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Personal Empowerment thru AWARENESS - ACCEPTANCE – ACTION
� Temperament Philosophy � Skills and Ability Recognition � Getting past negativity E.F.T � Acknowledgement of NOW � Goal Development & Achievement
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I.F. - Building ~ Positive Self-Perspective, Life Strategies & Alliances
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Insights Foundation has designed a 5-branch system Tools to create balance & wellness in your life
This reference guide outlines Branch-1, Self-Discovery
I.F. Reference Guide Topic List
a) Temperament Philosophy…………………...pg 4-9
b) Skills and Ability recognition ………..….pg 11
c) Getting past negativity with E.F.T. ……pg12-13
d) Acknowledgement of NOW ……………..…pg 14
e) Goal Development & Achievement ..pg 15
Branch 1 – Self – Discovery
Branch 2 – De-stress, Focus
Branch 3 – Physical Fitness
Branch 4 – Health & Nutrition
Branch 5 – Positive Living Strategies, P.L.S.
In each reference guide you will find tools and keys to personal Awareness – Acceptance of your now – ways to take Action for your best future I.F. is about providing successful lifestyle strategies…
Instructions – Review the progressive steps in this reference guide, answer the questions as you go. Practice the skills, assess often, track your progress.
Becoming better educated / A better communicator / Enhancing our abilities If you learn to create happiness for yourself. If you create a unique lifestyle for yourself.
All those you influence will benefit. Self-development enables us to serve, to be more valuable to those around us... Making us better friends, parents, spouses, this is a gift we can give to others.
If you keep refining all the parts of your character – your health - your connections & contributions you will feel Whole… You will positively impact others: Breath first, then help others to breathe. Decide what is you focus – take steps to achieve
To be fulfilled happens as we meet human needs, Certainty - Comfort – Significance – Growth –Variety – Contribution – Connection
Please contact Insights Foundation Inc. for copies, assistance in training programs, additional guides and support. You may want to make copies of the worksheets, pages 5,10,11,12,14,15. Send us an email to request additional copies.
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Taking the time to investigate YOU !
Temperament Philosophy By recognizing your natural
tendencies you can have better self-understanding, learn how you relate to others, where you can or should adapt your reactions or behavior in order to get a better out come. Utilize this understanding to enrich your life.
Skills and Ability recognition
Getting to know yourself:
� Things you LIKE & Do Well will bring positive inflection to your voice to your energy. You get to choose, how you present yourself.
� Identify- take ownership - create positive awareness.
Getting past negativity with E.F.T.
Anxiety Relief - Phobias - Guilt, Shame and Low Self-Esteem - Pain Control - Trauma Relief Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) A unique form of acupressure” to relieve stress and physiological pain. EFT balances the energy system with a tapping procedure. Restoring the balance of the energy system it neutralizes emotional conflicts at their source, EFT is easy to apply. Designed by Gary Craig, a personal performance coach. While the technique is simple and effective, we recommend you visit Gary’s web site, http://www.emofree.com Complete the Inquiry – review the tapping sequence information – tap through your issues.
Acknowledgement of NOW
Examination of your life Your life choices
Current circumstances Take a breath and appreciate your journey
Goal Development & Achievement
Goals for your future Creating the path to achieve
Identifying goals Steps to achieving those goals
MAKE IT DO-ABLE
Powerful,
Confident, Decisive,
Extroverted,
Motivator, Activity Driven,
Dependable
Supportive, Loyal,
Patient,
Logicals Fact-
Oriented, Lets-do-it-Right
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Awareness: We all have a predominate personality, a set of traits. The terms used to group the categories are numerous; associate with the definitions below: We are focusing on primary traits. Our traits co-relate, primary and secondary along with the skills – talents – pursuits – education – external influences we all have. Not all aspects can be accounted for in this brief assessment. Further education is recommended.
� Review the insights – start to self asses, as you review it can help visualize people you know who fit each category
� Temperament = a combination of traits we are born with, Character – ‘civilized’ temperament � Identifying tendencies can assist you to develop strategies, to use your natural strengths and control your
weaknesses & assist others to relate to who you really are, respecting you, your way of being.
Meeting the temperament needs of others can assist you in relating to them
SUMMARY
“D” DOMINANT
CHOLERIC ‘Gets the idea’
“I” INFLUENCING SANGUINE
‘Sells it’
“S” STEADINESS
PHLEGMATIC ‘Does the work’
“C” COMPLIANCE MELANCHOLY
‘Checks it for accuracy’
They Value Results Approval Sincerity Accuracy
Support their Decisions & Actions Dreams & Intuitions Relationships & Feelings Principles & Ideas
With them be Efficient Entertaining Caring Accurate
They ask WHAT WHO HOW WHY
Save them Time Embarrassment Effort Face
They fear Losing control / Being taken advantage of
Losing face, boredom Conflict &/or change Criticism – not being right or competent
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Circle or Highlight the Tendencies that best represent how you are most of the time No one is everything and one temperament is not better than another – just different, be selective while choosing.
High “D” DOMINANT 15%*
Result Oriented CHOLERIC
Confident Independent
Daring Like to work
Decisive Likes Pressure
Demanding Needs a Challenge
Direct Result Oriented
Energetic Risk-Taker
Explosive Self-Reliant
Goal Oriented Takes Action
High “I” INFLUENCING 25%*
People Oriented SANGUINE
Approachable Likes to Play
Charming Likes to Talk
Emotional Optimistic
Energetic Persuasive
Entertaining Poised
Enthusiastic Sociable
Generous Trusting
Impulsive Unorganized
High “S” STEADINESS 40%*
Service Oriented PHLEGMATIC
Accommodating Passive
Agreeable Patient
Closed / Quiet Possessive
Harmonious Predictable
Holds Grudges Resists Change
Indecisive Supportive
Likes Routine Team-Player
Loyal Tolerant
High “C” COMPLIANCE 20%*
Quality Oriented MELANCHOLY
Analytical Likes Details, Quality
Anticipates Problems Needs Facts, Logic
Avoids Conflict Needs Time Alone
Competent Needs Time to Think
Diplomatic Perfectionist
Exacting Pessimistic
Inquisitive Restrained
Likes Accuracy Systematic * Estimated % in general population
� By recognizing your natural tendencies you can have better self-understanding, learn how you relate toP others, where you can or should adapt your reactions or behavior in order to get a better out come. Utilize this understanding to enrich your life.
� Expecting others to react or behave as we would leads to disappointment. By learning and respecting others we become more effective in working with differences & appreciating individuality, everyone has strengths & weakness.
� Note the category that is the least like you. Take the time to study their traits, with the goal to understand & respect differences.
Identify the category that represents you most
______________________ PRIMARY TEMPERAMENT
______________________ SECONDARY TEMPERMENT
This combination is your Temperament Blend.
Remember your blend and life experiences have created a unique you.
A complete personal profile
is recommended. Contact Insights Foundation
or search the Web
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Primary Characteristics: Result oriented, hard driving, take charge, get the job done now, leader.
They usually expect the same approach from others and are disappointed when others don’t match their level of intensity. Active ~ Assimilates ~ Process oriented
Stress reactions Stress Release Needed for Balance
Impatient Hostile Dictatorial Abrasive
Explosion of Anger Intense work Critical, sarcastic tone
Learn – empathy, compassion & tolerance Be open to sensitivity, realize others are intelligent, you will look and function better by accommodating them
To Relate: Speed up the conversation, be brief to the point (have a point) Demonstrate confidence. Move through the conversation quickly with few pauses, don’t give to many details. Give the bottom line quickly, then ask for their opinion. (They will take it for granted that their opinion is right and that of course you will follow it. They tend to believe that silence on your part is agreement, and agreement is equal to a contract).
To Convince: Demonstrate confidence be well prepared, stick to the point, offer practical solutions. Do not hesitate to be direct and state your opinion. Do not promise anything you cannot deliver on time!
Ask: direct questions (What – not how).
Potential Strengths Possible Weaknesses Communication Style
Visionary / Confident Decisive Risk-taker Open to Change Instills confidence Can Do attitude Gets results
Dictatorial Easily annoyed Intimidating Demanding Explosive
Powerful, confident Brief - blunt, lacks detail, May talk but not Listen. May tell and not instruct. Takes the lead, Speaks as if they are right The intention to fix things
Needs: To get results & save time, to get brief and direct answers Fears: Loss of influence, Expressing affection, Being taken advantage of, not being in control, being viewed as a loser or weak [SLEEP pattern 6-8hr.]
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Primary Characteristics: People Oriented, Fun-loving, activity driven, entertaining, persuasive, optimistic. Receptive and open to others, builds relationships quickly, accepting of others. Smiles - talks easily & often. They can change their focus or interest in an instant. Thrives with social involvement, activity. Has a general dislike for solitude. Their attention span is based on whether or not they are interested in the person or event. Emotion-oriented can be impulsive in business and relationships.
Potential Strengths Possible Weaknesses Communication Style
Communicative, motivator Open – accepts opinions Warm, approachable Fluid attitudes Easy-going, receptive Poised, animated, playful
Emotional decision making Too permissive, impulsive Unrealistic, disorganized May not follow-through Too optimistic, too playful Consistently nearly late
A passionate communicator Friendly, Animated, Excited Good delegator, Receptive Dynamic May be too optimistic & misplace confidence
Needs: Contact with people, activity, to impress others, freedom to verbalize their feelings.
Fears: Not making a favorable impression, rejection, being viewed as unsuccessful [SLEEP pattern 8hr.]
Stress reactions Stress Release Needed for Balance
Manipulates May play emotional games May rebel – deny reality
Need to share their feeling may talk excessively Impulsivity, can attack verbally Activity
Control of emotions Consistent Organization Patience – Structure Relaxation, positive self-talk
To Relate: Demonstrate friendliness be open, smile offer exciting solutions. Be ready to talk and listen. Move the conversation at a fast pace, they can be given the short version and be asked directly to get to the point.
To Convince: Offer exciting solutions, put the proposal in writing, show how your idea will help them make a favorable impression. Do not give the too much detail. Do not cause embarrassment.
Ask: Open ended, feeling questions - allow them opportunity to express their emotions. “How do you feel about…?”
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Primary Characteristics: Service Oriented, non-confrontational, loyal, patient. Cooperative, deliberate, Prefers to move at a slower pace, often letting others take the initiative. They prefer to build relationships before engaging in decision making, and will often base their emotional ties to others as a foundation for business relationships. Prepare to take time to build rapport and let them know that you genuinely care about their needs.
Potential Strengths Possible Weaknesses Communication Style
Dependable, Routine Supportive, Loyalty Patient, Cordial Service-oriented Accommodating Predictable
Resists change, Passive Lacks emotional expressions - stoic Procrastinates, not a risk-taker Lacks sense of urgency Stubbornness, aloofness
Will be warm and personable, mild, caring, Speak slowly, they pause often, Don’t like interruptions – Will label those who interject as rude May be possessive with vital information May delay revealing distasteful information
Needs: To be of service to others, secure environment, time to rest
Fears: Conflict, sudden/drastic change of traditional practice – their routine, pressure to react quickly [SLEEP pattern 10hrs. 8hr w/2hr nap will do.]
Stress reactions Stress Release Needed for Balance
Procrastinates, Worries Stubbornness Withdraws Depression prone
Sleep Sarcasm, Indecisiveness
May feel loss of importance if others do their work Tends to overextend themselves as they are resistant to saying “No” Flexibility, friendliness, assertiveness need to be developed
To Relate: Slow down conversation and be cordial.
To Convince: Demonstrate patience and persistence
Ask: Warm, caring questions… “What’s the most important thing I can do for you?”
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Primary Characteristics: Quality Oriented. Logicals, are fact-oriented, lets-do-it-right people and usually needs time to make the right & best decisions. They are generally guarded and reserved in their approach to business & relationships. Perfectionist. Models of discipline and organization in all aspects of their lives. (may be cluttered, however, they know what’s in the piles). Faithful friend, self-sacrificing, gifted. Serious expression, very sensitive to what others think of them and their work. They will ask lots of specific questions. They are skeptical about most everything, but very capable, objective thinkers and creative people.
Potential Strengths Possible Weaknesses Communication Style
Analytical, Organized Diplomatic, accurate High standards, factual Conscientious, logical Problem solver Systematic
Sensitive, closed, reserved Unsure, suspicious Skeptical, critical attitude Indecisiveness, easily frustrated Negative self-talk Mood swings, resistant to change
Will be precise, logical and informative Emphasis on putting things in writing Detailed critical feedback By the book – step-by-step
Needs: reassurance, feedback and reasons why they should do something
Fears: taking a risk, making a wrong decision and being viewed as incompetent [SLEEP pattern 6-8hr.]
Stress reactions Stress Release Needed for Balance
Indecisive, procrastinates when unsure of the right or best thing to do Evasive, stubborn
Withdraws-needs privacy, manipulates Rebel, talk excessively, attack verbally – sarcastic
Positive self-talk, friendliness, emotional stability To control mood swings, in expressing opinions Acceptance of others ideas and options – to realize their way is not the only way.
To Relate: Provide accurate data, facts and pertinent information. They need information, time to think and plan,
To Convince: Be specific, factual, logical. Give them reason – push gently with assurance or guarantees. Be well prepared – demonstrate control and be non-threatening. Allow them the opportunity to ask questions.
Ask: Specific questions… “ What exactly…?”
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A Fresh assessment of Now: How you respond to others and the circumstances your life, IT’S YOUR CHOICE!
How does this information affect you? __________________________________________________________________________
Can you see how to adjust your perceptions to accept yourself and others? ____________________________________________
Acceptance – that’s the point. It’s such a good place to start. Not judging, not condemning, just a place to start. A good place to start.
Want to change how you feel – do something for someone else! Track it, Share your experiences, Pass it forward
Random Act of Kindness: Defining who you are! Month: Year:
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• Continue to take time to assess yourself; the next worksheet can be adjusted, personalized. Use the list on the right to start with, add to it the skills you would like to categorize.
• Then you will be introduced to E.F.T. a very workable tool, to help you get past emotions that make issues in your life.
Adjust your beliefs – recreate Yourself
� A belief is nothing more than a chronic pattern of thought, you have the ability—if you try even a little bit—to begin a new pattern, to tell a new story, to achieve MORE. How to start – right now visualize the lifestyle you desire, hold your attention upon those images until you begin to feel relief, which will indicate that a true vibrational shift has occurred. Accept it, keep it, and strive for it.
� Taking into consideration your skills – your talents – and the stuff your not…. � Creating a plan to use your skills in your life, your relationships, your work, it may be your LIFE WORK, � In branch five you’ll continue to learn life strategies, you will receive additional tools and support in making your life one the stands
for positive living. � Scheduling your work, taking into consideration your habits, and how it is best for you to implement
Pattern interrupters – what will you do when the issues suck!
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Skills and Ability Recognition
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Getting Past Negativity Trauma & Anxiety Relief, Phobias, Guilt, Shame, Low Self-Esteem, Pain Control Meridian Tapping, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). A unique form of acupressure to relieve stress and physiological pain.
A tapping procedure restoring the balance of the energy system as it neutralizes emotional conflicts at their source. EFT is easy to apply. Learn the technique while teaching your body that you will honor and respect your needs.
An amazing basic technique - Be open to the experience, participate ‘even if it’s with skepticism’ Use EFT as a tool for a more peaceful life You can pull up what bothers you and turn it off, on purpose. You pick the emotional upset or fear or anxiety, focus on it and use EFT to resolve it. This energy stuff works - there is an off switch for those nagging negative thoughts and emotions. The memory of the event is still there.
The negative emotion, can be eliminated.
Complete the Inquiry – Review the tapping sequence information – Tap through your issues
Be as specific as you can, example - Not just you choose to exercise. I choose to find it delightful and invigorating to exercise everyday. Create choices that will pull you to them, easy to pronounce – High energy descriptive words like – Surprise, excellent, ecstatic. Remember - Not to choose something for anyone else to do or be. Phrase Examples
• Even though I am stressed out about _______, I choose to be more relaxed and joyful. • Even though I’m in debt, I choose to approach my life with abundance while I searching for solutions. • Even though I’ve been wakeful & restless, I choose to fall asleep quickly and wake up well-rested.
Brief list of meridian connections to our body & emotions.
Karate Chop SMALL INTESTINE For: Joy Corrects: Sadness, loss, sorrow, worry, obsession, compulsiveness, vulnerability
Eyebrow BLADDER meridian For: Inner direction, peace & harmony Corrects: Fear, anxiety, frustration, restlessness,
Eye Corner GALL BLADDER meridian Corrects: Rage, fury, wrath, fear of growth and change,
resentment, rage, muddled thinking Under Eye STOMACH meridian For: Contentment, tranquility Corrects: Disgust, greed,
emptiness, nausea, hunger, fear, disappointment, bitterness, nervous
Under Nose GOVERNING VESSEL For: Inner connection Corrects: Embarrassment, grief,
physical disturbance, guilt, fear of failure, success
Chin CENTRAL VESSEL For: Self-Empowerment Corrects: Shame, embarrassment Collarbone KIDNEY meridian For: Gentle spirit energy, sexual assuredness Corrects: Fear,
anxiety, craving, sexual indecision, paranoia, worry Under Arm SPLEEN meridian For: Choice making, confidence, empathy, centeredness Corrects:
Anxieties - future, obsession, hopelessness, insecurity, esteem Under Breast LIVER meridian For: Transformation, happiness, forgiveness, self-esteem, respect
Corrects: Anger, unhappiness, complaining, frustration, bitterness
Gamut Spot TRIPLE WARMER (thyroid) For: Hope Corrects: Depression, despair, grief, hopelessness, despondency, loneliness, solitude
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List things in your life that you don’t like Stress issues, Anxiety, Pain, Illness, Bad Habits, Negativity
How intense is it? Stress level [0-10], (10 = extreme feelings)
Write a Positive intention a resolve for the issue. One that you personally have access to. (this does not fix other people - it can
fix how you feel about them and the issue)
Be specific – create choices that your pulled toward – Go for the best possible outcome
Even Though Stress level [___] 1.
I choose to
Even Though Stress level [___] 2.
I choose to
Even Though Stress level [___] 3.
I choose to
STEP 1: Choose one of the issues to work with, [a tap is medium pressure, so that your fingers slightly bounce back]
STEP 2: Tapping on the Karate Chop Point,��, say the Complete Phrase out loud 3 times.
STEP 3: Taping on each point, while stating only the Even Though Phrase:
SEQUENCE:
1) Top of HEAD 2) Inner edge of EYEBROW 3) Outside of EYEs 4) Under EYEs 5) Under NOSE 6) Under MOUTH 7) Both – Under COLLARBONES 8) Side - Under ARM [4” down] This is a full round –
STEP 4: Tap ‘sequence 1) - 11) only say the ‘I choose to __’ phrase. Hint: What is the feeling you want to have about this issue? When
have you felt that feeling? Think about that positive feeling – Now go for that feeling during your ‘I choose to - statement.
STEP 5: Every other – start with Eyebrow spot, say the Even though ___, next spot - I choose to __ , continue to alternate – retraining your consciousness to make the shift to the positive.
Take a deep-slow breath; OBSERVING, your feelings, physical & emotional, notice your thoughts. Rate your current stress level (0-10) ____ • Repeat process with more specific Phrases to continue to lower stress rate. • The more you practice the process the better it will effect your emotions – and reactions. • Tap at each spot while taking a deep-slow breath.
Designed by Gary Craig, a personal performance coach. EFT belongs to a class of treatments referred to as Energy Psychology. Scientists agree that the body is an "energy configuration" made up of positive and negative electrical charges in the form of atoms, the basic "building blocks of all matter." EFT capitalizes on this to assist you in calming your body and mind. While the technique is
simple and effective, we recommend you receive thorough training in its use. Visit www.insightsfoundation.com EFT choices method is inspired by Pat Carrington
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I am most grateful for -
The greatest lesson I’ve learned -
My most proud accomplishment -
Most significant contribution -
A skill I have developed that I’ll need most in the coming year -
The areas I’ve spun my wheels -
What has defined me -
The person who drained my energy the most last year - ______________________________________
Steps I will take to absolve that persons influence -
The way I’ll deal with this now -
Ways I can show more love & have more fun with those I love -
Acknowledgement of NOW
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Acknowledgement of NOW
Acknowledgement of NOW
Acknowledgement of NOW
Make choices and changes for a fulfilling LIFE !
Personal Empowerment thru AWARENESS – ACCEPTANCE - ACTION
Goal Development & Achievement - Definitions of my future Three defining goals in three significant areas of your life, such as Health, fitness, family, career, relationships, finances, education, participation, etc.
Area|________________________ | ____________________________ | _____________________________
1. 1. 1.
2. 2. 2.
3. 3. 3.
One habit in 30-days, / or three, one in each area = expect it, create the habits you want for yourself
What will define me in the next year -
What would you like to include in your life – NOW, To be fulfilled? More light hearted, happy?
The first step I’m committed to take right now to achieve this is -
Next step -
This week –
This month –
30- days –
60- days –
90- days –
Why must you make this Happen?_______________________________________________________________
What can you do right now? ____________________________________________________ Get up and do it!!!
*When I do this, making these changes - What is the worst that can happen __________ and if that happens, what is the worst that can happen _____ and if that happens ______ When you get blocked try this series
*Use rounds of E.F.T. to accept, and support your actions
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Awareness Temperament
Awareness Skills and Ability recognition
Acceptance Acknowledgment of NOW
Action Stress & Trauma relief with E.F.T.
Action Goal Development & Achievement
Who you are & how you are perceived by others.
Meeting your temperament needs Meeting the needs of others can assist you in relating to them for greater productivity.
What you are good at What you like!
Adjusting how you view yourself.
Get going with the positive self-talk…
Everyday - support Your Positive
Self-perspective!
How far have you come?
What you’ve been through gives you strength to move forward.
�Your achievements �Your significance
Emotional Freedom Technique –
A simple & effective way to get-over-it.
Practice - use this procedure everyday make time to TAP… your issues away
Defining goals for your life.
Mapping it out and taking the steps for positive growth.
Sharing with others, reaching out support groups, maintaining positive relationships.
� INSIGHTS Foundation [I.F.] is a motivational support organization, working to establish positive perspective and personal
empowerment through Awareness, Acceptance and Action.
� I.F. is dedicated to the process of health, a state of optimal mental, emotional, social and physical well-being, and a
condition of wholeness.
� Our system of 5-branches for balance & wellness - Self-discovery – Focus – Fitness – Nutrition and Positive Living Strategies
(P.L.S.) a life coaching system, assisting in positive behavioral change, a variety of methods to fit individual needs.
� We are a non-profit, non-denominational organization with open and diverse programs to assist individuals to have
health, happiness, and peace, enriching their quality of life.
Insight Foundation Inc. associates, instructors, trainers, P.L.S. life coaches, are not Therapists or Doctors. All motivational training, written, published, internet sites, and suggestions are to be utilized as informational and inspirational. Contact your healthcare specialist for all medical and physiological admonishment. Before adjusting your health and fitness habits consult your Doctor, take precautions.
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