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Infant Loss & BereavementInfant Loss & Bereavement
ObjectivesObjectives
• Increase skills in assisting families with final choices
• Identify ways to make precious memories for parents during a loss
• List ways you can provide the best support to parents
Initial SupportInitial Support
• Time of extreme stress for family• Couples vividly remember what
happens• What we do affects them• We can make a positive difference• We can’t lessen the pain• We can provide a memory of caring
and support
Goal of Initial EncounterGoal of Initial Encounter
• To convey caring• Permission to
grieve
What Families Need to KnowWhat Families Need to Know
• Who you are• That you know (“I’m Susie, your
nurse today. I learned in report that you baby has died -- I’m so sorry.”)
• That you care• Every encounter is potentially
awkward or potentially reassuring.
What You Can DoWhat You Can Do
• Don’t make assumptions• Be respectful & careful with
statements you use with families– Avoid “at least”– If families use “at least”, that’s ok
• Use names• About about baby, pictures, etc.• Use touch to convey caring• Lots of stress, use time gently & well
Hospital LossesHospital Losses
•Can happen in variety of settings–ER–NICU–Outpatient visit–During hospitalization &
delivery
In ER or NICUIn ER or NICU•Prepare them for the news– “I’m concerned”… “they’re still
working with him/her”
•During OB visit–They can read our expressions–Be honest, “I’m concerned”–Don’t pretend–Be supportive, “I know this is
worrying you”
During Hospitalization & Delivery
During Hospitalization & Delivery
• Prepare for choices– Bring info forward as you go,
don’t leave all for later
• Identify support persons• Discuss plan of care• Prepare for delivery
– May be rapid finish/delivery at end
Hospitalization/Delivery (con’t)
Hospitalization/Delivery (con’t)
• Discuss pain medication– May not have taken prenatal classes yet– May be afraid to use pain medication– Give permission to accept comfort
• Prepare for what will happen after baby delivers– Fear of what baby will look like– Ask if they want to hold and see baby– Assist with making final choices
Seeing & Holding BabySeeing & Holding Baby
•Ask if they have ever seen someone who has died
•Help families not to be afraid•Don’t be in a hurry•How we talk about baby sets
tone– “Her fingers & toes are so
perfect”
Seeing & Holding BabySeeing & Holding Baby
• Encourage to see baby - don’t insist– Gently nudge, don’t force– Encourage by letting them know that
often families later wish they had
• Dressing baby– Invite parents to bathe & dress baby– May be one of the few parenting things
they will do for this baby– Is an option - NOT expectation!
Rights of the BabyRights of the Baby
• To be recognized as a person who was born and died
• To be named• To be seen, touched, and held• To have life-ending
acknowledgement• To be put to rest with dignity
Rights of ParentsRights of Parents
• To have opportunity to see, hold, and touch their baby
• To have photographs taken• To be given as many momentos as
possible• To name their baby• To observe cultural & religious
practices
Rights of Parents Rights of Parents
• To be given time alone with baby• To request an autopsy• To be given information in terms
they understand• To plan a farewell, burial,
cremation• To be provided with information
on support materials & resources
Saying HelloSaying Hello
• Allow parents & family to see, hold, and touch baby
• Get hand and footprints• Get hand, foot, head molds• Crib cards, name bands,
certificate of life/birth• Baby gowns, blankets, hats
Saying HelloSaying Hello
• Memory books• Time alone with baby• Play music during time if
available• Baptism, naming, or blessing
ceremony
Making Final DecisionsMaking Final Decisions• Give clear options for final decisions• Final decisions difficult to make
– Allow them to take their time, “no hurry”– Enlist help (Soc. Serv., Pastoral Care,
funeral home)– Honor what feels right for them
• Parents feel bewildered– How do you say goodbye before you’ve had
a chance to say hello?– No rules to follow, only your heart
Making Precious MemoriesMaking Precious Memories
• Important for family to have memories
• Parents are touched by the caring way we provide to their baby
• Discuss with parents if baby not presentable– Talk to them about normal tissue
changes, etc.– May choose to see only hands and feet
Picture TakingPicture Taking
• Take lots of pictures– Family holding– Naked and dressed– Placing hand next to baby– Using objects to soften & warm pictures
(basket basinet, teddy bear, blankets) – Using parents’ hands & placing baby’s
hand inside
• Remember to fill photo with baby– Too close/far away becomes fuzzy
Creating MemoriesCreating Memories
• Lock of hair• Hand or foot prints• Measurements• Infant ID bands• Keepsake Gown/blanket• Angel pins• Alginate/plaster of paris molds• Outline drawing of baby on
parchment paper
Disposition ChoicesDisposition Choices
• Private burial– Family burial plot or purchase
separate site, – Family, clergy, or funeral home
can assist– On private property (requires
permits from Register of Deeds)
• Private cremation– Can bury, scatter, or keep remains
Hospital Disposition (if available)
Hospital Disposition (if available)
• Arrangements per hospital guidelines
• Must be stillborn (SD law)– All liveborn require birth & death
certificate (In Sioux Falls, separate grave)
• Avera McKennan disposition– Cremation– Common grave (ashes co-mingled)– No marker, burial occurs only few x’s/yr
PoliciesPolicies•W&C Bereavement Policy• (located in Share File)– Infant Loss, Stillborn– Fetal Loss, Live-born Infant–Child on PediatricsChecklist policies/procedures
WC/NICU/Peds will be marked behind each procedure to designate which dept. this pertains to
Possible Forms to CompletePossible Forms to Complete• MD to visit with family about
autopsy and chromosome testing– If requested will need these forms:
•Autopsy Consent Form•Request for Autopsy form•Chromosome papers (lab will send)
* Forms to complete *– Release of Body– Death Record– Disposition of Fetus consent– applicable to Newborn/NICU infants
NotificationsNotifications
•Pastoral Care•LifeSource (federal mandate
for ALL deaths 20 weeks or >)•Social Services•Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep
Photographer (if available)
Ongoing SupportOngoing Support
• Memory card at Christmas• Card at anniversary date of
loss• Avera McKennan Grief & Loss
Support Group (for miscarriage and infant loss)– 6 week series offered in Jan.,
April, Sept.– Avera Behavioral Health Center– Call 605-322-4074 to register
Creating MemoriesCreating Memories
3-D Molds3-D Molds
• Mix alginate in mold, allow to set
• Press fetal part into mold
• Fill mold with plaster of paris, allow to dry
• Carefully remove and peel away alginate, discard.
• Add ribbon or baby’s name to mold
3-D Molds3-D Molds
ResourcesResources
•See handout–Compassionate Friends–March of Dimes–National SIDS & Infant Loss
Resources Center–SHARE–Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness–Amend–Centering Corporation