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Understand what you want in life

If you do not read and understand, you may regret later.

This is only for private circulation not to be shared with others.

Foreword

This is not like other inspirational books. Those books say onlygeneral points need for our improvement. In spite of reading those

books, a normal person cannot use those points effectively to

improve his standard. Because when he tries to use, there may be a

lot of doubt unanswered. You cannot use or do effectively if you

have doubt.

This is an written on the basis of analytical made on how to avoid

failure, why we fail instead of having willingness to do progress inlife. It is very difficult to give all the reasons for our failure. A few

points are given based on some experience. After reading this,

based on your own experience understand the points and make

necessary changes as per the requirement of the situation.

YOU CAN IMPROVE YOUR LIFE ONLY THROUGHUNDERSTANDING WHAT DO YOU WANT IN LIFE (goal),

UNDERSTANDING SURROUNDINGS AND PEOPLE, (Good or bad)

AND POSITIVE THINKING IN YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND.


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THIS IS TRUE. Only need is belief I Can I want. You become

what you think.

VARIOUS NEGATIVE THOUGHTS ENTERED, UNINVITED,

WITHOUT YOUR KNOWLEDGE, INTO SUBCONCIOUS MINDCAUSES FOR YOUR NEGATIVE THINKING AND

EXPRESSIONS.

Are you postponing taking action or doing something? Is it baseless

fear which makes you to think negatively or to postpone without any

valid reason?

Think about the result you want, you want higher salary, improve

your skills, education required and look for new job which provides

you higher salary. If you do not change the job, your salary will

remain same and difficult to give better education and life for your

family and children. If you want more living space, buy a big house.

If you do not take any action to buy a house or bigger house, your

comfort living with facilities are being lost. Think and take properaction. Strong will power and determination are required to take

necessary action.

Time runs very fast. You cannot get back the wasted time. You may

be a boy/ girl at the age of 15. You do not know how fast the time is

flying. After some years, when you look back, you may be at the age

of 51. So start to understand and act now.

If you want to improve your qualification, do it. If you want to

change job do it. What prevents you from taking proper action?

Understand the requirement and you take proper action.


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Your determination, constant thinking, your effort and your action

only make it possible to get what you want.

Patience, perseverance, positive thinking, constant reminding

yourself of your progress and above all will power, determination totake action in the right direction are necessary.

If you stand at the feet of the mountain and looking at the peak of it,

you can never reach the peak. It means only thinking is not enough

but action is also required.

Difficulties may come in your way. You need not worry or fear for

it. They are temporary only. Think how to come out from such

difficulties. Why such difficulties have come to you? Instead of

worrying, think what you want to do in that situation. Use alternate

ways to overcome difficulties.

Others may criticize you. Dont fear for what others think and say

about you. Think what do you want or what is beneficial for you in

order to progress in life.

It is very important to know about the good or bad people and their

intention. A honey tongue, a heart of gall.

Mukh mein Ram bagal mein choori. Another proverb The wolf

cried when the sheep got drenched in rain. Crocodile tears.

his lips rain fruit, his heart within is on fire, a flattering speech

is honied poison, Friendship on his lips, hatred at heart

When he sees you, one word; when he does not see you, another.

One thing in his heart, another thing in his words.

All are not friends that speakone fair.


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From the above proverb understand various types and nature of

people. These types of people want to destroy you still make you,

they care for you.

Only if you know about these people, you can effectively understandand can take decision whether you can believe them or not. You can

also understand how to manage the situation. Else you will be

cheated by them. You also learn, through observation, from them

how to speak with a honey in tongue.

Understand third persons good or bad intention i.e. read otherpersons mind. What is Reading other persons mind? It means

observing other persons carefully, the words they speak, how they

say, how they act (body language). This is very important in your

daily life to understand about the other persons intention.

When you come across useless people or bad people dont show your

anger at any time to anybody. At the same time, dont ignore them.

Say hello to them once in a while to get in touch with them. We

should also learn to speak with fruit and honey in our lips.

Have lot of smile in your face and honey in your tongue. Greet

People, say hello, namaskar. Lavishly Praise People whatever good

you see in them.

You must know a lot of tricks to handle the situation and the

different types of people; if you want to lie you have to say it to

pacify the people. Be sincere to you, to your family and focus on


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your progress and earn money in proper way either by doing proper

business or job in good organization which gives you better salary.

Initially if you are not able to enter into good business or reputed

organization, constantly try for it. Dont lose heart or give up yourtrying for it.

Nowadays in the competitive world, people give more importance to

money and forget to respect others. They become jealous on other

people who are well qualified and who have wealth. They, instead of

thinking and taking proper action to improve their status, indulge in

bad thinking and harm others, knowingly or unknowingly.

Dont waste time without understanding people nature. Be aware of

such persons and handle them carefully. You dont hurt those

people or criticize them.

We need to know how to handle such person and the situation well

for our favour without entering into unnecessary argument.

Nowadays, people, due to intolerance, become angry quickly and

harm others. It is therefore, highly important that you never showangry face or use words which hurt others. Use sweet words and

have lot of fruits and honey in your tongues.

You never know when they may be of help to you under different

situation in future.

You need to have some sort of understanding and light touch or

balanced relationship with them. Man is a social animal. Therefore,

you cannot live and do everything in isolation. We need people,

friends and relatives. Only thing be aware of their nature and do not

get cheated. It doesnt means to have to stay away from other


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people. Praise other people; take advantage from them as much as

possible.

In case your goal is not clear or not attainable due to some

circumstances. Be clear in what do you want and use alternategoals. Dont waste time years together.

Even after you understanding above facts, if you observe your own

thoughts and action, you may not follow it carefully due to comfort,

laziness or your negative habits already formed.

Please understand and make constant effort to improve yourself

every time and in every situation. Strong will power, determinationonly can help to overcome fear, difficulties, laziness and transform

you to do better things. Think good, positive and do good. Aware of

bad people and do not get cheated by them. Understand what is

good for you. Repeat good points.

Train your mind to think what you want; by constant practice you

can achieve it.

May 2013

Introduction

All of us, no doubt, want to achieve something in our life. In spite of

our wish, we find it difficult in achieving success/goal in our life. It is

necessary to understand the reasons for such difficulties. Everybody is


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not fortunate enough to have good environment/facilities/properties that

are necessary for attaining our goals easily.

Dont blame or worry to have such small facilities available to you.

Somebody may not have minimum facilities for their living. Understandhow to use whatever small facilities/properties available to you to move

forward or progress.

There are many things necessary for our development. Without

knowing them and using them, we cannot make progress. Knowledge

and understanding of what is going on around us and taking action

accordingly are necessary.

Understand the reality of the world and people. Proper thinking and

proper action will take you to progress.

For e.g. If you find algebra difficult, you should not give up. If you

approach good tuition teacher, class teacher, google search and good

basic algebra books, you can easily learn by understanding the methods

and continuous practice.

At any time, any age you can learn new ideas and techniques through

practice. Willingness to take action, Perseverance, (determination) and

regular practices are required to send the message to your subconscious

mind so that you can use those ideas effectively and efficiently.

It is necessary for you to change, eliminate, your old, unwanted, baseless

fear. Baseless fear restricts your progress.

Know the value of time:


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First and foremost, understand the value of the time. Time is very

precious. Time lost cannot be recovered or come back. If you waste time

you are wasting or losing your life. By Procrastination, postponing

action to be taken, you are wasting time.

Every moment of our life is a golden moment. The door of progress and

development remain open for the person who knows to utilize and

make best use of these moments.

Face setbacks and obstacles boldly

When we face obstacles and setbacks while pursuing our dreams, many

of us experience anxieties, fears and are filled with self-doubt and we

question the viability of what we are doing.

We must have optimism, passion, commitment and above all focus on

what we want to do.

Understand how to use your setbacks to your benefit, to make your

product or service better, and to bring you closer to success.

Proper planning and completion of task within the time is veryimportant.

Understand your problem


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Please understand your problem and take proper action to solve it.

On the other hand, dont have worthless fears and beliefs, worthless

pursuits or passing moments carelessly; face depression anddisappointment on all spheres.

In our childhood, we want to do many things. We could not do or

achieve it because there were many mistakes, lacunas, misbelieve,

unawareness of goals and steps to follow, unawareness of our own

thought and attitude of other people. We are too sincere in our thought

and action to others. The other people are not sincere and notresponding or helpful to us in the same way.

The third persons dont want you to come up in life. They do false praise

in front of you. Later they may forget you and what they said to you. .

Try to observe and understand them what really they are.

Knowledge of handling job efficiently

We have to collect knowledge from others, books and surroundings. If

you do things without applying your knowledge i.e. proper application,

you can do it but not efficiently. Efficient application of knowledge is

how quickly you understand about the nature of things, job, what

method can be used to it, etc. Hard work is important at the same time

smart work is necessary. Delegate work to others and do impressivework. If you focus on how to work smartly you can do the job

efficiently. Have a lot of smile in your face and a honey tongue.

Nowadays technical knowledge (knowledge of how to work) is alone

not sufficient; we require soft skills to handle the people and job.

Understand what soft skills are. Use Google search.


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Reading Inspirational/Motivating Books

Read Inspirational books. They give better ideas for ideal circumstances.

But those ideas can be used to our benefit only when you know the

existence of bad side of the world, people and circumstances.

Understand and use good points suggested in those books.

Unless you have knowledge about the bad side/wrong side of the

world, people and circumstances, you cannot use good points

effectively.

Mantras to success written by Ved Mathur and Malti Mathur

published by Shri Radhey Prarabdh Smriti Sansthan, C-82, Ramdas

Marg, Tilak Nagar, Jaipur, (India) gives relatively good points and tell

us in simple way than other inspirational books how to transform

ourselves. Read it.

Train your mind to think and think positively

Opinion formed in your subconscious mind makes you to act in such

a way. Therefore, try to form correct opinion in your mind.

When you touch a hot match stick which was put off recently by

someone, you automatically take your hand away from it. Your

subconscious mind gives you necessary order to act. Therefore, you

need to have positive, good thoughts in your subconscious mind to

do things better. It becomes your habit to do better.


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Through repeated practice it becomes habit. Mediate - focus on

what do you want, regulate of your mind, control of bad and useless

thoughts are part of training the mind.

When you start learning typing, driving car you do not know about it.

You are learning and practicing it. After that, it becomes your habit and

you are doing it automatically. This is possible due to functioning of

your subconscious mind. Therefore, use positive good thoughts in your

difficult time for your progress in your life.

The main reason for not changing our old bad habits or belief:

Become slave for such thoughts,

Not ready to change your comfort,

Unaware of results,

Baseless fear and laziness.

It is necessary to change our habits for good.

Memory

Everything is easy to remember. One is to be interested to learn and

achieve something. Remember by connecting the related things

associated with it, you can easily memorize everything. For example,

School means: School Building, its location, name of the school, class

room, class teacher, headmaster, principal, co-student, School timings,

School bag, notebooks, books, subjects, I card, exam, marks, pencil, pen

etc. If you connect all these points you will get an essay.

In schools they used to give points, hints of some story and asked the

students to write essay by connecting those points. This gives practice

to use those related words and write sentence.


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Not understanding Words and their meaning:

We use many words in daily life as a habit without knowing their

meaning or use. The word used to be appropriate. Learn and useappropriate words in daily life. Use Dictionary and understand word

meaning.

Patience

For example, a shopkeeper expects that his customer wants to buy what

he sells but not ready to show the thing patiently to the customer. Here,

the shop keeper wants to sell but have no patients to explain or show to

his customer. The shopkeeper knows the word patience but not

practicing it when required. He loses his client and sale.

We use word positive. Do you know the meaning?

Positive: attitude to see advantage, expect the best to happen.

Many people, in spite of having sufficient talent and qualification, do notprogress and succeeds in life because of their narrow outlook, not

focusing on your goal. Not only think but taking necessary action is

important.

Skill: We say that we have to develop skill. What is meant by skill?

Skill is ability to do things easily and efficiently. How the skill is

developed? Skill comes by way of thinking, by experience and by

observing other people.

Tactics: a method that you use to achieve something. Use various

methods which give good result for us.


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Tact: the ability to be careful about what you say or do, so that you do

not upset or embarrass other people.

Negative thoughts: The word itself indicates negative. It Express

meaning of no. The word negative `` shows dark side. It gives you

some fear, comfort for not taking action, idea of postponing, some lame

excuses for not taking action.

Negative thinking comes easily and uninvited. This is very dangerous. It

does not allow you to improve yourself or move forward to do better

things in your life.

Aware of people and their attitude:

Are your friends, relatives, co students, colleagues, really helps you in

your progress? Do they really want you to progress in your life?

A doctor only thinks of the profit he will get by the medicine he is

preparing, the sick person only wonders whether it will cure him or not.

Each thinks of his own interests.

Unawareness of people (friends, relatives, colleagues) their attitude,

intention, their behavior, their body language is also one of the

reasons for our failure.

Third persons, relatives, friends, may speak to you sweetly making

you to believe that they care for you but in reality they may not be

sincere. You have to identify them. Dont get cheated by them. Be

alert.


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We move with those people who are not interested in our

development. By coming into contact and listening to the advice of

bad people, you may limit or spoil your progress. When you realize

that you have moved such bad people, most of your time would have

passed or wasted.

Understand those bad people as quickly as possible by observation

of their speech and action, their body language, signaling, in order

to save you from them.

Third persons hide truth differently

There are various types of people. They speak differently. We need to

understand these different types, someone speak openly, some people

hide things or speak in roundabout way, and someone speak using sweet

words.

We need to understand these different types of speaking in order to

decide, what or how to reply, what we need to do or how to do, what

they say, why they say. We need to understand the meaning of theirwords, the method and manner of their saying (body language), the

signaling we get from their message, tone etc.

This is not for finding fault with them. This is required for us to

understand what the intention of the other person whether they

continuously give wrong ideas through their sweet speech. If you do not

understand this quickly, you may suffer for believing them and not

taking any action. Your expected thing or incident may not happen.

There is a proverb A honey tongue, a heart of gall (anger)


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If you understand the signal from the thirdpersons speech and tone, you

could have avoided disappointment.

Understand the signal here. For a function at her daughters place, she

invited her parents.

They send a bowl or cup through one of the other daughters before

the function. In normal situation, they can bring the bowl when they

come for the function. The signal here is they are not interested in

coming to attend the function. If she doesnt understand the signal, it is

her mistake. This is an example. If she continues to believe such

parents who always not sincere in explaining their daughter, she has to

get only disappointment from their parents.

Understand the signals, body language, and tone of their telling, method

of expression, what and how they say every time.

The above proverb indicates that when some people have poison in the

bottom of the tongue; they have hone at the tip of their tongue? The

meaning of the proverb is that there are people who have bad intentions

and yet speak good words to make you to believe. Dont believe them

get cheated.

We need to know about people around us in house & Office. We need to

identify/understand what type of people they are, whether they are

helpful, good, believable or bad, cunning, unhelpful, jealous. Be aware

of Calculating friends/relatives. Calculating friends/relatives are those

people they join you only for their gain. We need to understand such

people before we get cheated by them.

Are they supporting and enhancing your life or are they making

mockery out of you?

Understand people nature:


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Nowadays people are with very narrow outlook and do not have broad

outlook. They take advantage of each and every situation. If you ask a

help from relatives and friends, they immediately take advantage of your

situation.

If you ask financial help, they treat you as slaves or may take undue

advantage; they may slowly interfere in your family life. You cannot do

anything independently. Be aware of people nature. There are good

people also. Man is a social animal. We sometime may need help of

others but at the same time, aware of their nature is necessary to avoid

very bad situation in your life.

Early Understanding

Understand the need of good education at early age, learning good

behavior, learn to speak well, think positively, understanding

surroundings and bad, good and helpful people/friends/relatives.

Handling situations.

Science and math are important at school level

Education with Science and mathematics up to high school level (+2) is

very important. This is important for the child to become doctor,

engineer. Engineer can learn study MBA and become top level officials

in bank and any other organization.

The child who studies other subjects than science as main subjects in

high schools later if they want to study science, the education system

doesnt permit. Therefore, at the early class or in 9, 10, +2, study

Science Subjects and later you can, if you want, can take commerce


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subjects. So the child may feel frustrated and loose interest/opportunity

and find it difficult to pursue interested subjects.

Consistent marks around 90 and more than 90 need to be scored from

Nursery. This is possible.

Understand basics from teacher, parents, and from good coaching

persons preferably from retired teacher. Refer to good books and use

Google searches. Create interest in the child. Dont force them.

Make the child to understand the importance of education and consistent

scoring of high marks/rank students. The child should easily get

admission in colleges, get job in the best organization and become the

best entrepreneur.

Mathematics & Skill Development

The objectives and aims of syllabus are to acquire knowledge and

critical understanding, to visualize basic concepts, terms, principles,Symbols and mastery of underlying processes and skills, to apply the

knowledge and skills acquired to solve problems, to develop positive

attitude to think, analyze and to develop interest in the subject by

participating in related competitions, observance of small family norms,

removal of social barriers, elimination of biases, to develop reverence

and respect towards people and society.

Understand the quality of School, Tuition center

The purpose of sending our child to these institutions is to learn quality

education.


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If the quality is not there, there is no point in continuing education in the

same school. We need to change the school or tuition centre

immediately if we find them not good. We need money. If you have

money, change immediately without hesitation. If you do not havesufficient money you cannot change or find it difficult to change.

Therefore, understand or enquire about the quality of the School and

then send the child to that school.

Some schools and tuition centers (Sachdeva) attract students through

frequent advertisements but standard or quality teaching is not offered to

students. They cheat students and parents. Be aware of such institutions.

Extra Curricular Activities: Curriculum means subjects that are taught

by a School or College. Activities other than subjects, like sports,

music, dance, handicrafts, tailoring, participating in competition, NCC,

etc are called Extracurricular activities. Children are to be encouraged to

learn or join extracurricular activities.

Too much pressure is not to be given for the children. They should beencouraged to learn. Explain , make them to understand and thereby

encourage them to learn.

Nowadays, children should also understand about the nature of good or

bad friends. Proper guidance is required. Understand what they say

about their friends.

Notice and understand your own feelings & behaviours

What type of feelings we have? Good or bad feelings. Understand the

reason.


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We need to have all good feelings, thinking and actions but should be

used as per the necessity of the circumstances and people.

Understanding what do you want is called Goal Setting.

Be clear about what you wanted and define it (want to become

entrepreneur, want more wealth, higher position in job, good salary,

Children education, children marriage etc.) Focus on those matters in

order to get what you wanted.

We need to have main Goal and Temporary/flexible Goal. Main Goal

the bigger picture and temporary goals are the steps to achieve the main

goal.

Work/Action:

After realizing what do you want in every stage of life, take necessary

steps to achieve these goals. Be active. Dont be in your comfort zone,

lazy. Things will not come to you. You have to go outside and search

for it. Plan for it.

Think only in terms of your progress:

In todays world people are cunning and thinking their own benefit.

In this circumstance, if we are sincere to others. We only get

cheated by others.

Constantly think to improve your education/knowledge, technical

and soft skills, good behaviors, etc. in order to progress in your life.


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If you think in terms of what you want to achieve, the outcome or

result of your action will be good.

Understand third person

It is very important to know about the good or bad people and their

intention. Identify them among your relatives, friends, colleagues

and others wherever you meet them.

Some of the proverbs are given:

A honey tongue, a heart of gall.

Mukh mein Ram bagal mein choori.

The wolf cried when the sheep got drenched in rain. Crocodile

tears.

His lips rain fruit, his heart within is on fire,

Friendship on his lips, hatred at heart

When he sees you, one word; when he does not see you, another.

One thing in his heart, speaks another thing in his words.

All are not friends that speak one fair.

From the above proverb understand various types and nature of

people. These types of people want to destroy you still make you,

they care for you.


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We may be caring, respecting, helping others sincerely in heart, words

and action. The other person may not reciprocate the same. They may

simply express words with fruits and honey in their tongue. Identify

them understand them even within your relatives, friends and colleagues.Do not get angry with them. Dont expect the other person to behave/act

in the same way we expect them.

No sincere friendship with other people who are cunning and jealous.

Do not try to correct the other person.

Without understanding other persons nature if you try to correct them,

he/she may ignore your good deeds, activities, helps, good nature etc.

and they may brand you as arrogant instead of correcting themselves.

Constantly try to understand how to avoid bad circumstances and to

keep good relation/friendship - focusing on our goal.

Dont criticize people. Generally do not tell about bad qualities of a

person to the other person. They may collect information and inform

them, their boss in order to earn points. Avoid gossiping, speaking ill of

others. If possible, appreciate others.

What is important for you may not be important for others? They may

not understand you and your needs. Others may not think the same way

you are thinking. Dont lose patience. Dont get angry in that situation.

Be calm and polite. Use alternate ways to get the work done by

influencing them, if possible and necessary.


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Adjustment, cooperation with people in the house and workplace are

necessary. Understand what is expected from us by our seniors/others.

Do this only to the minimum required to save your position. Alwaysfocus on what you want from them and how to use them. Speak a lot of

your own good work whenever necessary.

Except blood relations, with others, friendship and relations dont be

sincere show only outward appreciation, show that you are caring for

them, according to the circumstance.

It doesnt means to have to get angry and speak impolitely. We have to

be alert always by understanding the message beyond their speech and

action. Analyze; understand their words and body language. Do not get

cheated or allowed to take advantage of your polite nature.

Good impression:

Creating good impression is always important by dressing neatly

and speaking well.

If any guests come to your cabin in the office or home, treat and

speak them well.

Give good impression that you are sincere, nice to people, speak well

and be friendly. Praise people as required in order to get your work

done. You also remember to speak with fruits and honey in your

tongue. Praise others for their good manners, help that they have

done to you.


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Only speak but dont be sincere in our action towards our colleague,

friends and relatives.

If possible and you have time, it is not wrong to help others. Only

avoid sincerity and commitment to others who are useless to us.

Listening

Listening means not just merely hearing what others say or suggest

to you. Listen attentively and think what the other person tells you.

If it is useful use it or ignore it politely.

Speak to others

By speaking to others, you can learn many ideas/suggestions.

Understand their body languages i.e. body movements. From that

body movement you can understand their sincerity in their speech

and action.

When you speak to others say something on topic, useless topic,

stories what others are interested. Dont give valuable suggestions.

If others find fault in your way of talking, dont get irritated.

Please correct your ways if they are useful for you.

Give attention to your tone, normal voice

While speaking to others, dont show anger or irritation in your

voice even when you are right and they are wrong. Dont raise your

voice or shout. Dont keep your face angry. Continue to say your


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view only in your low or normal voice. This requires, strong will

power, understanding and practice.

Sweetly spoken words with honey in your tongue have their ownadvantage in making you a great personality.

Speak in such a way that it may delight you and others as well

To make your personality, use your wisdom and the willingness to cast

aside or shed our own lower nature (hat rate, anger, jealous and sex

urge and align, support ourselves with our whole heart to the higher

power (positive attitude, positive action, use of good and sweet words,respect, good behavior).

Feeling and behaviour.

Feelings are non verbal, what you think inside your mind is your

feeling; it is hidden in you.

Behaviour is outward expression. What you feel inside your mind is

expressed as your behavior. Understand this. Therefore, feeling

good your inside is important. What you feel is expressed as

outward action. If you feel good you can express and do well.

False opinion and baseless fear.

Due to circumstances or some reasons, we form certain wrong opinion

ourselves. The fear may not be true. These false opinion and baseless

fear restricts our progress. When another person clears the exam with


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distinction, we pass the examination with average marks. Why? We

need to correct and rectify .You need to have interest to learn,

understand the basics from teacher or books, belief that you can do

better, and practice.

Good behaviors are: how to read social situations, how to manage

emotions, and how to solve problems appropriately. If you can learn to

master these three tasks, you will be well on your way to functioning

successfully.

Control:

Control wavering mind in order to improve concentration. Focus on

what do you want in life. Focus on your work.

Anger and irritation are your enemies. It needs to be controlled.

Anger comes due to displeasure. Displeasure arises when the

expected things do not happen or a person is not doing things or

behaves as expected. Anger is temporary you do not make it big by

issue responding unfavourably.

Control tongue

Control tongue means say only what to say for good, dont say

harsh words. A person who can exercise control over his tongue, he

alone can make the right use of his eyes and ears. It has been rightly said

that after making any wrong statement due to its madness the tongue

rests in the mouth but the cheek has to suffer a slap. If you are bitter,

people will spit you; it means they will ignore or avoid you.


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All actions are controlled by tongue or speech.

Control over your senses.

The mind can be controlled by Exercise and Will power. Exercise is

constant effort to fix the mind on God or desired goal. Control,

dispassion or non-attachment over sensual objects is necessary in order

to overcome bad effects

Destroy evil habits by establishing new good habits.

Destroy completely our tendency for discussions and other evil

matters; let our tongue get a passion for speaking politely,

respectfully. Drive out our evil thoughts, and make us remember to

control over our senses and do away with out egoism.

Avoid greedy situations like IPL 6 where cricketers had greedy for

more money, girls, bad people, etc. They were finally lost

everything.

Avoid anger and harsh words:

If we use harsh words, the other person, even if he is wrong, may not

like to hear such words from you. We may have to get the work

done from them or their help may be required after some years,

they may remember the unpleasant happenings and do not help you,

behave or act against you.

Instead of gaining temporary pleasure by using harmful harsh

words, be calm and wait for right time. If we speak angrily, it may

cause you to face lot of problem in your life. You will lose your


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prestige, relatives, good life and many more things. Patience is very

important.

Difficulty is an opportunity

Actually there is no difficulty/problem. These are temporary only.

Through your Right thinking/positive thinking and positive

approach you can solve/overcome them. This is to be tried

persistently. A problem is an opportunity.

Try to find new solutions every time for every problem. Keep in

mind the benefit of the outcome/result. Think and act to find solutions

according to the desired benefit.

Correct yourself i.e. self improvement is the only solution.

In order to achieve our desired goal, in every situation, it is

necessary to improve/correct ourselves only. This is the only

solution.

Look for the opportunities untiringly. Find alternate ways and

people who will help you. It will come to you definitely one day.

Look for and remember people around you who have achieved

progress or success.

Soft skills

Nowadays people like persons who have soft skills. People who have

these skills progress in life. Soft skills are necessary along with technical


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skill i.e. working skills. People have only technical skills without soft

skills cannot progress. Dont argue; understand the reality.

Others may understand you only through your image.

Proper and appropriate dress and appearance,

Your projection, your way of speaking (control your voice, polite,

sweet and positive),

Good habits, Good manners/behaviours,

Courtesy, respect etc.

Have smile in your face.

Express Gratitude. Use words, please, thanks. Etc.

Always remember your role and what you want to achieve. Think, speak

and act accordingly.

Project your image appropriately and more convincingly. Change your

perceptions, stand out from herd and win. Image management is all

about using your clothing, grooming, and etiquette, body language and

communication skills to create a powerful first impression.

Establish a meaningful connection with another human being; youshould focus on presenting yourself to the world in a way that is

consistent with the type of opportunity you would like to attract.

If you like to have the life of your dreams, you must learn to be that

which you want to become. Therefore, if you eventually want to


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become, for example, the CEO of a Fortune 500 company, you must

right now begin to present yourself to the world as if you already were

the CEO of a Fortune 500 company, in terms of your overall self-presentation to the world of dress, speech, and manner.

Remember the word Good and Do Better.

Constantly at any time and age use the right approach to do best to

achieve your goal.

Even after your attaining success at any stage, still follow the right and

better attitude and do better to do still better. Proud, anger, arrogance

and bad attitude will pull your success down and prevent you from

further success.

Visualization:

Creative visualization is a mental imagination to make dreams and goalscome true. By using it in the right way, you can attain prosperity.

The subconscious mind accepts the thoughts that you often repeat.

Thoughts are endowed with a creative power that molds your life, and

attracts what you think about.

If, for example, you live in a small apartment and need a larger one,instead of brooding about your fate and lack of money, change your

thoughts and attitude, and visualize living in a bigger apartment. This is

not difficult to do. This thinking and visualization will definitely give

necessary power or show ways to attain it. Focus, concentrate and take

positive action.


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Patience is necessary to overcome all difficulties and attain ones goal. Ifyou lose patience, you will lose everything.Reading Social Situations

The ability to read social situations and people is important because ithelps to avoid trouble and teaches you how to get along with others.

If you can walk into a classroom, lunchroom, playground or a dance,

meeting, Please observe carefully, read or understand what is going on

there, and then decide how you are going to interact in that environment

in an appropriate way.

Learn to see who looks angry, frustrated or bored. Identify how people

might be feeling. And identify other people's emotion. This will help

you to interact with them effectively and efficiently.

Understand

Situation: What is the problem?Options: What are you choices?

Disadvantages: What might not be good about your choice?

Advantages: What might be good about your choice?

Solution: Choose the best option.

Managing Emotions:

Learn how to manage your emotions appropriately.

The problem lies in the way we think. This faulty thinking then becomes

outward expression called emotion and you behave. Wrong behavior

due to wrong thinking is to be controlled.


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Develop skill of managing or controlling emotions. This can be learned

through continuous thinking and understanding its need.

Develop Problem Solving Skills

Know how to solve your problems and manage your behavior and social

life.

A person or child is classified as bad who dont know how to solve

problems.

A person or child is often labeled as bad when he/she take ineffectiveactions to solve the problems

Continuously adjust your problem-solving skills and learn new one.

Think and find out options for dealing with the problem effectively.

You look at how to solve problems and come up with solutions.

Shaping your attitude:

The way you invest time in people and activities shapes the man you

become.

People with positive attitudes are more likely to achieve personal and

professional goals.

People with negative attitudes find it difficult to achieve contentment

or satisfaction in life.

How to handle minor issues or problems

Making a mountain out of a molehill is anidiomreferring to over-

reactive behaviour where a person makes too much of a minor issue.
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Over reaction to a small or minor issue is very dangerous. Over reaction

is to be avoided. Find out amicable solutions always.

We turn a minor issue into a major issue by exaggerating something way

out of proportion.

Life always brings its daily problems. Some are big, some are small.

Some of them are to be addressed or solved and some of them are to be

dismissed.

One Pundit who supposed to teach religious aspects and respect to

others, himself behaved rudely after her daughters marriage. Instead of

making simple statement take care of your luggage, he used unwanted

annoying words if the luggage are lost, I am not responsible. Whyshould he use such annoying words? Even under this circumstance, we

should not get irritated and react to his annoying statement.

Its more about how you handle the situation. You do not have control

over their behavior; you can only control your own.

Money is important.

Money is needed for buying anything and to get admission in good

school and colleges. People respect you only if you have money. Earn

money through appropriate way for peaceful living. Earn money at

your early ages and save money for your old age.

Focus on money, you will get it.

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Daily Prayer to god gives you power and energy for your peaceful life.

At the same time, you need not be so orthodox and engrossed,

immersed into divine life. Others, especially poojaris and pundits, may

fool, cheat you by saying this and that to exploit your sentiment, to

make money for themselves. Be aware of it and dont get cheated.

Nature and God will help those persons who act wisely.

Learning:

Never stop learning. Learning new things every day. Learning from your


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and their mistakes. If others dont teach you, try to learn yourself from

observation.


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Dont merely observe a person. Observe with interest in order to learn about

his/her nature. Observe what other people are doing and how they are doing,


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how they are behaving etc.

Ask question yourself: Whether the other person is listening to what you said,

whether appreciate or discard your view, whether they hide matter from you,

why they reject your views, whether you have to change your view, whether

your reply is convincing. What to say and how to present the matter to them?Whether your tone is to be changed?

Your way of expression- whether smiling or sad according to the situation.

Some important points

Due to other persons obstinacy, stubborn attitude, some time there may be

necessity not to discuss certain things with others or change your way of

explaining. When people are not ready to listen, dont them immediately;

wait for better situation? Handling people and situation.

Think, speak and act, take appropriate, suitable action in order to make

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Dont show your anger, outward dislike to others under any situation.

Laugh, Humor, jokes are best medicines to overcome anger.

Straight line:

Straight line always does not help you. If you make road or lay railway line,

bend is necessary. Similarly, if you follow truth, it may not help you. We

have to change our ideas depending on the situation. Telling fabricated

stories, telling lies, deviation in your way of doing, are necessary in order to

get benefit and progress in our life. People and circumstances are forcing you.

Please understand this. Therefore, dont be a straight line. Bend or curve line

is also required. It means adjustment.

How to Face GROUP DISCUSSION? This gives you ideas of what skills

you require since you are interacting with people in the family and office.

A Group Discussion consists of:1. Communication Skills2. Knowledge and ideas regarding a given subject3. Capability to co-ordinate and lead4. Exchange of thoughts5. Addressing the group as a whole6. Thorough preparationsCommunication SkillsThe first aspect is one's power of expression. In a group discussion, a

candidate has to talk effectively so that he is able to convince others. For

convincing, one has to speak forcefully and at the same time create an impact

by his knowledge of the subject. A candidate who is successful in holding the

attention of the audience creates a positive impact.It is necessary that you

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Your knowledge on a given subject, your precision and clarity of thought are

the things that are evaluated. Irrelevant talks lead you nowhere. You should

speak as much as necessary, neither more nor less. Group discussions are not

debating stages.

They look for your ability to react on what other participants say. Hence, it is

necessary that you listen carefully to others and then react or proceed to add

some more points. Your behavior in the group is also put to test to judge

whether you are a loner or can work in a group.

You should be able to convey your thoughts satisfactorily and convincingly

before a group of people. Confidence and level headedness in doing so isnecessary. These add value to your presentation.

Knowledge and Ideas Regarding a Given Subject

Knowledge of the subject under discussion and clarity of ideas are important.

Knowledge comes from consistent reading on various topics ranging from

science and technology to politics.

In-depth knowledge makes one confident and enthusiastic and this in turn,

makes one sound convincing and confident.

Leadership and Coordinating CapabilitiesThe basic aim of a group discussion is to judge a candidate's leadership

qualities.

A candidate should display tactfulness, skill, understanding and knowledge on

varied topics, enterprise, forcefulness and other leadership qualities to

motivate and influence other candidates who may be almost equally

competent.

Exchange of ThoughtsA group discussion is an exchange of thoughts and ideas among members of a

group. These discussions are held for selecting personnel in organizations

where there is a high level of competition.


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The purpose is to get an idea about candidates in a short time and make

assessments about their skills, which normally cannot be evaluated in an

interview. These skills may be team membership, leadership skills, listening

and articulation skills.

Meetings or Group Discussion:

Prepare a note on your contributions to the discussion, comprehension of the

main idea, the rapport you strike, patience, assertion, accommodation,

amenability, etc. Body language and eye contact too are important points

which are to be considered. .

Addressing the Group as a WholeIn a group discussion it is not necessary to address anyone by name. Even

otherwise you may not know everyone's names. It better to address the group

as a whole.

Needless to add, as for the interview, attend the group discussion in formal

dress.

Confidence and coolness while presenting your viewpoint are of help. See that

you do not keep repeating a point. Do not use more words than necessary. Do

not be superfluous. Try to be specific. Do not exaggerate.

Laziness is the first enemy

Dont be laziness. It means you are postponing the work, study, etc. to do it

later saying some lame excuses. Plan and do them as per schedule as much as

possible. Take necessary medicines, tablet for fever, headache, etc. whiletraveling. You may not get them at the new place. It may be town, city or

village. A particular medicine may not be in stock of that medical shop

Similarly, you have to pay attention and take every steps in your life for your

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Not encashing our knowledge and skill: We have to encash that is

converting our ideas, knowledge and skills into cash. It means proper usage o

our knowledge and skills to get more money. Instead of using for our ownbenefit, we suggest or teach to others for no use.

Proverb The child who weeps gets the milk. It means if you do not ask for

it you cannot get it. If you have knowledge and skill, you are unable to get

better salary. It means you are lagging something. You have to beat your

own trumpet politely. It means praising yourself politely. Draw othersattention that you have done it. Tell your boss that you need better salary

stating your skill or creating sympathy etc. Think your own circumstances. I

nothing works in your favour, change for a better job where you get better

salary.

Best Dramebaz:

A dramebaz is a person who plays role in drama. The same person plays

different roles in various dramas. Similarly, Life is a drama. We have to use

well our roles in different situations. A daughter of a parent gets married and

becomes daughter in law to other parent (boys parent). She has to play both

the roles well. After getting married, she has to show the same love and

affection to husband and his parents since she has to live with them from now.

If she doesnt understand, the life will be miserable. Understand your role and

play well. The best dramebaz gets name, becomes famous person and liked by

all.

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Please treat your guest, relatives, coworkers and friends kindly. Speak to them

politely with greetings. Praise others for the good quality they posses, help

and good work done by them. Use solace, supportive words and say yes or

positive words while speaking. Dont show anger at any cost.

Warning:

Emphasis here is to make you understand existence of good and bad. I

you dont understand the existence of good and bad people and their intention,

you cannot take effective or efficient decision or action. Please understand

the reality. Be careful. Please concentrate on your work for your progress.

You have to understand what is better for you, follow it and take necessary

positive action for your progress.

Man is a social animal. You cannot live in isolation. You need to have

friends and relatives. You must have a balanced ideas and relations.

If you find fault for each and everything you cannot have any friends and

relatives. Some sort of adjustments and cooperation are required. You neednot go to frequent visit to their places but occasional visits are important

depending upon their needs for you. From your side you try to have good a

good relation with third persons.

Dont give feelings to them that you are ignoring them. Please understand

you need people but only thing is that dont believe them blindly and get

cheated.

Occasional visits to their places and giving gift to them are important. Due to

laziness or for your convenience dont give lame excuses or justify your

belief. Please have good contact and relation with people, you may require

their company at times of need.


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In case of need you ask for help and understand people nature. Sometimes

they may not really be able to help you. So immediately dont jump to

conclusion, they are not helping and they are bad. Even under this

circumstance do not ignore them totally.

Dont hold or form wrong opinion about your friends, colleague and relatives.

We need to respect others. Avoid only too much dependency, sincerity or

complaining.

Review

Instead of allowing ourselves to become depressed and defeated, we use the

setback to review our goal. If we discover a mistake that we made, we correct

the mistake and press forward.

Conclusion:

Think positively; solve your problems by using alternate methods or ways

to do things better and for your progress in life.

At the same time, it is necessary to understand bad, cunning people and

their evil thoughts. There are people who have bad intentions and yet speak

good words to make you believe them. Please tackle; manage or deal withsuch bad people or the situation in order to make progress in your life.

Positive and useful to be stored in your subconscious mind through the

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want to achieve.

Every situation and every day, every minute in our life is important.

If you want to progress in your life, think and take action necessary for

your progress. Understand the reality and do the needful according to the

requirement.

Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from

achieving progress in his life or his goal; nothing on earth can help

the man with the wrong mental attitude.

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