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Marriage breakdown is traumatic but it doesn'thave to be contentious. This is essential whenchildren are involved. Be that as it may, it is alsoa time when you need to make very wellinformed and grounded decisions that will alterthe rest of your life.This short report gives youoptions to consider as you move forward withyour separation and divorce, including criterianeeded to use the least costly option - divorcemediation.

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Is Divorce Mediation Right for You?You'll have a better understanding afteryou read this...

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Divorce mediation is an alternative to using divorcelawyers, judges and courts. Divorce is hard enough; keep itamicable.

What Divorce Mediation is Not.It is NOT about getting even, or making him orher pay...

By directly involving the parties in the negotiation process and acting as a buffer between them,divorce mediators help couples stay calm and focused on bringing the dispute to a mutuallysatisfying conclusion.

tolerated in mediation.

The evil eye is not

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You take away the power of the lawyers, judges and an over-worked, ineffective and inflexiblecourt system. This results in a quick, fair and peaceful resolution, and a chance to feel healthyand whole again.

You are the architects of your ownagreement...That's right, you and your soon-to-be "ex," willdecide what is to be written into your separationagreement.

"Divorce mediation is 4 times faster and 8 times less expensive, producing similarsettlements, and is better for the children." – Justice Minister McNally

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- Educate the couple which then empowers each of them to make their own informed

The Role of the Divorce Mediator.As well as taking charge and exerting strongleadership, the divorce mediator's job is to:

- Balance the power between the two individuals.

- Remain neutral and ensure all sides and their interests are protected.

- Facilitate a fair resolution.

decisions.

- Help the couple overcome obstacles.

Most divorces filed never go to trial but are settled beforehand. So why spend the timeand money fighting, only to get to the front door of the court house before settling?It just makes sense to work out your settlement together with a skilled negotiation teamrather than under pressure from the court, if you can work from a reasonable balance ofpower and compromise.

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Divorce vs LitigationDivorce lawyers are trained in adversarial lawand this often leads to two losers. Divorcemediators are dedicated to a Win-Win, peacefulsettlement.

Communication between the spouses stops when lawyers are involved.

- The mediation process averages 3-6 months to complete.- The litigated process averages 1-3 years to complete.

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Litigation ormediation?You

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choose.

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Okay, but ...Here are the top 5 questions we get:

It is never too late.Kelowna Divorce has assisted couples who were frustrated with the cost and emotionalstrain of using the traditional divorce system.

Absolutely! Our mediation team has mediated some of Kelowna’s highest net worth,conflicted couples…successfully. These couples are now our greatest advertisers.

You have every right to feel betrayed, hurt and resentful. Those emotions are normal insituations like this. But it does not reduce the effectiveness of mediation.

1. Can you mediate complex, high net worth cases?

2. Can mediation protect my rights and make sure Ireceive my share of our assets.

Yes. In fact, your rights will be just as protected. The mediator does not take sidesand ensures that a fair decision is made on each issue. Like a business deal, thelawyers can help you review and paper your agreement.

3. I already started to use a divorce lawyer, so is it toolate to use mediation.

4. He/she committed adultery, so can divorce mediationstill work.

5. Is mediation legally binding?The BC Family Law Act recognizes and promotes divorce mediation and familyagreements. Mediated agreements stand the test of time. Statistics show a much lowerlikelihood of these types of agreements being challenged in court, as opposed to thosedictated through adversarial litigation.

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Is Divorce Mediation right foryouThis is not for everyone. Here's who we can help:

1. You agree that the marriage is over?

4. You don't want to fight anymore?

3. You don't want to spend a lot of money on divorce lawyers?

2. You want to stay out of court, & you can sit in the same roomtogether for two meetings?

5. You want to control the process using a neutral 3rd party.

If you meet the criteria above and you wish to book a private consultation for you and your spouse, then we’ll happily set time aside to speak with you.

So, instead of paying two family law lawyers $300-$500/hr each, doesn't itmake sense to pay one professional team $220/hr to help you reach anagreement that you can live with?

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Thank you.