’s partner and

a third person.

• Overdependence on the relationship

• Severity of the threat

• High value on sexual exclusivity

• Low self esteem

• Fear of losing control




Committed Relationships

• Marriage

• Monogamy

• Serial monogamy

•

Open relationship• Cohabitation

• Common-law marriage

• Gay and lesbian partnerships




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Discussion Questions

1. Which of the brides do you think had thehealthiest reaction? What do you think is the bestway to deal with a negative event such as beingleft at the altar?

2. In what ways does communication support arelationship? What happens when communicationfalters, and what are strategies that can be usedto overcome communication problems?

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Staying Single





Success in Relationships

• Confronting couples issues

• Changing gender roles: Modern society has veryfew gender-specific roles.

• Sharing power: Dynamics between men and

women changed as women began enjoying theirown financial success.

• Unmet expectations: Not communicating our

expectations can lead to disappointment and hurt.



Effects of Women’s Age and Ethnicity onMarriage Success




Effects of Women’s Age and Ethnicity onMarriage Success (cont.)





When and Why Relationships End

• Divorce rates have been estimated to be 50 percent;however, this is misleading.

• The U.S. divorce rate is 41 percent and decreasing.

• Factors that influence divorce include:

• Age: Younger couples are more likely to not succeed.

• Socioeconomic scale: The lower they are on the SES,the higher the likelihood of divorce.

•

Family history: Those with divorce in the family have ahigher tolerance for divorce.

• Children: Those with children often try to hang on to an“unhealthy” situation.










Elements of Healthy Relationships

• Trust

• Predictability

• Dependability

•

Faith• Behavior interpretation in the context of the

relationship

•

Like your partner• Sexual intimacy

• Shared and cherished history






Having Children or Not?

• Children are expensive

• One child costs an estimated $250,000 to raisefrom birth to 17 years.

• Eighty percent of mothers work outside the home.

• Children from a previous marriage

• Add dynamics, can lead to stress

• Work, school, chores, and family obligations =FATIGUE

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